I have a partner who has a lot of other partners. And I’m cool with that, I do see other people too. We usually meet and have sex at her place. Which suits me as well.
But as far as I can tell, she doesn’t seem concerned with the hygiene of her bedsheets.
I could have sex with her on it, finish on her bed, and she won’t mind sleeping on it afterwards. So she probably does the same with other people.
I already asked her before laying there if she was confident about the hygiene of the bedsheet. She brushed it off like it was a weird question and she was obviously sleeping on hygienic sheets.
The issue is that I’m pretty sure the bed would be dazzling if we put it under fluorescent light, if you know what I mean…
But maybe it’s completely unharmful and normal in the hookup scene, and everyone is aware of it, and nobody really cares…
So am I being weird with my wish not to be bathing in other people’s bodily fluids when I get on the bed ?
Venice’s response to cleaning bedsheets
It’s easy to forget how important it is to change your sheets when you have a new lover. Whether it be because you are comfortable in your own bed, or you just have poor hygiene, change your dang sheets!
In fact, change your sheets regularly regardless of having a new partner or not. It’s just good hygiene to keep your bedding clean and smelling good. Most of us sweat a lot while we sleep, so after a week or so, it’s time to change those sheets.
Ryan’s response to cleaning bedsheets
For me, this is obvious. Whether inviting over a third person into our bedroom or after the third person leaves our bedroom, we change our sheets. Especially with all the extreme things we do. For me, this is common sense.
Future title suggestion: “Clean your genitals between partners.”
The same can be said for the vagina. Please clean your vagina thoroughly if you are sleeping with various men. I understand that douche is bad for the vagina but so is another man’s semen on my crotch, or in my nostrils when I try to have oral sex with you. If you have multiple partners and you let one of them cum inside you, please make sure it’s clean! Whether you are a swinger (especially swingers because usually their spouse orgasms inside them regularly) or a girl that has various partners. I get this may be some weird kink or something, but at least let the other person know. We can clearly tell and…smell. And I mean CLEARLY.
Can you imagine a man sleeping with one woman, wiping it down, then sleeping with another woman the next day? Baby, my penis naturally cleanses itself on my underwear, that smell is totally normal….
No.
It always seemed to me that hygiene issues are very simple and clear to everyone. But if they write about it in this vein, then apparently there are still problems. But most likely it depends on the individual and how he relates to hygiene.