Kinky Games Couples Play To Keep Their Love Life Fresh

Kinky Games Couples Play To Keep Their Love Life Fresh

Even in relationships where you are madly in love, sex is great, and you seem to have no issues, there are “down times”. What these couples have figured out is how to handle “down time” and still keep things kinky and hot.  I will share a few kinky games couples play to keep things in the bedroom exciting. We personally have tried all these methods and so far, none of them have gotten boring for us. You have to use your imagination at times, but that’s the fun part.

 

Kinky Games Couples Play:  The Role Playing Game

This game is kinky and fun. I do not care how experienced you are, role playing that you are two strangers meeting at a random spot and setting up a one night stand can really give you that dopamine rush you only get from meeting a new person.  One of the biggest things couples feel they lose after being together for years is that “new” feeling. We are social creatures and it’s normal to desire wanting someone new, but that new person could be your partner who stays in character and lets you get that new experience.

Playing a Board Game Totally Nude

Pick any board game on earth and take your clothes off. We don’t care if it is Monopoly, Trivia Pursuit, or Candy Land, having your clothes off while playing makes every board game 100x better. If you want a prize, winner gets oral sex! Personally I’d stay away from long games like Risk or Monopoly though as you may have to hold off oral sex until days later when you can actually finish the game!  

 

Kinky Games Couples Play: Tap Out

Tap Out is a game my husband and I created that is basically no holds barred until one of us taps out.  It can be sex, oral sex, a hand job, or just wrestling nude in our living room. We don’t stop until the other person quits or orgasms first. If you are having oral sex or sex, and he ejaculates before the woman taps out, he loses. So during sex it is my goal to scream for him to go harder, say the most sexiest things I can think of to make him lose control, and move in a way that he will not be able to slow himself down and edge so he doesn’t cum. On the other hand, his goal is to keep going until I can’t handle it anymore and beg for mercy. I’ve never quit yet!

 

Watch Porn Together

We have always been big advocates of watching your dirtiest porn videos together. This can give each person the opportunity to suggest new things to one another. This also can allow you or your partner to understand that various things you may not be into, really aren’t that bad or naughty. Depending on where you are in your relationship, porn can sooth the guilt a person may feel for desiring certain things that they have been taught their whole life is wrong. Personally, when I met my husband, I thought everything except doggy style and missionary was the only thing normal.  Everything else was extreme and things men want to take advantage of women. Although I had life long fantasies of having rough sex and being totally used, I suppressed those desires and tried to keep our relationship “normal.”  Now after being married 25 years, all those hesitant feelings are gone, porn can be fun, but it’s actually lame because we do so much more than you see in videos.  I believe this is the normal process for a couple, slowly opening up to new things and ideas until porn is actually calm compared to your own sex life.  This is why watching porn together can be fun and help you both learn to grow sexually!

 

Kinky Games Couples Play:  Hide and Seek

OnlyFans can have 1000s of models to seek out and discover.  It also has a lot of other couples sharing their kinky content.  You can use sites like Onlyfanssigns.com to find models or couples and explore their amateur content together with your partner. This can be a kinky game for a couple who is open to swinging and has their jealousies under control.  The advantage to this game is you can actually chat or catch a live show with the model or couple that you’ve discovered hiding out on OnlyFans.

 

Kinky Games Couples Play:  The Pantsing Game

What in the world is the pantsing game?  Well, you and your partner stand in the room with nothing but some sport shorts on, tops are optional. The entire goal of the game is to pull the pants down of your partner. Obviously the man has a bit of a strength advantage but believe it or not this can be extremely exciting because it creates that animalistic feel of ripping off each others clothing. Although it’s a game, it can still be rough and exciting.

 

Create Your Own Kinky Games

There are 100s of games you and your partner can create and try. From giving your partner oral sex while they try to win in a video game, to setting up a personal gym in your house and working out nude with each other. If you need more ideas, we have a list of various sexy games we have created for couples that you can check out.  

