Author: Venice Bloggs

January 16, 2019

Men, Do Not Apologize For Cumming Too Soon

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Although I feel my sexual experiences, as a woman that has been married for over 20 years, is different from a lot of other sexual experiences, some things have always turned me on.  I really enjoy my husband having extremely fast orgasms.  When he wasn’t my husband, I still enjoyed him not being able to restrain himself.  The fact my body can make him lose control so quickly turns me on much more than him needing to rub his dick back and forth inside me for an hour just to ejaculate.  Even to this day, I enjoy an orgasm, but my favorite part about sex is feeling him cum inside me.  The amount of time it takes to get him off being shorter only makes me feel better.  However, this pleasure is probably because this rarely happens, and when it does, it’s such a treat for me and my ego. I want to know I can make my husband cum in seconds.  I want to know that he lost control because my mouth, vagina, or ass felt so good to him that he couldn’t control his urge to ejaculate inside me.  I also believe that good sex is when two people are totally in tune with each other and if I have an urge to make him cum fast and he responds, I enjoy that much more than I would being pounded for 30 minutes.  Some women may think that it’s a lack of self esteem that makes me happy when he cums quickly.  Or I put my self worth in his ejaculations rather than my own.  I call bullshit.  It’s down to the core of my instincts to want to please my man.  From the first moment I was sexual with him, I just wanted him to feel pleasure from his body touching mine.  Nothing made me feel more loved than being able to make my man melt inside me.  I don’t think this is insecurity or a self worth issue, but more of a woman wanting to be all woman.  I do not get self worth from pretending to have the needs of a man.   Although I love my orgasms, my orgasms are and always have been a bonus.  In my case, my husband will never have to apologize because I felt so good to him that he couldn’t control himself.  That makes me feel amazing.

With all that said above, my relationship and sex life is a bit more complicated than I make it seem.  We have had various routines that prior to sex my husband would ask me if I wanted to orgasm.  Because I could not cum from PIV (penis in vagina) sex, he would go down on me and make me cum prior to having sex.  Obviously this meant, that afterward we would have intercourse, and it was all about his orgasm.   Since I had already gotten off, my experiences and opinions on a man cumming too soon may be much different than yours.  These days I can cum through PIV, so him going longer and being able to hit the right spots is something I really enjoy.  Although I love feeling him cum inside me, I do enjoy him making me cum first.  With communication we still talk prior and if I let him know I want to get high off his dick, he will take his time and make sure to hit all my spots.  Since it took years for us to find what works for us, he appreciates me cumming from his body, the same as I appreciate him cumming from mine.  

With that being said, I am just one woman, with one opinion.  Some women may not feel the same and I can respect that.  Below is an anonymous write up from a girl that has the same line of thinking as me.  If you want to discuss, please comment below.

Every time I feel a guy orgasming, I feel so powerful. Then for some reason, no matter how long they actually lasted, out comes some kind of apology for how they “usually aren’t like this” or “sorry.” An apology and guilt is literally the last thing I want to hear from a guy who just came from my actions! When I’m still hella riled up and fuzzy!

Its an instant turn off and kills my enjoyment of the afterglow or still ongoing sexual moment.

I know that for some reason society focuses the entire act of sex on just penis insertion into vaginas and shames men for not withholding their orgasm. This is wrong and bad.

The correct response is to immediately reach down and start rubbing the clit of who you are with if you really feel you came sooner than you’d like and she didn’t get off. If you came, I’m sure she would LOVE to hear how her pussy got you off so quick and how good she is as you do this. Not one woman is going to complain about this.

If you aren’t up to it in your instant post orgasmic bliss, give it 20 minutes and go again!

The stereotype of women being annoyed at men who last 1 minute comes from the fact that usually men just roll over and go to sleep and stop touching her when he orgasms, ending the whole affair and leaving her hanging.

In general, please don’t enter the self-guilt trip for reaching orgasm between the thighs of your partner. Or down their throat. That IS the objective of sex, after all. Healthier attitudes will improve your sex more than berating yourself every time you cum in less than 20 minutes or some crazy number.

I wonder how the author would feel if a man she was with came too quickly each time they had sex.  Would that still be something he shouldn’t apologize for, or would she start to feel like he put his own pleasure before hers?  

If this happened to me below?  I mean, how can you not be that flattered by a guy so turned on just the tip of your tongue makes him orgasm?!   

November 7, 2018

I’ve been banned for trolling because of my ideas about Sex on my Period

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Sex on my Period

As weird as it may sound, I have been banned from marriage forums because of my lifestyle, my ideas about sex, or how I believe relationships work.  I guess I can understand why.  A lot of these marriage websites preach ideas about monogamy, so I already do not fit in.  The fact I allow other women in our bedroom with me and my husband is already breaking a few marriage rules.   However, my ideas about sex on my period wasn’t something I thought was out of the ordinary or so unbelievable that I would be banned and called a troll.

