Q&A: Am I Too Ugly To Give Blow Jobs?

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I am a 21 year old female and struggle to enjoy sex with my boyfriend.  He is 27 years old.  I’m always horny and always down to have sex. I’ve never been with someone who I have found so unbelievably attractive and for some reason that puts me down. I feel embarrassed to take my clothes off.  I have a mom bod with stretch marks and I’m chubby.  I also don’t think I have the prettiest face. All I can think about during sex or giving him oral is how unattractive I look or if I’m even pleasing him, or if he is thinking about someone else. I have faked many orgasms just so he can finish or we can be done, I don’t think I remember the last time he made me cum. I cant even watch sex scenes during movies/shows with him because It makes me so insecure and down. I have asked him if I’m properly pleasing him or if there’s anything I can work on & he tells me no. I can’t even enjoy when he does go down on me (which he barely does & makes me feel like he doesn’t want to) because I’m so worried about myself. If I’m being completely honest it makes me tear up & get really emotional. It affects my daily life. (Please be nice, I’m just looking for some help & advice)

Venice’s response to too ugly for blow jobs

The good news is, if you are following the amazing guidelines in my Blow Job Bible, he won’t be able to see straight.  

With that said, I am sorry you have such a negative outlook on yourself.  If you don’t feel sexy, why would he find you sexy?   First of all, confidence is sexy.  Are you sucking his dick with confidence?  Or are you sucking his dick and scared to look at him in the face.  Scared to be extra dirty.  Scared to moan sexy or do all the things you know could be sexy, but because you are self-conscious, skip all that. 

You have to suck dick like you don’t have a care in the world.  Lose yourself in how sexy you look with a dick in your mouth.  Show him confidence.  Show him you’re sexy because you say you’re sexy.

I don’t know exactly how to make you feel pretty to him, but I do know you need to have more confidence in yourself.  Everyone deserves good sex.  Everyone deserves to be treated like they are beautiful.  You should demand it.  How he treats you outside of the bedroom is a big sign on how he feels about you in the bedroom.  If he treats you good, tells you you are beautiful, stop over thinking it.  If he doesn’t do that, maybe find a man that will.

Ryan’s response to too ugly for blow jobs

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Let’s be honest, even the most beautiful person in the world (male or female) looks like a bug-eyed mosquito while sucking dick.  Nothing is very pretty about seeing the veins pop out in her forehead, eyes water, her mouth stretched, and spit all over her face.  And at the same time, nothing is more beautiful.   

The ugliness of sex is what makes it so damn sexy.  The painful looks she makes while she orgasms, the various faces she makes while she is jackhammered, the face fucking, the runny make up, the slobber.   Lovely.

No matter what you think you look like, what does he think you look like?  I assume if he is dating you, he thinks you are beautiful.  If he goes out in public and holds you, is proud, and shows you off to the world, he adores you.  When he watches you giving him a blow job, it doesn’t change, it just gets better.   If he doesn’t treat you like his princess and show you off in public, then this is just a self esteem issue you have to deal with.  Until you treat yourself like a beautiful person, no one else will either.