8 Weeks Of Growing Out My Bush In Photos

growing my bush shaved8 Weeks Of Growing Out My Bush In Photos

When I first announced that I was thinking about growing out my bush as my next sexblogging.com project, I immediately received a lot of flack from visitors to our site.  The response to the idea was almost funny, because a few people messaged me telling me not to ruin my body.   The messages expressed how much they hated how the bush on a woman looked, how it was gross, how it was unclean, and how they would never be attracted to any woman who had a hairy snatch.

They are wrong!  A bush is beautiful and I will show you why in photos!

Why I Am Growing Out My Bush

I guess before I start I will try to explain why I thought the idea of growing out my bush would be fun to begin with.  I’ve notice online, and probably because of the laws in Japan that prohibit porn from showing the actual genitals, that a lot of Asian women have a bush.   I’d assume this is because if Japanese women did not have a bush, then their porn would show nothing.  Although the genitals are censored, the hair is not. growing my bush week 1This would make pubic hair in the Japanese culture very important.  Even if a Japanese man is with his wife, obviously in real life there is no censor blur in front of her vagina, but since men have been conditioned to only enjoy the site of a pubic hair through porn and photos, why would he ask his woman to remove this aphrodisiac  (which we can now call an afrodisiac)? I believe the same can be said for the older generation here in the United States.  The younger generations seem to think that the bush is gross or unclean, while the older generations love and appreciate a hairy vagina.  When they grew up, all their porn had hairy women.   Their first experience was with a woman who had hair.  The bush was a sign of womanhood for them.   This lust and fetish doesn’t change because women in the 90s started shaving landing patches and bermuda triangles in their crotches.  Eventually, getting rid of any sign of hair and going completely bald eagle.   Some men absolutely love a thick bush, and I can respect that.

The Asian Girls and their Hairy Bush

, think of the times you have seen pubic hair in an American movie.  Full frontal nudity is still rare, but when it does raise its head, the female actresses always seem to have hair.  The hair represents nudity without it being labeled as pornography.  It represents the taboo of the revelation in American cinema.  Conversely, in almost all American X-rated movies, the adult film stars have their pubic hairs shaved off (which has become an accepted norm) making it easier to see the details of dicks and pussy in action.

growing my bush GrowthThe History of the Bush and Pubic Hair

The history and the importance of why humans have pubic hair is unknown, but a lot of people suspect it has to do with the pubic hair helping to retain the natural pheromones produced by glands to entice the opposite sex.  Before you shrug off the idea that we actually need a reason to attract the opposite sex, try to understand that animals do go in “heat.”  Smells released from the female body attract the opposite sex (cats & dogs for example), and the male will know it’s that time.   Although we are not cats or dogs, the concept remains.  As noted in an article written by Dr. Kristie Leong:

A thick patch retaining a woman’s natural pheromones makes sense.  According to some theories, animals and people are attracted to members of the opposite sex who have pheromone scents that are distinctly different from their own. This reduces the risk of inbreeding, which could produce offspring with genetic defects. Pubic hair helps to trap these volatile scent molecules, which are quickly broken down when exposed to air.

I personally find myself attracted to my husband’s underarms, which I kiss and lick each morning.  I also know my underarms drive my husband insane.  I’ve watched him sniff and lick under my arms (when I do not get ticklish) and get the hardest erections I have ever seen.  I also will notice at times when we are having sex, he can cum almost immediately if I lift my arms up and let him smell my pheromones.  This isn’t just some article I read, this is my own experience.

growing my bush monthsI have heard of other reasons for pubic hair which I may not agree with, but I suppose are worth noting.  It is said that rough hairs in the pubic region help protect the delicate tissues of the genitals.  This would explain why the pubic hair is unlike the hair on your head.  I am unsure about this theory, as I let Ryan beat my thing up to the point of no return, and within the next few days my “delicate” skin is back and ready to fuck.  Hair or no hair, my vagina doesn’t feel more protected from the large penis going in and out of my body.   Since I wear clothing and do not walk around nude, I will never know if the bush protected women, or kept them warm when they didn’t have much clothing.   I assume the same would be said for the bush being this great protector.  I’ve heard that the bush helps keep harmful particles out of the vagina (an argument I’ve heard in defense of actually keeping a bush — people’s misconception of the lack of bush being “cleaner”).  Since we wear clothing, again, my vagina is protected from whatever harmful particles it needs to be protected against.   I am not a big fan of these reasons for keeping your pubic hair, but nonetheless, they are different theories worthy of this blog.

