Oral Sex Techniques

OralOral Sex Techniques

Fellatio [fuh-ley-shee-oh]: noun
1. oral stimulation of the penis, especially to orgasm

Oral sex is a powerful tool which can be used during foreplay or by itself to bring your man to full ejaculation.  It’s not as simple as putting your mouth on a dick and making him cum with by pure will and stamina.  The first section includes helpful tips to help build your fellatio game. The second section is different techniques.  Try these on your man and see what he likes.  Once you’ve mastered one, move on to the next one.  Eventually you will be combining two or more during oral sex, giving yourself more “bed cred.”  

1.   Positioning.  Find a position that will allow you to be comfortable.  This is probably the most basic trick you’ll have to master when it comes to oral sex because if you’re not comfortable, he won’t be either.  One way is to have him sit on the couch while you kneel on the floor between his legs.  This position is comfortable for the both of us.  The only shortfall is having to transition to the bed.  I used to have a lot of trouble sucking my man off when he was laying on the bed.  When I’m facing him and between his legs, my neck tends to get tired, my forearm muscles get numb, and shoulders get cramped.  I ended up having to constantly change positions, stop and go again and again, which disrupted him, throwing him off.  I found a simple solution to this problem: shit talking.

2.  Shit-talking.  Talking shit to your man is filler time.  This gives your mouth, neck, jaw, back and all areas which tend to ache with short, but repetitive use, a little bit of recovery time.  If I need a break from the bobbing, the sucking, the deepthroating, I stop.  But I don’t just sit there and do nothing.  I stroke his dick.  I massage under his prostate.  I run my fingers up and down his thighs.  I press down on his ass hold. And now that my mouth is free, I shit-talk.  “Tell me you want my mouth back on your dick.”  “Don’t look at me.  Keep your eyes closed before I put a pillow on your face.” “You want to cum in my mouth bad, don’t you?  Be patient, and I might let you.”  Talking shit empowers you when you’re in a position that is traditionally submissive.  Go ahead.  Ask him, “Who sucks your dick better than me?” and see what he says.

3.  Get into it.  Show your enthusiasm.  Let your man know you love sucking his di ck.  Moan with his dick in your mouth.  It may sound like you’re saying, “Mmm..mmMMmm..mmmmm. Mmm-hmmm. Mmmmmmm…!” But what you’re really saying is, “Oh, my God, yes! Give me some more of this juicy dick.” When you get the chance to shit talk, you don’t have to actually say words.  You can moan with pleasure, too!  If your man knows you absolutely love him in your mouth, it helps with the excitement.  

4.  Tell him what you’re doing.  And similarly, tell him what you’re going to do or want to do.  You know what you’re doing.  He knows what you’re doing.  It’s obvious you’re performing oral sex.  But what exactly are you doing?  “You like it when I stroke your dick fast like this?  Or slow like this?” “I’m going to take this froth off your dick and use it like lipstick.”  “Should I put both your balls in my mouth or just one?” “I’m going to sit on your face and make you suck on my clit.”  Bombard him with the nasty things you want to do to him.  

5.  Describe what’s going on with his body.  I didn’t realize until Ryan asked me one day as I was stroking him, “Is my dick hard?”  It took me by surprise because I figured he’d be able to tell by the way my hand moved up and down on his shaft.  So from then on, I made it a point to give him a play-by-play of what his body was doing. “You’re starting to get thick and heavy in my mouth.  I can feel it growing every time I suck hard.  You like when I lick right there, don’t you?  Because I can see your goose bumps.  Your balls are moving up and tightening.  You’re ready to cum now, aren’t you?”  Not only is he feeling what’s going on, but now you’ve given him a visual with his kinesthetic experience.

 6.  “Give” him control.  Ladies, whether you realize it or not, you have so much power.  When a man lets you between his legs, he is entrusting you with the most cherished part of his own body.  You are the one between his legs. You are the one who dictates how fast or slow you move, and therefore, how quickly he can cum.  You are certainly the ones in control and your man knows it.  Change things by role-reversing.  “Baby, please let me have your cum? Do  you want me to beg you?  Ok then, please give me your cum?  I’ve been  a good girl today, I need to have it.  I need to taste it, please!  Don’t keep your cum to yourself.  If I deepthroat your cock, will you give me your hot cum?” I may even go so far as whining for it, like a little kid begging his mama for a new toy.

7.  Look!  No hands!  Let go of his penis completely and pretend you’re a contestant on Fear Factor: Fellatio Edition.  Start by putting your mouth on the base and nibble your way up like it’s an ear of corn.  If it drops, start over. Hold his dick skin between your lips like you’re rolling lipstick (be careful not to pinch him too hard) and “swing” it back and forth.  Slide up as high as you can and down as low as you can without using your hands.  It becomes a challenge to not use your hands to control where his dick goes, especially when it’s hard. But you can display your oral talents without the use of anything but your mouth.