 

How To Watch Porn Together As A Couple

How To Watch Porn Together As A Couple

Scenario:  You are sitting in a dark room with a bag of Cheetos half eaten, sweat dripping down your eyebrows. You are licking your lips and madly clicking your mouse with your eyes focused on your computer screen. You slowly lean back and unzip your pants, getting Cheeto crumbs all over your crotch. 

The door whips open…

All of the sudden your wife is standing behind you holding 2 bags of groceries. She drops the the grocery bags as she screams, “Oh my Gosh!”  Both bags of groceries drop from her arms in slow motion to the floor and the milk gallon bursts on impact splattering white liquid all over the room.

Not exactly the white splashing liquid you wanted to splash all over the room right?  Well, it doesn’t have to be like this. You are not a teenager anymore and there is no need to feel ashamed of enjoying the thrill of seeing naked strangers fuck.  


Things To Overcome When Watching Porn Together

      •  It can be extremely embarrassing for a woman to admit that they enjoy watching porn. 
          • Women feel their partner will not view them as “innocent” if they agree to watch/enjoy a porn together.
              • Don’t porn shame her.
          • Women feel their partner will think that just because she enjoys watching a video of a woman banging two guys that automatically means she herself wants to bang two guys.
              • Do not assume or force ideas onto your partner about things you see in videos.  Just watch and enjoy.  You can talk and be open, but keep it light-hearted and let her tell you her kinks, not YOU tell her what YOU think her kinks are because of a video you chose and she had an orgasm to. 
          • Women avoid porn because they feel their partners may then think they have total permission to watch porn or force them to try they things they watch together.
              • Just because you watch a porn together once doesn’t mean when she comes home from work you should have a porn video on the large screen like it’s an episode of The Office.
          • Women can get jealous of porn stars, their bodies, and the various acts they perform.
              • Try not to obsess on a porn star or their bodies. Some women are self conscious and this insecurity makes them feel totally uncomfortable watching porn stars.  This is also a jealousy issue, and one of the biggest road blocks when dealing with enjoying porn together for both partners.
      • It can also be embarrassing for a man to admit they enjoy watching porn.
          • Most men have watched and masturbated to porn whether they admit it or not. But for them, porn has became a ritual they do by themselves, secretly, because that’s how they’ve always watched it.
              • Don’t porn shame him.
          • Some men prefer not to watch porn with their partners because they have issues with their own penis size and do not want their partner to study, or be “ruined” by seeing other dicks in action.
              • As mentioned above, jealousy is a huge issue when watching a porn with your partner.  From body shape, breast size, penis size, to the various acts porn stars perform, it can create insecurities.  Be open and do not obsess on the porn stars dick size.
          • Some men and women feel that watching porn is cheating.
              • Every relationship is different, and cheating is dependent on your relationship and the rules all parties in that relationship have agreed upon.  And this is why watching porn together could totally remove the cheating aspect.
      • A lot of people have moral issues with the idea that people are paid to have sex while others watch.  Whether that be making porn videos or prostitution.  
      • Religious beliefs may prevent someone from enjoying watching porn.


So how do you overcome some of these issues?  First, you want to read them again and understand them. The only way you overcome them is understanding them.  From there, communication and acceptance are important.  Talk to your partner and make sure they understand that no kink or fantasy they may have will ever be shamed by you, no matter what the kink may be.

Communicate

As with most relationship choices, talking about your desires is always a good first step. And I don’t mean yelling out, “Hey, instead of watching Curb Your Enthusiasm tonight, let’s watch this video called Tranny verse Granny.”

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.  And despite the taboos involved with watching porn together, it can be something we’d consider healthy in a relationship because it keeps you and your partner sexually open. Sit your partner down and let your partner know that you would love to do something tonight that is a bit naughty. Maybe even suggest a weekly game. One week your partner can pick out something they want to do that they feel is naughty, and the next week you can do something you choose.  

