Recently my boyfriend found out sex occasionally hurts me
Recently my boyfriend found out sex occasionally hurts me. It’s not all the time but when it happens its usually for a very short time in the beginning and/or towards the end of rougher sex (especially if it goes on longer than like 10 minutes). I didn’t tell him earlier because it’s normal for me (happened with my previous partner too) and I didn’t think the pain was worth making him stop. It came out during a slightly drunk conversation a few weeks ago, so now he knows. He said he doesn’t want to hurt me and asked me to tell him if it hurts in the future.
Since our conversation I’ve experienced pain (beyond just being kind of sore) five times and each time I let him know. He stopped every time but seemed a little upset about it. He has never been mean and after a few minutes asked if I was okay each time we stopped but I could tell he was frustrated initially (maybe disappointed too?). I’m concerned this is ruining sex for him.
I’m wondering if he really wants to know when it hurts or if he just asked me to tell him because he felt like he had to? Would it be wrong not to tell him when I’m pain? I’m inclined to think keeping it to myself will ultimately make him happier.
Venice’s response: Sex hurts me I once read about something called “Sexual Frigidity.” I’m not a doctor, but just reading the definitions online, it seems that SF can range from the inability to achieve orgasm (anorgamsmia) by physical means (heat/cold intolerance), drug-induced anorgamsmia (nicotine, drugs, etc.), or just aversion to intercourse (including a mental block and wanting to stop).
Now, from personal experience, the pain I feel is always temporary and the reasons I feel it is caused by different reasons. Maybe I’m about to start on my period, maybe my husband’s dick is too hard (I rate hardness in terms of percentages where 85% is ideal and 100% is the moment just before he orgasms and it’s rock hard), maybe the angle isn’t ideal (while being at 95%)…there are so many factors!
Once I feel this pain (and I always feel it), I am more likely to “clench up” and wiggle my body in a way to keep him out of me. That is my own frigidity at work. But once I realize what is going on, I don’t tell him to stop. I tell him to work it slow and deep, I change positions until my body gets used to a dick being in me at that moment, I play with myself. Basically, I do NOT tell him to stop, but find ways to keep the sexual momentum going until the pain I initially feel is gone.
This pain really is temporary for me, but it feels so good. Mentally, I love knowing my insides get stretched and worked; I love knowing I have a big dick that makes me ache and throb; I love knowing my man can pound me and even if it hurts at first, the pains of having a big dick is better than the pains of having a little dick. Sex hurts me.
Ryan’s response: Sex hurts me The question and Venice’s response sounds a bit scary for me. Personally I do not like pain during sex. My only experience is when Venice uses her finger inside me during blow jobs or hand jobs. Although it feels great once in there, the initial penetration and exit, always make me whine. The pain doesn’t feel good, nor do I like it. I think that is part of why men love women, they are so fragile physically, yet their vaginas are so powerful and tolerant. They do so much for us with their bodies and take all our stress and muscle inside them as part of their every day life. We literally use our dicks to stab their insides and murder their pussies, getting rid of all our stress, and they lay there happy, tolerating, and in love with us. It’s so endearing. Sex hurts me.
Last night my partner and I were having sex. It was a little rougher than usual in a position that often hurts my cervix. We changed to a more comfortable position after a few minutes, but the damage was already done, and I got a horrible cramp in my entire lower abdomen that brought me to tears. It eventually stopped hurting severely, but I’m still tender today. If it continues, I’ll absolutely see my doctor, but I’m just wondering if you or any of your readers have experienced this? ovarian cyst
Yes, I have experienced this myself many times. Although the pain can be debilitating; fortunately, it doesn’t last for more than 24-36 hours, and can even dissipate after about 12. From personal experience, I believe this cervical pain is caused by certain factors.
Hello Venice and Ryan. My question is pretty simple. What is it about being abused during sex that I like so much? I suppose the variation of this question for Ryan would be, why do some men really enjoy the role of being abusive during sex? Thank you guys! rough sex rough sex rough sex rough sex rough sex
My alarm went off as it always does. And like I always do, I extend my legs and arms and do a quick stretch to wake up. Although I’m not a morning person, every morning I look forward to waking up Ryan. I know that our mornings make his day, but it also makes mine. After the last bit of yawning and stretching, I begin to prop myself up. Today, however, Ryan scoots his body close to mine like we’re about to spoon. He pulls my hips toward him and starts to rub between my legs. I know exactly what he wants, so I grab the jar of coconut oil that I keep on my side of the bed and dab a little between my labia. He holds his already hard dick still for me as I position myself on him. Ryan glided in me effortlessly; I moved with him.
He started moving faster and faster. “Get on your stomach,” he suddenly ordered. I know better than to disobey. I turned over and put my hands at the head of the bed ready for him to grab my wrists. Or hold down. I let out the softest of moans as he plunged deep into me. He put my pillow over my head. He muffled something, but it was hard for me to understand from beneath my down pillow. I was able to make out a few words: “Don’t say a fucking word.”
