Threesome Memoirs – Giving Him A Double Blow Job

bjSo far Ryan and I have had fairly positive experiences – for the most part. Do we regret doing anything we’ve done?  Not really.  I find purpose in every act in which Ryan and I have partook.  Every act, each person, all experiences – all were worth doing if it meant my man and I came away closer than before having done it.

For me, my absolute favorite thing to do in a threesome is the double blow job.  In fact, this is something I feel totally at ease with, and since I do, I can enjoy every aspect of it.  Since first revealing this to Ryan, he has asked me numerous times, “Why do you like double bjs so much?”  Rather than answer, “I just do.”  I felt we both needed a more thorough explanation as it helps to understand the female psyche (or at least mine) during this act which should otherwise be considered sacred by keeping it solely between husband and wife.

Let me begin by saying, for strictly monogamous couples, I believe a woman should do everything in her power to give her man the greatest blow job.  I may not be the best bj giver, but I know what my husband likes (enthusiasm, dirty talk, and variety in speed, content, and option for places to ejaculate, to name a few).  I, myself, have come to understand how to give Ryan the most visually stimulating as well as physically satisfying blow job.  The confidence I have knowing what he wants reflects my actions and attitude when another woman is helping me please my man.

Being a cheerleader.  I am excited, grateful, aroused – all of these things – when there’s a woman in my bedroom.  But since she’s the outside party, I do my best to make her feel safe and welcome.  If I were in her position, I imagine I would feel unsure of what was expected of me.  I would feel awkward, especially not knowing if there were boundaries that the other couple has discussed prior to me being there.  Since they take a chance at looking foolish I definitely do not want her to feel unwelcome. The most basic and probably most supporting thing I can do is to encourage her from the get go.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told the other woman, “Good girl,” “You look so fucking sexy with that dick in your mouth,” or “I love how that cock slides between your lips.”

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Threesome Memoirs – A Threesome From Every Perspective – Our First Friend

Venice’s experience:

Usually with our threesome experiences we deal with women we have only known for a short period or only few months.  However, we do know a few ladies who we have known since the beginning of our threesome journey, that either played the role of the more experienced mentor or we just had too much distance between us to ever physically connect.   In this case, our friend Lexxi, is someone we have have known for a long time, but the distance between us was too great for anything other than her giving Ryan and I advice on our journey.  We were always grateful for her input, and of course, we were both attracted to her as a person.  Other problems?  Oh yea, I forgot to mention she was married and we were also good friends with her husband, who has played a role as Ryan’s mentor and has even been quoted by Ryan in different blogs he has written.  So, having a threesome was never really an option.

After months of talking about soft swinging or threesomes, we all got more familiar with one another.  Although hard swinging, which is full swapping, was always a hard boundary we were not interested in, soft swinging, where we would open our bedroom to another couple simply to watch them play with each other while we did the same, was something that piqued our curiosity.  Honestly, at first, this was our original goal.  I do not think it was because we wanted to swing, but we both felt like we were exhibitionists and wanted to share our sexual experiences while another couple watched.  I just wanted to see another woman.  Through the website, starting with deepthroating videos, we eventually recorded ourselves having sex and submitted these videos to porn websites, which in total, probably got us near a million views.  Whether we purposely did it or not, we became soft swingers to every couple that ever watched our videos and knew us personally.  They could talk to us, see our sex videos, and in essence, get turned on by what they saw.  This was really like new-age soft swinging.  However, because of me not wanting to be watched or around another man, the idea of soft swinging eventually faded.  I have since blogged about how I felt like I was a lesbian married to Ryan.  It’s true, but it’s not true.  I like men, and I know that I could only live the rest of my life with a man.  However, those areas of my heart and mind are taken.  I have no desire to experience another man, no fantasies, and therefore my only focus is on other women.  Do I really feel like a lesbian?  Absolutely not, but that is the best way I can describe what I feel.