Less so now, but prior to civilized times,  pubic hair would also be a sign for a male to know a woman is ready to reproduce.   Pubic hair is a sign of puberty, which is also a sign a woman is fertile.  For that reason, girls with pubic hair are no longer girls, but women.  This concept is not too far fetched as Ryan has also told me that he cannot wait to see my pubic hair in all its glory.  He has also said that when he grew up, a shaved vagina was unheard of.  A real woman had hair.   All the porn he had seen, which wasn’t much, but the same dumb little VCR tape him and his siblings hid from their parents, had nothing but 70s porn stars, all full of hair.   This was the most sexual thing he had ever seen, and these women, hair and all, definitely turned him on.  Not to mention, he has told me all the movies in the 80s never showed genitals.  The only way “nudity” in a movie was either breasts, or a huge bush.  Unlike the younger generation that have no idea what it’s like to see bush in an 80s film (what do the films show these days?), Ryan loved it.   That love has definitely created a slight fetish, as he is excited as hell to see my thick Asian bush.

growing my bush full growthEnough with History, Let’s Get Into Growing My Asian Bush!

The last time I had a bush was when I was in my early 20s.  That was many years ago and we had both forgotten what it looked like.  Growing up and hitting puberty, I had a bush and that was that.  I never thought about shaving, trimming, or shaping it.  The first time I’ve seen myself truly clean shaven since puberty was after my husband (then just my boyfriend) shaved it with me because we were horny and bored, about 6 months into our relationship.  Since then, I have never grown out my bush to its fullness, never going more than a week before shaving fully again.  I know from experience that the first day after I shave my skin gets very irritated.  In preparing for Day One’s picture, I shaved everyday for a week prior to February 1, 2013, the first day I will start growing my bush.  I did this in order to allow my skin to become less itchy, bumpy, and/or inflamed on the actual day of the the photo, and since I used a brand new razor this week I knew I would be more susceptible to cuts, nicks, and overall skin irritation.  Additionally, I used cocoa butter in the morning and evening to keep my skin soft and to lessen the appearance of chafed skin.  In my opinion, it has done an excellent job.  I expect that as my hair starts to grow in, I’ll experience major itching and prickling.

For the finished product, if I get one “you look like you got Buckwheat in a leg lock” joke, I know that I’ve succeeded.

Enjoy!

 

 

Freaky Search Terms: difference between a tight pussy and a pussy that has been fucked big time

ffst-300x200Freaky search terms, where we post our most outrageous search terms that people used to find our website.  Ryan and I will then share our own thoughts and hopefully entertain you guys or at least make the search term make a little less sense.

Each search term was gathered by wordpress and/or google statistics and they are all very real search terms.   Each search term was used by some person in the world that ended up on our page.

10) Free wife catches me sucking dick / free husbands getting caught sucking cock stories
Venice: Give US US OUR FREEDOMS!
Ryan: Amistad.   If you don’t get it, you don’t get us…
Venice: FREEEEEEEEDOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM
Ryan:  Braveheart.  Boom.
Venice:  Cause I’m FREEEEEEEEE… FREEEEEEEEE FALLLLLL…
Ryan: Jerry Maguire.  Too easy.
Venice: Bullshit, you can be mine!
Ryan:  What the hell does that have to do with free?
Venice: So you don’t know?
Ryan: Top Gun.  Easy.  But what the hell does that have to do with free?
Venice: I’m free to use whatever quotes I want to bitch.
Ryan:  …
Venice:  Ha!  Gotttttem!

