Relationship and Sex Lessons from “Game of Thrones”

Eyes closed
Scared to look

This past weekend I discovered a little series called “Game of Thrones.”  You may have heard of it.  I’ve only watched the first few episodes of it, but I wanted to share a simple lesson that I observed.  But first, some background.

Daenerys is the daughter of the last Targaryen king and ruler of the Seven Kingdoms, Aerys Targaryen.  When King Aerys is murdered, his two surviving children (and rightful heirs), Viserys and Daenerys, are exiled to safety.  Her brother, Viserys, conspires to have her marry Khal Drogo, a powerful warlord of the Dothraki people in order to obtain an army to defeat the current king of the Seven Kingdoms.  Daenerys has told him several times that she doesn’t want to be married to him, but he responds that he would let Khal Drogo, his men, and their horses fuck her if it meant that he would get his army and become rightful ruler.

Although he does not say a word during his first encounter with Daenerys, we learn a few important things about Khal Drogo.  We’re told that a Dothraki’s hair is cut off if he loses a battle, and see that he has arrived with his long hair tied back in a braid.  He does not arrive with a cavalry of men, just a handful behind him; he is clad only in pants and shoes, bearing a strong physique; they ride away acknowledging Daenerys with a glare, forcing her to question if he approves of her, which she is told “You would know if he didn’t.”  Soon after, the two are married: one, a privileged heiress to Seven Kingdoms, the other the leader of barbaric people who place great importance on horses.  During the wedding, the Dothraki’s simulate sexual acts instead of dancing and celebrate when a fight on the “dance floor” ends up in a disembowelment.  Daenerys is appalled.  During the course of the episode, Khal Drogo fucks his wife from behind several times, not wanting to face her or even let her talk.  To me, it symbolizes an extension of his power and dominance on the battlefield which is transferred to the bedroom.

Private lessons
Private lessons

In season 1 episode 2 entitled “The Kingsroad,” Daenerys asks one of her handmaidens, Doreah, who was once a courtesan for Khal Drogo, to give her some tips on how to please her husband.  The scene is set it a warm, but dimly lit tent. (Daenerys is lying on the bed, Doreah is sitting on her looking down at her)
Doreah: No, Khaleesi, you must look him in the eyes always. Love comes in at the eyes.  It is said that Irogenia of Lys could finish a man with nothing but her eyes. (They lock fingers)
Daenerys: Finish a man? (she thinks about this) Oh.
Doreah: Kings traveled across the world for a night with Irogenia. magisters sold palaces, khals burned her enemies to just have her for a few hours.  They say a thousand men proposed to her and she refused them all.
Daenerys:  Well, she sounds like an interesting woman.  I don’t think the Drogo will like me on top.
Doreah:  You will make him like it, Khaleesi.  Men want what they’ve never had.  And the Dothraki take slaves like a hound takes a bitch.  Are you a slave, Khaleesi?
(Daenerys shakes her head.  Doreah places the queen’s hands on her hips and starts to grind on her majesty, showing her how to fuck from on top)
Doreah:  Then don’t make love like a slave.  (A look of hesitation is overcome by one of ferocity as she quickly changes places with Doreah).  Very good, Khaleesi. Out there he is the mighty Khal, but in this tent he belongs to you.
Daenerys:  I–I don’t think that this is the Dothraki way.
Doreah:  If he wanted the Dothraki way, why did he marry you?

From behind
From behind

The scene changes to Daenerys lying in wait on a fur-line bed, candles burning everywhere.  Khal Drogo walks in with a look of confusion on his face as he makes a slight hesitation.  He immediately takes his place behind her.  “No,” she tells him firmly.  He pushes her onto her hands and knees.  She turns around and tells him, “Tonight I will look upon your face.”  She means business and will not submit to him.  He tries one last time to turn her over (although it was a feeble attempt), but she stands her ground.  She mounts him and begins to grind her man.  He grabs her breasts and caresses her ass.  He sits up and they begin to grind together; the whole while they are facing each other and staring into each other’s eyes.