8.  Look!  Both hands!  You have two hands.  Use them!  If you have a free  hand, use it to cup the balls, press down on his prostate area, do something.  I like to use both hands to grab my man’s dick, right hand over left like I’m holding a bat.  Slowly twist your hands in a circular motion, in opposite directions.  Don’t grab tight or else you’ll end giving him an Indian burn.  Finally, put your mouth on his dick head and suck (how much head you can put in your mouth is dependent on the size of your man).  There are many ways to use both hands; the possibilities are endless.


More Oral Sex Techniques

In addition to the above, there are so many oral techniques I use on Ryan, so this section will be updated often.  As you can see, deepthroating is a prerequisite to many of these techniques, therefore adding to the variety for and pleasure to Ryan.  

Deepthroating in and of itself is a technique that requires a lot of skill and therefore has its own article dedicated to it (see article “Deepthroating – My Introduction”)

Face fucking is also a stand-alone technique (see article “Face Fucking”) and a favorite of mine.  Remember, face fucking doesn’t necessarily have be done is a submissive position; you can stand, kneel, squat, etc.  Once you become more experienced, you’ll be able to gauge at which points your throat can handle the ramming of an erect dick.

Ball tickler. Using one hand, you will be holding both balls and his penis.  Bend the penis before it gets to hard and arm it up.  Pull and stretch both balls up near his penis head. This will create both balls and the penis head to all be in one area.  You can lick down the middle and lick his head and balls at the exact same time.  If your mouth is big enough (or he is small enough), it might be possible to put both balls and his penis head in your mouth at the same time.  I cannot do this, but it’s definitely possible.   I like to do this especially when Ryan has just shaved his balls.  Fun fact: the skin on the penis and the scrotum are the same.

Figure 8.  [A prerequisite to this technique is deepthroating]  Performing a Figure 8 may be uncomfortable, so I don’t recommend you do this unless you’re 100% comfortable with your throat and what you can handle.  Once you’re all the way down, turn your head side to side in a figure 8 pattern.  I say that this may be uncomfortable because his dick is going to hit all sides of your throat causing a clicking sensation in your neck.

The frenulum is the underside of the penis.  Slowly licking the frenulum hits a sensitive spot on a man.

Give him a vagina. [A prerequisite to this technique is deepthroating] This technique is for the more experienced deepthroaters. I’ve seen pictures from his point of view and it really does look like he has a vagina, like his penis is completely gone. 

Hickey. This involves sucking your man’s dick very hard as if you’re giving him a hickey.  Hold the sucking tightness and slowly move your mouth off his dick.  The suction should be enough to where you’d leave a hickey if this were to be done on his neck.  It is very intense, so make sure your partner likes this type of sensation.  Sometimes Ryan likes it slow and soft, sometimes he asks me to suck the skin off his cock.

Jugular. This technique is easier to do while his dick isn’t completely hard. To correctly do this technique, you’ll have his dick in your mouth (not necessarily deep toward your throat) while simultaneously licking his balls. As you can imagine, the harder your man is, the harder it would be to do this. And conversely, the smaller his dick is, even when he’s fully erect, the more of his dick will fit in your mouth as you lick his balls.  This is called jugular because he won’t be in your throat, but rather it will “feel” like he’s in your neck.

Jump rope. This is when you keep his dick in your mouth while licking his body in a 360 degree angle; his dick will move clockwise. Start licking at 12 o’clock; your tongue will be on right side of his dick. As you move clockwise, your tongue will end up on the left side. When it does, you pull your tongue back into your mouth and over to the original starting position (on the left side).

Hummer. [A prerequisite to this technique is deepthroating] By now you’ve realized that a true deepthroat won’t allow you to breathe. But there is a point before the actual deepthroat where you can breathe. When you get to that point, start to hum. This causes a vibration on his dick and, according to Ryan, tickles in a good way.

Murder sounds.  [Prerequisites to this technique are deepthroating, jugular, woodpecker and/or washing machine]  To get a real good murder sound, you’ll have to have your man’s dick in your throat, but as you come up, try to “talk.”  You won’t be able to of course, but it will sound like you’re being murdered, drowned, choked, etc.  It’s a turn on to appear to be dominated.  I like to “scream” as loud as I can when being deepthroated because it is, to me, a self-inflicted masochistic maneuver.

Another variation is drowning Instead of going down as far as you can onto his dick, go down about an inch into a deepthroat and bob up and down in short, quick bursts before coming up for about one second. Repeat.   Each time you come up, breath and“scream.”  To me, it sounds as if someone is trying to drown me.