9) difference between a tight pussy and a pussy that has been fucked big time
Ryan: Well…
Venice: I got this one, Ryan. A tight pussy means she’s dry, unhorny, and not turned on, which means the guy didn’t do his job. He didn’t eat her out, there was no foreplay, and he just stuck his dick in her the same way he probably stuck his dick in a gym sock when he was a kid.  A pussy that has “been fucked big time” is just as “loose” as pussy that’s wet from her own juices from being turned on.
Ryan: Preach to him…
Venice: A pussy that has “been fucked big time” is just as “loose” as pussy that’s wet from her own juices from being turned on.
Ryan:  Amen!
Venice: Lord, save this demon from his evil misguided teenage thoughts of loose pussy!
Ryan: Good little sermon Venice, but you’re still tight as fuck though, wet or not.  Just saying.
Venice: Blasphemous… but thank you.  🙂

8) she had no idea i was recording us fucking porn
Venice: Oddly, we’ve never had anyone search “HE had no idea i was recording us fucking porn”
Ryan: Yea, because that would never happen.
Venice: This is how we fuuuuck.

7) suggestions on small penis teasing
Ryan: Okay, I will try a few suggestions.  “Well, I bet it’s bigger in a more natural lighting.  Let’s turn the lights off and see how it looks when neither of us can see it.”
Venice: Zzzzzzzzzzzz.   Are you done yet?   Maybe you should write that speech down on paper so you don’t forget it?
Ryan:  Well fuck, how about: “With a little bit of water, a little bit of sunshine, and a whole lot of love, I bet it will grow to be a big boy penis one day.”
Venice:  How about: “Damn your little ass cock looks like a cervix.”
Ryan:  Ugh.  Jumped a few steps there huh?
Venice: “Do you ever finger yourself when you are horny?”
Ryan:  Jesus.
Venice:  Uh huh, just keep your pants on when it’s cold out.  You don’t want none of this…
Ryan: … 🙁
Venice: Awww, want me to suck on your peepee and pretend to gag to make you feel bigger…I mean better?
Ryan: Wow, really?  Now you’re just being mean.  You wouldn’t gag on a fucking bat.
Venice: Yea, but I learned playing tee-ball with you Ryan.
Ryan: You’re damn right you did.
Venice: 🙂
Ryan:  Wait, I have no idea if that was an insult or a compliment, but I think it sounded good.
Venice: My little Louisville Tugger.
Ryan: Hmm..still kind of somewhere in the middle there.
Venice: Oh Ryan, you know you have a horse cock.
Ryan:  🙂
Venice: My little pony for sure!
Ryan:  Okay…thank you…and fuck you.  You can pick which response fits better than I can.  On to the next search term PLEASE.

6) are there any deepthroat porn videos where you can clearly see the dick in her throat
Venice: I hear you buddy. I’m not convinced the penis is actually going down her throat unless I can clearly see it.
Ryan: Truthfully, until I felt it myself, I didn’t know what deepthroating was either.  It’s one of those things that once you feel it, the tight hole in the back, the tighter throat, fuck. No blow job will ever be complete if a girl can’t give me that sensation.  I won’t lie.
Venice:  Like how you thought women peed from the same hole that the penis penetrates?
Ryan: Kind of embarrassing you are going to blog that, but yea, kind of like that.
Venice:  Rookie!
Ryan: Uh, you thought the same thing I did.  Don’t try to front for the blog!
Venice: I knew where my pee came from Ryan.  Try again.
Ryan:  Of course you did, you just didn’t know where my dick was going.  At all.  Rookie!
Venice:  They don’t teach that type of stuff in health class Ryan.  I blame the public school system!
Ryan: Well listen, let’s figure this out together.  Let’s load google and put in, “are there any sex porn videos where you can clearly see the dick in her vagina”
Venice:
I see what you did there Ryan.  Gooood…very good.

5) tears and jizz dripped on my balls as i facefucked the sobbing boy
Ryan:  Yay, story time!
Venice: Yes, gooooood.  Keep going.

4) wemen deepthroating the bigest dicks in the whole wide world
Ryan:
  Damn man.
Venice: I think our readers are size whores.
Ryan: Do you think?!

