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May 31, 2023

Face Slapping During Sex: Everything You Need To Know About Slapping Your Partner

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Face Slapping During Sex: Everything You Need To Know About Slapping Your Partner

Some people may go through their entire sexual lives and never once think about slapping or having their face slapped during sex. It’s not something all people think about. I know I never thought about it and I like to consider myself someone who has tried everything. 

In our relationship, my husband and I had certain kinks that prior to ever doing anything sexually, that was already in our minds. When I my husband his dirtiest fantasy, he told me it was being rimmed by a woman.  This was in the 90s when this just wasn’t something that girls did (times have changed).  My husband believes this kink was planted in his head when a rumor floated around his school that a popular guy gave his letterman jacket to a popular girl when she licked his ass. This is at least what the guy told the fellas in the locker rooms when she was spotted with his jacket. Although never confirmed, the seed was planted. 

My fantasy was being forcefully taken.  I will avoid the word commonly used with this concept, since it could trigger some people. However, I was pretty vanilla otherwise, but always had a fantasy of being forcefully held down and fucked. This wasn’t something my husband had thought about or even liked, but I can tell it really affected him. He was naturally soft and gentle but would slowly start getting more rough during sex because he knew it is what I liked.  

So lets talk about face slapping during sex. 

Are you curious about slapping your partner or being slapped by your partner during sex?  A slap across the face can be fun and exciting, as long as you are doing it correctly.  

When it comes to spanking, slapping, whipping, choking, biting, and scratching, things can get a bit painful. There are also questions of whether or not slapping is abuse, harmful, or a sign you’re unhinged. Any erotic pain-play can stir up emotions in many of us. That’s normal. Sex comes with all kinds of emotions, both positive and negative.

However, nothing is wrong with any sexual act between two adults if you are both into it, have consented, and are turned on by it.   Slapping is totally acceptable.. In fact, any sexual act between consenting adults is perfectly fine. You’re not an evil person for wanting to slap or be slapped.

If you are new to face slapping, here are a few tips that can help you transition into 

Communicate about Slapping During Sex

  • Before you do anything, you have to talk everything through. There should certainly not be any unexpected face slapping during sex. That is non-consensual play and a big no-no. If you’re going to slap your partner (or be slapped), everyone must be on board and into it.
  • If you’re wondering how to introduce the topic, no worries. First, ask them if this is something they’d be willing to explore. Slapping a face is a step up from spanking a butt. Slapping can be very empowering and sexy for some people, and not at all for others.
  • I find that the easiest way to introduce a partner to slapping is by watching some porn where slapping is an element. The key is to find a video where the slapping isn’t scary or seemingly non-consensual. Meaning, no going to Pornhub or RedTube.

Due Diligence or Deep Dive, Do Your DD.

  • Do your due diligence. Do not go into aggressive sex or BDSM without knowing what you’re doing. You can read blogs like ours or search for articles on slapping during sex.  Although this will not teach you all the ins and outs, it can prepare you for what is next.
  • Sit in on a sex class about slapping during sex. At various sex conventions you can sit in on classes that teach you about slapping, choking, and every kink in existence. 
  • Watch YouTube videos that go into detail about slapping during sex. Here is a good video on spanking from sex educator Jess Wilde. He is another intro video, from Nina Pain, which is basically face slapping for dummies.

Explore Ass Smacking First

  • If you haven’t gotten good at smacking her ass during sex, do not move into slapping her face. Face slapping is basically butt slapping, only more advanced and with more risks.
  • No slapping until the you’ve learned to spank properly . Now, you might not be into butt slapping, but are turned on by face slapping. This is totally valid. It’s not so much about doing things that aren’t sexy to get to the sexy part, it’s about working on a meatier canvas before going to a bonier, softer one.
  • A butt is going to absorb a slap more easily than a face. There is generally less pain and greater surface area to work with. Practice on butts, and then move to faces.

Have A Safe Word.

