Q&A: Am I A Fetish? Asian Girl Only Asked To HOOK UP, but not Date

Am I A Fetish? Asian Girl Only Asked To HOOK UP, but not Date

I’m a 21 F and I’m a 5’0 Asian, I can’t help but feel like all of the interactions I’ve had with guys are them sexualizing me and wanting to sleep with me, but none of them consider me in any way other than sexual. Like even when my friends who are white have dating profiles, all of their DMs are like let me take you out but mine are like when are we gonna link.

Venice’s response to Asian Girl am I a Fetish:

Every type of woman is a fetish.  Old, young, white, black, Asian, Spanish, chubby, skinny, etc.  And thank God for that.  If we weren’t a fetish of some sort, the fellas would be sitting on their game consoles all night arguing with each other where to drop on the map. Us being a fetish keeps them bathed, shaved, and behaved.  

Maybe look into your profile picture or info.  If you are being a bit flirty and funny, it may bring a different group of men than if you are straight forward with exactly what you are looking for.

Not really a bad profile, but flirty, naughty, and a bit more of a tease to the men who read it.  You’ll attract a certain type with this:

And the 420 friendly doesn’t help!

Now, let’s use the exact same photo, with something less flirty and more straight forward.  

You’ll get a whole different type of guy with this message.  They may be a bit boring, but you get what you ask for.

Ryan’s response to Asian Girl am I a Fetish:

We definitely have a type.  And you definitely need to filter who you decide to reply to.  You will get men that love Asian women because they are Asian and they want to “try” it.  The same as guys may hit up black girls/large girls/white girls/skinny girls with no real intention of dating seriously.  Just a fetish. So yes, if you catch a guy that is more into you as a fetish, you will be a fetish.  But rest assure, there are lines and lines of guys that would love to date a smart attractive Asian woman.  I was one of them!  I didn’t care if I was linking up or not, I knew I’d end up marrying an Asian woman, because that’s my type.  We have types.   

To be honest, I was happy if an Asian girl even said hi to me.  I grew up thinking American Asian girls would never even give me the time of day.  I thought I wasn’t their type!