Question for men: Are you against having your ass touched and/or tasting your own cum? And if so, why?

eat your own cumQuestion for men: Are you against having your ass touched and/or tasting your own cum? And if so, why?

I’m asking because every single man I’ve been with (including my current boyfriend) has been firmly against those two things. The men I’ve fucked have constantly touched/entered my ass enjoying anal.  They have also shoved their fingers in my mouth after fingering me without it even being a second thought or discussed.  Even though I am totally cool with it, I just want to know why men won’t kiss me after cumming in my mouth.  It seems silly to me I don’t get it.

Venice’s response to tasting your own cum

I find it silly as well.  In fact, for me, this isn’t even something I’d accept.  Anything I feel like doing, I am going to do to my husband.  We can even mix those two scenarios together.  If I decide to finger his asshole and stick it in his mouth, he better suck on my fingers.  I’d be upset if he didn’t.  With that said, we are married.  It took a long time for us to get comfortable with each other, trust each other with all our dark skeletons and kinks, and be able to do whatever it is two humans can possibly do to each other without having to worry about judgement.

I’d think with dating or random hook ups, the man risks kissing you after he cums and not knowing if you will keep his secret.  He hasn’t talked to you enough to know you would love that type of thing.  He also hasn’t talked to you enough to know that you wouldn’t tell every single friend how he licked his cum off your chest after he came.  Whether we accept it or not, a man doing those types of things may emasculate him to other men that hear about it.  So they keep their guards up. 

Until they trust you… and then you can stand them on their heads and milk their cocks into their own mouths.

Ryan’s response to tasting your own cum

Without a lot of experience with women other than my wife, I can’t say what I would be like as a single man.   I do think women who are okay with tasting themselves, shows me they are confident, know their body is clean, know their pussy is good, and to taste themselves is a huge turn on for me.  If a woman was grossed out by her own body, I would probably be turned off.  Or just want to get it over with as fast as possible.  

Let’s flip the coin.

If a man eats his cum, or goes down and eats his own creampie, not all women find that attractive.  They may actually see it as emasculating, or beta.  Something cucks do.  Although we don’t kink shame here at sexblogging, not all women want a man that is beta or a cuck.  So a man has to worry about looking weak, or looking like a beta to a female.  Even if he wanted to kiss you after he came in your mouth.  It goes back to the idea of women can do gay things and not be judged by other women, while men doing gay things are looked down on by straight men.  

And as far as boyfriends, dates, or short-term relationships go, a man may just stay reserved.  If you break up with him, who knows who you will tell about how he gargles his own semen after he drinks it from your vagina.  Like Nessa said, it’s probably something you will find out men enjoy when you are in long-term relationships, or married.

 

Have you ever lost a condom inside your vagina?

condom lost and foundLost a Used Condom Inside My Vagina! 

Have you ever lost a condom inside your vagina for 4 days?  Yea, me either.  But I did read an interesting question from from a young lady regarding her experience.  We have decided to do a bit of back and forth dialogue regarding the topic and different scenarios.  

I’m 20 years old and have a story about a missing condom.  So  yesterday I was in intense pain while peeing and immediately called my doctor for UTI screening which I have never had before. The rapid test came back negative and my urine was sent to a lab for more accurate results. The day continues on and the pain decreases as I continue to hydrate and drink cranberry juice…weird.

This morning I pee with little to no pain and when I stand up a piece of condom falls out of me and I’m STUNNED. Never in my life has this happened before and I hadn’t had sex since Friday which means the piece of condom has been in me for 4 days now. We knew the condom had broke, but I didn’t realize that it had broken off inside of me. There is still SLIGHT discomfort when I pee but nothing even remotely comparable to yesterday morning.

I really just cannot stop thinking about this and was wondering if anyone has had similar experiences and knows if there are precautions I should be taking. We are both presumably STI free and I am getting tested soon regardless. I am on the pill and he pulled out, but is there anything else I should be keeping on my radar (toxic shock, infection of some kind, etc), or am I being paranoid? Can anyone share similar experiences?

Venice:  I have never had this experience but I do wonder why it would hurt to urinate if she didn’t have a UTI.  Unsure how a condom inside her vagina would hurt to urinate.

Ryan:  Maybe it was covering her urethra and filling up inside her like a water balloon every time she went to the bathroom?

Venice:  Oh my gosh!  How do you walk around with a water balloon inside your vagina and not notice!

Another experience with losing a condom:

I had a condom in me all night and the next day. I had no idea and no pain it just fell out when I peed thank fuck. I leaned after that to always check it’s been disposed of and to pay attention to the guy taking it off and if I didn’t see ask.

Venice:  Is it like a style for guys to wear baggy condoms now? wtf?

Ryan:  Not uncommon for a guy to buy magnum condoms when they do not need a larger size.

