Threesome Memoirs – Bisexuality

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Let’s say you are browsing a porn website, which I know some of you reading sexblogging.com would never do.  But let’s just close our eyes and pretend.  After you’ve studied the “Craigslist is Dead!  Get Easy Pussy Now!” advertisement for a few moments, you decide to actually browse the selection.  If you click on Hardcore, you will probably see a man and a woman having sex in various positions as fast as possible.  This video usually ends up with the man jumping to his feet in his last seconds and unloading his semen onto a woman’s shocked yet happy face.    If you click on Gay, you will probably see two men fucking each other without condoms or pissing on each other while they talk extremely manly. Or maybe just two college guys stroking it next to each other with huge smiles on their faces.  If you click on Lesbian,  you will probably see two women having sex in the scissor position fake orgasming for 10 minutes.  Ok, I’m not going to keep going.   I know most of you on our page have never even thought of visiting a porn website, so just imagine endless categories along the side of page, from Anal and Asian, to Tranny and Grannies.   My point?  If you click on Bisexual, what will you see?  You will either see two bisexual women and a man, or two bisexual men and a woman.  You will never click on a video or buy a porn that says, “Bisexual” and not see one of these combinations.  Why?  Because a true bisexual experience is a person enjoying another person of the same sex, and the opposite sex, at the same time.  If you clicked on a Bisexual link and you ended up watching a lesbian or gay video, you would be extremely disappointed. 

That’s how I feel in my sex life.

Would it matter if I told you that even though you clicked Bisexual and ended up watching a gay or lesbian scene you can still watch and enjoy the videos because those people you are currently watching having gay or lesbian sex also have heteosexual sex off camera?  The actors/actresses are “bisexual.”  Does that make watching the video more bisexual?

Nope.

This blog topic may cause a bit of stir among the millions of bisexual women that visit our blog daily (okay, I may have exaggerated a little).  For me, bisexuality is not being a part-time lesbian.  Not that anything is wrong with being a part-time lesbian, but for me, bisexuality is enjoying a man and woman together at the same time.  Maybe I will start a new movement?  I’ve spoken with various women who all claim to be totally bisexual, yet their goal is to get me to commit to a lesbian experience.  I understand why, as most women are already in a relationship with a man and can’t just join another woman and her man for a true bisexual experience.  In fact, both women are usually in the same situation, so rather than deal with men, they instead become part-time lesbians and have a lesbian experience.  I also understand why they would classify themselves as bisexual.  They like men and women, they just like them seperate.  In essence, they are part-time heterosexual and part-time lesbians.  One thing is certain, they are not having bisexual experiences if their female and male partners are not all in the same room. 

With that being said, let me make it clear to the readers, I am bisexual.  When I say bisexual, I mean I am absolutely bisexual.  To be fair, I am also a part-time heterosexual.  Although I got married prior to really finding out who I was on the inside, I wouldn’t stop having sex with my husband now simply because I know I am bisexual and prefer to have him  and another woman rather than us alone.  I do not consider this settling, as I am committed and love him, and I will always do what I need to do to keep Ryan completely happy.  Does this mean I will also accept less than what I really desire  and go have a lesbian experience just to be with a woman?  Absolutely not.  I am not a lesbian.  I am not even a part-time lesbian.  And I am definitely not an intern lesbian working for free to gain experience. 

Do I consider my bond with Ryan the reason I am really into bisexual experiences only?  Absolutely.  For me, no matter how attractive a woman is, the experience would feel empty if my partner in life wasn’t with me.  Do I want to taste women, enjoy women, and be with a woman in every way possible?  For sure, but not enough so that I am willing to cheapen my own experience because I have to come home and talk about how cool it was and how I wish Ryan could have been there.  He is my lover and best friend.   I need him around to truly enjoy my experiences.  I’m not looking for notches on my belt, the same as I am not answering random ads to hook up with random men on the fly.  Women are complicated and I am definitely a woman.  Even though I love sex, I do not sell myself for cheapened experiences just to do it. 

Make sense?

Threesome Memoirs – Things NOT To Text Your Possible Threesome Partner

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textAs most of our readers know Ryan and I have been playing the field looking for a viable female threesome partner.  In this search, I have learned that anything you say in a text message to a possible third could be the absolute end of any contact.   To help couples in the future not make a few obvious mistakes, we have compiled a list of things you should never text or say to your possible threesome partner in the courting process.

“Oh yea I love to blog.  In fact, I almost have a million views.  I can’t really give you the website or link or anything because I don’t want you to judge me or not want to kiss me because of the things you see or what I’ve said there.”

“Do you want my husband to have a camera ready?”

“Can I blog about you?”

“Are you a germ freak?  If so, I will make sure I clean underneath my fingernails.”

” If you want, I will tell my husband not to cum in me tonight. Or he can, if that sounds better?”

” I am cleaning out my closet so my husband has room to hide tonight.”

” Do you want to adopt a dog together from the animal shelter?”

“Hell yea, I just bought a double sided dildo from the comic con.  It looks just like  a Star Wars Sith Lord light saber”
No matter how she responds:
“Luke, I am your father.”

“On a finger scale of one to fist, what do you like?”

“Do you want to look at commitment rings together?”

“I wonder if a gay marriage is possible if I am already in a straight marriage?” 

“So should I sanitize my dildo or are you into sloppy seconds?”

“Are you against butt plugs in your mouth?”

“No, we’ll be in the basement, it’s soundproof. We won’t have to worry about my parents barging in.”
No matter how she responds:
” I call it the sex dungeon.”

“Don’t worry, my kids won’t knock or bother us.”

“Maybe you can pick up a few of my prescriptions before you come over?”

 

 

Q&A: Is Hiring a “Pro” / Escort For a Threesome a Bad Idea?

threesomeMark from Nevada

Hello Venice and Ryan, I must say, you guys have an amazing blog.  I actually found your website using a google search term that you guys may feature in a future blog, “wife wants threesome.”  Hopefully that one isn’t as weird or funny as the ones I read on your other post.  Also, I actually found your threesome article extremely informative and am wondering how you guys plan on safely adding a third to your bedroom?  I am in the same boat I believe, except here in Nevada, there are some counties that have legal brothels.  We also have a lot of escorts but I am unsure of the legal issues regarding that.  However, my question to you both is, how would you feel about adding a professional for a threesome, rather than getting lucky and finding a single woman, or a couple with the other  husband willing to sit on the sidelines ?

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