Q&A: My girlfriend asked me if I wanted to have a threesome in front of the other guy.

My girlfriend asked me if I wanted to have a threesome in front of the other guy.

She’s 21 and I’m 25. We were at a party with her friends from high school and out of no where while I was talking to one the guys she went to school with she came up and asked if we could have a three some. I was caught off guard by this and didn’t say anything at first. The other guy said immediately that he was down. I eventually said no and she didn’t bring it up the rest of the party.

On the way home she asked again and I once again said no. Then she told me how hot it would be for both of us and that it would spice our sex life up (which I though was fine). I’ve always dealt with insecurities sexually and she has helped me overcome some of it, but after this it is coming back. Am I in the wrong here for not wanting one or should we try it?

Venice’s response threesome

Even though I have already had threesomes with Ryan and other girls, even now, if he asked me on the spot in front of the another girl, I would be pissed off.  It’s inconsiderate and all communication about your relationship should be done privately.  Especially a bomb shell like that.  I’d seriously consider finding a new girlfriend.

Ryan’s response threesome

You could do 2 things in my opinion.   Break up with her.  For her to ask you in front of the other guy was just a garbage thing to do.  For her to ask him prior to asking  you, was even more garbage.  Your other option is, if you want to see her fucked by 2 dicks before you leave her, say yes.  Have the threesome and break up with her afterwards. I’ve always said I would only have a mmf threesome if I didn’t really care much about the girl.  It’s not something I’d want to experience with a girl I love.

Threesome Memoirs: Q&A – Unicorns and Their Safety During Threesomes

Unicorns and Their Safety During Threesomes

I am a 23 year old female and am meeting a couple for drinks next week after we matched and chatted on tinder. They are staying in a hotel nearby, as they are on holiday, and have indicated that we might end up back at the hotel if drinks go well.

Unicorns – how did you know you would be safe when you met couples for threesomes? Not just on a relationship boundaries level, but from purely a ‘will I get kidnapped/raped/killed?’ point of view?

I have often matched with couples on tinder and am keen to try a threesome, but the issue of being outnumbered always puts me off. I am normally pretty spontaneous, experimental and confident when it comes to dating, but some help and advice in this area would be great!

Venice’s response to safety during threesomes
I suppose you would take the same kind of precautions as if you were heading to any place that would have strangers and alcohol: let someone you know trust know where you’re going and the nature of the event. 

My suggestion is to be on the phone (or even pretend) and when you arrive, say something like, “Alright, I’m here…gotta go. Talk to you later” to let them know that there are people who know your whereabouts. If you think about it, it’s the smart thing to do without letting people you don’t completely trust them. If you went to a club or party alone, you’d probably put it on your calendar, tell your friends (roommate, etc.), or maybe even on social media. I wouldn’t suggest bringing a gun or other type of weapon since that could backfire. However, in your situation, if you want to be discrete, you can ask the hotel’s front desk to call your phone at a certain time or call the room. No matter what you decide to do, being spontaneous doesn’t mean you have to be unsafe.

Ryan’s response to safety during threesomes
Statistically, I’d say meeting a man by himself is far more dangerous than meeting a couple. To get a man on social media that is a psychopath, is much more common than meeting two people, male and female, both psychopaths, both in agreement to do something illegal. Probably not likely. I’d say meeting a couple is the safest thing to do on social media, lol. Couples usually don’t serial kill and rape together. It has happened, but not even in the stratosphere as far as the number of men raping women by themselves.

We have met women before and we felt equally as unsafe because they may end up back at our place, setting us up and plotting something in the future. We have no idea their true intentions. It works both ways. Meet in a public place and if they seem like genuine couple, go back to their place for drinks. Make sure you keep your cell phone on.

We had a girl meet us and we would hang out every so often.  I’d say we got somewhat close and would play together a few times a month.  Eventually we found out that the first time she met us she had a gun in her purse. That freaked me out a little. We don’t know who we are meeting either!

Random Moments – Our First Threesome

asian doctorYears ago, when Venice and I were still dating, we explored each other’s bodies daily.  I had never really touched my body, my testicles, and as I already mentioned in a previous article, I masturbated prone.   I was young, around 19 years old, and during a blow job while standing up Venice felt a lump in my testicles.  This was a first for me, as I had never really explored my testicles and didn’t really know what all the different textures felt like.  After she showed me, I also felt the lump.  This freaked me out so I made an appointment with a doctor on a military base.  I was still a military dependent in college, so I could still use the on base facilities.