Later we see Daenerys riding on a horse (in pants and boots) with her adopted people and orders them to stop.  She dismounts her horse and walks away from everyone’s sight.  Her brother, Viserys, rushes to her, puts his hands on her throat and says, “You do not command me! I am the ruler of the Seven Kingdoms! I don’t take orders from savages…or their sluts!” He is removed from his sister and asked if she wants him punished for disrespecting her.  Everyone turns to her to wait for her command. She tells them not to harm him.  At this point, she realizes the power she has as the Khaleesi.  The Dothroki look at each other and shrug, but obey her nonetheless.  Later we learn that Daenerys is two months pregnant, which changes the game even more significantly. From that point on, we don’t see the Khal taking her from behind anymore.  In fact, the next bedroom scene is of them two intertwined naked in bed and she reveals to him that she believes their unborn child is a boy.  Naturally, they are both elated.

Later, Viserys attacks his sister yet again because he is still under the impression that he owns her.  He hits her, but she quickly gets up and tells him that she is the queen wife of a powerful leader and that she carries his son, and pretty much tells him that if he raises his hands to her, it will be the last time he has hands.  We see her confidence growing all the while embracing her new culture by eating a heart and speaking to her people in the Dothraki language.  Clearly she is becoming more confident in her sexuality, her role as a wife, and losing her timidness.

A pivotal moment for the Khal came after Daenerys goes shopping in the marketplace with her suitors.  They come upon a man who has offered wine, but after he learns that she is the Dothraki queen, he attempts to give her poisoned wine instead.  He is captured and awaits his fate tied to a pole in a tent.  Khal Drogo enters the tent and immediately approaches his wife.  He is overcome with emotion at seeing his wife and unborn child unharmed.  Previously he told her that he didn’t see the need to conquer the Seven Kingdoms and that he didn’t need a throne to sit upon, but a horse.  But upon seeing her safe, he vowed that he would march his army so that his son may rule “where the father of his wife’s mother” ruled. 

Eye Contact
Face to face and in love

Her first step, asking Doreah how she can become a better wife and lover to the Kahl, didn’t win me over at that point.  I knew she was taking initiative, but I wasn’t fully convinced.  What won me over was when she told him that she wanted to face him during their love-making.  To me, the most important step is taking control in the bedroom.  Doreah was right: “Out there he is the mighty Khal, but in this tent he belongs to you.”  My husband has responsibilities at work and others who look to him for guidance (at work and play), but in our bedroom, I have the power over him.  I can determine whether or not he starts his day off right by the intensity of our morning intimacy time; I can decide if his last half of the day will drag or not by telling him that I want him to fuck me hard that night; I can choose how our night will end by the ferocity and method of our orgasms.  Once Daenerys realized just how much power she yielded over the most powerful man of their people, he became malleable, taking her side over his captains and second-in-command.  I came to this realization too, and it allowed me to interupt Ryan in the middle of whatever he is doing on his free time and ask him to give me the attention I deserve.  I didn’t have to suck his dick or flash my tits in my face, but my initiative and enthusiasm during our intimacy time keep him in a loving mood (and wrapped around my finger!)

The love story between Khal and Daenerys is one of my favorite in entertainment history simply because I see myself in Daenerys.  At first she is apprehensive to marry Khal Drago, even reluctant, because of her fear of the unknown.  I would even go so far as to say she thought she was better than the Dothraki, which contributed to her fear.  This apprehension, this fear, that we know about her (which is not much to go by) lets us think that she is prude, obnoxious, and will probably make an awful wife.  The worse I thought of her, the more dramatic her change became.  But the good thing is she can only get better.  Once she discovered her role as a wife, the Khal, in turn, discovered his role as a man.  The better she made him feel in bed (using her new-found confidence and sexual prowess), the more she became his.  Not as a thing of property or bartering the way Viserys treated her, but something of worth and in need of protecting.  She gave the Khal something that he never had: a wife, someone who would love him in and out of the bedroom, someone respected him out of love and not fear, and someone who was going to ensure his legacy – a child.  He became Daenerys’ personal bodyguard, someone he did not want hurt physically or emotionally.  His role as a protector became even more important because she made the decision to make her man happy in bed.