I look at Venice’s sexy body laying face first in our bed, motionless. I throw a pillow case over her head and pull back on it as tight as I can so it sticks to her face. I can feel her immediately tense up as I watch her try to breathe. With each gasp, I see the pillow case suck into her mouth. I grab both of her arms roughly and reach for the rope near the bed. I tie her arms behind her back so tight I can see her skin lighten where the rope is squeezing her wrists. Judging by her whining and movements, I know she is very uncomfortable. I look down at her nude body as she wiggles from side to side attempting to get her arms in a better position. I forcefully rub my hand down her ass crack, then into her pussy slit while smashing my other hand against the back of her head, forcing her face deep into the mattress and making her breathing even harder. I whisper in her ear that I don’t want to hear another sound from her. I let her head go and roughly slap the side of her face and head through the pillow case. She stops making any noises. I am in complete control. I get up from the bed and walk to the closet to grab the tripod and camera. I hit record and move around the room making random noises to leave Venice in suspense for a bit longer. I want to make sure she is uncertain of what happens next.
I take off my clothes and walk back to her. I forcefully roll her over and climb on top of her. I let my balls hang down as I straddle her body. Her upper torso is sideways, her lower half is twisted a bit and faced up. I slowly rub my balls all over her, on her neck, her chest, her arms, her stomach, and down to her legs. As I rub and move to different body parts, my dick slowly starts to grow until I am completely erect. I take the pillow case off her head and pull her face back. I am squatting over her, her face is up, with my dick completely hard and my balls sagging down in front of her nose. I lower my body and let my loose nut sack cover her face. The lower I drop, the more the weight of my body spreads out my sack. I rub my balls all over her until she wiggles and tries to look sideways to catch her breath. As soon as I see her struggling, I grab each side of her cheeks roughly with my fingers and hold her face straight. I again lower my body, this time ass first, over her nose and mouth. I am faced toward her feet. I grind her face with my ass, letting her nose penetrate into my asshole. I demand for her to stick her tongue out and she does. I sit back up and grab her face and spit on her, hoping to lube up her nose so it can penetrate further into my ass. I sit back down on her and again, grind my asshole and crack against her pretty asian face. My balls hang over her tongue, mouth, and chin as I ride her skull. I beat down on her chest with my hard dick before I sit my body back up, aim my dick straight down to her mouth and drive my hard cock deep into her throat. She immediately gags around my dick but I keep it deep inside her neck. I can feel her tongue vibrating and inner fluids bubbling around my shaft as her gagging has brought up some stomach fluids. I pull my dick out of her throat and beat her face with it, leaving her cheeks and face sloppy with spit and stomach juices. I put the pillow case back over her head. I again tighten it so she has trouble breathing. I can see the outline of her face through it. I walk to the edge of the bed where her head is now positioned and beat my dick down as hard as I can. My cock crashes against her face making her cry for me to stop. The more she says stop, the harder I hit her face with my dick. I aim for her eye sockets and nose. With each thump, she tries to move her face in a different direction hoping I use my dick to hammer in a different part of her face. I follow her movements and pound down on the same area over and over. I grab her throat and slap her through the pillow case and tell her not to fucking move. She immediately stops moving and lets me abuse her pretty face with my penis. I want absolute control. She turns off the pain of being clubbed by my dick because she knows the more she resists the harder she gets hit.
I get off the bed and bring the camera closer to the action. I walk back over to Venice and roll her over to the edge of the bed, face down. Her arms are still behind her back, so she is totally helpless. I sit next to her and lift her upper body up to sit her mouth in my lap, face down. I then pull the pillow case off her head. Unless I pull her head back, she can barely look up. Her face is somewhat stuck in my lap unless I lift it. I grab her hair and lift her head off my lap. She whines in discomfort. Displeased with her whining I immediately spit in her face and slap her. I demand that she quits crying. I then forcefully turn her head to the camera and tell her, “Say that you love my dick better than Ryan’s.” At first she resists, so I grab her by the throat and squeeze harder, demanding that she tells the camera, “Say that you love my dick better than Ryan’s.” Her eyes water up and she tells the camera, “I love his dick better than yours.” I immediately lift her head above my hard dick, which is near my belly button, and shove her face down my cock, back into my lap. I ram her head as hard as I can into my crotch, my entire cock down her throat. She is helpless, even if she wants to control herself or how much dick she takes, it doesn’t matter. I forcefully hold her face in my lap, balls deep, as she squirms to get herself off my penis. My dick rams against the back of her throat, rubbing hard as it slides down her esophagus. No matter how hard she tries, because of her hands behind her back and the position she is in, unless I grabbed her hair and pulled her off my dick, she is stuck. As she struggles, I tell her to smell my balls and see what a real man smells like. I then whisper in her ear, “The last time your husband will ever see you is on this video. Tell him how you love my dick better than his.” She whines and tries to fight me, but I just squeeze her head against my lap harder. I then grab her hair, digging my fingernails into her scalp, and pull her off my dick. She gasps for air like she was drowning in an ocean of penis. My balls and dick are covered with her spit and insides, I again tell her to talk to the camera. “Say you love this dick more than life itself.”