3) show a picture of man sucking a another man penis
Venice: This guy is very demanding isn’t he?  Where are his manners?
Ryan: He does seems extremely abusive to his search engine.
Venice: “please show a picture of man sucking a another man penis”
Ryan: Maybe he was talking to Siri?
Venice: “Siri, please show a picture of man sucking a another man penis”

2) deepthroat c** in her throat / c** drips out of a woman’s pussy into a man’s mouth
Venice: I hate it when people use talk to text to search.
Ryan: Why?
Venice: Because the censored word could be anything. “deepthroat cat in her throat”…?
Ryan: True. I’d be pretty impressed if someone found our site by searching “deepthroat cot in her throat.”
Venice: “cow drips out of a woman’s pussy into a man’s mouth”
Ryan: Ewwww!
Venice: Ewwww!

1) my wife is very good at deepthroating
Venice: Aww, that’s sweet of him to say that about his wife
Ryan: It’s like he just wants the Internetz to know that she’s good at deepthroating.

The Rare Truth about Tight Vaginas and Loose Vaginas

tight vaginaThe quoted portion of this blog was originally published on September 16, 2011 by Michael Castleman, M.A. in All About Sex.  All non-quoted content is by Ryan and Venice Bloggs of Fuckblogging.com

Unfortunately, a lot of us spend way too much time focusing on things we absolutely have no control over.  Men focus on their penis sizes and women focus on whether their vaginas are tight or loose.  Honestly, I do not think many women focus on the tightness of their vagina like a man focuses on whether his dick is big enough, but we are aware of it.  Especially since any time we mention a man having a small member, we are immediately told that maybe it's because our vaginas are too big.  Like women secretly creating lists of their biggest boyfriends or writing blogs about how they will never forget their experience with some half-witted guy they once dated, just because his cock was huge.  Men also have their own lists, except their lists can not be measured with a ruler.

Many women complain that their vaginas are "too tight" or "too loose," and many men raise the issue about lovers. Notions of vaginal tightness and looseness are fraught with mythology. Many people believe that (1) the virgin vagina is extremely tight, (2) that loss of virginity permanently loosens it, (3) that frequent sex loosens it further (so don't be promiscuous, girls!), and (4) that childbirth loosens the vagina even more and possibly forever after. The truth is considerably different."

Venice Bloggs:  From personal experience, my own vag changes from day to day as far as it feeling "loose" or "tight" around Ryan.  Due to military obligations, I had gone several weeks without having sex with him.  When I returned home, we both could feel a significant change in my body.  It seemed my vaginal walls created a more constricted feeling the moment of initial penetration, i.e. I felt tighter.  Whether our excitement caused his penis to be harder or me to be wetter (which, by the way, contribute to this supposed tightness), looseness and tightness have varied.

Our walls were meant to be stretched, tightened, and strengthened, especially through doing kegel exercising.  I could easily argue that we had gone without sex for so long that I "bounced back" to my original tightness, but after about 10 minutes, the tightness in me loosened, whether through continued thrusting or me adjusting back to having sex again.

Similarly, Ryan has gone away on business trips for entire weekends at a time and leaving us both sexless for 2 1/2 days.  Then upon returning on Sunday evening, we'd have sex of course.  But I feel the same vaginal tightness after abstaining for 2 1/2 days as I do after 6 weeks.  We've been married for many years, and every time we go without sex, even as little as a few days, and we get back to our daily intimate time, my vagina refuses to "stay open."  A woman's vagina won't magically stay the circumference of her man's dick (or dildo), especially if it's not a regular thing for her to have sex or use a toy.  We're resilient and adapt to what we encounter.  And when it's all said and done, we return to our normal, and by normal I mean pre-insertion state.

What I don't have any experience in is what a vagina feels like after having a baby.  I've never pushed a baby out, but I've heard horror stories about how women rip all the way to their anus during childbirth.  If this were true, I have no idea how the muscles are connected to the anus and if childbirth changes either the muscle or the skin tightness.