  • Before aggressive sex or role play, set up a safe word. This should be a non-sexual word that lets your partner know they should stop and check on you. I recommend something like the following: pineapple, stop before I bite you, or whatever phrase or word you want.  Personally we do not need a safe word, as we can talk openly and I’d just say stop.  But every couple is different and do whatever is best for your sexual dynamic.
  • Admittedly, depending on the dialogue you use during sex, safe words are important because if you’re in a session where you are being submissive, the words “no” or “stop” might be a part of your role play.  A safe word should stop all role play and bring your partner back into reality. Remember, that as the person being slapped, you are still in control of your body. 

Start Slow When Slapping During Sex

  • Don’t begin your adventure into slapping by screaming “woooooooo” and doing the Rick Flair slap across the face of your partner. That’s probably not going to end well. You may end up with a bruise or a black eye. Not sexy at all!
  • Start with soft slaps. When you’re making out, pull back and lightly slap your partner across the face. Rub the spot where you hit them to soothe the skin. Kiss them lightly in the same spot you slap them. 
  • Work your way up to harder slaps. Communicate and talk with your partner to make sure they are okay. 

How To Warn Her Prior To Slapping Her During Sex

  • When slapping, never just surprise her with a random slap. This doesn’t feel good, trust me. Let us prepare so we can brace ourselves or enjoy the sting. A random sting sucks. Try placing one hand on the opposite cheek of the person you’re slapping. This helps stabilize their head to absorb some of the slap. 
  • Rub her face or grab her cheeks gently prior to slapping her. This is a great way to warn her that a slap is coming.
  • Softly grab her by her throat without choking her and gradually put your hand around her lower jaws. Grab each side of her face and squeeze a bit, not really a choke but more of an aggressive warning that a slap is coming.
  • Put your hand over her face and put pressure down on her. This is a huge warning that a slap is coming.

Where Should You Slap Her?

  • The face is a highly sensitive area so be careful.
  • Stay away from places like the ears, nose, throat, or eyes. Try to focus on her cheeks. If you slap someone in the ear, it doesn’t feel good.  You may not always hit directly on her cheeks, but try to keep in that general area.

Face Slapping During Sex

So do you think you are ready? Make sure you communicate with your partner and both of you figure out what is best for you. No guide will be perfect for you because every relationship is unique and you have your own sexual dynamic.  With us, I like to be slapped and choked as I orgasm on his dick.  It makes my climax much more intense. I also like to be slapped as he cums inside me because there is something about feeling him angry while he cums inside me that turns me on.  It’s almost like he is mad at me because my pussy is so good he can’t control himself.  I love it.  I love slapping. And I really love to be choked.  But that’s a whole other blog!

May 24, 2023

Cuddle Positions – Sleepy 9

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Not a 69, but a sleepy 9.   This position can be fun and is a lot more comfortable than  you think.  Both partners use their underarms to hold the leg over their body.  Your heads rest on each others thighs and you can see and smell your partner all night.   Extremely intimate and fun position to go to sleep in, then wake up in.

Pros & Cons
+ It’s fun going to sleep.
+ It’s fun waking up.

 

Why is Cuddling so important?

When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress.  Cuddling also has a large connection with being nurtured.   It has been shown through research that cuddling helps an infant develop an attachment to his/her parent.  This is instinctual and as you grow older, adults can cuddle to form this same attachment.  Cuddling has also been shown to boost an infant’s oxygen levels, calm its breathing, and ease pain signals. And for an underweight baby, it raises survival chances by more than a third. It helps the brain grow and makes infection and other illnesses, like hypoglycemia or hypothermia, less likely.   This is why we love to cuddle.   

Benefits to our bodies from cuddling

  • Ease Stress
    • When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress. 
  • Helps Your Heart
    • It’s good for your heart.  Cuddling lowers blood pressure. Scientists say it’s clearer that women get this benefit from cuddling, but it seems to be true for both sexes.
  • Relieves Pain
    • A good cuddle may give you more than just moral support after an injury. The oxytocin cuddling releases can help block pain signals. 
  • Fight Colds
    • Too much stress effects the immune system.  Hugs from people you trust may protect you against this common virus, especially if you’re under a lot of stress. And if you’re already sick, more cuddling might keep your symptoms from getting worse.
  • Connects You to Your Partner
    • Oxytocin is sometimes called the love hormone.  Whether having sex, cuddling, touching, dancing, or holding hands, your body is releasing oxytocin.  Couples who cuddle and kiss freely tend to be happier, healthier, and less stressed.
  • Helps You Sleep
    • Oxytocin is the key ingredient again. Because of oxytocin calming effects, it relaxes you and helps you sleep.