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A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind – 14 Sex Blogs & Websites to Follow in 2014

AGWDM-2014-art-300x192One of our favorite bloggers, Bobbie Morgan, has listed us as one of the 14 Sex Blogs & Websites to Follow in 2014.  Although we feel her list is a little biased because we love her so much how could she not mention us!   She has been listed on our site since the day we opened and we do not intend on ever moving her.  She has also made our quarterly and top lists (whenever we get time to put those lists together) every time.  Thank you for the 2014 love Ms. Morgan!  We were just joking about the bias thing.  We really are just that good!  lol

14 Sex Blogs & Websites to Follow in 2014

Our Top 10 Sex Blogs of 2013

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Our reviews are based off of a database which keeps track of various categories:    Media, Originality, Updates, Variations, Entertainment, and a few other  categories which will remain unpublished.  We have a few trusted friends and  fellow authors helping us rate each blog submitted.  We then calculate and  review the top 10 blogs in the database.    Yes, we have an actual system.   However, our system is still just our opinions.
First, I would like to point out that we have a link on the left hand side our of blog that lists “Our Favorites.”  Those websites are our permanent top list that we read and check out all year.  If they were not on the side bar, we would add them as our top sex blogs, but because they are on our page permanently, we will not include any of those sites.
 
1. @Mollysdailykiss http://mollysdailykiss.com/ Molly’s Daily Kiss claims to be the UK’s highest ranked sex blogger and after one visit to her blog, you’ll see why. I would have to say my favorite page on her blog is “My 101 Things In 1001 Days.” Complete with a timer to the deadline, a checklist, and the status for each task.  She is very fortunate to live in a culture-rich area which lends itself to #21: Create a page on my blog for my Scavenger Hunt images.  Then there are others (#48: Have my underwear cut off with a knife & #55: Be made to masturbate before a live audience) which lead me to believe that she has covered all the bases (PG to XXX).
 
2. @TBK365 http://thebeautifulkind.com/ is a blog with so much honesty it hurts. Kendra Holliday is not apologetic for the events that led her to the life she leads now. I applaud her for the sexual freedom she exudes and the vigilant parenting, in equal parts. Her sexuality and parenting do, in fact, overlap, and the sincerity in which she approaches both is something for which I have a true and deep respect. The highly anticipated photos from her birthday gang bang are up. Nowhere have I seen a more eloquently choreographed event documented than I have here.
 
3. @Pennysblog  http://pennysdirtythoughts.com/  Penny’s blog exemplifies everything a sex blog should be.  Her photos, both in black and white and in color, rival that of any professional model posing for a photographer, all elegantly done and complete with stories behind each one.  Her poetry is sinful and subtle (read “Things I Masturbate To” one of them being “the girl at the dentist’s who cleaned [her] teeth”).   Ultimately, she has reeled me in with her anal plug (review of the minx tail, atomic rose plug, the Tantus Ryder – all of the above) reviews and musings since I am a huge fan of plugs.  Everything about her blog is delightfully pleasing to the eyes and soul, a perfect combination, and one that is absolutely essential in your must-read list.
 
4. @SunnyMegatron http://www.sunnymegatron.com/ is a powerful tool women can use to hone their sexual mind state…as well as techniques. Sunny offers sex toy reviews, events, contests as well as superb blogs on a wide array of subjects. One cannot help but be intrigued by such titles “How To Handle Gagging, During A Blow Job” and “G-Spot Stimulation Instructional Video.” If you’re a woman who’s single, married, or neither, you’ll want to do extensive research on this website to make yourself an even more valuable commodity.
 
5. @SilentPornStar  http://www.silent-porn-star.com/ is an extensive collection of sexuality in every medium and category your mind can think of. If you have a specific topic or are not looking for anything in particular, you’re sure to find it. Honestly, I can sit and browse the entire blog and be amazed by the breadth and depth of subject matter. The hodgepodge of material is tasteful and I dare any viewer to not learn a thing or two after perusing. Don’t believe me? See for yourself…
 
6.@SweetRori http://www.betweenmysheets.com/ is a well-established blog headed by Rori, whose “Who is Rori” alone pulled me in. She introduces characters, or rather lovers, past and present, who have contributed to shaping the woman and lover she is today. Her blog is filled with erotica, posts, opinions, reviews, giveaways and much more. Each Tuesday, she engages her readers in a conversation with questions such as, “Does Age Really Matter?” Rori has undoubtedly created a one-stop shop for sexual Q&A that has truly become one racy blog.
 