 


A Few Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Is Healthy For Your Relationship

      • Watching porn together can bring you and your partner closer together.
      • Watching porn together can lead to intimate and honest conversations.
          • This is a good way to open up about your possible kinks. 
      • Watching porn together can replace foreplay when kissing and cuddling isn’t enough. 
      • Watching porn together can spark new ideas in the bedroom.  You might even discover you like things that you have never even considered.

Choosing the right video.

The internet is filled with porn. Which, if you’re not a seasoned user, can make it hard to filter through to the stuff you like, and harder still for two people to find something they both like. With that said, a lot of mainstream porn can be violent, misogynistic, and unrealistic, so talking about your boundaries beforehand is important.  A good start is finding videos that can be sexy and fun.  Maybe try a website like MrSkin.com.  This site not only can get you worked up, but it can also lead to fun and kinky conversations regarding various topics in the movie industry and all the various sex scenes in movies.  

Just be careful with the main “tube” porn sites, because even a simple search for “threesome” could yield results featuring step-siblings, or other taboo-themed content, which may or may not be too extreme.  If you’re searching together, make sure you keep an open line of communication and ask your partner prior to clicking a video if this is something they’d be interested in.

For us, our first video together was a VHS tape, starring Ron Jeremy.  How do I remember this?  Because it was the only video I had in my collection.  The internet was around, but our connection was dialup and watching videos online just wasn’t possible for us. So we had our lucky VHS tape and would probably make it through half a scene before we’d turn it off and make the magic happen. 

Take turns

Once you have a sense of each other’s boundaries, maybe take turns on which video you decide to watch together.  This can help open the door to talk about kinks and things you may be interested in and your partner doesn’t know about.  It also gives your partner the same opportunity.  

Do (or do not) try this at home.

One of the great things about watching porn as a couple is that you might see something you want to try yourselves. This can be a good staging area for consent, because you’re both watching the same act in real-time and can agree together if you’re into it, versus one person trying to incorporate something they once saw on their own.  Just a quick little comment like, “Hey, that looks kind of hot, what do you think?”  If your partner responds, “It’s very hot.”   You can then follow up with a passive question such as, “Is that something you think you’d like to try or not really?”  If the answer is not really, move on.  Remember the huge list at the top of this article that talks about all the things you need to overcome when watching porn together?  This is a huge red flag. Do not pressure your partner to try the things you see in videos, this is the exact reason a lot of couples can’t watch videos together.  

8 Weeks Of Growing Out My Bush In Photos

growing my bush shaved8 Weeks Of Growing Out My Bush In Photos

When I first announced that I was thinking about growing out my bush as my next sexblogging.com project, I immediately received a lot of flack from visitors to our site.  The response to the idea was almost funny, because a few people messaged me telling me not to ruin my body.   The messages expressed how much they hated how the bush on a woman looked, how it was gross, how it was unclean, and how they would never be attracted to any woman who had a hairy snatch.

They are wrong!  A bush is beautiful and I will show you why in photos!

Why I Am Growing Out My Bush

I guess before I start I will try to explain why I thought the idea of growing out my bush would be fun to begin with.  I’ve notice online, and probably because of the laws in Japan that prohibit porn from showing the actual genitals, that a lot of Asian women have a bush.   I’d assume this is because if Japanese women did not have a bush, then their porn would show nothing.  Although the genitals are censored, the hair is not. growing my bush week 1This would make pubic hair in the Japanese culture very important.  Even if a Japanese man is with his wife, obviously in real life there is no censor blur in front of her vagina, but since men have been conditioned to only enjoy the site of a pubic hair through porn and photos, why would he ask his woman to remove this aphrodisiac  (which we can now call an afrodisiac)? I believe the same can be said for the older generation here in the United States.  The younger generations seem to think that the bush is gross or unclean, while the older generations love and appreciate a hairy vagina.  When they grew up, all their porn had hairy women.   Their first experience was with a woman who had hair.  The bush was a sign of womanhood for them.   This lust and fetish doesn’t change because women in the 90s started shaving landing patches and bermuda triangles in their crotches.  Eventually, getting rid of any sign of hair and going completely bald eagle.   Some men absolutely love a thick bush, and I can respect that.