Benefits to cuddling your partner

  • Cuddling improves satisfaction in relationships. 
    • In an experimental study, increased cuddling for married couples resulted in statistically higher relationship satisfaction. This finding was particularly notable as the couples who increased their cuddling behaviors were compared to couples who increased time spent together over mealtimes and those who did not change their behavior.
  • Cuddling helps maintain focus on your partner. 
    • In the same study, with increased cuddling, the focus is honed in on our romantic partner as opposed to thinking “what else is out there?”
  • Cuddling releases oxytocin and promotes positive emotions. 
    • Affectionate touch behaviors release oxytocin.  Oxytocin is a natural love hormone that helps us feel closer to our partners. When we cuddle, we feel a surge of positive emotions such as love, adoration, and trust. While cuddling typically occurs around sexual activity, it is perceived to be a nurturing type of behavior rather than a sexual one.
  • Cuddling after sex benefits your relationship. 
    • In a longitudinal study, the duration and quality of post-sex affection including cuddling are related to greater subsequent reports of relationship and sexual satisfaction.  Couples can use this time to be close to each other physically and emotionally, sharing their thoughts and feelings, or not saying anything at all.

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May 17, 2023

Do Men Prefer Giving Oral Sex With Women Fresh Out of the Shower or Do They Enjoy Our Work Bodies

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Do Men Prefer Giving Oral Sex With Women Fresh Out of the Shower or Do They Enjoy Our Work Bodies

Although a woman’s first reaction to this type of question would probably be she prefers to be freshly showered.  It’s a natural thought process for us to want to feel as clean as possible for our man.  Whether it be insecurity or feeling self conscious from hearing when we were young the jokes about a vagina smell be similar to fish.  Mine sure isn’t.  But this is why communication is important because what you believe, may not be what he desires.  Ask your partner what they prefer.  Personally I do not mind my husband going down on me after a long day at work, but I also make sure it’s on a day where I didn’t use the rest room at work, or some other public bathroom.  Neither I nor him like the idea of him going down on me and eating me out when I was sitting on a work bathroom.  Besides that variable, he does prefer my natural smell over soap and water.  So I keep that in mind and try to make sure I am as fresh as possible at all times.  Whether it be unscented wipes, using our bidet, and hoping in the shower mid day if I come home for an emergency “number 2” during a work day.   As I have stated many times on this blog, me and my husband both like to shower after going “number 2”, even with the use of a bidet.  

I once was told something funny by a lesbian girl who was flirting with me.  I informed her that we couldn’t hang out this weekend because I was on my cycle.  She responded, “I am true lesbian, I run red lights.”   I thought it was hilarious.  So this poll isn’t just for men, it’s for anyone that enjoys going down on women.  Maybe one day we can do a poll and separate the answers to men vs bi/gay women.  Personally I prefer a woman fresh out the shower when I go down on them.  I do not enjoy the idea of a long day of sweat and pheromones.   

To Shower or Not To Shower

We decided to add a poll.  Although we understand that some people may respond with answers like, “I just want her comfortable” or “Both”.   Our poll’s goal isn’t to play the middle ground, we want to see which preference is the majority when it comes to showering and oral sex.  

 

Do you prefer to give oral sex to a woman immediately after a shower or (6-10 hours) after?
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Here are a few comments on the topic from around the web.

Either, but i preferably no balls of toilet paper.

 

Fresh, because it seems to allow her to be more into it and less anxious about how her pussy tastes or smells, which makes it more fun for both of us because she’s more relaxed.

 

The cleaner the better but I won’t say no if it’s the end of the day too. If she’s not showered for a couple of days or whatever then it’s probably gonna be a no.

 

I much prefer it fresh out of the shower but that sweet and ripe scent full of their pheromones in the evening is also nice.

 

I’m down for anything, but fresh out of the shower isn’t my favorite. I love the way my wife smells (all over, not just there), and that’s a big part of my enjoyment when we’re together.

