Threesome Memoirs – Giving Him A Double Blow Job

So far Ryan and I have had fairly positive experiences – for the most part. Do we regret doing anything we’ve done?  Not really.  I find purpose in every act in which Ryan and I have partook.  Every act, each person, all experiences – all were worth doing if it meant my man and I came away closer than before having done it.

For me, my absolute favorite thing to do in a threesome is the double blow job.  In fact, this is something I feel totally at ease with, and since I do, I can enjoy every aspect of it.  Since first revealing this to Ryan, he has asked me numerous times, “Why do you like double bjs so much?”  Rather than answer, “I just do.”  I felt we both needed a more thorough explanation as it helps to understand the female psyche (or at least mine) during this act which should otherwise be considered sacred by keeping it solely between husband and wife.

Let me begin by saying, for strictly monogamous couples, I believe a woman should do everything in her power to give her man the greatest blow job.  I may not be the best bj giver, but I know what my husband likes (enthusiasm, dirty talk, and variety in speed, content, and option for places to ejaculate, to name a few).  I, myself, have come to understand how to give Ryan the most visually stimulating as well as physically satisfying blow job.  The confidence I have knowing what he wants reflects my actions and attitude when another woman is helping me please my man.

Being a cheerleader.  I am excited, grateful, aroused – all of these things – when there’s a woman in my bedroom.  But since she’s the outside party, I do my best to make her feel safe and welcome.  If I were in her position, I imagine I would feel unsure of what was expected of me.  I would feel awkward, especially not knowing if there were boundaries that the other couple has discussed prior to me being there.  Since they take a chance at looking foolish I definitely do not want her to feel unwelcome. The most basic and probably most supporting thing I can do is to encourage her from the get go.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told the other woman, “Good girl,” “You look so fucking sexy with that dick in your mouth,” or “I love how that cock slides between your lips.”

Sharing what I have.  For me, I’m not concerned about a woman who thinks she can blow Ryan’s mind with a bj that’s out of this world.  One, there are so many facets to the kind of blow job that Ryan likes.  It has taken me years to master it, and I mastered it through communication and listening to what he wants.  Two, the other girl has a limited time to dazzle him.  Lastly, Ryan has told me numerous times that he can’t be impressed at what anyone else can do, but rather he enjoys the sharing aspect between me and her.  He is impressed by the teamwork of me and the other girl working together and creating great moments (movements).  One of the best things about our threesome experiences is the talks he and I have after it’s over.  We discuss how she and I looked as we share his cock, how we take turns sucking his dick and balls, etc.  I think a double blow job is a very intimate act that both  women can do during a threesome.  It’s my way of accepting her and her way of receiving me (not just us as a couple) as a sexual partner.  It excites me to feel comfortable around a woman; in no way do I want to make her feel inferior and unsure of me and Ryan as a threesome-loving couple.

Being motherly.  As I watch her take my man’s dick in her mouth, I don’t look at the woman and think, “Haha! I can do it better than you.”  Just the opposite actually.  If she’s on her back, I hold her head up so she doesn’t strain her neck.  I push her hair back behind her ears so it’s not in her way. I want her to know that she is sexy, no matter what she does and that she doesn’t have to hold back.  Like a mother, I will appreciate everything she does unconditionally and never judge her in her most vulnerable moment.  I do everything I can to keep her motivated, to keep her excited.  I’ll finger-fuck and suck her nipples to keep her horny, pressing her own limits as his dick hangs over her.  I’ll tell her, “You’re so doing so good…I can watch you suck that big cock all day” as she moves her head back and forth along his shaft.  It’s almost as if I want to say, “Keep going…good…just like I showed you.”

The mirror image.  She’s not really a mirror image, but rather I look at her sucking his dick and think, “Is that what I look like when I do that to him?  That’s pretty neat.”  I am in complete awe of her.  I watch her lips, her mouth, her tongue.  I don’t ever get a chance to see what Ryan sees when I service him, so for me, it’s almost like seeing myself.  I like to look up at Ryan enjoying two women on him and feeling the ultimate cock worshipping being done directly below him.  It’s something I can give him with another woman, so I try to make it as sexy as possible, as sensual as possible.  When I am no longer satisfied at watching her devour him, I will make my way to Ryan’s dick and tell her to tend to his balls as she watches me slide up and down his manhood.  After I feel Ryan has had enough of the attention to each of those areas, I’ll ask her to come back and put him in her mouth again. I’ll lick any available space on his shaft before licking where his cock meets her mouth.  I’ll kiss back and forth between her lips and his dick, taking turns by putting them each in my mouth.

Being the mentor. Since the other woman doesn’t know how to act or respond around me – as a woman whose dick is hers to begin with, or as a threesome partner who doesn’t know what the man wants from the second female – I think there is an unspoken law that makes me the Sacagawea, i.e., the interpreter and guide of what’s going on between Ryan’s legs, to our Lewis and Clark.  As I do the leading, she follows my lead, starting with simple dick sucking. As I coax her and she becomes more comfortable with the situation, she’ll move on to ball licking, ball sucking, licking his guiche, piercing, and even ass.  Ryan will give me verbal confirmation as to what she is doing, and from there I will continue to be the cheerleader.

Being the aggressor.  I don’t mean aggressor in an S&M, name-calling, I-want-to-see-what-I-can-get-her-to-do kind of way, but more of a slightly loving, domineering way.  I would never cause the other woman pain or embarrassment when she is in my bedroom; that is not what turns me on.  I am not into humiliation, especially during blow jobs. I will gauge what she is comfortable doing and how quickly and easily she progresses from what she started doing to what I ask her to do.  I will move close to her face and watch her mouth carefully. If I see that she has licked his balls and has done so for quite a while, I will sense that she is willing to go a little further, but possibly needs enticing and the go-ahead from me.  At that point I will lick her earlobes and whisper to her, “You look fucking beautiful.  Lick all around his balls and underneath them baby.”  I love seeing the woman change her pace simply because I ask.  I love when a woman wants to hear from me what she is going to do next.  To see her response to any of my comments is what I mean by aggressor.  It’s not a man aggression, but a woman’s aggression, and it’s what makes my part in the double blow job extremely fulfilling.

The double blow job sets the tone for how well the other woman and I will work as a team.  If we are in tuned with each other early on, we can focus on total fulfillment and enjoy our bodies and the situation as a whole.   I always ask Ryan to move to her so I can get a feel of her dick-sucking desires, skills, and limits.

If you’re a woman reading this blog and you’re unsure about sharing your dick with a new woman, know that she is not trying to one-up you.  Since she is the outsider, she is the one who wants acceptance from you first and foremost, and once you give her the signs that you aren’t threatened by her, she will do everything to please you AND him.  If she feels you’re giving her the thumbs up to please your man, the pressure of wondering if her presence is accepted by you both will slowly disappear.  Unless she’s a total douche and doesn’t have the sense to respect both of you, a real woman will understand that to please HIM means to please YOU.