Venice:  Oh yea, I remember that article.  It’s either an ego thing or  they just have no idea what they are doing when they put a condom on.

Ryan:  What bothers me though is what type of guy pulls out of  a woman and notices he doesn’t have a condom on anymore, but doesn’t say anything?  

Venice:  The worst kind of guy.

Ryan:  It’s not like your keys or your cell phone.  You don’t forget where you put that dang condom while having sex.  

Venice:  I can’t imagine pulling out and looking down at your unprotected penis and saying, “Where did I leave that damn condom again?  Ugh, let me retrace my steps.”

Ryan:  I agree.   I would be horrified if my condom fell off after sex.  

Venice:  Yea, but some guys do this on purpose.  It’s like a weird form of stealthing.

Ryan:  That’s crazy.

Venice:  And illegal.

Another experience with losing a condom:

This happened to me quite a bit, my body rejected condoms and they either always split or the whole thing ended up inside me and had to be fished out. Longest I had some in there was a couple days but I did not have pain.

I would go back to the doctors just in case If I were you!

Ryan:  This is a common thing?

Venice:  I don’t think so, but we never used condoms so I just don’t have those types of experiences.

Ryan:  She just seems way to experienced.  I mean, she has fishing expeditions and has a leaderboard on how long certain boyfriends left condoms inside her?

Venice:  I wonder if she has ever speared Moby Dick?

Ryan:  Oh my…  do you think you could lose a condom inside yourself?

Venice:  Well, if you never told me, probably.  It’s not like I sweep my vagina for foreign objects after we have sex together!

Ryan:  But if you knew, would it be hard to find inside your vagina?

Venice:  If I knew, no.  The vagina isn’t that complicated.   But I have experience exploring mine and other women, so I am no stranger to how a vagina should feel.  And truthfully, there isn’t much to it.  I think the term “fished out” is appropriate, regardless of how bad or funny that may sound.

Ryan:  I am sure blogs like these get all the girls super excited about finally having sex with their boyfriends and deep sea fishing inside their vaginas for lost condoms!

Venice:  This is definitely on every girls secret bucket list.  Have my boyfriend’s used and full condom sit inside my vagina for days, fill up like a water balloon when I urinate until it burns, and eventually come out in parts and pieces.

Ryan:  Every girls dream.

Q&A: My boyfriend tells me my vagina smells, I’m his worst lover, and then cheated on me.

worse boyfriend cheatedMy boyfriend tells me my vagina smells, I’m his worst lover, and then cheated on me.

I am 26 years old and my boyfriend is 28.  I am upset because he keeps telling me that all his previous girlfriends used to pleasure him in the best way by giving him amazing head and prostate orgasms .  He complains that I am just too vanilla for him.

My backstory:  I lost my virginity to him 2 months ago, and he always says I make too much noise or that my vagina smells. I feel like he’s always complaining, but god forbid if I tell him he’s making the slightest mistake. I just want to have smooth communication, but he’s my first boyfriend so I don’t really know how.

Last week my heart broke into a million pieces because I went out to buy candles and cute lingerie to surprise him and show him that I could be better in bed, only for him to come home from work with a long face to “talk”. I’m not an idiot, so I knew this meant he was gonna rant to me about how he’s not getting enough pleasure from the bedroom. And boy do I wish it was that. He told me that his coworker has been flirting with him and he couldn’t help himself. They had sex but he swore he didn’t catch feelings and it was a one night thing.

I love him, but I’m so hurt and I’ve been going though a lot mentally so this really took a toll on my mental health. I really don’t know what to do so some advice would be really appreciated.

Venice’s response to worse boyfriend cheated

This one is going to be extremely easy.  Break up with him.

Ryan’s response to worse boyfriend cheated

I think telling a woman her vagina smells is equivalent to a woman telling a man his penis is small.  Although your penis may be small, you’d hope that your partner is more sensitive about it.  Him attacking your vagina smell seems like his way of beating down your self-esteem. It’s a form of abuse.  And the more you lose self-confidence, the less chance you have of breaking up with him.  Slowly disrespecting various things about your body (your weight, your vagina smell, your sense of style, your personality, and even your lack of sexual skills) and making you self-conscious, keeps you under his control.  What are the chances of you breaking up with him if you think every man is going to be grossed out by your vagina smell?  

Another control method is for a guy to compare you to his ex girlfriends.  Although most of the time, it’s never true.  His ex girlfriend being so great at sex is more than likely a porn he saw where the woman did everything his heart desires.  It’s what he wants in a woman, but uses his “ex” as a form of control.  Rather than comparing you to porn to get what he wants, he compares you to a tangible person that you’d more than likely try to compete with.  He knows this.  However the huge flaw here is, if his ex girlfriends were so much better in every way, why are they his ex girlfriends?