 

The absolute best is when she’s worked the whole day, i need the smell. Its arousing to no end

 

I strongly prefer “well marinated” but am happy any time … fresh out of the shower would be my least preferred.

 

I prefer it fresh

 

I’m more attracted to a natural musk that’s present several hours after a shower. Clean is fine, but I’d prefer a nice scent. Multiple days without showering? No thank you.

 

Honestly wouldn’t matter either way (unless it was really pungent). I’ve even eaten out my wife when she was on her period (not during the heaviest part) a couple of times, and that wasn’t a problem. Only time I’ve ever really hated it was one ex who used to use products on her pussy to “make it smell nice”. It didn’t.

 

 

 

 

May 10, 2023

How to Wash Your Penis

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How to Wash Your Penis

Believe it or not, some men have no idea how to wash their penises.  Whether it be lazy, thinking their penis is like their thumb and never smells, or just ignorant to their own bodies.  Anything resting between your sweaty thighs or on your sweaty balls is going to have to be cleaned.  I do not care how clean you think you are.  Let’s get started with our how to clean your penis guide.

The Washing Your Penis Technique

Gently wash your penis each day. If you are uncircumcised, carefully pull back and clean underneath the foreskin, as well as the tip of your penis (the glans) using only water and a very gentle soap. Don’t scrub this sensitive area.  If you are circumcised, lather up your penis and shaft with soap and stroke yourself.  It really is that simple.  Personally, I use antibacterial soap, but use whatever your body handles well.  Some men complain soap irritates their penis, if so, try soft body wash or baby wash.

If you are uncircumcised, make sure you gently dry the tip of your penis, the area underneath your foreskin and the rest of your penis. Replace the foreskin over the tip of the penis.   If you are circumcised, you should still dry your entire penis prior to putting on your briefs.  Leaving your underwear moist can cause jock itch (fungal infection).

Do not take the One Chip Challenge and follow up by masturbating.

Another tip for your tip, wash your hands.  If you touch raw foods or things that could possibly irritate your penis, it could lead to bacterial growth and cause unwanted odors.    It can also lead to a very painful experience if you were to touch something like hot peppers and then rub your crotch.

Another effective method to making sure your penis is clean, is to always wash your penis after sex.   What’s interesting is a lot of times women do not know that the penis may smell after sex because of their own smell.  As much as men should wash their penis, women should know that sometimes that smell coming from his cock is coming from you.

Can someone please tell my boyfriend how to wash his smelly penis?!

Can a dick not smell at all?  I am talking about after showering. When I first met my boyfriend his dick didn’t smell.  I remember it because it was my first time seeing a dick in real life and I was surprised that it didn’t smell or anything.  But from the second time I saw it, it smelt really bad.  Now, even after showering, it still smells.   I asked him If he washes it and he said with just water.  He doesn’t like soap because he thinks it is bad for his penis and makes it smell worse.

If dicks in general are all like this, I don’t think I will ever have sex with men again.  Can a penis not smell at all? 

Imagine.

Some women with a lot of experience with oral sex understand that their saliva, even if your breath is fresh, can have an off-putting smell.   If you don’t believe me, simply suck on your finger and smell it.  If you really want to treat yoself, put the finger as far back as you can in your throat and then smell.   Whether it be the deep hidden yeast on the back of your tongue, tonsil stones, or whatever the cause, giving a man oral sex and smelling his penis during can lead women to believe his penis smells.   

This thought reminds me of the first time my daughter wore a mask and said, “Eww, what’s the smell!”    

Antiperspirant

This is a metrosexual / gay man’s best kept secret.  Antiperspirant can keep your cock and balls dry and shower fresh throughout the entire day.  It will be up to you to find a spray that smells “fresh” more so than smelling like cologne.  No one wants a dick that smells like cologne.    Some men may be sensitive to antiperspirants, but I can safely say I have been using it for years and the only side effect I’ve had was my dick always smelling great.  Not too powerful, but never musty.

Stay away from baby powder

The only time I have had issues below was when I was a teenager and would lather my dick and crotch in baby powder.  I have always wanted that fresh smell.  I believe because baby powder has cornstarch it actually helped caused my jock itch. It didn’t help that I was an athlete and worked out all day.  But none the less, I have never had the issue again after I quit using baby powder.  Take that with a ‘grain of salt’ though, because that is just a bit of bro science. 

