Are Filipinas / Filipinos submissive women?

Why Do I Enjoy Being Submissive to My Husband?

I’ve dealt with a lot of criticism in our social circle because I call my husband “Daddy.” Interestingly enough, when he calls me little girl, or other cute variations, it’s not seen as strange or even warranted as an attention-grabbing habit. For me, calling him Daddy is what I prefer. I have called him Daddy in public and feel no real shame or embarrassment. It has nothing to do with a desire to have a father / daughter relationship, but more of feeling like I have finally found a man who treats me the way my inner little girl has always wanted to be treated. I didn’t grow up knowing what a real father / daughter relationship was, as my dad was abusive and cold. I also have never called my actual father, Daddy. I didn’t grow up thinking my father was great, nor did I grow up thinking I would be married, have children, or love some guy so much he would be my everything. If anything, my father made me hate men.  So calling my husband “Daddy” has absolutely nothing to do with my actual experience with how a daughter is treated by her father. Quite the opposite.

So why am I so happy now being totally submissive to my husband?  Why do I love calling him Daddy and laying in his arms at night, snuggled against him and talking like a little girl?  20 years into our marriage and it seems my role as his little girl is consuming us – iIn a good way.

In searching around the web looking for explanations to what our relationship has evolved into, I found a great article about Filipino women being submissive wives.  Although the article could be about women from any culture, I still found it interesting because it really matches how I feel.

Why are some filipinas submissive women?

For girls in the Philippines, being a submissive women is a part of filipino culture.  We are taught at a young age to have good manners, respect, understanding so that we can become good mothers and submissive wives when we are ready to get married.  I cannot speak for all filipinas, but I would say most.

We are taught that the role of a wife is to be “ilaw ng tahanan” that is Tagalog for the “light of the house”.  It is the wife’s duty to make the house a Home. A wife must be there always to support her man’s decisions, give advice but without disagreement.  A wife must do everything at home,  from taking care of the kids, to teaching the kids to household chores.  She helps the kids with their school assignments and projects.  She participates in school meetings and the kids activities. Most importantly, keeping the house a “Happy home’’ that includes doing her best to serve her husband in and out of bed without complaints.

As a submissive wife, I think its not about being enslaved by my husband because when you love your man you always do your best to keep him happy and satisfied.  Although it makes me feel bad sometimes, but I know I have to give way and not be selfish.  No relationship is perfect but it doesn’t mean you won’t find happiness in that imperfect love.

Being submissive means becoming a great wife and avoiding most arguments that can sometimes end marriages. Submitting and agreeing to your man makes everything more peaceful.  Its much better than nagging. There will be times when the husband is wrong and if you feel that there are better idea or solution to a problem, communicating calmly works than starting a heated conversation.

Achieving this submissiveness requires training and lots of patience because you mostly set yourself aside.  It is very hard to change and to make adjustment but when you’re doing it to keep your husband, it gets easier because there is a purpose of why you must do it. It takes swallowing your pride and putting your husband first on top of everything to keep the marriage happy. That can mean losing a career and a dream. Although if your husband is supportive you can still aim for success but there are lots of things you have to consider for your family.  

A woman cannot submit to every man.  Every man is not worthy of such selflessness.  I would say only a selfless man should have a selfless submissive woman.

Although I am Filipino, I am first generation, raised in America.  I am also a military vet and want to make this as a breaking point to the article above.  I read the article above as it pertained to Filipina women in the Philippine islands, being submissive, raised in Filipino culture. Although both of my parents are from the Philippines, I was raised in California. With that being said, I still believe the above article describes me almost exactly.  However, some of my submissiveness feels like natural instincts. I do not think I was taught to enjoy feeling a man restrain me and hold me down during sex. I do not think I was taught to orgasm and be turned on more if a man gets deeper, or hurts my insides during sex and pushes himself inside me harder. Physically, I am just as submissive as I am personality wise. It almost feels primitive. I am a delicate girl, with less muscle, and just enjoy feeling my man’s strength. 

Maybe later I will go more in depth on why I feel the way I feel, but I figured I would share the above article as a way to archive it on our page.   

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Naughty Selfies – Like A Virgin

Naughty Selfies – Like A Virgin

I’ll try to keep these selfies limited to new outfits, panties, and ideas, rather than the exact same poses and panties every day.  Thankfully, I do change my panties! Unfortunately, until I learn how to stretch and morph my body into alien-like positions,  I am a bit limited at what I can do with my camera!

Dear Naughty Selfie Diary:  November 19, 2019. 

Like a virgin, selfie for the very first time!  Again…. 

Oh gawd, did my age just show?  Madonna would be proud. 

This is one of the first naughty selfies I took when I started tweeting again on my naughty account.  I am sure I got 2 major reactions.  One, people looked at it and said, “WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT AND WHAT IS SHE WEARING.” 

Shut up, I know someone that likes it!

And the other response is from the few people that actually remember me from when I was very active on social media a few years ago.  “Wow, she never dared take a photo like that before…”  They are right, I wouldn’t.  And I probably won’t again.  Just because I post naughty selfies doesn’t mean I am not insecure and self conscious.   I’m working on it! 

Check out all my naughty selfies here!