Ryan Bloggs:  I've always been a huge skeptic when it came to the "tightness" factor of a  woman's vagina.   When I say skeptic, I am talking about a woman and the amount of partners she has had equates to that woman's vagina being extremely loose.  I have always felt that this idea was based off men being angry at women (the same way women who slept with multiple men are sluts, while a man who does the same is a stud) and wanting to brand them with the title "loose."   Sometimes the anger develops because they really like this woman but want to hurt them the same way they hurt when they think about her past.  Or sometimes they are just angry because she is more experienced and it's an ego thing.   Other times it's after a nasty breakup and both sides say anything to upset or embarrass each other.

I do feel over exposure or experience  creates a mental relaxation with women, leaving them less tense/tight.  While inexperience creates fear, leaving them tense and tighter.   For example, if I am poked by a needle each day, although my skin isn't any looser, I will eventually be stoic and emotionless to the idea of the needle piercing my skin and body.  However, if it's my first shot ever, I may panic, cringe, and even cry at the idea of something entering me that isn't supposed to be there.  Even if it doesn't hurt, the thought alone tenses up my entire body.   Does the more shots I get mean my pores are loosening and I am a syringe slut?  As stupid as that sounds, I feel the same way when I hear another man talk about a woman's vagina being "loose."  For guys like me, that sounds more like an insult to his own penis size.  My mouth isn't loose from eating each day, my anus isn't loose from going to the bathroom daily, and my urethra isn't expanding because each day it blasts out a stream of urine.  That logic is flawed.

However, the idea of a woman being "mentally loose" is not flawed.  The same analogy I used with the needle piercing the skin leaving me stoic and emotionless, may bug a lot of men who want a woman's experience to be exciting and new.  Undoubtedly, a woman who has slept with a lot of men will be mentally "loose" when compared to a woman who has very little experience.  This concept is not really being mentioned by anyone when talks of the tightness of a woman's vagina is brought up.

Also, from a males perpective, a woman and her tightness can very from race to race.   If a black woman feels she is "too loose" because of something her boyfriend said, when his previous girlfriend was an Asian woman, is she wrong?   Asian women are indeed smaller than other races when it comes to their vaginas.  Although I have  always been attracted to Asian women, I never put thought into this stereotype.  I thought it was cute and something dirty to say to an Asian woman in the bedroom.  I never really thought the idea out.  After participating with Venice in writing a few articles about penis size, I used deductive reasoning to conclude that if by average an Asian male is smaller than other races lengthwise, then an Asian woman must have a smaller, or more shallow vagina.  If you disagree with every study you've ever seen and do not think Asian males, on average, have smaller penis sizes than other races, then please ignore this paragraph.  I do understand that every woman is different and unique, and there are some Asian women with large vaginas, but on average, I would say they physically match their male counterparts.  I am not trying to say some races are loose, others are tight (–tightER, possibly), but if the males are physically smaller on average, then the females anatomy would also be smaller.  Common sense.   Genetically, an Asian women will develop the same as her male counterpart.  However, if an Asian woman (or any woman) is with a more hung man, she may temporarily adapt, but after a few weeks of restraining from sex, her body will return back to her natural size.  What may not ever be the same again is her mind and attitude towards sex with a larger penis. She now knows she can handle a larger sized male and will never be the same mentally.  Again, mental vs physical.  At first when I used the word adaptation, I felt like I was cheating this article.  Adaptation to a larger penis would in essence be, the woman is getting "larger" or "looser."  I do think a woman adapts to her lover, but I do not believe the adaptation is permanent.  I think that is really what Michael Castleman's article focuses on:  the physical idea that women's bodies do not permanently stretch or stay loose.

Although I do not think any race is that different in "tightness", I would question the idea of how shallow/deep a woman is per her race.  I believe the feeling of bottoming out or hitting the back of a woman's vagina, definitely makes her feel much tighter, especially with the majority of the sensation a man feels is in the tip of his penis.

"Vaginal Tightness

Imagine a hand towel stuffed inside a thick sock squeezed by two hands. The sock is the vagina. The towel is the folded muscle tissue of the vaginal wall. And the hands are the pelvic floor muscles that surround the vagina.

The vagina's tightly folded muscle tissue is very elastic, like an accordion or the mouth. Try this: Pull the corners of your mouth out toward your ears then let go. What happens? The mouth immediately snaps back to its pre-stretched state because the tissue is elastic. Do it 100 times. There's no permanent stretching. The mouth quickly returns to its pre-stretched state and no one would ever know you'd stretched it.