Nose diving.   [A prerequisite to this technique is deepthroating]  This is a 69 position with Ryan on the bottom.  As his dick is in my throat, I lift up my legs and my nose is buried in his balls.  Knowing your man’s dick and how it’s shaped will help in learning how to nose dive.

Pee hole.  This is merely sticking the tip of your tongue as far as you can down his urethra (a.k.a. the pee hole).  It’s a simple and pleasurable technique, for some men.  Some guys may not like the sensation, as my husband has said it feels very  unnatural tp feel tongue slide inside his body.  He loves it, depending on the mood he is in.  Know your man’s penis and his moods.

Washing machine. [A prerequisite to this technique is deepthroating] The washing machine is similar to the woodpecker, but instead of coming up a few inches, you’ll come up as high as you can while keeping his dick in your mouth, then going back all the way down. Do this repeatedly.  When you get really good at this, you will be slamming your nose into his pubic bone, then moving all the way off his dick until you feel his head touch your lips, then sliding it all the way back down again.  As you move up and down, you can also twist your head and put his dick through the spin cycle.  This is a very high-level technique because of the roughness on your throat.  Have fun, find the right angle, and be careful.   

Woodpecker. [A prerequisite to this technique is deepthroating] Once you’ve learned “give him a vagina,” you’ll be able to do the woodpecker. The woodpecker requires you to put your nose to his crotch as you deepthroat, but as you come up, you’ll only lift up about two inches and then go back down. Do that repeatedly and you have the woodpecker.  This technique is very similiar to the washing machine, except you barely come off the penis and he can feel your nose almost like vibrating on his crotch and pubic bone.

If this wasn’t enough for you and you want to see everything there is to know about giving the perfect blow job, read The Blow Job Bible.

Deepthroating: My Introduction

Yummy banana.
What is deepthroating?
My definition of “Deepthroating” is taking a dick past the soft palate in your mouth and sliding it down into your throat.


My First (Real) Deepthroat
 The first time I heard about deepthroating was from a girlfriend of mine in high school. Not only did I hear about it, but they shared a video of her performing the act.  I can remember thinking that her boyfriend’s penis was small, but they both seemed happy.  And I admit, to my young eyes her technique was amazing.  She could take his penis and put it all in her mouth, and then lick his balls (see article: “Oral Techniques“). Although she bragged about her deepthroat prowess, in my mind I called it “deep mouthing.”  By the looks of it, I doubt his penis was even hitting the back of her mouth.  When I met my husband, Ryan, I guess I was a bit cocky. Maybe I was competitive with my girlfriends but that old video stuck in my mind and I knew I could do it better than my friend.  I was going to take all of him easy, I didn’t care he was 6’4 and I was just a little Filipino girl.   And then I realized, all men aren’t built the same.  I tried to take Ryan’s longer, fatter dick deep in my throat, and almost gagged immediately. His head hit my soft palate and my lips were only at the edge of his circumcision scar, which was not even a third of the way down. Ryan would grind his hips into my mouth, but his dick would just bend and I would eventually gag and switch to only sucking and kissing on the tip of his penis. Although at the time I didn’t realize I wasn’t deepthroating him (it felt deep), I just figured I was deepthroating as much as I could. If Ryan asked me to deepthroat, I would stick his dick back as far as I could in my mouth and press it hard against the back of my tongue and soft palate. The pressure from my tongue (coupled with my panic of choking/gagging) kept my throat closed and his dick from going down any further. I wasn’t doing it on purpose; it was an instinct to keep me from feeling like I was going to choke. After I’d press for a few seconds, I would gag and Ryan would give me positive reinforcement by saying, “Good girl.” I was naïve to believe that deepthroating just meant putting as much of the dick in your mouth as possible, but my husband was happy I was at least trying and I just felt his penis was too big.


What is a true deepthroat?
You have the hard palate and the soft palate.  It takes a little bit of coaxing to get your man’s dick past the soft palate because you’re not used to having something so big and wide in your throat.  You have to remind yourself that you will not choke on it; you can lift up or pull away if you “feel” you are in danger.  Additionally, if the dick is really in your throat you will NOT be able to breathe.  If you can breathe, you’re doing it wrong.  A true deepthroat will cover your entire throat and prevent air from going in or out.  I was intimidated at first because my husband’s dick circumference is nearly 6” around and during the first few days of learning, it was like a bee stung me in my neck and my throat was closing up.

