Author: Ryan Bloggs

December 10, 2015

Q&A: I have physical orgasms, but not mental. Is there more?

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orgasmI am a 27 year old female and I think I orgasm. I have the physical feeling, wetness, waves of heat, vaginal clenches. It builds and releases like a sneeze but that’s it. I feel like I’m missing something, should something be happening in my mind? Some explosion, earth moving, angels singing moment? Am I broken? Is there a physical problem? I’m in a serious relationship and very much turned on by my partner and I love having sex I just feel there should be more. Please help. female orgasms female orgasms female orgasms

Venice’s response:
I can see how you feel like you’re missing something in your orgasms. But everything you described, the physical feeling, wetness, waves of heat, and vaginal clenches, is all part of the orgasmic experiences. It’s not a one, clear-cut moment that defines an orgasm, it’s a combination of events and phases that make an orgasm (YOUR orgasm) one that you achieve with your partner. You’re not alone in feeling like something is “missing.” Women in general have been duped, or misled rather, into believing so many media-driven misconceptions.

Myth: When a woman orgasms, she will have an earth-shattering experience that will cause her to scream in her lover’s ear, i.e. “When Harry Met Sally” diner scene. And the louder she is, the better her lover was in bed.

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November 12, 2015

Q&A: I’m 20 and Want To Date A 65 Year Old Woman

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grandmaI’m a 20 year-old guy who’s a virgin, but who’s known this older (like around 64-65 years old) woman all my life. She’s still sexually attractive for her age, and I wouldn’t mind getting in a relationship with her. I figure that it could be beneficial for both of us: I could get some experience with a woman who’s had sex before, and she could A.) get some hopefully decent sex (since I doubt she’s gotten any in years) and B.) know that she’s still desirable. Plus, I figure there would be little to no chance of pregnancy or STDs, since she’s post-menopausal and I don’t think either of us have been able to pick up any bugs recently. The relationship probably wouldn’t last for very long (hence my calling it a “fling”), but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be worth a go.

However, just because I’m interested, doesn’t necessarily mean she is. She has rather Victorian view on sex and relationships, and we’d have to get around that before anything could happen. It’s not that she’s religiously conservative; she’s just old-fashioned.  She doesn’t know what to think of homosexuality or transgender people (her attitude is often slightly negative on those subjects), and she doesn’t seem to approve of relationships where there’s a large age gap. However, in a short-term relationship like this, the only disadvantage I can think of in regards to age gaps is if the older partner is taking advantage of the younger one, and I don’t think that would happen here. (Since I’d likely be the one initiating the relationship, and since she’s kinda meek in general.) Plus, she’s post-menopausal (I’ve heard that menopause can kill a lady’s sex drive) and on antidepressants (which I’ve heard can also kill sex drive). Even with the antidepressants, she’s got low self-esteem, so that combined with her age may make it so that it may not even occur to her that anyone can be sexually attracted to her. Plus, she’s married. I don’t think infidelity would be her greatest concern, but it would be on her mind.

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November 5, 2015

Q&A: I Am Having Trouble Penetrating During Anal Sex

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anal sex problemsI am a 19 year old male and have been sexually active since I was 16. It’s embarrassing, but to get it out of the way I just want to say, my penis has a very awkward bend that almost goes 45 degrees upwards right at the center of my shaft. I have had multiple partners and have always had trouble penetrating (vagina). Thankfully, most of the girls I have been with have been understanding and actually help me penetrate, by either grabbing my penis and putting it inside themselves, or guiding their bodies down onto me. I know it sounds dumb, but I have always been a bit nervous and haven’t really looked down while I am trying to put my penis inside a girl. I don’t know if it’s because I am shy or I don’t want her to think I haven’t seen it before. Well my current girlfriend is a bit more outgoing and experienced than me and has told me that she wanted to try anal.  When we tried, it was a disaster. Even when she grab my penis so she could insert it herself, she just can’t seem to do it. When I looked down, I felt like I was almost putting a puzzle together and just wanted to sit there and concentrate, which immediately took my erection away.  I also used a condom so I am unsure if this may be causing my problems with my erection. My curve definitely makes it hard, no matter how careful I am. Any help from either of you would be appreciated.  

Venice’s response:
This is an interesting question. I have a few suggestions for you and your situation.

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August 13, 2015

Pre-Ejaculation – It’s Not a Bad Thing

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pre-mature ejaculationPre-Ejaculation – It’s Not a Bad Thing

Pre-ejaculation – Occurs when a man experiences orgasm and expels semen soon after sexual activity and with minimal penile stimulation.

I’ve been torn between the thought of pre-ejaculation. Is it bad when a guy pre-ejaculates?

When you first meet a man he talks about this shit like, “Giiiiirrrrl, I’m gonna fuck you all night long.” He likes to think of himself as an absolute machine of a man, like The Terminator. The chick gets real excited about it, as if she’s expecting him to have a big dick, too, and it’s gonna be a world-changing event and her toes will curl from just the mere thought of him. And it’s true – women think that good sex is equivalent to all-night sex. I can see how that can be mistaken. When you’re an inexperienced female lover, you’re led to believe through years of brainwashing (though media and of course through the false promises of an equally-inexperienced young man who claims he will rock your proverbial world) that pulling an all-nighter is all you’ll ever want or need, the type of sex where afterwards you go, “Wow, so that’s what its like being fucked by an actual man.” Obviously, when we are young, boys are far from satisfactory in bed and this is where pre-ejaculation gets a bad rap. Because of the stigma with cumming too soon or not being able to control your orgasm because you get too excited (not used to a woman’s body), most men develop this absolute idea that they will be the one person who can’t orgasm. Almost like this is a super power. “I can fuck you all night.”

Fast forward – after you’ve seen what a man can do in bed, after seeing him work your body over for years, the young girl in you dies and instead you want a man that knows how to touch your buttons and orgasms right before your body exhausts. Yes, guys – our bodies get exhausted from sex. Sex for too long makes me want to never have sex again. Not because I’m impatient, not because I don’t enjoy it, but because sex for long periods of time, especially as an adult when both people are mature can be extremely selfish. During sex, Ryan has explained to me that my body feels like a drug. Literally, him pistoning his dick gives his body the same reaction as feeling a rush of heroin in his body. He goes numb and everything in his world becomes perfect. Every bill becomes irrelevant. Drama at work is meaningless. Sex is an escape and a total high (and as women we love giving them this feeling). Ryan has explained to me that he can be in such a mental high that having an orgasm takes away this feeling. The orgasm is actually a bad thing, because it means the high is over. Every time we fuck, he says he just wants to fuck me forever. He means it. For him to ignore my body, ignore what I feel, ignore my body might not want to be fucked until I am raw and unable to walk the next day, is totally selfish. Don’t get me wrong, I get the feeling of high, I get the rush of the chemicals in my body that put me in this zombie-like state, but this is a feeling you have to control. There are times where we both zone out and the next day my pussy is so raw that I can’t even pee without squirming and feeling miserable. His dick has looked like someone rubbed sandpaper on it and washing off with soap makes him cringe. You have to be able to control the temptation to get high for too long. It is certainly okay to get caught up in the sexual high and ignore your partner. And having sex “for too long” is no longer a badge of honor, it’s more something men should be in control of to show they are in tune with their women. it’s something they should focus on not getting lost in because they love the feeling of sex more than the orgasm itself.

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August 10, 2015

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