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September 7, 2022

Q&A: Is bringing my vibrator to my honeymoon hot or too much? 

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Q&A: Is bringing my vibrator to my honeymoon hot or too much? 

My wedding is in two months and my husband doesn’t know that I cannot orgasm through penetration.  It’s just never came up.  I am unsure if he just assumes I do, or it’s not something he has ever thought about.   Although I moan a lot while he has sex with me and my theatrics get intense while he cums  inside me, he has never asked if I orgasm with him or I just enjoy it when he cums in me.  Although it’s the latter, I’d still like to start having orgasms with him and don’t know if our honeymoon would be the right place to introduce my vibrator.  I do know with past experiences, I can come with penetration as long as I have a vibrator on my clit area.    Is this too much?  Should I wait till after my honeymoon to introduce this to my future husband or make my first nights with him as his wife, experiences where we both climax together?

Venice’s response to vibrator on honeymoon

This is actually a tough question.  Because we can’t go backwards and advise you to communicate with him about how you orgasm prior to agreeing to marrying him, this can get tricky.   I can see why you would want to orgasm with him on your wedding night, as it seems like that could be extremely intimate and special.   However, I also see how it could turn into a nightmare on his ego if he thinks you are having an orgasm while he has sex with you.   I admit, a lot of men are just ignorant to a woman’s body and think we naturally orgasm when they orgasm. As weird as that sounds, it’s pretty common.   

I’d say possibly get a small vibrating bullet that you can fit in your purse.   Or check out this lipstick vibrator we reviewed in the past.   Something that is non threatening and small, which probably won’t be as visually offensive as you lining up your 3 favorite dildos that you prefer to get you off on your wedding night.   That may not sit well.

Navigate carefully and maybe think about talking to him now about your honeymoon plans and the things you want to try with him.  Cold feet is a thing, so tread carefully and do what you think is best for you and your relationship.  

Ryan’s response to vibrator on honeymoon

I have never done anything traditional so I suppose if my wife opened up one of her luggage bag and inside it was 3 dildos, 2 vibrators, and a whip, I would have accepted it.  Unsure though.  I did go through the phase of my wife only being able to cum through clitoral stimulation and for some reason we were both infatuated with a hands free orgasm only using my penis.  We tried everything.   I wanted to be the first, and she wanted me to be the first.  For years it never happened and when we figured out using a vibrator during sex was the closest we would get, we loved it.  It also saved me from a very sore tongue and jaw, because our sex life prior to a vibrator consisted of me going down on her until she had an orgasm.  No matter how long it took.   Afterwards we would go to penetrative sex, which was purely for my pleasure.   I was young and didn’t really understand the idea that sex can be satisfying for a women without her having to cum too.

So he may be hurt when he realizes he isn’t making you cum while he has sex with you, he may also be relieved that you figured out how to make sure you both can orgasm together.  This is just one of those situations where you know him best, so do what you feel is best.   One thing we did prior to discovering vibrators was using our fingers.  This is something you should have suggested from the beginning.  I am a big advocate of women making sure they go for their orgasm, the same as men go for theirs.  Imagine a man having sex and the woman stopping prior to him finishing?  Usually that isn’t happening.  Except maybe in an offbeat comedy about a woman in a powerful position having the control to just stop prior to a man cumming. Regardless,  more than likely he would just roll over and stroke himself until he is done anyway.  That’s just how it is.  If a position isn’t good for him, he switches it.  If a woman is on top and he doesn’t feel the orgasm building up, he rolls her over and gets on top.   If he is getting a blow job and it is taking a bit long to get off, he flips her over and fucks her brains out so he can cum.  He isn’t fucking her brains out to impress her.  He is fucking her brains out because he is so turned on and frustrated from wanting to cum during oral sex.  So he punishes her body until he gets himself off.  Meanwhile his partner thinks he is an animal and great in bed.   Maybe so, but he is responsible for his own orgasm!   Woman should feel the same.  This isn’t 1960 where it’s all up to him to make you cum or you suffer.  No.   

So while I had sex, my wife or I would rub her clit until she came.  Admittedly, this wasn’t as easy as you see in porn because my wife never came quickly and I’d have to find a position where she could play with herself while I stay erect and moved my body in and out of her.  It was tough.   Which is why when the vibrator was introduced and she came in minutes, it just made everything better.    But still, maybe play with your clit with your fingers while he fucks you and see if that helps you get off.   This may be a good segue into introducing the vibrator.  

September 1, 2022

Sex Toy Review: The War of Two Dildos

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The War of Two Dildos

To vibrate or to not vibrate, that is the question.

After so many years of doing reviews of various sex products, it can get boring.  In fact, so boring that we stopped doing reviews altogether and retired our bodies from being silicone guinea pigs for the masses.   After taking years off from dildos, we decided to unretire and test out two products and compare them.  