The Asian Girls and their Hairy Bush

, think of the times you have seen pubic hair in an American movie.  Full frontal nudity is still rare, but when it does raise its head, the female actresses always seem to have hair.  The hair represents nudity without it being labeled as pornography.  It represents the taboo of the revelation in American cinema.  Conversely, in almost all American X-rated movies, the adult film stars have their pubic hairs shaved off (which has become an accepted norm) making it easier to see the details of dicks and pussy in action.

growing my bush GrowthThe History of the Bush and Pubic Hair

The history and the importance of why humans have pubic hair is unknown, but a lot of people suspect it has to do with the pubic hair helping to retain the natural pheromones produced by glands to entice the opposite sex.  Before you shrug off the idea that we actually need a reason to attract the opposite sex, try to understand that animals do go in “heat.”  Smells released from the female body attract the opposite sex (cats & dogs for example), and the male will know it’s that time.   Although we are not cats or dogs, the concept remains.  As noted in an article written by Dr. Kristie Leong:

A thick patch retaining a woman’s natural pheromones makes sense.  According to some theories, animals and people are attracted to members of the opposite sex who have pheromone scents that are distinctly different from their own. This reduces the risk of inbreeding, which could produce offspring with genetic defects. Pubic hair helps to trap these volatile scent molecules, which are quickly broken down when exposed to air.

I personally find myself attracted to my husband’s underarms, which I kiss and lick each morning.  I also know my underarms drive my husband insane.  I’ve watched him sniff and lick under my arms (when I do not get ticklish) and get the hardest erections I have ever seen.  I also will notice at times when we are having sex, he can cum almost immediately if I lift my arms up and let him smell my pheromones.  This isn’t just some article I read, this is my own experience.

growing my bush monthsI have heard of other reasons for pubic hair which I may not agree with, but I suppose are worth noting.  It is said that rough hairs in the pubic region help protect the delicate tissues of the genitals.  This would explain why the pubic hair is unlike the hair on your head.  I am unsure about this theory, as I let Ryan beat my thing up to the point of no return, and within the next few days my “delicate” skin is back and ready to fuck.  Hair or no hair, my vagina doesn’t feel more protected from the large penis going in and out of my body.   Since I wear clothing and do not walk around nude, I will never know if the bush protected women, or kept them warm when they didn’t have much clothing.   I assume the same would be said for the bush being this great protector.  I’ve heard that the bush helps keep harmful particles out of the vagina (an argument I’ve heard in defense of actually keeping a bush — people’s misconception of the lack of bush being “cleaner”).  Since we wear clothing, again, my vagina is protected from whatever harmful particles it needs to be protected against.   I am not a big fan of these reasons for keeping your pubic hair, but nonetheless, they are different theories worthy of this blog.

Less so now, but prior to civilized times,  pubic hair would also be a sign for a male to know a woman is ready to reproduce.   Pubic hair is a sign of puberty, which is also a sign a woman is fertile.  For that reason, girls with pubic hair are no longer girls, but women.  This concept is not too far fetched as Ryan has also told me that he cannot wait to see my pubic hair in all its glory.  He has also said that when he grew up, a shaved vagina was unheard of.  A real woman had hair.   All the porn he had seen, which wasn’t much, but the same dumb little VCR tape him and his siblings hid from their parents, had nothing but 70s porn stars, all full of hair.   This was the most sexual thing he had ever seen, and these women, hair and all, definitely turned him on.  Not to mention, he has told me all the movies in the 80s never showed genitals.  The only way “nudity” in a movie was either breasts, or a huge bush.  Unlike the younger generation that have no idea what it’s like to see bush in an 80s film (what do the films show these days?), Ryan loved it.   That love has definitely created a slight fetish, as he is excited as hell to see my thick Asian bush.

growing my bush full growthEnough with History, Let’s Get Into Growing My Asian Bush!