 

May 3, 2023

Kinky Games Couples Play To Keep Their Love Life Fresh

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Kinky Games Couples Play To Keep Their Love Life Fresh

Even in relationships where you are madly in love, sex is great, and you seem to have no issues, there are “down times”. What these couples have figured out is how to handle “down time” and still keep things kinky and hot.  I will share a few kinky games couples play to keep things in the bedroom exciting. We personally have tried all these methods and so far, none of them have gotten boring for us. You have to use your imagination at times, but that’s the fun part.

 

Kinky Games Couples Play:  The Role Playing Game

This game is kinky and fun. I do not care how experienced you are, role playing that you are two strangers meeting at a random spot and setting up a one night stand can really give you that dopamine rush you only get from meeting a new person.  One of the biggest things couples feel they lose after being together for years is that “new” feeling. We are social creatures and it’s normal to desire wanting someone new, but that new person could be your partner who stays in character and lets you get that new experience.

Playing a Board Game Totally Nude

Pick any board game on earth and take your clothes off. We don’t care if it is Monopoly, Trivia Pursuit, or Candy Land, having your clothes off while playing makes every board game 100x better. If you want a prize, winner gets oral sex! Personally I’d stay away from long games like Risk or Monopoly though as you may have to hold off oral sex until days later when you can actually finish the game!  

 

Kinky Games Couples Play: Tap Out

Tap Out is a game my husband and I created that is basically no holds barred until one of us taps out.  It can be sex, oral sex, a hand job, or just wrestling nude in our living room. We don’t stop until the other person quits or orgasms first. If you are having oral sex or sex, and he ejaculates before the woman taps out, he loses. So during sex it is my goal to scream for him to go harder, say the most sexiest things I can think of to make him lose control, and move in a way that he will not be able to slow himself down and edge so he doesn’t cum. On the other hand, his goal is to keep going until I can’t handle it anymore and beg for mercy. I’ve never quit yet!

 

Watch Porn Together

We have always been big advocates of watching your dirtiest porn videos together. This can give each person the opportunity to suggest new things to one another. This also can allow you or your partner to understand that various things you may not be into, really aren’t that bad or naughty. Depending on where you are in your relationship, porn can sooth the guilt a person may feel for desiring certain things that they have been taught their whole life is wrong. Personally, when I met my husband, I thought everything except doggy style and missionary was the only thing normal.  Everything else was extreme and things men want to take advantage of women. Although I had life long fantasies of having rough sex and being totally used, I suppressed those desires and tried to keep our relationship “normal.”  Now after being married 25 years, all those hesitant feelings are gone, porn can be fun, but it’s actually lame because we do so much more than you see in videos.  I believe this is the normal process for a couple, slowly opening up to new things and ideas until porn is actually calm compared to your own sex life.  This is why watching porn together can be fun and help you both learn to grow sexually!

 

Kinky Games Couples Play:  Hide and Seek

OnlyFans can have 1000s of models to seek out and discover.  It also has a lot of other couples sharing their kinky content.  You can use sites like Onlyfanssigns.com to find models or couples and explore their amateur content together with your partner. This can be a kinky game for a couple who is open to swinging and has their jealousies under control.  The advantage to this game is you can actually chat or catch a live show with the model or couple that you’ve discovered hiding out on OnlyFans.

 

Kinky Games Couples Play:  The Pantsing Game

What in the world is the pantsing game?  Well, you and your partner stand in the room with nothing but some sport shorts on, tops are optional. The entire goal of the game is to pull the pants down of your partner. Obviously the man has a bit of a strength advantage but believe it or not this can be extremely exciting because it creates that animalistic feel of ripping off each others clothing. Although it’s a game, it can still be rough and exciting.

 

Create Your Own Kinky Games

There are 100s of games you and your partner can create and try. From giving your partner oral sex while they try to win in a video game, to setting up a personal gym in your house and working out nude with each other. If you need more ideas, we have a list of various sexy games we have created for couples that you can check out.