Let’s cut right to the pros and cons of each dildo.

The Erocome Hydrae Remote Controlled Realistic 8″ Dildo Pros and Cons

Pros:

  • It’s outer skin is extremely soft with a hard middle.  This is probably the most realistic dildo I have ever felt in comparison to an actual 100% erect penis.   When I say 100% erect, I mean a penis in the hardened state of right before it cums. 
  • It thrusts and is literally a sex machine.  Put a pillow against it and it feels the same as any sex machine would feel, thrusting in and out of your body.  The cheapest sex machine on the market, by far.
  • It isn’t too thick, which I love.  I personally do not like thick dildos.  However, it goes from what appears to be about 6″ compact to nearly 8″ as it lengthens.  This thing can hit the p spot / bottom of any woman. 
  • It actually warms up and gives you the feeling of a real-life penis filled with fresh new blood.

Cons:

  • Although it is the most realistic dildo I have felt in comparison to a 100% erect penis, it has no give.  Much like an erect penis.  Unfortunately, while sitting up using this dildo and giving my husband a blowjob, it was uncomfortable because you cannot angle it inside your body.  It’s unforgiving.  Because of the technology behind the thrusting, the mechanism in the middle is solid. 
  • You have to charge it.

 

The Pros and Cons of the Honeysx Ultra-Soft Liquid Silicone Dildo

Pros:

  • It is thick  enough to stretch your vagina (but not overly thick) and long enough to hit the deepest spots.  Due to the size, the lower 2 inches did not fit inside my body so instead it bends and rubs against my clitoris.   A perfect storm of sensations.  Thick, deep, and clitoris stimulation.
  • Extremely easy to clean.
  • It bends so it is much more forgiving than the thrusting dildo.
  • No need to charge.

Cons:

  • The outer skin is not nearly as soft as the thrusting dildo and does not feel as realistic.

Now that we have the pros and cons out of the way, I just want to clarify we thoroughly enjoyed both products.   In fact, my husband enjoyed the thrusting dildo just as much as me, especially since it had a very realistic feeling.  He has now lost his anal virginity twice, once to my finger, and once to the thrusting dildo I stuck inside him while giving him a blow job.  He loved it.  He did not try the other dildo, since the outer material seemed a bit harder and it was too thick for his liking.  However, I did try both and enjoyed the different sensations.  Believe it or not, I had a more orgasmic experience with the plain dildo.  This is probably because my husband wore it like a strap on and I sat on his lap while we kissed and made out.  I rode the dildo until I was extremely high from sex and orgasmic.  It was enjoyable.  With the thrusting dildo, my husband also wore it like a strap on but also inserted his own penis inside my vagina while the dildo automatically thrusted.  This was my first experience with double vaginal penetration.  God it hurt!   But I am glad I did it.  Ryan said it was an amazing sensation because the thrusting of the dildo inside my vagina was actually massaging the underside of his cock while he was inside me.  He came all over me and it.

Later I used the thrusting dildo solo and it relaxed me more so than made me feel like I was going to have an orgasm.  Personally, I have never been a huge fan of dildos, but if I did use one, I would prefer it to relax me.   I enjoy a proper massage to my inner walls.  

I’d recommend both products, as long as they are the sizes you are looking for.   

More Information and Price: $89.99

Buy Erocome Hydrae Remote Controlled Realistic 8” Silcione Dildo

Website product Description:

We are introducing an automatic vibrating and thrusting dildo of Erocome hydrae with balls to offer you a package of pleasure. It uses a new technology design and has a distinctive linear motor that will push by itself. The motor of the dildo is potent, and it will thrust 560 times in a minute. We can say that the motor of the dildo was pushed nine times in a second. The motors of the toy are potent and durable. The maximum distance at which the thrusting motion will move is about 5cm. It has a boost button to help you reach a heaven of pleasure. The hydrae has a head that will rotate, and it will make sure that it is hitting all your excitement spots.

The Erocome Hydrae is available in beautiful vanilla skin color. It is designed in an improved size to offer excitement. It will fulfill all your wishes without extending the user out too thin. It provides heating functions also. The heat of up to 42-degree Celsius is very stimulating. It copies the natural body temperature for ideal functioning. It is boilable as it takes temperature to 100 degrees Celsius, and you can carry it with you anywhere. The shaft will take care of the internals, and vibrations will calm your body to some extent. The balls will strike your clitoris to give pleasure. It is an all-around toy. The hydrae toy contains body-safe silicone and ABS plastic material. It has an insertable length of 170mm or 6.69 inches.

It has a powerful base design of suction for giving hands-free play. The powerful suction cup base will stick to the soft surface of your wish. The wireless remote-control feature will provide you with more chances for play. You can control the remote or pass it over to someone else. The Erocome hydrae has a rechargeable battery and a waterproof design. You can enjoy it whenever you want.

