Ever wonder what goes down behind closed doors at blow job workshops? Wonder no more!
1. Start slow.
“It’s fun to start soft. Let your partner get hard in your mouth, without any motion. Just let them experience the warmth of your breath and wetness of your tongue then gently begin to suck. Anticipation will make your partner even hotter.” ― Rebekah Beneteau, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”
2. Don’t shy away from lube.
“People often think that their own saliva will be enough lubrication to get the job done. It’s actually best to add a bit of lube to get started: either water-based or silicone. After a few minutes, you may build up enough of your own juices to keep the action going. Sucking on a hard, sugar-free candy can also help you build up saliva.” ― Melissa Jones, a sexologist and executive director of the Sexology Institute and Boutique in San Antonio, Texas
3. Get handsy.
“Remember: A good blow job is 50 percent hands. Using your hands, with even pressure and friction in concert with your mouth, does more than what your mouth can do on its own. It can make or break a blow job experience.” ― Elle Chase, a sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life
4. Ask questions.
“Ask questions before you start and even during if you aren’t sure he’s having a good time. Every man is different. They don’t all like the same thing. Don’t ask broad questions like ‘Is this good?’ Instead, ask yes or no questions that give you concrete information, like, ‘Would you like it faster?’” ― Trevor Jones, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”
5. Work with the curve and angle of your partner’s penis.
“Deep throating isn’t for everyone, but if it is something you want to do, having your mouth and throat match the angle of your partner’s penis can help. If they are curved or angled upward for instance, being on your knees below them would not work as well because their penis would be more likely to hit the roof of your mouth than go smoothly down your throat. In that case, have them lie down on a bed, kneel next to them facing their feet, and lean down until you’re comfortable. From there, open your throat like you would for a yawn ― now your partner’s penis can slide down your throat at a more comfortable and natural angle.” ― Amory Jane, a sex educator and education coordinator at She Bop, a sex toy boutique in Portland, Oregon
6. Give him your undivided attention.
“Give him your attention, not his penis. Let him know you desire his pleasure and satisfaction by giving frequent eye contact, saying his name, asking him how he likes it or if he wants anything special. Eye contact also allows you to read his body language, to see how he responds to different techniques.” ― Melissa Jones
7. Don’t forget “the boys.”
“To give a successful blow job, you have to pay attention to his balls. Go back and forth, popping each one into your mouth and going back every now and again to lick the whole sack area. I encourage starting your blow job here, actually; spending a bit of time with ‘the boys’ helps boost his arousal before you start bobbing ― the part where you’re most likely hurting your jaw.” ― Sasha Rene, founder of the Blow By Blow workshop in San Diego, California
8. Be in the moment.
“You’re putting your partner’s most coveted body part in your mouth and between your teeth ― that takes an enormous amount of trust. Savor the experience. Show your partner how much you recognize this by treating their blow job with enthusiasm, focused attention and high regard.” ― Elle Chase
9. Talk with your mouth full.
“You are not at the dinner table, talk with your mouth full! And even if you are at the dinner table (or under it), talk with your mouth full! Nothing turns a man on more than hearing a woman trying to talk dirty, moaning, or being as audible as possible while giving him a blow job. Let him close his eyes and listen to the soundtrack of a great blow job.” ― Venice from SexLifeandEverything.com
10. Swallow.
“Please.” ― Every guy ever
11. Enthusiasm.
As previously stated in the Blow Job Bible, enthusiasm is the key to every man’s heart. Good technique or bad, wanting to please a man leaves him thinking about you for days. And wanting to please a man and enthusiasm, shows you are willing to learn and perfect your blow jobs.
12. Be eager to learn from him.
They say gay men have the best blow jobs in the world because they know exactly what they are doing. Well, your man may not be gay, but he still knows his body better than anyone else. Be open minded and willing to take lessons from him. Just because a guy has never played football, doesn’t mean he can’t coach a super bowl team. Get that super blow ring girl!
13. Try new things.
Don’t look at his penis as something you can’t have fun with. Grab it, slurp it, suck while opening your mouth wide and let the air travel down his shaft, deep throat it, and do whatever your dirty little mind can think of. There is no exact road map to a penis, in fact, take your tongue and follow his veins down his shaft, or up his shaft, and see how he likes it. Always try new things!
14. His penis is a tool.
His penis is a tool, use it like one! Treat his hammer like a hammer and beat it against your cheek and lips. Use his cock like a paint brush and rub it against your eyes and forehead. Show your man that you have zero hangups when it comes to being silly and sexy with his penis. Nothing you do crazy with his cock will ever turn him off, as long as it isn’t painful. And using his penis as a hammer on your lips will hurt you a lot more than it hurts him. So build a better blow job and maybe he will put his tool inside your tool box for safe keeping later!
15. Fall between the cracks.
In most cases falling between the cracks is a bad thing. In blow jobs, a man wants to feel your tongue lost in the crevices and cracks of his body. Lick his ass, his anus, and in between his thighs and balls. A man didn’t grow up thinking he’d get a blow job and that included a women licking his entire crotch area. Show him what it’s like to really be a grown up. That last thing you want to do is giving him the same blow job he got from his 8th grade girlfriend right?
16. Leave hickeys so he remembers where you were the next day.
Only young insecure girls leave hickeys right? Wrong. Unlike his neck, his dick and crotch isn’t on public display. For about 30 minutes that cock is yours. Make it yours. Mark your territory. He doesn’t nicely cum on the bed sheets next to you does he? He cums all over you, or inside of you. If he is polite with his cum, why the hell are you giving this prude a blow job anyway? He probably feels bad for you while you are sucking on his dick and thinks your jaw being sore is awful. No time for betas ladies! If you are doing a job, do it right, and don’t forget to leave your signature in his crotch with your mouth. If he is a player, he may have to take a few days off from the game or he’ll have some explaining to do. It’s not your job to help a player play, it’s your job to make that dick yours. And if he wants a blow job from you, he better have cumemployment for the next few days, because you are marking your territory. Get it girl!
17. Lick.
One word. Lick. So many women think giving a blow job means sucking, slurping, or trying to get him to cum as fast as possible. If you really want him to cum as fast as possible and remember you forever, grab his dick and lick it up and down. Show him you aren’t just sucking it, you are savoring it. This leaves a lasting impression and also shows you aren’t timing yourself. If you are licking, you are enjoying. That’s what he cherishes the most. The thought of a woman cherishing his body.
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