On the day of my appointment, I was a bit nervous.  I had never dropped my pants in front of a doctor so I didn’t know what to expect. What’s funny is, growing up I played sports but was extremely shy, so my dad would sign the all my sports physical forms, as a doctor, to save me from having to drop my pants and cough while I was a teenager.  I know that sounds dumb but I appreciated not having to be humiliated. I probably wouldn’t have played sports in school if my dad actually made me go to a doctor prior.  I hated the idea of exposing myself.  I also didn’t think I needed a doctor to fondle my nuts while I coughed to know that I could play basketball (which I played every day my whole life up until that point).

Back to my lump.  As Venice and I sat in the back room waiting for the doctor to enter, we heard a female voice next door talking to a nurse.

“Seargent Tucker came in today again,” the first female voice announced.

“Oh no,”  Responded the female second voice.  “Again?”

“Yes, I walked in the room this time and he had his penis already out, exposing himself to me.  This is the 3rd time this week he has came in and had me check him,” said the first female voice.

“That’s ridiculous,” responded the second female voice.

“While I am checking him he starts getting an erection so I stopped immediately,” says the first female voice.

“You should call his commanding office and let him know what he is doing,” the second female voice responded.

At that point I made a funny face and looked at Venice.  Venice looked back at me and made a hand motion of someone giving oral sex and fondling a man’s balls.  I couldn’t help but laugh.  I suppose on military facilities there isn’t really a “knock before you enter” protocol because my physician entered the room and caught Venice giving oral sex to air while I was watching and laughing.  What a great start for such an embarrassing situation for me.

lucy-liu-beach-253734749The doctor, an Asian lady that resembled Lucy Liu, asked if she was interrupting something.  Like two shamed school kids, we both looked down and shook our heads no.  She then asked me what my reasons were for coming in that day. I explained to her that we found a lump in my testicles and wanted to know if I was dying.   She asked me to stand up and remove my pants so she could have a look.

Jeez, slow down Doc.

So, let me list all the things going through my mind:

  • Doctor, how long do I have to live?
  • I hope Venice doesn’t slap this doctor for touching me.
  • Please penis, don’t be “just stepped out of a cold pool” tiny right now.
  • I hope the doctor doesn’t laugh at my penis.
  • I hope my dick isn’t swollen or too big.  I don’t want her to think I am Seargent Tucker
  • Will she be able to tell that my penis is crooked just by looking at?
  • Oh God, why the fuck does she have to be a woman.
  • Oh God, why the fuck does she have to be a Asian woman.
  • Oh God, why the fuck does she have to be a cute Asian woman.
  • I hope the doctor doesn’t excite me and cause my penis to grow.
  • Her hands better be warm if she touches my balls.

Seriously, what the fuck is the proper etiquette with your penis when a doctor enters the room?  Is it allowed to be stretched a bit so it isn’t totally shriveled?

1Not to be a pervert, but I can see why Seargent Tucker seemed to be having so many penis problems himself.  This doctor was adorable.  I started counting sheep in my head trying not to think about anything sexual.  I was extremely embarrassed about exposing myself to a doctor, as the only person that had ever seen me nude was Venice, but I guess you can say I have this thing for Asian women.   Doctor or no doctor, I said a small prayer asking the Lord to please help me control my penis so it does not make any sudden movements.  I pulled my pants down and watched the doctor eyeball my penis and testicles.  She fondled me for a few moments and couldn’t find the lump.  I asked if I could show her where, and she nodded.  I put my finger on the area of the lump and she placed her hand where I was pointing.  She confirmed she also felt a lump and asked me to lay down.  I still had my pants halfway down to my knees and wobbled my way to the patient table.  I looked over to Venice, who was making her tongue poke out the side of her cheek inside her mouth, to suggest a blow job, and gave her a dirty look.   As I laid there naked, exposed to the doctor who was fondling my balls, with my girlfriend watching, I wanted to disappear from earth.  I hated every second of it.  I really felt even more stupid when I found out there was nothing wrong with my testicles and it was merely a bent vein in my sac that hardens (when my testicles are not fully sagging) when I stand up.

Years later Venice teases me about this situation and calls it our first threesome.