The last time I had a bush was when I was in my early 20s.  That was many years ago and we had both forgotten what it looked like.  Growing up and hitting puberty, I had a bush and that was that.  I never thought about shaving, trimming, or shaping it.  The first time I’ve seen myself truly clean shaven since puberty was after my husband (then just my boyfriend) shaved it with me because we were horny and bored, about 6 months into our relationship.  Since then, I have never grown out my bush to its fullness, never going more than a week before shaving fully again.  I know from experience that the first day after I shave my skin gets very irritated.  In preparing for Day One’s picture, I shaved everyday for a week prior to February 1, 2013, the first day I will start growing my bush.  I did this in order to allow my skin to become less itchy, bumpy, and/or inflamed on the actual day of the the photo, and since I used a brand new razor this week I knew I would be more susceptible to cuts, nicks, and overall skin irritation.  Additionally, I used cocoa butter in the morning and evening to keep my skin soft and to lessen the appearance of chafed skin.  In my opinion, it has done an excellent job.  I expect that as my hair starts to grow in, I’ll experience major itching and prickling.

For the finished product, if I get one “you look like you got Buckwheat in a leg lock” joke, I know that I’ve succeeded.

Enjoy!

 

 

Extreme Sexual Ideas: Blood Bath Confessions, Bathing in The Fluids with your Partner

blood bathsExtreme Sexual Ideas: Blood Bath Confessions, Bathing in The Fluids with your Partner

This blog post is going to be a bit more of “confessions of our relationship” than how relationships should be.  Every couple is unique and different.  A lot of things we do is different than most couples.  For instance, we’ve opened our bedroom to other women,  published experiences online, posted amateur videos, shared our opinions on all types of sex, and religiously post naughty pictures on social media.  I am going to make a pretty safe assumption and guess that the rest of our neighbors don’t do any of those things above (Although if they do…kinky!  Let’s connect!).  This type of thing may not be different for those of us who are in the lifestyle, exhibitionists, or just naughty couples looking to explore new things.  In fact, if you are reading this blog, you are probably more like us, than unlike us.  But you already know, you are different than most couples.   With a long list of things most people consider disgusting, we have posted videos and blogs of us face fucking until she vomitstattooing my wife’s name on my penis, urinating in my wife’s throat while she deepthroats, or even sniffing cum off a mirror like it’s a drug (anyone remember that video?).  Just to name a few.  We’ve even been banned from sex and marriage forums because we posted about the advantages of having sex during her period.  We didn’t do any of that to shock people.  Trust me.  Nothing we do is to shock other people.  It’s how we connect. It’s how we explored each other long before we posted on social media.  In our opinion, it’s how we stay in the honeymoon stage after 22 years of marriage.  Blood Bath

And then we share it.  Unsure why, but we share our life.  We share things that we should keep locked in a closet.  We share our skeletons.  We share things that people may find gross.  We don’t do it for the reactions, we do it because it gives us a new connection.  Admittedly, when people don’t get it, it does make our connection stronger.  It also makes more sense to us when people don’t get it.  That’s why we do it.

So let’s get into it.

Blood Baths: How It All Started

Our blood baths started pretty simple.  My husband and I were taking a bath together.  We usually get a bit playful while bathing, or I will watch tv while my husband sits on the opposite side of me and rubs my clit.  I got so relaxed I accidentally peed in the water.   Oops!  I didn’t do it on purpose, my body was just in a numb zone where everything felt perfect.  The warm water, the bubbles, the alcohol, and my clit being played with caused me to urinate in our bath water.   My husband felt the warmth and flow of my urination and came towards me, ducking his lower jaw into the water and scooping up some bath water with his mouth.   As he leaned in, he slowly released the water and let it flow down my breasts.  We loved it.  He then turned around and I gave him a sponge bath.  We washed his hair and I bathed him in the same water that I had urinated it.  It wasn’t gross to us, but more of a bonding experience.  