And for those of you who wanted to see a giant’s giant penis… introducing Hodor and his swinging telephone pole.  Hodor’s penis:

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You can find hidden wisdom in everything, including the “Game of Thrones.”  As much as I love the idea of  being fucked from behind and crying as Ryan holds my head to the bed, I equally love looking deep in his eyes as he releases inside me.   As a woman, even with a show I’d consider gruesome, and slightly softcore porn (not really – inside joke), I can still find random gems to share with my readers. 

Also, we need more  of those amazing Hodor scenes.  Oscar worthy in my opinion.

Man Accused of Throwing Semen at Wal-Mart Shopper

FRANK-SHORTOn Tuesday, July 9, 2013, Frank J. Short was arrested for allegedly throwing a load of his own semen onto the back of a 20-year-old female shopper at a Walmart in New Castle, Delaware.  He later told police, he thought the woman was attractive.

The victim was texting when Short, 22, allegedly walked past her, saying “Excuse me.” Seconds later, she “suddenly felt something wet on her buttocks, thigh and leg,” according to a Delaware State Police report obtained by The Smoking Gun.

At first, she thought that Short had sneezed or spat on her, until she noticed the semen dripping  just below her knee, Delaware Online reported.

Short continued to follow the victim around the Walmart until she went into the  Employees Only area. Two workers there escorted her to the security office where she called the police, WPVI-TV reported.

Delaware State Troopers arrived at the store and charged the suspect with offensive touching with bodily fluid, harassment, lewdness, and disorderly conduct, CBS Philly reported.

When troopers interrogated Short, he first told them he had accidentally “flung” some mucus on the victim after sneezing into his hands. Then he said that he threw some of his spit on the victim whom “he felt was hot,” Gawker reported.

After further interrogation, he allegedly told officers he “basically gets a thrill out of such an act.”

As reported by David Moye of The Huffington Post

The Sims – It’s More Than Just A Game

The SimsI play games but I enjoy the more progressive style ones that gradually level you up as you play.  I’ve never played “The Sims,” but I have played something similar to it.  However, I still understand the gameplay and understands how it works.

When you start, your character walks around and you can see the bars above their heads indicating if they are happy, sad, bored, etc.   People pay money to play this game, and I get why.  It’s fun to develop your character, get a good job, get a handsome husband, build a huge house, and have a bunch of kids, all of which you can halfway monitor in three hours time.   Life in a nutshell.

This morning, Ryan was tired and sometimes his sex talk is still in “dream land.”  I know he has never played “The Sims,” but for whatever reason, as I was giving him a blow job upon him waking up, he mumbles, “Fill my ‘mood bar’ and make me a better man today.”  At first I slowed down and thought about what he said, but continued to fondle his balls and slowly suck his dick.  The more intense I got, the more his body tensed up.  Eventually he moaned, “Make me arrogant and cocky.. I want to feel like a man at work.   My mood bar is halfway there, keep going…”

At this point, I knew what he meant.  I am unsure as to why he made this reference as I have never seen him play “The Sims,” but it definitely helped motivate me.  Life really is simple.  My man wakes up, I look over to him, I visualize his ‘mood bar’ is low and he is still tired.  If I am loud or wake him up rudely, his ‘mood bar’ continues to drop.  It’s not like work is going to make his mood any better, or the drive home in traffic.   At the end of the day, I end up with a husband whose ‘mood bar’ is rock bottom.  If I were playing a game, I know I would never let my little fake computer binary coded character let his happiness bar drop all day.  I would do everything I can to get it as full as possible and keep my character replenished and ready to take on any obstacle in the game.  So why wouldn’t I do the same for the man I love and chose to spend the rest of my life with?