 

Naughty Selfies – Camping

Naughty Selfies – Camping

I’ll try to keep these selfies limited to new outfits, panties, and ideas, rather than the exact same poses and panties every day.  Thankfully, I do change my panties! Unfortunately, until I learn how to stretch and morph my body into alien-like positions,  I am a bit limited at what I can do with my camera!

Dear Naughty Selfie Diary:  October 14, 2019. 

A few photos we posted on social media when we were camping this weekend.  We were drinking and I was relaxing on a bean bag when my husband told me to hand him his phone.  He wanted to take pictures because my bush has grown out and my hairs were showing at the seams of my booty shorts.  In case you guys haven’t heard, we are growing out our body hair and turning into hippies.   During the pictures I admit I was a bit paranoid because there was a guy fishing on a boat watching us the entire time.  My husband was a bit tipsy and said, “Who gives a fuck, he is the one being nosey, we’re in our space.”  

“Open your legs more so I can get a good shot….”

I am not sure in hindsight that made any sense, because we were totally out in the open without any privacy or personal space at all.  lol.  My husband was just extra fucked up.

Here is a selfie I took of my thigh gap and my most favorite thing in the world, my husband’s dick.  I bet that fisherman watching us could have caught a huge fish if he asked to use that worm for his lure.  LOL!

Check out all my naughty selfies here!

 

Letting Our Body Hair Grow Out And Living All Natural. Are We Hippies Now?

Letting Our Body Hair Grow Out And Living All Natural.  Are We Hippies Now?

First let me say, as much as I am enjoying letting our bodies be natural, I can’t embrace growing out my underarm hair!  That may be something I never embrace, as I wouldn’t feel attractive.  In fact, I’d feel quite the opposite. However, I am starting to grow my pubic hair with no plans to ever shave again!  For us, this is exciting! I shaved every other day for 20+ years (other than my Project:  Asian Bush – Growing Out My Bush in Photos), it’s time to be free!

Throughout the blog we will drop random fun facts from various studies, but regardless of what any surveys or studies say, your pubic hair and the way you enjoy your man or woman’s body, is totally subjective.  Porn can alter our perception.  As well as the new generations that never had an attraction to a body with hair, because everyone being shaved is all they have ever known.  I’ve personally seen instances where women and men are bullied to fit what is now considered “normal”.  This type of group mentality can alter what we find beautiful.  But eventually, you do what makes you happy. 

I grew up enamored by a woman’s breasts, body, and bush.  I thought everything about a woman was beautiful.  The truth is, I didn’t even know what an actual vagina looked like!  Just her breasts, body, and bush.  And although I didn’t have access to nude men, if I did see their bodies, they had hairy chests and crotch hair.  It’s what I learned to visualize that a man should be.  Somewhere along the line, shaving became cleaner, easier to navigate, and something I preferred.  As I get older, I am finding my tastes are going back to where it all started.  Full bush, full circle.

Now wouldn’t you be happy if you were attracted to a woman and saw her in her  small little shorts, smelling good, and she teases you, opening her legs slightly, showing you hints of her pubic hair?  If that totally turns you off, I get it.  But for me, it’s sexy as fuck. For my husband, it drives him wild.  Enough so he pulled out his camera and turned our latest camping trip into a photoshoot for the blog!  

  • A recent study regarding grooming and STIs (sexually transmitted infections) may be an read for those who care about this topic.   Specifically gonococcal infection (GC), chlamydial infection (CT), or human immunodeficiency virus (HIV).   Although the study didn’t find that grooming your pubic hair made it more likely to get these STIs, it did show that 98.1% testing for STIs that agreed to survey, have shaved their pubic hair.  53% of those people were extreme groomers, which meant they shave regularly.   In other words, the majority of people (or at least those testing for STIs) shave regularly.  Another thing to note, although I hadn’t previously thought of this, having a fresh shave and being with someone else who is also freshly shaved, would create a lot of “raw” skin on skin contact, which is probably why there were recent findings that extreme grooming could make it more likely to get HIV during intercourse.  

Although shaving is now common, more and more people are getting injuries due to shaving and cuts.  As men get older they can develop a life-threatening, tissue-destroying infection called Fournier’s gangrene. It only affects 1 in 7,500 people, but is more common in older men and can destroy the scrotum. (Though rare, women can also contract the infection in the external vaginal folds as a result of some surgical procedures.)

Certain conditions, like diabetes, lupus, Crohn’s disease, leukemia, or HIV, could increase your risk for Fournier’s gangrene. If you have any of these conditions or a weakened immune system, talk to your doctor about the safest methods for pubic hair grooming. If you do nick the scrotum, clean the cut thoroughly with soap and water, and follow with alcohol. Seek medical attention for sudden pain or a rapid change in skin color at the site, or a high fever.

How does the thought of putting alcohol on your scrotum sound to you fellas?

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Detailed anatomy of the clitoris finally added to an OB/GYN textbook for the first time!

Detailed anatomy of the clitoris added to an OB/GYN textbook for the first time in July 2019.

We’ve gone over in depth details of a woman’s anatomy a lot on our blog, but thankfully, medical textbooks have now added a more detailed illustration of a woman’s clitoris.  Finally the doctors listen.  

It’s good to know that when it comes to our vaginas, especially our clitoris, doctors are being taught more thoroughly.  

This just in, our views from medical schools all over the country have now dropped tenfold, as medical students no longer have to use sex blogs to learn more about the female anatomy!  Oh gosh!