From not having orgasms as a teenage girl, to guaranteed orgasms as a woman.
I can remember telling my husband when I first met him that I could not have orgasms. I had played with shower heads, combs, and my fingers, but other than relaxing me, I wasn’t orgasmic. The good thing is, I was naturally passive so I got a lot of pleasure from making him orgasm. Although sex felt good, it wasn’t something I believe I could cum from. Shortest blog ever? End of story?
Well, I guess the story could end there if girls didn’t have stubborn men with egos and high sex drives. Me not being able to achieve an orgasm was not something my future husband accepted. After realizing oral sex was nothing like a shower head, a comb, or my fingers, orgasms was definitely something I could achieve. However, it took my husband hours at a time staying down on me, not moving his head or body, no noise in the room (neighbors talking too loud next door or a dog barking could throw me off), and me laying as still as possible until I exploded. The good news? I was orgasmic! The bad news? It was probably very boring! In fact, I have learned now being bisexual and really into women, most women cannot make me cum for this exact reason. Truthfully, most of them do everything perfect. The licking, sucking, and sometimes dig their tongues deep inside me. But unlike porn, just because you do everything right, doesn’t mean I’m going to cum in minutes. I’m definitely not. In fact, I have only came once with another woman. Although I never explained to her what I needed, she stayed down on me for well over an hour and was probably bored out of her mind! But she did it!
Enter sex toys.
Prior to sex toys my sex life consisted of my husband going down on me for probably an average of 45 minutes to an hour. After I orgasmed, he would then have sex with me for his own orgasm. We both knew I couldn’t cum through sex, so we just took turns. And then one day we walked into a local sex shop and my life changed. From toys that vibrate and suck on your clit, like the Satisfyer pro 2, to wands that make me convulse and twitch in seconds.
I remember coming home from the sex shop on that first night and holding a vibrator up to my clit while I was being fucked. I came 9 times in about 10 minutes. No longer was I not orgasmic through sex, I was now multi-orgasmic. In fact, I’d say sex toys taught me how to relax my mind during sex and rather than needing my husband have to be a statue that didn’t move anything but his tongue, I trusted in the process. This relaxation of the mind led me to be orgasmic through sex, without any extra toys and tools!
So I am a believer in finding a good sex toy to slowly teach yourself to relax. It takes all the pressure off having an orgasm and tends to let things happen naturally (and quickly).
Now, just because you have learned to make us orgasm, try not to ruin them once you’ve hit the promise land!