The perfect answer to the ex girlfriend scenario is simple: Well, leave me alone and go back to your ex girlfriend then.”  And to add a bit of spice, make sure you add, “If you mention anything about your ex’s to me again, we’re done.”  No exceptions.

Draw your line.  It works.

As far as openly telling you he cheated.  This is grounds to break up regardless.  He doesn’t respect you as a person.  If you allow him to cheat, allow him to admit he cheats, allow him to tell you his ex girlfriends are better than you, allow him to disrespect your smells, then what won’t you allow him to do?   

In other words, Venice said all this above in one sentence.  Break up with him.

How deep is too deep? Can Hitting A Woman’s Cervix Be Bad For Her Health.

too deep cervix sexIs cervix penetration possible? 

No.  Your cervix can’t actually be penetrated. That’s because the opening of the cervix, known as the external os, is too narrow for a penis or dildo to enter. It’s usually no bigger than your thumb.

The external os is the opening found on the extremity of the extocervix. The extocervix is the vaginal portion of the cervix projecting free into the anterior wall of the vagina. The external os has anterior and posterior lips. The anterior lip of the external os is shorter and thicker.

The only time the cervical opening expands wide enough for anything to pass through is during child birth.

Is a cervical orgasm really possible?

Yes, women can reach an orgasm through vaginal and cervical stimulation, without stimulating the clitoral glans.  It’s definitely possible, but it isn’t for everyone. However, a more reliable way for a woman to reach an orgasm, is through clitoral stimulation (not penetrative).  

Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.

Only one-quarter of women reliably experience orgasm during intercourse—no matter how long it lasts, no matter what size the man’s penis, and no matter how the woman feels about the man or the relationship.

This statistic comes not from just one study but from a comprehensive analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her fascinating book The Case of the Female Orgasm (Harvard University Press).

As an analogy for the fellas, we will list comparable male orgasms that also do not require stimulation of the glans.  Specifically, prostate orgasms.  This can be achieved from inside the anus or by rubbing the testicles along with the taint and anus area from the outside.   Also comparable to a man stroking his penis but staying under the tip of the penis.  The vibrations, the movement, and the pushback, all create an orgasm with little to no direct stimulation of his glans.    While both men and women can enjoy hands-free orgasms by a simple kegel technique which involves clenching your pubic muscles, which can lead to orgasms with both genders.   Not to mention, the hands-free naughty secret of a lot of women, syntribation

But back to the cervix (pun).

Deep penetration can cause the vagina to contract, much like a clitoral orgasm can do, without the huge slow build up.  I have noticed that if I have deep penetration orgasms, it just hits me all the sudden and I get this insane high that numbs my entire body.  No matter what is going on, I want my man’s thrusting to be much harder.  This feeling can last for as long as he can thrust.  So the end of this orgasm for me, is when my husband stops thrusting.  Which is usually due to him orgasming with me.  But he knows, when I am at the point, keep going for as long as possible, punish my insides, and get as deep as you can.  This feeling gives me the ultimate sexual high.   And as previously stated in various blogs, this orgasm is nothing like a clitoral orgasm.  

morning woodCan you injure your cervix?

Yes, it’s can actually bruise your cervix.  

The first time I had a bruised cervix, I thought I was dying. I woke up and felt cramps that were worse than any period cramps I’d experienced in my life, even though I was weeks away from my period. It was like someone was stabbing me with a red-hot fire poker, deep down in my gut, over and over again. I knew that something was wrong — the pain was so bad that I broke out in sweats and threw up — but I had no idea what it could be. Food poisoning? The worst hangover of my life? I didn’t even consider that I could be bruised inside my body.

Your cervix can be bruised depending on your position, your partner’s size, the thrusting aggression, and/or if you aren’t turned on enough.  It could be all of the factors above, or just one.  I’ve experienced these cramps as well as bleeding the day of and after particularly rough sessions.  There have even been times where even standing up straight has caused sharp cramps in my lower stomach.  Imagine walking to the bathroom after sex, slumped over hobbling like an elderly grandma to the bathroom.   Every man’s dream huh?!

For the record, I’d suggest for anyone reading this blog that is dealing with bleeding after sex, go see your OB-gyn.  It could be an ovarian cyst bursting, among other things, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.  Especially because these types of things can lead to an infection.  For me, it was simply a bruised cervix.

Thankfully, as we get turned on, our vaginas expand and can get up to 7 inches in length.   However, not all of us have the same size vagina, much like men do not have the same size penises.   If you are having pain during sex that is uncomfortable, let your partner know.  Although there isn’t much information regarding long-term health issues with being fucked by a large cock, I’d assume it’s safe to say having someone torture you daily with a huge dick isn’t going to be healthy for your body long-term.   Communication is the key.