For a man or person to be productive, they need to be happy and motivated. I have this power. As a woman, as a wife, as a sexual partner, I have this absolute power over my husband to control and help his moods. Not a power to tell him what to do, not a power to be bossy and bitchy, but a power to make him a better man. The power to make his day better. The power to make him function and come home happy. I’m reminded of the father from “The Wonder Years” and how he would come home pissed off and just sulk. For years, I watched Kevin Arnold”s father act this way: grumpy, tired, not bending in his ways, and someone you’d walk on eggshells around. Not that the character would change if Kevin’s mom sucked his dad’s penis more, but it’s how some fathers and men are viewed.   The Al Bundys.   I do not want that in my man. I want him in a good mood with our kids, I want him in a good mood with me, I want him texting me throughout day telling me how he had so much fun before work, I want him to think about me the whole day, and I want him to come home excited about being there. How do I do all that? I fill his mood bar every morning. It doesn’t make sense not to. I wouldn’t ignore a fake video game character’s mood, so why the fuck would I ignore my husband’s?  I have the power each morning, to wake up, check my husbands red “mood bar” and turn it bright green.  It’s my responsibility as a caring wife to ensure his life and health are at maximum capacity.  The more I slurp, the higher the bar goes up. The more enthusiasm I show, the quicker the bar goes up. Eventually, I end up with a husband who asks ME to stop (as in all my previous articles – usually in the morning we do not orgasm), gets up and grabs my face, and kisses me and calls me the best wife in the world.  My red bar immediately begins to rise. On the way to work, my phone rings. It’s my husband wanting to chat and talk. My red bar turns slightly green. At work, I get text messages, quick phone calls, and reminders of me being on his mind (daily), my own bar is bright green.  My mood is happy.  I know I am the only person in the world who wields this power over my husband. And for this, I ensure my husband wants to have lunch with me, wants to see me after work (sometimes right on the table in his office), can’t wait to get home to me, and is just a better man and friend.  This is all because I pay attention to his mood bar in the morning. Life really is THAT simple. It only gets complex when you add reasons to why you can’t fill his mood bar, rather than just being the best player you can be. I play the game to win.

Quarter 2 2013: Top 10 Sex Blogs

top10Our reviews are based off a database which keeps track of various categories:   Media, Originality, Updates, Variations, Entertainment, and a few other categories which will remain unpublished.  We have a few trusted friends and fellow authors helping us rate each blog submitted.  We then calculate and review the top 10 blogs in the database.    Yes, we have an actual system.  However, our system is still just our opinions.  No blog listed below will be eligible for another Top 10 list until the end of the year Annual Top Blogs list (the only blogs eligible for the ‘year-end Top 10 list’ must be a previous quarter listee of that same year, and must have our top 10 logo displayed somewhere on their website we can see).

This quarter we added another element to our blog criteria: Twitter accounts.  I was surprised to find so many sex blogs out there without a Twitter account.  Twitter allows you to talk to your readers, provide instant feedback, updates, and events.  If you pride yourself in being a 21st century blogger, you have to offer the means in which you can keep contact with your readers.  Here we present our top 10 blogs of the second quarter of 2013: (twitter / blog url)

10. @madame_mischief:  (Madame Mischief Blog)
Madame Mischief’s blog became a favorite of ours because of the narrative between two lovers.  It provided a unique insight into the intimate telephonic lives of our male and female protagonists.  This was the first time we’d ever seen this type of format in a sex blog, which was somewhat of a soap opera, drawing us in with naughty subsequent dialogue of this series entitled “Digital Sex.”  Follow them as their adventures bring them closer and closer to a potential real life liaison…

9. @erogenoUSblog:  (erogenoUS)
I snickered under my breath while reading “Dr. Ruth Lied To You: Size Does Matter” as she uses personal experience to prove it.  She says in her closing statement, “your mileage may vary.”  But to see her say, “Yes, size does matter,” is probably one taboo revelation that women are careful to admit.  She will also take you shopping for clothes while finding a photo op in the dressing room, showing us another intimate side we rarely see anymore: one that is fully clothed.  I am confident that the woman behind the words will find a way to continue blogging, and for the sake of her readers, I pray she does.

8.  @LadyPhryxus:  (House Phryxus)
Lady Phryxus is the main writer for the House Phryxus blog which is filled with her writings on various BDSM experiences.  She frequents events, specialized parties, and partakes in many events.  Admittedly, I have dabbled in BDSM and similar activities, but do not have the interest (or pain tolerance) to incorporate it into our sex life on a regular basis.  However, that does not mean I can’t appreciate Lady Phryxus and the various “plays” described in her blog, e.g. age play, wax play, and knife play.  I can find the value in the myriad ways in which couples add to their intimate lives, and Lady Phryxus certainly does not disappoint.

