Category: All Sex

January 16, 2019

Men, Do Not Apologize For Cumming Too Soon

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Although I feel my sexual experiences, as a woman that has been married for over 20 years, is different from a lot of other sexual experiences, some things have always turned me on.  I really enjoy my husband having extremely fast orgasms.  When he wasn’t my husband, I still enjoyed him not being able to restrain himself.  The fact my body can make him lose control so quickly turns me on much more than him needing to rub his dick back and forth inside me for an hour just to ejaculate.  Even to this day, I enjoy an orgasm, but my favorite part about sex is feeling him cum inside me.  The amount of time it takes to get him off being shorter only makes me feel better.  However, this pleasure is probably because this rarely happens, and when it does, it’s such a treat for me and my ego. I want to know I can make my husband cum in seconds.  I want to know that he lost control because my mouth, vagina, or ass felt so good to him that he couldn’t control his urge to ejaculate inside me.  I also believe that good sex is when two people are totally in tune with each other and if I have an urge to make him cum fast and he responds, I enjoy that much more than I would being pounded for 30 minutes.  Some women may think that it’s a lack of self esteem that makes me happy when he cums quickly.  Or I put my self worth in his ejaculations rather than my own.  I call bullshit.  It’s down to the core of my instincts to want to please my man.  From the first moment I was sexual with him, I just wanted him to feel pleasure from his body touching mine.  Nothing made me feel more loved than being able to make my man melt inside me.  I don’t think this is insecurity or a self worth issue, but more of a woman wanting to be all woman.  I do not get self worth from pretending to have the needs of a man.   Although I love my orgasms, my orgasms are and always have been a bonus.  In my case, my husband will never have to apologize because I felt so good to him that he couldn’t control himself.  That makes me feel amazing.

With all that said above, my relationship and sex life is a bit more complicated than I make it seem.  We have had various routines that prior to sex my husband would ask me if I wanted to orgasm.  Because I could not cum from PIV (penis in vagina) sex, he would go down on me and make me cum prior to having sex.  Obviously this meant, that afterward we would have intercourse, and it was all about his orgasm.   Since I had already gotten off, my experiences and opinions on a man cumming too soon may be much different than yours.  These days I can cum through PIV, so him going longer and being able to hit the right spots is something I really enjoy.  Although I love feeling him cum inside me, I do enjoy him making me cum first.  With communication we still talk prior and if I let him know I want to get high off his dick, he will take his time and make sure to hit all my spots.  Since it took years for us to find what works for us, he appreciates me cumming from his body, the same as I appreciate him cumming from mine.  

With that being said, I am just one woman, with one opinion.  Some women may not feel the same and I can respect that.  Below is an anonymous write up from a girl that has the same line of thinking as me.  If you want to discuss, please comment below.

Every time I feel a guy orgasming, I feel so powerful. Then for some reason, no matter how long they actually lasted, out comes some kind of apology for how they “usually aren’t like this” or “sorry.” An apology and guilt is literally the last thing I want to hear from a guy who just came from my actions! When I’m still hella riled up and fuzzy!

Its an instant turn off and kills my enjoyment of the afterglow or still ongoing sexual moment.

I know that for some reason society focuses the entire act of sex on just penis insertion into vaginas and shames men for not withholding their orgasm. This is wrong and bad.

The correct response is to immediately reach down and start rubbing the clit of who you are with if you really feel you came sooner than you’d like and she didn’t get off. If you came, I’m sure she would LOVE to hear how her pussy got you off so quick and how good she is as you do this. Not one woman is going to complain about this.

If you aren’t up to it in your instant post orgasmic bliss, give it 20 minutes and go again!

The stereotype of women being annoyed at men who last 1 minute comes from the fact that usually men just roll over and go to sleep and stop touching her when he orgasms, ending the whole affair and leaving her hanging.

In general, please don’t enter the self-guilt trip for reaching orgasm between the thighs of your partner. Or down their throat. That IS the objective of sex, after all. Healthier attitudes will improve your sex more than berating yourself every time you cum in less than 20 minutes or some crazy number.

I wonder how the author would feel if a man she was with came too quickly each time they had sex.  Would that still be something he shouldn’t apologize for, or would she start to feel like he put his own pleasure before hers?  

If this happened to me below?  I mean, how can you not be that flattered by a guy so turned on just the tip of your tongue makes him orgasm?!   

January 9, 2019

Threesome Memoirs: Q&A – Unicorns and Their Safety During Threesomes

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Unicorns and Their Safety During Threesomes

I am a 23 year old female and am meeting a couple for drinks next week after we matched and chatted on tinder. They are staying in a hotel nearby, as they are on holiday, and have indicated that we might end up back at the hotel if drinks go well.

Unicorns – how did you know you would be safe when you met couples for threesomes? Not just on a relationship boundaries level, but from purely a ‘will I get kidnapped/raped/killed?’ point of view?

I have often matched with couples on tinder and am keen to try a threesome, but the issue of being outnumbered always puts me off. I am normally pretty spontaneous, experimental and confident when it comes to dating, but some help and advice in this area would be great!

Venice’s response to safety during threesomes
I suppose you would take the same kind of precautions as if you were heading to any place that would have strangers and alcohol: let someone you know trust know where you’re going and the nature of the event. 