7. @LadyCheeky  http://www.ladycheeky.com/ Lady Cheeky invites you to Smut For Smarties, which implies that this is not the average sex blog filled with people in compromising positions of which your grandmother wouldn’t approve.  It’s much more.  It caters to lovers and thinkers alike, proving there is an art (and science) to human sexuality.  She appeals to sex educators and writers/bloggers alike as she immerses her readers with visual erotica, but also articles about sensuality, sexual education, sex tips…and much, much more.  Check out her book review of “After Pornified – How Women Are Transforming Pornography and Why It Really Matters” for a sample of her beautiful, sexually-charged brain.
 
8. @sexinwords  http://sex-in-words.blogspot.com/ Sex-in-Words is not only filled with Jon Pressick’s musings, but invitations for discussions and thought-provoking topics that true lovers of sex are sure to enjoy.  His blog is fresh and is continually being updated.  A favorite of ours is Muse Monday, in which Mr. Pressick writes a short, delicious tale surrounding a steamy photo, rather than vice versa.  It’s a wonderful, innovative idea which he states serves to hone his writing skills and provide naughty entertainment.
 
9. @NaitraDarius  http://diaryofanownedslave.com/ I am unfamiliar with the Master/slave (M/s) lifestyle.  I never took the time to understand it, so upon entering Anastassia’s blog, one of my first tasks was to read the “Proclamation of Servitude.” Anastassia’s beautifully-written oath to her Master is fascinating and something to respect, even if you’re unfamiliar with servitude.  Her site reads like a sex diary interspersed with daily musings and real life situations.  
 
10. @UCAppetites http://uncommonappetites.blogspot.com/ is composed of a self-described 20-something married Brooklyn couple. Their videos are beautifully shot with an artistic eye behind the lens. The photos, mainly of them, share the same high-quality caliber. Rye and Violet examine the definition of marriage and share much of the same ideals as me and Ryan. Often their post may be comprised of a few carefully chosen photos describing a thought, an idea, a belief. This is a couple who clearly understand the meaning of building and strengthening their marriage.

Freaky Friday Search Terms – cumming in ass while on steroids

freakyfridayOn various Fridays we will post our most outrageous search terms that people used to find our website.  Ryan and I will then share our own thoughts and hopefully entertain you guys or at least make the search term make a little less sense.

Each search term was gathered by wordpress and/or google statistics and they are all very real search terms.   Each search term was used by some person in the world that ended up on our page.

10. could sperm increase the ass
Venice: My ass would be extremely increased.
Ryan: You do have a nice jungle booty for an Asian girl.
Venice: So sperm gives you that ghetto booty huh?  Oh black women, you’re dark dirty secret is out.
Ryan: That was racist.  Ghetto booty and dark dirty huh?
Venice: I blame Sir Mix-a-Lot and Lil Kim.

9. how to cum inside a womans ass
Ryan: Do you need a tutorial for this seriously?
Venice: I still get surprised by some of these search terms, especially the ones asking for instructions.
Ryan: Not to let the guy down, I’ll make it simple.  Insert your penis into a woman’s ass, then move back and forth until the friction makes your penis ejaculate.  Here is the tricky part, do not pull your penis out and shoot semen in your own face.
Venice: That’s the key here guys.  I’ve noticed a lot of you fellas end up splurging on your own faces.  Leave your penis inside of her anus please.
Ryan:  Exactly.  Then release.
Venice: Then wash.
Ryan: Then wash again.
Venice: I’m a bit scared that us clarifying that they need to leave their penis inside of the woman’s anus while they ejaculate may confuse them.  We emphasized staying inside them so much that they may not understand that it is safe to remove their penises after they ejaculate.   I feel our instructions are a bit incomplete.
Ryan: Well I didn’t tell them to remove their clothing prior to putting their penises inside of a woman’s anus.  What if they do all this with clothing on?
Venice: This worries me Ryan.
Ryan: Would you like me to add a step prior to washing?
Venice:  Please Ryan, for the sake of the readers who need these tutorials.
Ryan: First of all, before putting your penis inside of a woman’s ass, please find a willing woman and make sure you both remove all of your clothing.  This is an important step.
Venice: Very important.
Ryan: Okay, now after reading the steps above, please add these next steps prior to “Then wash.”  Once you release your semen, please make sure your penis is completely finished ejaculating.  After ejaculation, slowly remove your penis but do not look at it.  You may regret what you see.  Walk to the shower and place your penis under lukewarm water.  Do not place the penis under the water until it warms as the cold water may cause pain.  Grab a bar of soap and clean off your penis thoroughly.
Venice: Then get a towel and dry off.  Please put your clothing back on prior to going outside.
Ryan: I’m still a bit scared we missed something.
Venice:  I think we’ve confused whoever searched for this tutorial even more than he was prior to asking.
Ryan: Probably.