Specifications
Color: Vanilla
Material: Silicone, ABS Plastic
Weight (Product): 450 g (15.8 oz)
Length (Product): 220 mm (8.6″)
Insertable Length (Product): 170 mm (6.69″)
Diameter (Product): 37 mm (1.4″)

 

More Information and Price: $36.99

Honeysx Ultra-soft liquid silicone dildo

Website product Description:

Perfect size for most females / length 9.44”, width 1.65”
Super strong suction cup, hands free play
Raised veins, squeezable balls, distinct glans, 
Soft material and can bend at will without deformation
It can be cleaned with water and soap, without using silicone lubricant
100% waterproof and can make bathing more enjoyable

Specifications

Total length: 9.44 inches /24 cm
Insertable length: 7.08 inches /18 cm
Diameter: 1.65 inches/4.2 cm
Weight: 465g

We are not affiliated with Honeysx and get no revenue from this review.  Our goal isn’t to make money promoting things in hopes you buy it, rather we are just sharing our reviews on products we have tried and want to share with our readers. This item was sent to us as a promotional product under the terms and condition that if we did not enjoy the product, we are not obligated to write or publish a review.   All reviews are just our opinions and experiences.

August 31, 2022

Q&A: I Got Drunk, Had Sex on my Period, and Said Too Much!? Did My Dirty Talk Go Too Far?

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Q&A: I Got Drunk, Had Sex on my Period, and Said Too Much!? Did My Dirty Talk Go Too Far?

I am a 20 something female that went out with my boyfriend last night and got a bit too drunk. I was on my period so it was supposed to be just a casual night of hanging out.  However, when I drink I do get extra horny.  I remember blowing him in the parking lot and agreeing to go up to his place.

At  his place it went from me keeping my pants on sucking his dick, to me being stripped nude with my bloody pad on the floor getting my brains fucked out and bleeding all over him and his bed. 

Normally our dirty talk during sex is mostly:   I love you or I am yours.   Since I was drunk I said a bit more than I wanted to.

From what I recall the things I said were along the lines of, “Oh my God, you popping my cherry with your huge dick.  How am I losing my virginity again?!”  “Your cum turns me on. I want to swallow your cum.”    “The thought of you impregnating me turns me on.”   “I want to have your babies, make sandwiches for you barefoot, be fucked by you every day, and be your submissive for the rest of my life…”   

By the way, none of this fits my personality.  I am a more assertive person, yet conservative.   I do not want to be dominated nor do I want my boyfriend to make me his sex slave.  But for whatever reason, in the heat of the moment and drunk, I just let all my little girl quotes out and gave him the full kitchen sink.

We have talked about getting married so it’s not thaaat big of a deal. I remember he was enjoying it when we were doing it. But now that I remember that night I can’t help but be embarrassed for some reason. I mean I said I wanted to be barefoot and make sandwiches for you?? While we were having sex! I have no idea where did all that come from. He has been busy with work for now but I am dreading his phone call. I don’t feel like talking to him or meeting him for sometime now.

Venice’s response  to dirty talk too far

I’m going to be dead serious here.  What’s the problem? 

Dirty talk is mental porn for your partner, and something all women should learn to do.   If I ever write a book on giving a man perfect sex, it would include an entire chapter on talking dirty and saying all the things his brain thought about for the first 16 years of his life when he was alone in his room masturbating to all his little dirty secrets and fantasies.   Not only that, dirty talk is how you can introduce different kinks that you or him may want to try.   Because kinks can keep a relationship young and healthy.   Too this day, my husband and I still talk through things we have never thought about doing, simply by going into long conversations about sex and dirty talk.  What better way to break the ice or find out for yourself what type of thoughts turn you on?  But you don’t always have to practice what you speak, and if you are insecure about this, make sure you let your partner know, whatever you say during sex, is just fantasy.   Because you can give your partner threesomes, gang bangs, and every other possible scenario he has ever thought of, by simply talking dirty.   This goes both ways, you both can talk and turn each other on more than rubbing hot spots on your body or trying to find that sensitive spot behind his ear that gets him erect.  Your voice, your thoughts, your imagination, will turn him on just as much as anything you can do physically.  And the same goes for you.  You’ll find yourself more wet than you’ve been in your entire life while talking about things you thought were taboo and dirty.   

Now, your kink was about commitment and marriage.   Obviously this is something that turns you on right now.  You want a long term dick and he fucks you so good you would make him dinners for the rest of his life just to get that dick each night.  Awesome!   There is nothing to be ashamed about.  Just don’t forget that this type of dirty talk should progress throughout your relationship.  Never forget later, when you are married, that this type of communication helped open your relationship.  In fact, this dirty talk may lead to you actually getting married.  So later, remember that when you want to try new things.   Or remember that when he may want to try new things.   Dirty talk is the best way to introduce these new ideas that “embarrass” us when we aren’t drunk or horny.  It’s okay.

