Category: Threesome Memoirs

Everything threesome related that we have been through or written about.  From advice to actual stories of our experiences.

September 14, 2023

How To Get The Most Out Of Your Sex Doll Experience

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How To Get The Most Out Of Your Sex Doll Experience

As our readers know, our blog tends to focus on couples and the various things they can do to keep their relationship sexy, healthy, and strong. We started our blogging journey in high school but slowly opened up to share every aspect of our relationship, which included our very detailed path to experimenting with opening our bedroom to other people. Since then, ethical non-monogamy (ENM) has gotten extremely popular and threesomes have become part of a lot of couples’ relationships. This is likely due to the explosion of internet, dating apps, and people slowly evolving to accept different lifestyles. With the change, couples are out looking for unicorns like never before. We have explained in the past that we believe the safest unicorn experience would be with a sex doll. These realistic companions, available at reputable sex doll shops globally, offer individuals a unique and customizable way to explore their desires and intimacy. To ensure the best experience with a sex doll, here are ways to maximize your sex doll experience.

A unicorn is a person who is willing to join an existing couple. They may join the couple only for sex, or they may become a more involved part of the relationship and spend nonsexual, companionship time together too.

Choose the Right Sex Doll Shop

Start your journey by selecting a reputable sex doll shop. Look for one that offers a diverse range of adult dolls made from materials such as Thermoplastic Elastomer (TPE) and luxury silicone. A reliable shop will provide quality assurance and a wide selection to suit your preferences.  

A Thermoplastic elastomer, or TPE is a flexible and rubber-like material that processes like plastic. A TPE is a true thermoplastic, which does not require vulcanization or curing.

Your Sex Doll Hygiene

Maintaining proper hygiene is essential. Clean your sex doll thoroughly before and after each use. Use a gentle, pH-balanced cleanser, and follow the manufacturer’s cleaning instructions to prevent damage.

Lubrication Is Always The Key

This is a great life lesson, because much like with all intercourse, sex doll or human, lubrication is still the key.  Whether you want to use your own saliva while practicing giving your sex doll oral sex, or you purchase water-based lubricant (as much as we love coconut oil for lubrication, avoid it with your sex doll).  Coconut oil and silicone-based lubes can damage TPE sex dolls over time.

Experiment with Different Positions

We have a some cool artwork we created with various threesome positions that you possibly could try with your sex doll. The fun part about using a sex dolls is their versatility. They also consent to any position you want to try. So if you and your partner have talked about rough sex in the past but it seemed a bit scary, having a threesome with a sex doll could be a great way to let your partner experience rough sex in person. You can choke and slap your sex doll all you want, they won’t complain. But remember, doing things softly while going through the “rough” theatrics is the key to letting your partner see that it isn’t as scary as they may think it is. In fact, it may totally turn them on and they may want to be your sex doll the next night. Either way, experiment with different positions to find what works best for you. 

Safer Than Safe Sex: Using A Condom With Your Sex Doll

Although personally I would never use a condom with a sex doll, if you are worried about cleaning and keeping your sex doll with as little bacteria exposure as possible, using protection can make cleanup more manageable.

So I use a condom with a real woman to make sure not to catch diseases or get her pregnant, and now I am supposed to use a condom with a sex doll because I might be too lazy to clean her? – That guy that always asks the right questions.

Although our article is about making your experience with a sex doll enjoyable and clean up is never fun, we agree! Using a condom to save yourself from cleaning would be like having a threesome and you all decided to use condoms because no one wanted to clean up afterwards. This is  why it is important to understand how to clean your sex doll after you use them.

Maintenance Matters

Regularly inspect your sex doll for any signs of wear or damage. Address any issues promptly to ensure your doll remains in excellent condition for long-lasting enjoyment.

Look For Sexy Accessories For Your Sex Doll

Many sex doll shops offer a range of accessories to enhance your experience with sex dolls. From different lubes, to inserts for your dolls genitals, and even heating options, these extras can add an extra layer of realism and enjoyment. You can also buy matching outfits, shoes, jewelry, and hit up a goodwill for various everyday accessories for your sex doll. If you want a military women experience, thrift shops have a great selection of old camo jackets and uniforms that are no longer used for fair prices. The possibilities are endless!

