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March 5, 2015

Jealousy in Threesomes

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jealousy-open-relationshipI’ve mentioned before that I once read a sex blogger suggest that a way for a couple to spice up their sex life is to have a threesome. I cannot emphasize enough how detrimental that is. A threesome for a 20-something couple who’ve been dating for six months and still text in emojis is not the same as a threesome for a married couple who’ve been married 15+ years and have talked extensively about the logistics and repercussions. I’m not saying that every couple reacts a certain way to threesomes; it depends on the length of time together, their experience, their history, their levels of maturity, etc. What I am saying is that couples in healthy relationships are less susceptible to the fallout of a life-changing decision such as a threesome. I refused to stay in the mindset of a little girl when my relationship with and marriage to my husband. So I write this blog in an effort to offer some insight to other women (and men) who’ve given any thought to allowing others into their bed.

To begin, it is my humble opinion, and from personal experience, that the reason why threesomes don’t work in relationships may be because of jealousy.

  • Jealousy that the other woman will suck your man’s dick better
  • Jealousy that he will get hard for her and not for you
  • Jealousy that he will think she is sexier than you
  • Jealousy that she will try to take over in bed and make you feel inferior
  • Jealousy that he will give her too much attention or ignore you altogether
  • Jealousy that either one of them will break the pre-discussed boundaries in the heat of the moment
  • Jealousy that, after she leaves, he will ask you to do “that thing that she did to him”
  • Jealousy that he won’t stop fantasizing about her
  • Jealousy that he will call her behind your back for a private fuck session

These are all thoughts that went through my mind at least once, and which I’m sure that have gone through many women’s (and maybe even men’s) minds. Is it natural to have these thoughts? Hell yes! If I didn’t, then I didn’t feel loved and cared about. My whole marriage I was used to having the man who I dedicated my life to to belong only to me. I was never asked if he could be shared. I was never asked to explore outside or away from each other, separately. They never crossed our minds. Even when these thoughts of jealousy plagued my mind, I had to remember that the important thing was maintaining a strong line of communication between me and Ryan, one that we’d been working on keeping open and honest. I’d always been very quiet and refused to let him know what’s on my mind. I blame it on my Asian upbringing and being forced to never talk back. But that’s neither here nor there.

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March 2, 2015

10 Things A Man Should Not Say To Woman On A First Date

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FearPublicSpeakingFor fun, Venice and I have created a list of 10 things a man should not say on her first date. If you have not already seen our previous blog, 10 Things You Should Not Say To A Man On A First Date, check it out now.  If you have some things you think a woman shouldn’t say on her first date, please add them to the comment box below.

10.  So I’ve been looking in your window for a few years now, it’s  good to finally see what you look like when you are not sleeping.

9. Do you think I should buy the pregnancy test now or in a few weeks?

8. I’m on a super win streak lately.  I was 50% on my first 4 STD clinic visits, but since then, I have been at least 20 more times and haven’t had an STD yet.  BOO-YA!

7. Hey, thanks for picking me up.  Is there anyway we can just download a bootleg of the new movie and stay at my house for the night?  I’m on house arrest and I’m trying to get my life right.  Be the angel that saves me.

6. Oh god, your heels and outfit look amazing.  Maybe later tonight I can try them on myself?

5. Well, first, I’d like to openly admit that I think edible condoms are absolutely delicious…especially if they’ve already been used.

4.  Sorry I’m late, I had to make a quick stop at Home Depot to buy some duct tape, rope, and a saw.  Home improvement stuff.

3.  Don’t look now, but that is my ex boyfriend sitting over there.   In about 10 seconds, can you naturally look over and tell me if he is watching me?

2.  Reach out and hold her hand with a smile.  “I just masturbated a few minutes before I picked you up so later if you want to cuddle, don’t worry, I won’t try to get fresh with you.”

1.  Listen, you pay for this meal and I will earn it back later at your place.  Deal?

Bonus:

I am all for gay marriage, but my last husband couldn’t handle it.

Want to snort lines off my dick with me?

I hope you aren’t the type of woman that is insecure about the fact that I can probably suck dick better than you.  I’ve been called a natural.

I don’t think R. Kelly peeing on girls is really all that bad.

I have first hand…and mouth knowledge that at least 2 of the New Kids on the Block members were gay.   Or at least that night they were.

Have you ever been air tight back stage at a rock concert?  I have.

 

February 28, 2015

Man Gets Stuck Inside A Cheating Married Woman

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police stuck insidePolice had to be called in to restore order after a crowd gathered to see a cheating wife and her lover locked together during sex after the rumor spread that her husband had asked a witch doctor to put a curse on her private parts.