Ryan’s response to dirty talk too far

There is nothing wrong with dirty talk, especially any of the examples you gave.  He probably feels the same way as you since it probably wasn’t his intentions to fuck you while you were on your period.  That’s probably equally as humbling as all the dirty talk you gave him.  There is nothing closer to marriage sex than throwing out all your inhibition and sticking your penis inside a woman while she bleeds all over you.  That’s not something you do with a casual girlfriend.   

You both seemed to be really horny and caught up in the moment.  This isn’t something to be embarrassed about, it’s what will make the best sexual experiences of your life. Embrace this drunk, wild, uninhibited version of yourself.   Rather than being ashamed, open a healthy line of communication and ask him what he felt about the dirty talk last night.  There is nothing wrong with talking kinky, even to the extreme of marriage talk, as long as you both know it’s just dirty talk.  Some women have kinks and talk dirty about how big their partners dick is during sex, even if it isn’t big.  Some women have have humiliation/cuckold kinks and will tell their man his penis is tiny (even if he is normal sized), and some women like the idea of being fucked so good that it makes you want to marry the person.  It’s the ultimate compliment, but make sure your partner understands it’s just your extreme way of making the experience more intense for you. 

August 24, 2022

Dirty Talk: Opening My Own Massage Parlor with Happy Endings

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Opening My Own Massage Parlor with Happy Endings

The Dirty Talk Intro & Disclaimer:  Everything in the story below is random and created on the spot while massaging and giving a handjob to my husband.  No filters, no rules, no boundaries; just a story and situation created to help my husband orgasm and enjoy our experience together.  We do this for intimacy and find handjobs less destructive on our bodies than having sex daily (our bodies just can’t handle penetrative sex each day).   All dirty talk is usually pure fantasy.  I use this dirty talk as a form of mental porn for my husband while he is in a vulnerable state due to being touched and massaged.  Sexual intimacy can also help reduce feelings of anxiety and depression as it triggers the release of three mood-boosting chemicals — dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin.  I usually also get really wet because my own naughty thoughts push my own personal boundaries and really turn me on.  This is why it’s so fun.  Unlike giving a blowjob or going through the theatrics of sex, you both connect thoughts together and create sexual stories in the heat of the moment.  He trusts me and we both love this natural vulnerability.  I can almost get inside his head and control his fantasies, dirty thoughts, and talk him into an orgasm in the exact moment my story hits it’s climax.  During my stories he will ask me questions while I talk.  I will include these to the best of my memory.  In fact, every story is to the best of my memory, as I do not know remember all the exact details.   

Opening My Own Massage Parlor with Happy Endings

Years ago when I transitioned from giving my husband a blow job every morning to a massage, we really only talked to each other about what we did the night before, or what we were going to do later that night.  It was more of a in the moment type of dirty talk.  I would tell him how much I wanted to taste his cum, how beautiful his dick was to me, how sexy all the veins in his dick looked, and just stroking his ego and his dick.  Gradually our talk led into things that we would never do, and I remember this being one of the first times I ever fantasized with him during a massage.

Your dick is so big to me.  It’s like a gay pornstar’s dick.  It feels so fat in my hand, like I am rubbing on a huge piece of meat…

Do you think you could massage men for a living?

What do you mean?

I mean, you do this so well.  It gets me so high and I feel so good.  Do you think you would enjoy seeing all types of different sizes?  Big, small, huge, hairy, shaved?

Yea, that would be hot.

What if we moved to Vegas and you opened your own massage parlor, do you think you’d still take care of me every day?

Yea…

Would you enjoy pleasing men for a living?

Yea…

What would you do to strangers?

At this point, I decided to stroke my husband in the exact same manner I would talk about in my story.

The first guy comes in and I hand him a towel and I put him in a room.  

What does he look like?

He is a trucker, white, kind of short and balding.  A bit chubby.  I can see his hairy chest at the collar of his shirt, so I know he is going to have pepper grey body hair.  Not that handsome, but not hideous.

Do you want to see his dick?

Oh yes, I want to see all my clients’ dicks.  No matter how they look.  Seeing a man’s penis is  sexy because it’s like finding the last piece to a puzzle.  No matter how they look, you can be surprised by how different their dick is.

Was you surprised with this guy?

I don’t know yet… 

I go into the room and he has nothing but a towel on.  We are in Vegas so we both know he is there for me to rub his dick.  As I talk, I take off my shirt and expose my breasts.   I can see the towel move, but I ignore it and ask him what type of lubrication does he want.  I will do it dry, coconut oil, KY, or with a lotion.  

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