Although I don’t think there is anything wrong with a man having, or not having body hair, I do think that it’s a matter of preference. For what makes him comfortable, and for what she is attracted to. For a long time, I associated body hair on a man with being “clean and hygienic.” I felt a clean shaven body was something some men decided to do to show a possible mate that they take care of themselves. Clean smelling, smooth shaven. Feeling a smooth body, stomach, crotch, balls, and ass meant a man took the time to groom himself. After all, we’re humans, not apes, which meant men no longer needed body hair to keep themselves warm or to have their hair stand on end to make them a bigger to threat to their enemies. Evolutionary speaking, body hair just seems unnecessary in modern times.
I didn’t always feel this way. When I first met Ryan I didn’t care about body hair one way or the other. I met Ryan when I was young and other than on television or on the beach, I hadn’t seen a man’s body enough to create a personal preference. I just know I wanted one. I do remember the first time Ryan and I snuck into my room while my parents were at work and had sex. Later, after he left, I found his body hairs on my sheets. Instead of being grossed out, I remember picking them up and saving them in a container. Although this was over 20 years ago, I do feel this says something about my perception of body hair before I was married. Not only did I like body hair, I thought it was sexy and saved it as a memento to knowing he was in my bed with me.
Flash forward a few years. Unlike first meeting a man and not caring if he has hair on his body or not, marriage creates a new monster. You mean I can turn my man into a Ken doll and he will go along with it? I can make his penis look like a dildo, clean shaven, and not deal with all the body hair? Well shoot, let me go buy him some extra razors then!
That isn’t the whole truth, but it’s partially correct. In our relationship, Ryan was kind of on the frontier of shaving. I think the first thing he ever shaved / trimmed was his ass hair. He has always been extremely picky about this area of his body and has kept it groomed because he didn’t feel it was clean after using the bathroom. He would later shave it totally clean and even take showers after using the restroom (which he still does). He is very ANAL about his anus.