Sex Dolls: I Don’t Think, Therefore I Am?

The beautiful thing about sex dolls is that they can be very real companions for some people to connect with. Whether it be a need of having total control, being lonely, or just having a strong imagination that creates a personality for your sex doll and gives you and unique bond.  However, with couples, a lot of times the goal is to have a no strings attached (NSA) threesome, and a sex doll can totally give you this experience. They have no feelings, they won’t talk about you around town or gossip, and they won’t steal your partner behind your back. Instead, you can throw them in the closet and they will keep all your naughty secrets hidden. 

 

In conclusion, sex dolls are becoming more acceptable in our world and couples having threesomes with a sex doll can be the perfect option. As long as you clean and maintain your sex doll they can last for a long time. You can also rest assure that you or your partner will not have any type of drama because your sex doll isn’t going to open their mouth unless you are sticking a dick in them. You can practice positions, roughness, and even dress them up as any type of role-play you desire. The possibilities are endless.

January 29, 2020

A Warning About Threesomes – The Superpowers of an Introvert

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A Warning About Threesomes – The Superpowers of an Introvert

Although we have had various issues with having threesomes, the issues didn’t outweigh the positive results:   the experiences brought us closer together.  We just didn’t feel the things that people warn you about when it came to threesomes.  In our relationship prior to opening our bedroom, complacency had taken over.  We had become roommates, able to function and say we love each other without showing it, having sex just to get relief with little to no intimacy.   At the crossroads of our relationship, we either needed to find a way to be excited with each other, or rethink our marriage.  We both decided that our marriage was something we didn’t want to give up on.  The alternative to separating and giving up, was opening our minds and trying things we had never done.  As we reconnected, we shifted back into a honeymoon phase.  A rebirth of wanting intimacy, closeness, and a new willingness to try new things.  Much like when we first met, all the things we wanted to try sexually were discussed and something we were excited to try.  In a new marriage, this gradually dies off and you just become complacent, rather than excited to be around each other.   It’s also easy to close the door on new ideas, open marriages, or exploring your sexuality.  Especially when you marry young.  A catalyst like realizing your marriage is almost over, can push people to try new things, because at that point they have nothing to lose.  Also, if you are going to go out single and explore your sexuality, why not do it with someone you at least have history with.  Especially when you have nothing to lose.  Warning.

During our second honeymoon phase, both sides were willing to try new things that we hadn’t tried in the first 12 years of our marriage.  In the process, we learned that we never wanted to go back to being complacent.  Complacency was our biggest mistake, in our experience. 

A Threesome Warning

However, our experience isn’t everyone’s experience.  Below is a great article about a guy that started having threesomes while in a relationship.  During the process, his girlfriend, who was an introvert that liked to write out her thoughts on paper, gave him a list of all the reasons they should stop having threesomes.  Rather than listening to her reasons, the excitement of threesomes, the intoxication of the freedom to have threesomes, and everything else a man’s mind goes through, had him arguing with her list, rather than listening.  This could be extremely helpful to other couples out there that may be going through the same thing.

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March 13, 2019

Foursome Memoirs: The Silent Partner, Phone Sex, and Swingers

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This is possibly the shortest running memoir series we will have on this blog.   1 post.

So we have been members of  a swing lifestyle website for years but have never met anyone from this site.  In fact, we have probably been members for just as long as we have blogged.   We’ve heard that although we only hook up with women, it’s still technically considered part of the swingers lifestyle.   Most swingers do actively look for a bi female, also known as the unicorn.  This past week, things changed.   We spoke with a couple that was interested in having the wife spoiled by another couple.   They were both in their second marriage and had only been married for about 3 months.  Personally, we both thought this was too soon, but we didn’t mention it. It was stated up front that the other wife wasn’t comfortable with Venice and her husband hooking up, which was fine with us, because it isn’t something we do anyway.  The couple both spoke with us on Kik and talked about how they spent their honeymoon having a mmf threesome with the husband’s friend.   Kind of weird I guess, but whatever.  The husband talked a lot about how he is doing this for her, it’s all about her needs, and he is really just a silent partner that enjoys watching his wife pleased.  He said he was really excited to see her with another woman.