And although medical experts say the embarrassing experience was more likely a case of ‘penis captivus’, in which the woman’s vagina had contracted too much and trapped the man’s penis, they were unable to stop the rumour and the mob had quickly assembled.

Local media said that unfaithful Sasha Ngema, 34, had reportedly been romping with toyboy Sol Qoboza, 22, at a rented apartment in the city of Johannesburg in South Africa while her husband was away on business.

Police had to be called in to restore order after a crowd gathered to see a cheating wife and her lover locked together during sex after the rumour spread that her husband had asked a witch doctor to put a curse on her private parts.

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February 26, 2015

Q&A: My Wife Is Self Conscious About Her Body

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beautifulHey guys, my wife of 5 years has always been very self conscious about her body even though she is a very good looking woman.  After the birth of our 2nd child 4 months ago she has gotten much worse. She has lost almost all of the weight from the pregnancy already but reminds me at least once a day that she weighs over 30 lbs more than when we met. She also now has a second scar from a C-section. She has been complaining about the first one since the birth of our first child so I can’t see that getting any better. Whenever the subject of her weight or scars come up I tell her that she looks great but she doesn’t believe me. She says things like ‘you have to say that because you’re my husband’ and other times just doesn’t understand why I’m attracted to her. She gets uncomfortable when I see her naked and prefers to keep some of her clothes on when we are intimate.

For years we have had sex 2 or 3 times a month which is less than I would like but I’ve come of accept it as an ok amount for us.  Since the birth of our 2nd child 4 months ago, we’ve only had sex once. Whenever I try she tells me shes just not feeling sexy.

More sex would be awesome but this question isn’t just about that, I really want her to be happy with herself and I don’t know how to make her feel attractive or sexy. Any insight or advice would be appreciated.

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February 23, 2015

Threesome Memoirs – Confessions

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confessionsAdult videos make threesomes seem absolutely perfect.   As with everything that gets glamorized, the actual experience isn’t as glamorous as the idea or fantasy. Below we will give our readers a few confessions that we may or may not have already talked about. Although our stories also glamorize our experiences, that isn’t this blogs intentions.

Ryan: My relationship with Venice is autistic. We aren’t understood and the decisions we make probably don’t make sense to anyone but us.  We have the outside world totally locked out.  Our inside jokes, our talks, our dislikes, and yes, even our threesomes.  The things we do bonds us closer together, but the third person becomes just an object we have totally used.  Whether to talk about after they leave, or to talk about while they are there.   Obviously we have no bad intentions to hurt them or anything, but we both like the idea of using the other person and seeing what they will do with us. When they leave, we move on with our life as if they do not exist. I find this behavior very psychopathic. However, because Venice and I do this together, it bonds us and gives our minds this, “us against the world” feeling. This is also how you maintain a successful relationship while adding other women to the bedroom. A total shutdown afterwards is important.

Venice: Threesomes aren’t as glamorous as they’re believed to be. Yes, it’s a turn on to be in it at the moment, and yes, I love being in one. But afterward, we start to recap the night and don’t feel like sex gods. And as it turns out, there were no harps playing in the background as I ate a chick out. We’re all human, we all have flaws, and we’re all imperfect.

Ryan: The idea of threesomes is better than the experiences themselves.  The freedom of having a spouse that almost becomes like a partner in crime (of passion), is liberating.  It’s like a sexual Bonnie and Clyde, where we use women together, talk dirty to them, then go back to our normal lives like it never happened afterwards.  It’s a rush and it feels invigorating.

Venice: I liked fucking the other women with strap-ons.  I liked hearing them moan when I pushed my dick in too deep.  I liked watching their walls stretch because the cock is bigger than what their bodies are used to.  I like watching the girls lips pull out and grab on to my strap-on each time I slide it out of their bodies.  I can understand why men fuck hard or enjoy hearing a woman moan and cry while being fucked. It’s exciting, dirty, and the one time in our life where we can hurt someone and not feel bad about it.

Ryan:  I am unsure how a threesome would be as a single man, but when you are in love, it’s not as amazing as you would think it is. It’s also not fair to the other women, but I guess we never planned on it being fair.  Because they are not your wife, no matter what they smell like, it isn’t going to be the same.   Too much perfume, too much sweat, too much seafood (old cum), too much (fill in the blank for various things you have smelled while with a woman for the first time).   For me, I was turned off by anything that wasn’t my wife’s natural smell.

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