The same goes for the vagina, with two exceptions I'll discuss shortly. When it's at rest–all the time except sexual arousal and childbirth–the vagina's muscle tissue remains tightly folded like a closed accordion. Anxiety makes the vaginal musculature clench even tighter. That's why young girls sometimes have problems inserting tampons. Their vaginal muscle tissue is tight and contracted to begin with, and many girls feel anxious about touching themselves and inserting anything, so the muscles contract even tighter.

As women become sexually aroused, vaginal muscle tissue relaxes somewhat. Biologically, this makes perfect sense. Evolution is all about facilitating reproduction. A tight vagina would impede intercourse and reproduction, so women evolved to have sexual arousal relax the vaginal muscles, allowing easier insertion of erections–and greater chance of pregnancy.

However, arousal-related vaginal loosening does NOT produce a big open cavity like the inside of a sock. Rather, the vaginal interior changes from resembling a tight fist to a fist loose enough to insert a finger or two.

If the vagina feels "too tight" during lovemaking, the woman is either (1) not interested in sex, or (2) she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion.

A man who attempts intercourse before the woman is fully aroused–before her vagina has relaxed and become well lubricated–is either sexually unsophisticated or a boor. Most women require at least 30 minutes of sensuality-kissing, hugging, and mutual massage for their vaginas to relax enough to allow the penis to slide in comfortably. That's why leisurely, playful, whole-body lovemaking is so important. It gives women (and men) the warm-up time they need. In addition, it also allows the vagina to relax, and, in most women, produce enough natural lubrication for comfortable intercourse. In other words, the solution to vaginal tightness is extended foreplay. It you need more lubrication, try a commercial lubricant.

One final note: If a woman experiences pain and/or great difficulty inserting a tampon or accepting an erection, the cause may be vaginismus, unusual clenching of the vaginal muscles. For suspected vaginismus, consult a physician."

Venice Bloggs:  I understand how women can clench and contract their vaginal muscles if they're not physically or mentally ready for penetration (dryness, not in the mood, rape, hormonal changes, to name a few instances).  The mind certainly has a lot to do with what the body experiences.  However, I don't agree in the reasons a woman feels "too tight" during lovemaking are because she's not interested in sex or hasn't had enough warm-up time.  This is true for me a lot of the times because I know deepthroating and sucking cock literally gets me wet.  But there are times I believe I'm ready and lubricated enough for sex, but it just isn't enough.  Though these times are rare, it is definitely possible.  Even after being experienced at inserting tampons, I make a conscious effort to relax my muscles before putting it in otherwise it can go in at an awkward angle, causing discomfort.  The same goes for sex.  When he first penetrates, I tell him not to move and to let me control my body movements until I am ready for him to do the moving.

For the author to state that a man who "attempts intercourse before the woman is fully aroused–before her vagina has relaxed and become well lubricated–is either sexually unsophisticated or a boor" is a bold and vicious attempt at degrading men as lovers.  I believe people have to talk to their partners to become fully aware of what the other will do instead of anticipating wrongly.  Sometimes my mind says I'm ready, when my body is – according to this author – not.  Sometimes my body is ready even when I'm not aware of it (i.e., I've felt my thighs get so wet long before I was ready for penetration).  The point is, my current state of mind can have nothing to do with how my body feels, or it can have everything to do with it.

Ryan Bloggs: The author makes some great points here.  A lot of the ideas mirror my own, but I find it very interesting how he observes a woman being "anxious" to touch herself or insert something into her vagina,  which almost instinctively forces her vaginal muscles to clench tighter.  This would be an argument for a woman who is more experienced also being much more relaxed and open.  Their bodies will not naturally clinch, as they are relaxed and prepared for what is going to happen.  I disagree with the article stating that a man doesn't know what he is doing if the vagina feels too tight for sex.   A woman can be totally prepared for sex, but still be anxious about the idea of a man inside her, especially if she is less experienced.  A man can obviously misinterpret a woman being "relaxed" and "comfortable" due to  experience as "loose."   Do I believe that a woman gets tight and loose physically?  Not really.  I do believe their bodies tightness adapts to their partners circumference, big or small.  I do not believe a woman's vagina's depth adapts to their partner though.  If a penis is shorter, he may never bottom out in his partner.   The bottoming out sensation does create a tighter feeling.