First, let me remind you of how much I love my cycle.  To have a period is a blessing. It’s beautiful. It’s Mother Nature telling you, “You can have children now.” It means legacy. I love my period. I embrace it every month. I look forward to it and everything that comes with it – good and bad. When I tell my husband that I want him to fuck me on my period, I’m not trying to disgust him. I’m not doing it as punishment or revenge. I do it because he is the only person in the world who deserves to mix fluids with me. How can I not love feeling a hard dick easily slide inside me because of my heavy flow of blood.  I love feeling the wetness beneath me, the red smearing between our bodies.  Nothing turns me on more than soaking his lap, his man bush, his balls, his stomach, with my blood and egg.  To me this is equivalent to his cum dripping all over my body.  His semen is one half of procreation, my egg is the other half.  He isn’t using his millions of sperm to make babies, we are done with that.  So in other words, his little “eggs’ are in his body swimming around waiting to be released for no other reason other than they want to explore the world, my vagina, my back, my face, my throat, and my ass.  Lucky little guys!  Well, my egg is also waiting to be released.  And when I release it, I like to cover my man’s body in it.  I want to ride him on a heavy day and let my fluids pour out all over him.  And much like men want to see how we react to the release of their semen, I like to see him react to release of my blood and egg.  So much so, that I will get off him, grab my phone and demand he stroke himself in my fluids while I take pictures of his body and dick soaked in my menstrual cycle.  I’d upload the pictures, but I’d probably be banned from the internet!

Is that weird?  lol   Okay, maybe I deserved to be banned! Sex On My Period

October 1, 2018

Lo-Fi Song Of The Month (October 2018)

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Lo-Fi Song Of The Month 

Ryan and I enjoy nothing more than lo-fi music, which is a mix of old samples, the imperfections of the vinyl crackle, loops from old jazz and blues records, with a nice hip hop vibe. It’s beautiful.  It is a relaxing music that you can just listen to and zone out.  We will be posting a few songs a month for those of you that enjoy more from our blog than just stories about sex.  With that said, these songs are great to give blow jobs to, massages, or just lay back and let your man give you oral sex.  Trust me, cumming to lo-fi takes it to another level.  

The definition of “lo-fi” (usually spelled as “low-fi” before the 1990s) evolved continuously between the 1970s and 2000s; the term was added in the 1976 edition of the Oxford Dictionary under the definition “sound production less good in quality than ‘hi-fi.'” Before the 1990s, there was virtually no appreciation for the imperfections of lo-fi music among critics, but this changed after the emergence of a romanticism for home-recording and “do-it-yourself” (DIY) qualities.  Afterward, “DIY” was often used interchangeably with “lo-fi”.

September 5, 2018

Things a woman should never think about while giving a blow job

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Things a woman should never think about while giving a blow job

11.  His penis just reminded me,  did I floss this morning?  Maybe I won’t need to now.  

10. He can’t get jock itch from oral thrush can he?   Because this is just so much better than actually brushing my teeth!

9. This reminds me of when I was small and my mother used to take my temperature.

8.  Oh, his head just got so slimy in my mouth.  I wonder if this is what smegma feels like? 

7.  I still remember my first kiss.  I wonder what Little Johnny is up to these days.  I’d love to kiss him again.

6. It would be so funny if I just bit down as hard as I could right now and see how he reacts.  

5. I wonder if the inside of my mouth feels like my anus?

4.  I bet you I could easily put 12 of these things in my mouth at the same time.   Maybe I should ask him if he wants to try that next.

3.  I don’t want to ruin the mood and tell him about my cold sore problems yet.  I mean, we just met.  Maybe when he is done and I have taken my Valtrex, we can sit down together like mature adults and discuss this.

2. I know we just met, but I wonder if he is going to ask me to marry him after this.  

1. Wait until I tell my husband about this!

August 22, 2018

Syntribation – A Girls Naughty Secret

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Syntribation InterrogationSyntribation – A Girls Naughty Secret

Syntribation [sin-tri-bey-shuh n]  Of a female, to masturbate by crossing the legs and rubbing her thighs together.  

Yes, it’s a real thing. Although I am sure men could do the same thing by simply tucking their penises between their legs, let’s be honest, men can masturbate on anything.  Boys, today is not your day.  Let’s talk about us and our secret masturbation habits! 

We can and do masturbate in public without anyone ever knowing.  Simply crossing our legs while wearing something slightly tight, and moving our feet and legs back and forth.  Silly guys, no, we don’t have to use the restroom.  We may not reach a full orgasm, although it’s definitely possible, but it does relax us. 

If you see a woman syntribating in public, it may very well be a way for her to calm her nerves, comfort herself, or just help pass time while bored.  And this is possible because stimulation of the vagina and nipples release oxytocin.  Oxytocin helps ease stress and social anxiety, as well as various other known positive effects with women.  Oxytocin is also currently being tested as an anti anxiety drug. So whether she knows it or not, she may be massaging herself with her thighs, as a natural means of making herself more comfortable in a social atmosphere.  And, it just feels good.

Here are a few techniques for the women readers of our blog.  If you are in a swivel chair, you can rock back and forth to create more friction in your thighs.  You also will want to kegel and squeeze your anus muscles to create a feeling of being penetrated.  This will also help tighten the walls of your vagina.  Bonus!

Depending on which foot you move, you will get variations in what you feel.  If you move the bottom leg, it helps with your kegels.  If you move the top leg, it gives direct stimulation to your clit and vagina.

Below I have added a syntribation video so you can get more clarification on the technique.  

 

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