When my husband asked if I was willing to learn how to really deepthroat, I was down for the challenge.  And yes, there was a lot of watery eyes, coughing, and gagging at first, but only because I didn’t know the proper techniques or that there were even techniques to learn.  I thought it was as simple as swallowing or eating.  But it truly is an art.  I tried to look it up online, but I didn’t get too much help.  I knew then I was going to have to learn by hands-on experiences.  Quitting was not an option.

Continued: My Experience Learning To Deepthroat


Face Fucking

Face fucking is just like how it sounds: a man is fucking your mouth.  My husband and I discovered this position as we were finding new ways to deepthroat (see article “Deepthroating: My Introduction”).  Face fucking has become one of my favorite positions and sometimes I prefer it to vaginal sex because of how much I love doing this.  This position gets me the wettest, the most turned on, and nothing we do ever compares to how wet my pussy gets from taking his cock in my throat.

I start on my back, lying on the bed, no pillows.  My husband  gets on top of me like we’re 69ing.  He licks my clit and I stroke his dick for a minute or two.  Then I take his soft  dick into my mouth and swish it back and forth, like I’m gargling mouthwash, until I feel it begin to grow.  When he is about 60% hard, I take a deep breath and I grab his ass cheeks and pull him down onto my face.  He then proceeds to grind his cock down my throat.   This feels like I have a second pussy getting fucked with a fat dildo.  After about 35-45 seconds he pulls his dick out and I gasp for air. I rest for about 15 seconds before pulling him back down for more.  I “talk” (aug aug aug aug aug)  and it sounds like I’m gagging each time he dips his cock into my mouth.

Round 2:  I lick the corners of my mouth as my husband’s dick is getting thicker between my jaws.  If I don’t, his shaft will burn my lips.  I trace my fingers down his crack and fondle his loose balls.  They’re warm and they hang low, hitting my face with every pumping action.  His ball skin is smooth and I suck on them while stroking his dick before he begins again.  My husband moans as he feels my warm mouth around both his balls.  I signal that I’m ready to go again by pulling him down to me.  I open my mouth wide and since it’s slowly getting harder, I tilt my head back to make way for a growing cock.  I take a deep breath.  He’s thick and can easily find its way straight down my throat.  He buries his face in my pussy and wraps his arms around my legs like he’s climbing a tree. His slimy wet cock makes smacking sounds each time he pulls up.  Time.

I inhale again, catching my breath and regenerating for the next cycle.  My husband talks dirty tells me how good my throat feels like a second pussy that doesn’t bottom out.

Round 3: Once again I pull my husband down into my mouth, eager to feel him face fuck me.  He’s about 80% hard now.  His balls are scrunching up and I see goose bumps forming on his ass cheeks.  We do this at least 3-4 times a week so I know this is what it looks like between his legs when he’s ready to cum.  He can’t even see this himself.  All he knows is that he wants to cum so bad.  His balls are ready to push his cum up through his dick and into my mouth.  I can’t wait for it to gush out, to taste his cum on my tongue and on my lips, to slurp up every delicious drop.  He keeps darting his hips hard onto my face like a piston.  But I’m out of breath.

He lifts up just in time as if he knew this was the right moment to do it.  I suck on his balls again.  I point his dick down towards his face and jack him off, his skin sliding around his hard cock.  He moans louder, not giving his cock a break.  I turn it back to my mouth and he waits for a hint that I’m ready.

Round 4:  My husband drops his dick down and I am more than eager to gulp him down.  I pull him as far down as he can go and his balls, now tight, his nuts pulled deep into his crotch, have stopped slapping me on the face.  I rub my clit in small little circles as my entire body bounces under his weight.  He fucks my mouth so hard, but I’ve learned to face fucking so well, how to angle my head at every stage of hardness, that I beg (loud gargled moans) for him to keep ramming his cock down my throat.  He wants to stop because he is afraid he’s hurting me.  He pulls out for a second and I tell him not to stop, to keep going until he cums.  I immediately slam his hips back into my face.  I take other hand and feel my pussy dripping with my own froth.  It’s gotten on the sheets, a wet spot forming under both my ass cheeks.  My moans are muffled each time his dick blocks my throat.  His dick is rock hard now, his hot cum is ready to shoot out.  But I hold him down, his tight balls on my nostrils, the tip of his 9 inch dick head settled at the deep end of my throat.  His nutsack twitches on my face as his cum shoots into my throat.  Seven shots, eight shots, nine shots…his dick keeps cumming and I don’t have to swallow one drop as it goes straight to my stomach like a feeding tube.

With my eyes watering I have now been holding my breath for well over a minute, moving my throat muscles around his twitching penis to make sure all his cum makes it into my stomach.  He pulls his dick out with cum still dripping from his head.   I hungrily suck his gland clean as it exits my mouth, before finally gagging for air one last time.