My suggestion is to be on the phone (or even pretend) and when you arrive, say something like, “Alright, I’m here…gotta go. Talk to you later” to let them know that there are people who know your whereabouts. If you think about it, it’s the smart thing to do without letting people you don’t completely trust them. If you went to a club or party alone, you’d probably put it on your calendar, tell your friends (roommate, etc.), or maybe even on social media. I wouldn’t suggest bringing a gun or other type of weapon since that could backfire. However, in your situation, if you want to be discrete, you can ask the hotel’s front desk to call your phone at a certain time or call the room. No matter what you decide to do, being spontaneous doesn’t mean you have to be unsafe.

Ryan’s response to safety during threesomes
Statistically, I’d say meeting a man by himself is far more dangerous than meeting a couple. To get a man on social media that is a psychopath, is much more common than meeting two people, male and female, both psychopaths, both in agreement to do something illegal. Probably not likely. I’d say meeting a couple is the safest thing to do on social media, lol. Couples usually don’t serial kill and rape together. It has happened, but not even in the stratosphere as far as the number of men raping women by themselves.

We have met women before and we felt equally as unsafe because they may end up back at our place, setting us up and plotting something in the future. We have no idea their true intentions. It works both ways. Meet in a public place and if they seem like genuine couple, go back to their place for drinks. Make sure you keep your cell phone on.

We had a girl meet us and we would hang out every so often.  I’d say we got somewhat close and would play together a few times a month.  Eventually we found out that the first time she met us she had a gun in her purse. That freaked me out a little. We don’t know who we are meeting either!

January 2, 2019

How to Masturbate and hatch eggs in Pokémon Go [ Life Hacks ]

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How to Masturbate and hatch eggs in Pokémon Go.

Here is a funny and neat article regarding a sexy secret to hatching eggs in  Pokémon Go. Although the author has calculated the distance of each masturbation, depending on your size, your miles may vary!   And it is also something the ladies can do as well.

I’ve been doing my more-than-average holiday masturbation the past few days. Last holiday I was the lucky receiver of a new Apple Watch, which I haven’t used much aside from to collect walking distance on Pokémon Go. I realized over the last few days that masturbating with the watch on has been getting me 0.4-0.6km walking credit for each fap. I was amazed at finding a productive use of the Apple Watch so I did some quick calculations:

My penis is about 15cm long, which means I am getting a solid 3,300 full base-to-head strokes in to get an average of 0.5km. I’ve surmised that the last 10% of strokes gravitate around the upper half of my shaft and head, though. This means I’m getting somewhere a solid 2,970 full strokes and 330 upper half strokes in per wank. Some of that distance could be me sprinting to get a towel that I’ve inevitably forgotten, though.

Nothing is more rewarding than choking your chicken and turning on Pokémon to see you’ve hatched an egg or two in the process.

December 12, 2018

Q&A: Boyfriend found videos of me in old amateur porn. How do we recover?

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Boyfriend found videos of me in old amateur porn. How do we recover?

Disclaimer: I thought I’d deleted the pictures from everywhere but somehow he found them on my laptop.

If it matters, my boyfriend is in his early 30s and I’m in my late 20s.

A few months ago, my boyfriend of 2 years found old videos and pictures of me having sex with someone else. It was someone I had previously told him I’d had sex with, so he knew it’d happened. He did not know the other guy personally.

Since then, he has confided in me that he felt numb after seeing the pictures, sex is emotionally painful for him because the pictures and videos pop into his head several times and it makes him lose his sex drive, and he has not felt as affectionate towards me.

In the first several days following his discovery, we had a lot of weird, emotionally detached sex, initiated by him.

Now we still have sex as much as we used to, but I can tell there is some kind of block… he’s just not into it like he used to be. Neither am I because I feel sad about what he saw and I know it hurt him. He doesn’t kiss me or hug me like he used to.

We both agreed that we don’t have bad feelings for each other, however, we don’t know how to get over this. Any advice on moving forward would be greatly appreciated.

Venice’s response to him finding my old amateur porn
This is a tough situation. That kind of discovery can be very devastating to someone. Because even though he knows that you’ve had partners before him (I’m assuming), seeing pictures of you with another man (even if they were before you started dating each other) would just as bad as seeing you with a new man you are cheating with. Right now, he’s traumatized and no matter how hard he tries to tell himself that they’re not recent, it still hurts him to see another man do that to someone he loves. You will just have to reassure him that you have no feelings for your ex and that you did not intentionally keep the pictures. Remind him that you would never let another man touch you while you’re together. They’re just pictures from your past, not your present.

Ryan’s response  to him finding my old amateur porn
This is a tough one.  I don’t know how you will recover, but if you love each other and you are meant to be together, you will recover.  Only time will fix this one.  From seeing your ex lovers penis size, to seeing the things he did with you.  You can never erase the pictures in his head, but if you love him, you can paint your own pictures.  Love makes everything better.  Love makes a dick bigger.  Love makes sex better.  Assure him, if you love him, that everything he does, everything he has, is better in every way.  

Venice tells me my dick is bigger than an elephants.  Although that absolutely is not true, she says it in such a way that I say, “Fuck it, maybe it is.”  Woman can convince us of anything.  The power of pussy, the power of love, the power of your natural innocence.  White lies, love lies, I don’t care what anyone says, it makes me feel good.  It helps with my insecurity.  And if a woman loves you so much she believes her own lies, I can live with that.  Like in the movie The Matrix when the man is eating a steak he knows isn’t real, “Sometimes ignorance is bliss.”