She cries and looks at the camera. I slap her face with my dick as she tries to talk, “I love this dick more than my life.” I again drive her face first onto my cock. I can tell she hates this. I can tell at this point she wants this to stop. She’d probably beg for it to stop, if she could actually talk. Unfortunately, it’s hard to talk with my dick punching her voice box. I grab the back of her hair and slam her up and down onto my penis over and over. I control her head like she wasn’t human, like I was grabbing a doll, totally ignoring any of the pain she feels. I slam her face on my lap repeatedly until she gags and spits up.
I roll her body over so her face is almost on the corner of the bed, right in front of the camera. I again sit on her nose and mouth with my ass, and grind myself against her. I hold myself up with one hand and stroke my dick for the camera with the other. My balls are now rubbing her forehead and hairline. Every now and then I will beat my dick against her head or grab her hair and pull her deeper into my ass so she can clean my insides.
After a few minutes of forcing her to eat my ass, I roll her face down on the bed. I bend down so my dick is near her mouth and I fuck her throat. I have to hold her by her hair just to keep her face up, otherwise she’d be face down in the bed. Usually when we face fuck, she has hands to wipe her tears that naturally from gagging, but with her hands tied behind her, she can’t wipe anything, so her nose is snotty and her face and cheeks are soaked in tears. I love it.
I quit fucking her throat and move my body back behind her on the bed, I yank her arms back and make her scream. I can tell her hands are in pain because her fingers are turning purple. Without saying anything, I untie her hands so she could get some relief. However, I still keep both of her arms behind her and grab both of her wrists tightly while sliding my dick inside her. Her pussy is soaking wet, and her pussy doesn’t lie, she actually loves being treated like this. If she doesn’t, her pussy definitely does. My dick is also soaking wet, as her spit and fluids have my whole lap lubricated. I fuck her hard and she screams with each thrust. My dick is so hard and lubed that it’s unlike normal sex, which can be rough, but this time it feels like I have a sharp sword and her walls can’t stop or slow it down, so it stabs directly in the back of her pussy as hard as it possibly can. Normally, she hates this feeling, as it creates a pain she doesn’t like during sex. Normally I’d give a fuck, but right now, I don’t. I keep her body close to mine by holding her arms. As I ram my cock inside her, I pull back on her arms and force her body to take it all. The length of my dick is hitting the back of her pussy as hard as it can, banging the cervix with each pump. I feel my orgasm growing and I know I want to cum all over her face and body. I know I am close so I get up and quickly roll her over on her back. I quickly crawl back over to her face and drop my dick into her mouth as far as it can go. I can feel her teeth on my balls and crotch. Her throat is endless and, truthfully, much deeper than her pussy. I feel like I could stick my dick in her all the way to her stomach if it was long enough. I love how she is such a cock eater. As I feel my load about to release I pull myself out of her mouth and shoot my cum everywhere. I unload onto her face, her chest, her hair, and her stomach. I quickly grab all the strings of cum and cup it with my hand. I put all four fingers in her mouth and feed her my fluids. She whines but still does as she is told and eats up every drop. I then lean down and squeeze her throat with one hand and tell her she better not fucking move. I went to the bathroom and took a shower as fast as I could since the camera was running. The more time I wasted, the more horny I got thinking of this naked Asian woman laying on my bed, soaked with cum and scared to death.
As I come out the shower I noticed her body hasn’t moved at all. She hasn’t moved her arms, legs, face, or anything. My cum is still drying on her skin and her hair is stuck to her wet face. I walk over to her again and drop my huge soft dick into her mouth and immediately start to fuck her throat again. It only takes a few seconds for my cock to become erect and ready to damage. I flip her over face down on the bed, legs on the floor, and fuck her from the back. Her titties and dried cum rub against the sheets. Again, with each thrust she moans and screams. I love how she makes my cock seem like a fucking telephone pole when I fuck her tiny, tight pussy. Each scream brings my prostate to a boil. I already want to cum again. I pull her hair back and throw her legs back onto the bed. I then drag her face to the corner of the bed, face up, and drop my dick inside her mouth right in front of the camera. In my mind, the camera can see my asshole, ass cheeks, balls flopping around on her face, and her mouth being fucked. I do not know exactly what it really sees and I don’t give a fuck. As I feel the pressure inside my thighs build up, I explode and dig myself as deep in her throat as I can possibly be. With each thrust of cum I release I can feel my asshole tightening, letting the camera and her know that she is taking a load.
As I finish, I get up and kiss her cum soaked face. I let her know it’s over and she can finally relax. She gets up and doesn’t talk much, still shocked and satisfied that she finally got raped like she always wanted. I leave the room so she can shower off, collect her thoughts and enjoy them.