We decided that this couple may be a match for us.  Although we have never done anything with a husband/boyfriend in the same room, it does turn us on to think about having sex in front of another couple.  We also thought we’d enjoy watching another couple have sex in front of us.  In hindsight, this may not be a reality for us.  As a couple, we like to joke around, take things a little less serious, and we tend to use comedy as a way to deal with uncomfortable situations.   This would probably be a recipe for disaster when watching a horny couple getting it on in front of us.

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January 9, 2019

Threesome Memoirs: Q&A – Unicorns and Their Safety During Threesomes

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Unicorns and Their Safety During Threesomes

I am a 23 year old female and am meeting a couple for drinks next week after we matched and chatted on tinder. They are staying in a hotel nearby, as they are on holiday, and have indicated that we might end up back at the hotel if drinks go well.

Unicorns – how did you know you would be safe when you met couples for threesomes? Not just on a relationship boundaries level, but from purely a ‘will I get kidnapped/raped/killed?’ point of view?

I have often matched with couples on tinder and am keen to try a threesome, but the issue of being outnumbered always puts me off. I am normally pretty spontaneous, experimental and confident when it comes to dating, but some help and advice in this area would be great!

Venice’s response to safety during threesomes
I suppose you would take the same kind of precautions as if you were heading to any place that would have strangers and alcohol: let someone you know trust know where you’re going and the nature of the event. 

My suggestion is to be on the phone (or even pretend) and when you arrive, say something like, “Alright, I’m here…gotta go. Talk to you later” to let them know that there are people who know your whereabouts. If you think about it, it’s the smart thing to do without letting people you don’t completely trust them. If you went to a club or party alone, you’d probably put it on your calendar, tell your friends (roommate, etc.), or maybe even on social media. I wouldn’t suggest bringing a gun or other type of weapon since that could backfire. However, in your situation, if you want to be discrete, you can ask the hotel’s front desk to call your phone at a certain time or call the room. No matter what you decide to do, being spontaneous doesn’t mean you have to be unsafe.

Ryan’s response to safety during threesomes
Statistically, I’d say meeting a man by himself is far more dangerous than meeting a couple. To get a man on social media that is a psychopath, is much more common than meeting two people, male and female, both psychopaths, both in agreement to do something illegal. Probably not likely. I’d say meeting a couple is the safest thing to do on social media, lol. Couples usually don’t serial kill and rape together. It has happened, but not even in the stratosphere as far as the number of men raping women by themselves.

We have met women before and we felt equally as unsafe because they may end up back at our place, setting us up and plotting something in the future. We have no idea their true intentions. It works both ways. Meet in a public place and if they seem like genuine couple, go back to their place for drinks. Make sure you keep your cell phone on.

We had a girl meet us and we would hang out every so often.  I’d say we got somewhat close and would play together a few times a month.  Eventually we found out that the first time she met us she had a gun in her purse. That freaked me out a little. We don’t know who we are meeting either!

May 3, 2016

Q&A: Question About FFM Threesomes

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threeI’m the male in this situation. I have had a few threesomes. This one is planned and I have logistical questions.

One girl I have unprotected sex with. One girl I have to use a condom with. How do I do this exactly? Should I fuck one, then the other, and try not to switch back? Do I clean myself inbetween? What do I clean myself with? Do I switch back and forth with a new condom every time?

Is there a guide for positions? The last couple times the girls were not bi and I had trouble coming up with good positions. They kept expecting me to tell them what to do and it’s hard commanding two girls when they do not want to touch each other. That will probably happen again at some point so could I have suggestions for positions for a threesome with two girls who are not bi and the current situation in which they are?

Sometimes they will be confused on how to do something. Is there a good generic answer for this? One common one is a double blowjob. They don’t know where to position themselves. What do I tell them?

These new girls, thankfully, are into each other. I think probably more than they are into me.

They made me buy restraints so if any ideas include those in the positions, that would be great. Silk ties.

Starting it is also always weird too. They always look to me to initiate it, but then they resist me encouraging them. I think I will try suggesting they do things to each other? 

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