I do believe mentally a woman changes as she gets more experienced.  I also feel that if she is overly experienced she may just be too relaxed, which will give a sensation of looseness.  Does it matter if the woman is exactlly the same physically as young inexperienced woman yet feels totally loose because she is much more relaxed and experienced?  After sex, should men assume physically she was just as tight as every woman he has had, she was just more relaxed, comfortable, turned on, and wasn't worried at all about how his penis would feel inside her?  I think that is the bigger question.

 If the vagina feels "too tight" during lovemaking, the woman is either (1) not interested in sex, or (2) she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion."

I understand what the author is saying but I feel the statement is too broad.  There are a lot more reasons than this why a woman feels "too tight".  Every man isn't built the same and naturally a woman can be too small and tight for a larger penis, regardless of how turned on or interested she is in sex.  Penises come in many shapes and sizes, and a large penis can make even the most experienced, turned on, horny woman still feel extra tight.  Some women can handle it, some can't.  A woman can also be tense and nervous wanting to impress her lover (if she actually really likes him — rather than just a no strings attached fling), which makes her feel extra tight, even if she is turned on and ready.   An experienced woman can purposely kegel the entire experience and purposely create a "too tight" feeling.  An experienced woman can also purposely rub the penis dry with her palm during sex by pulling him out and stroking his shaft (–purposely drying off his penis), then inserting him back in her body to create more friction and make her vagina feel extremely tight. This technique can almost be a tug-o-war, who can bare the friction the longest.  Regardless of how wet a vagina is at first, eventually the lubrication will dry some as the man moves in and out of a woman's body.  As a woman's vagina dries during intercourse it creates more friction, which helps the man achieve a better orgasm.  An experienced woman who understands this drying technique can make her vagina feel insanely tight,  especially if she enjoys the pain and friction sensations.

I will admit that a woman being properly lubricated, whether it be with his saliva or her own body juices, takes away a lot of friction and gives the sensation of looseness.   The more you turn a woman on, the more loose she seems to feel.  Intercourse in the beginning, slow, wet, and loose.   The longer you have intercourse, the faster you go, the less time her body can lubricate on the inside, the tighter she feels, the more friction is created, the faster the orgasm sensation builds for both of you, the pain of friction sends messages to your prostate to release, the inside of the vagina is again soaking wet from your semen and her orgasm juices.   Sex in a nutshell.

"Vaginal Looseness

After relaxing during sex, vaginal muscle tissue naturally contracts–tightens–again. Intercourse does NOT permanently stretch the vagina. This process, loosening during arousal and tightening afterward, happens no matter how often the woman has sex.

The vagina stretches a great deal during childbirth, like an accordion opened all the way. Post-partum does it re-tighten completely? Yes, usually, at least in young women, that is, women in their late teens and early twenties. Within six months after delivery, the typical young woman's vagina feels pretty much how it was before she gave birth.

Now for the two exceptions. If you stretch elastic a great deal, over time, it fatigues and no longer snaps back entirely. That can happen to the vaginas of young women after multiple births. Their vaginal muscles fatigue and no longer fully contract. In addition, aging fatigues vaginal muscle. Whether or not women have given birth, as they grow older, they may complain of looseness.

Today, many woman delay childbearing until after 30, and some have children after 40. Combine the rigors of older childbearing with the effects of aging on the vaginal muscles, and many women complain of looseness. Women who give birth after around 30 may notice persistent looseness after delivering only one child. Individual differences account for the fact that birth- and age-related looseness happens to some women and not others.

Here's a quick fix for vaginal looseness. Have intercourse in the man-on-top position. Once he inserts, he lifts himself up and the woman closes her legs. Her thighs squeeze his penis and make her feel tighter.