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Q&A: My Husband Came Out As Bisexual

Q&A:  My Husband Came Out As Bisexual

So my husband and I of three years were laying in bed a few nights ago talking about myself being bisexual and he asked shyly how I knew and when I knew. I answered and carried on like nothing happened when he said he wanted to tell me something. He came out to me as bisexual as well and talked about how he had a hookup style relationship with a guy before we started dating. He’s keep it a secret for years because his parents have always said its Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. It was a major breakthrough and I’m the first person he’s ever told and he was especially scared to even tell me (he finally felt super confident and empowered to tell someone I’ve always been super out about it) . It felt so heartwarming and its brought us even closer than before.

Tonight while we were in bed together he brings up wanting to explore his newly opened specialty in bed with toys. My question is where should we start? any advise from people who have been through similar situations would be amazing.

Venice’s response to bisexual husband

Not really that uncommon.  In fact, the amount of men totally in the closet that are married is astronomical.  Ask any gay man you know if they hook up with husbands.  You’ll get laughed at!  I’d go as far as saying that there are just as secretly bisexual married men apps like Grindr as their are openly gay men.

 

Some things you can try with your bisexual husband:

Pegging.  This is where the woman wears a strap on and takes on the dominant role.  Not all men that participate in this activity are bisexual, but it is role reversal and can be extremely fun and sexy.  For a bisexual man, probably even more so.  You can roleplay that you are a man, or you can just be the woman taking on a dominant position, piping down your husband until he explodes on his own chest and stomach.

Toss his salad.  Again, nothing between a man and woman is bisexual, but the act of him being vulnerable and bending over for another person can be something  a bisexual man would appreciate.  I would also consider this an act that was made popular by gay culture.  Not that a man and woman can’t enjoy rimming each other, but this kink was extremely big in gay culture.  Tossing salad with no shame.

Snowballing.    This doesn’t always have to be from the your mouth to his, but that is the basic term.  Because it builds up volume going from your mouth, mixing with your salvia, into another person’s mouth, it is called snowballing. However, you can break the rules a bit and find creative ways to feed him his own semen.  Whether it be with your hands, your mouth, or allowing him to cum directly into a shot glass and drinking his own semen while you watch.  Kiss him and make him feel loved.  Make sure you let him know you find it sexy so he doesn’t feel embarrassed or uncomfortable.  And just know, chances are he has tasted and swallowed his own cum numerous times but would never tell a soul.  So if he is willing to do it in front of you, you will only get closer.

Exploring his prostate while giving him a blow job.  Or just prostate play in general.  Although again, this isn’t always a bisexual thing, it definitely can be something a bisexual man can enjoy and appreciate.  

The next suggestion is a bit more serious and not something I’d suggest trying until you are ready for this type of lifestyle change.

Offer to allow a gay man to enter your bedroom.  If he is not interested in seeing a man be with you, let him know that you will not do any sort of oral or penetration with the guy, but will spoil him together with another man.  This would be the ultimate bi experience.  It may lead to other things, but this can be sexy as hell.  It is also closure to your old way of seeing your husband, and hands on experience watching him enjoy another man.  Or be enjoyed by another man.

Ryan’s response to bisexual husband

Congratulations, life will be so much better for you with this type of openness and communication.  In fact, everything can be better now if you get to learn his sexuality and the things he’d like to try.  And remember, being bisexual doesn’t mean he will ever do anything sexual with another man.  Marriage is still marriage and if you are monogamous, bisexuality doesn’t give him permission to have sex with men.  Men that aren’t bisexual like women in general.  That doesn’t mean they can go out and bang more girls just because they like them.

As far as suggestions go, Venice has really hit the nail on the head with hers.