8. pouring cum into her ass
Ryan: Okay, ignore everything I said above and just pour semen in her ass like a glass of Kool-Aid.
Venice: Ha!  You think that was the same guy still trying to figure out the proper method to cum in a woman’s ass?
Ryan: Apparently so.  I guess he figured pouring or funneling would be easiest.

7. hairy wagina porno
Venice:
Starring Elmer Fudd.
Ryan: Wascally Wabbit Wagina featuring Juggs Bunny and Bare Rabbit.
Venice: …Or Who Banged Roger Rabbit featuring Thumper.
Ryan: Ha, they both sound like hits to me.
Venice: I’d watch them.

6. cum eat gay baby
Venice: Is this some sort of abortion or new Chinese technique to get rid of gay children? Eat them.
Ryan: Sounds disgusting.
Venice: Well, I am sure Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce would help.
Ryan: Really Venice?
Venice: I’m just saying, I didn’t make up the damn search term.  Truthfully, I bet Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce would make gay babies taste much less disgusting.
Ryan: Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce is delicious.
Venice: You’re damn right it is.

5. have you ever sucked cock at a wedding
Ryan: Venice?
Venice: I sucked yours after ours.  Does that count?
Ryan: I’m not sure.  Judges?

4. hubby sucking best man
Venice: Ryan?
Ryan: Ha!  So I guess the previous search term was a set up?
Venice:
Ryan:
Venice: Well answer my question.
Ryan: My best man was my father, so the answer is NO Venice.
Venice: Judges?
Ryan: Whatever.

3. is it wrong to cum on your wife if she said no
Ryan:  Probably, but the good thing is she is your wife so you have access to her panty drawer and her toothbrush.
Venice: Oh my God.  Seriously Ryan?
Ryan: Seriously.  I mean, if your says no to letting you cum on her you should just wipe your sperm on her clean panties or toothbrush.  It’s our instinct to mark our territory.
Venice: That’s disgusting!
Ryan: Well, use Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce as toothpaste.
Venice:
Ryan: Touché?
Venice: It is delicious, I admit.

2. my wyf loves oder mans cum
Venice:
Someone in the trailer park got a laptop for Christmas.
Ryan: I’m going with an underaged trailer park occupant.
Venice: He has a wyf though.
Ryan: Like I said, I am going with an underaged trailer park occupant.
Venice: Ha, that’s true. How could someone that spells that poorly even use Google?
Ryan: Hopefully he Googles contraceptive.
Venice: Too late already… he ended up at our site.
Ryan:
Venice:  The guilt has set in.  We just helped create more.
Ryan: You can’t blame yourself baby.  If it wasn’t our site it would have been “A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind” or “Sex.com.”  You saved your friends the guilt.

1. cumming in ass while on steroids
Ryan: Hilarious!
Venice: Ha!
Ryan: I call that a real Hulk Smash!
Venice: I call that “1 night in Chyna
Ryan: Ha, yea that too.

Dislclaimer:
Ryan: We have no affiliation with Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce.  We were not paid to promote its delicious flavor.  However, if you were to try and eat gay babies, I would highly suggest getting Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce.  Or if you think your husband is urinating or ejaculating on your toothbrush because you did not allow him to cum on you, use Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce as toothpaste.
Venice: Urinating?
Ryan: You are not supposed to talk on my closing disclaimer.
Venice:  Oh it’s like some sort of legal thing?
Ryan: Yes.  People will think we are selling Sweet Baby Ray’s BBQ Sauce or promoting eating gay children with Sweet Baby Ray’s deliciousness.
Venice:  It is yummy.  I bet it really could make a gay baby taste like a gourmet meal.
Ryan: Gay babies… mmmmmm.  Real soul food.