7. @bedheadtweeting:  (The Redhead Bedhead)
I, Venice, read the “About” section first and foremost to get a feel of who each blogger is.  In this case, the Redhead Bedhead seems to have written her bio while thinking of me.  She is sassy, witty, and I can read her stuff all day.  What drew me in immediately was an article entitled, “If anal sex makes you gay, do tacos make you Mexican?”  It opens with the statement, “How we miss out when we confuse activity and orientation,” which sets the tone to the type of openness she and her blog portray.  Check out Ms. Bedhead as she coaxes you into her savory world, recently found and luckily for us, has chosen to reveal with us.

6. @wickedgayblog:  (Wicked Gay Blog)
This wicked gay blog explores everything gay in news, politics, pop culture, photography, and the gay community in general.  It’s not limited to featuring hot male figures to which men and women can ogle; it’s a smart, sexy site that poses serious topics such as “When Straight Men Have Sex With Other Men.” Guys, don’t be afraid to check out this blog.  If you do, it doesn’t mean you’re gay, but are confident enough to enlighten yourselves.  If you assert your open-mindedness, it’s imperative that you explore a blog such as this.

5. @wqebelle:  (William Quincy Belle)
Is not the conventional sex blog that is normally filled to the brim with sex-related subject matters which we are accustomed to reading.  We tend to forget that sex is simply not just about positions, orgasms, and how to add to your belt notches, but tangentially speaking, but also about marriage, relationships, divorce, the media – the list is endless.  Mr. Belle touches on many topics, and these are just a few of them.  Check out his blog and the section endearingly titled, “$0.02.”

4. @sexinwords:  (Sex In Words)
Sex-in-Words is not only filled with Jon Pressick’s musings, but invitations for discussions and thought-provoking topics that true lovers of sex are sure to enjoy.  His blog is fresh and is continually being updated.  A favorite of ours is Muse Monday, in which Mr. Pressick writes a short, delicious tale surrounding a steamy photo, rather than vice versa.  It’s a wonderful, innovative idea which he states serves to hone his writing skills and provide naughty entertainment.

3. @ladycheeky: (Lady Cheeky & Smut For Smarties)
Lady Cheeky invites you to Smut For Smarties, which implies that this is not the average sex blog filled with people in compromising positions of which your grandmother wouldn’t approve.  It’s much more.  It caters to lovers and thinkers alike, proving there is an art (and science) to human sexuality.  She appeals to sex educators and writers/bloggers alike as she immerses her readers with visual erotica, but also articles about sensuality, sexual education, sex tips…and much, much more.  Check out her book review of “After Pornified – How Women Are Transforming Pornography and Why It Really Matters” for a sample of her beautiful, sexually-charged brain.

2. @mollysdailykiss: (Mollys Daily Kiss)
Molly’s Daily Kiss claims to be the UK’s highest ranked sex blogger and after one visit to her blog, you’ll see why. I would have to say my favorite page on her blog is “My 101 Things In 1001 Days.” Complete with a timer to the deadline, a checklist, and the status for each task.  She is very fortunate to live in a culture-rich area which lends itself to #21: Create a page on my blog for my Scavenger Hunt images.  Then there are others (#48: Have my underwear cut off with a knife & #55: Be made to masturbate before a live audience) which lead me to believe that she has covered all the bases (PG to XXX).

1. @pennysblog: (A Penny For Your Dirty Thoughts)
Penny’s blog exemplifies everything a sex blog should be.  Her photos, both in black and white and in color, rival that of any professional model posing for a photographer, all elegantly done and complete with stories behind each one.  Her poetry is sinful and subtle (read “Things I Masturbate To” one of them being “the girl at the dentist’s who cleaned [her] teeth”).   Ultimately, she has reeled me in with her anal plug (review of the minx tail, atomic rose plug, the Tantus Ryder – all of the above) reviews and musings since I am a huge fan of plugs.  Everything about her blog is delightfully pleasing to the eyes and soul, a perfect combination, and one that is absolutely essential in your must-read list.

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