The tightening approach most often recommended by sex therapists is Kegel exercises. Kegels, named for the doctor who popularized them, involve contracting the muscles used to interrupt urine flow or squeeze out the last few drops.

Kegels do, indeed, tighten the vagina, but they have nothing to do with the vaginal muscles. They strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that surround the vagina, the hands that hold the stuffed sock. Age and childbearing fatigue these muscles. The hands don't grip the sock as tightly and the towel feels loose. Kegels tighten the pelvic floor muscles. The hands squeeze the sock, which clamps down on the towel, and the vagina feels tighter.

Kegels are totally private. They can be practiced anytime anywhere. Start slowly and over several weeks, work up to a half-dozen sets of 10 contractions several times a day. In a few months, you should feel tighter. You should also enjoy more intense orgasms. The pelvic floor muscles contract during orgasm. As they become stronger, so do orgasms.

If several months of daily Kegels don't produce the tight feeling you want, try ben-wa balls or vaginal cones. Ben-wa balls are sold as sex toys. Insert them, then walk around the house trying to keep them from falling out. When the pelvic floor muscles are weak, the balls drop out quickly, but as the muscles grow stronger, women can hold the balls inside longer. Vaginal cones are similar, except they're prescribed by physicians.

If vaginal cones don't work, electrical stimulation of the vaginal muscles is your last resort. A nurse inserts a probe similar to a tampon and a mild electrical current causes muscle contractions that make the vagina feel tighter. Treatments happen in a urologist's office during 20- to 30-minute sessions usually twice a week for about eight weeks.

Unfortunately, the mythology of vaginal tightness and looseness is deeply ingrained. I'll probably get nay-saying comments from people who swear that deflowering caused permanent loosening. I'm not about to argue with anyone's experience. I'm just describing the physiology. What do you think?"

Venice Bloggs:  There are so many factors that contribute to the sensation of a woman being "tight" or "loose."  This article has done a great job in attempting to explain the various reasoning between the two, but as he concluded, he was just describing the physiology.  There is definitely a connection between what your mind wants and transmits (psychological) and what your body wants and omits (physiological).

It's important that both men and women understand these factors and talk to each other about what's going on with their bodies, both separately and as a sexually active couple.

Ryan Bloggs:  I took a screen shot of a few comments regarding Nadya Suleman's (sometimes referred to as Octomom because she gave birth to 8 babies) vagina.  Of course, this was after these people watched her solo porn, "Home Alone."

comments about octomom

As most of you may already know, Nadya Suleman had a Caesarean section.  Yes, she gave birth to 8 kids at once, but this was not done through vaginal birth.  Judging by the comments above, simply because a woman had children, especially to multiple chrildren at once, not only does she need surgery to fix her deformed vagina but it is also seen as disgusting.   I'd say the responses were extremely immature, but this ideology is somehow ingrained in a man's head.  It is these preconceived notions that also lead to men claiming a women is loose because of how many sexual partners she has had.

The quoted portion of the article above is great, but in my own experience, Venice seems to feel tighter with age (–although she has never experienced a vaginal birth).  Obviously, each person is different.  Maybe my penis is still growing (wishful thinking huh?!) or maybe her body doesn't get as lubricated as when she was in her teens or twenties.  Or maybe she knows how to control her own body and manipulate what I feel.   I do get the concept of the muscles loosening with age, and maybe Venice isn't at the age yet where her body begins to break down and loosen.  Regardless there are plenty of things a woman can do to give her lover tighter sensations for the rest of her life.  Learning to deep throat, opening her mind to anal, and developing her own techniques to manipulating the vaginal experience to feel much tighter than she would if she just laid there and glazed her vagina with lubrication (gel, saliva, or natural wetness).

I will give the author the benefit of the doubt, simply because I haven't experienced a woman who has felt loose after multiple child births, and I assume everything with age will loosen or sag.  I guess my entire theme throughout this article has been, age also plays a huge factor in awareness and comfort.  I just can't imagine a 55 year old woman being intimidated by any penis.  The cougar doesn't fear it, she attacks it and wants it.

Too many variables in my opinion.

Source: Michael Castleman, M.A. in All About Sex