Q&A: Older Woman Giving Me Money For Sex. What Do I Do?
I started seeing her when I was 18 and I just turned 19. She is 46. At first, we just had regular sex and would hang out. She would buy me my favorite food and would give me small gifts and I let her know I wasn’t expecting anything in return for spending time with her. She said it was fine and that she wanted to just “spoil me sometimes”.
Then we got a little more kinky. She started giving me some money, like $50 or sometimes $100 or even more. I have tried declining, but she always insists on having me accept it. Well she started getting kind of rough with me- like slapping me, scratching me to the point where it leaves marks , biting me, and I even let her spit in my mouth.
I just do it because I like to satisfy her and I want to do things that she likes for her. When she started doing this kind of stuff she started trying to giving me A LOT of money. She tried giving me like $500 and even more, but I feel like that’s too much considering that I didn’t even wanna take the smaller amounts from her, but she insists on me letting her buy me stuff or giving me money. She already bought me a new phone and I don’t want her to feel like I am just using her.
I don’t want to seem ungrateful or like I don’t appreciate her either. What do I do with this money she gives me? Should I return it or what? How do I get her to stop giving me so much?
Venice’s response to older woman giving money for sex:
It sounds like you have found a sugar momma! Although I think it’s polite to decline any payment, if she insists, it may be part of her kink. She may enjoy the idea of fucking a younger guy and paying him for it. A variation of power or a maturity fantasy. She gets off on you being a poor college kid that she uses for his penis, helps pay his bills, and has nothing in common with. She just wants to fuck your brains out. She probably thinks about this payment during sex, and even during her orgasms. Knowing she pays you to pleasure her, may be a form of control, but also self degradation. She may feel that a young man wouldn’t want to fuck her unless she paid his bills, and that gets her off.
Either way, enjoy the ride and consider yourself lucky. I’d never pay for a dick.
Ryan’s response to older woman giving money for sex:
Talk about sex problems that really aren’t problems at all! Jeez. This isn’t something most of us deal with. I’ve never been paid to slang this dick, so I wouldn’t know where to begin.
Possibly, part of her fantasy is paying a young man to service her. You have tried to decline, you have done everything you are supposed to do. If she insists on paying you, take the payment and give her that young cock of yours. It’s possible she has a form of self degradation. This can come in all genders and ages. We ourselves aren’t unfamiliar with doing kinky things that most people find disgusting.
She may get off thinking a young man wouldn’t want her unless she pays. Although that isn’t true, it could turn her on to think this way. This may be part of her kink and how she orgasms, thinking she isn’t good enough for your young dick. She pays you as a way to build up for her next session with you. And this works both ways. It may possibly be a form of degradation, where she wants to treat you like a prostitute. She may get off using you and then leaving money for you, as if you are just her little boy toy. Who knows? But both variations require you to take the money. What do you do with the money she gives you? Well young Hugh Hefner, buy yourself a Versace robe and stop asking so many damn questions!