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October 17, 2018

Q&A: Did He Go To Far During Sex? He Stuck A Gun Inside me.

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He stuck a gun inside me during sex.  Did he go to far? Sex and Guns.

I told him he could use whatever he wanted as long as it was clean and wouldn’t hurt (makes no difference to me, it doesn’t turn me on so as long as it’s not anything big we’re good). I was on the bed, on my knees with my chest and face down on the bed (butt in the air) so I couldn’t see him. Well, he got his gun out of the nightstand and put it inside of me. I asked what it was and he asked if I liked it. I pulled away and flipped around and it was in his hand and he was laughing! I told him that was fucked up and he said it wasn’t loaded but I don’t believe him.

Did he go too far or was it my fault for saying he could use (almost) anything? I honestly never even thought about the gun otherwise I would have told him not to use it. I’m kind of angry at him over this.

Venice’s response to sex and guns
The really fucked up thing about this is that he laughed when he saw your reaction. He definitely wanted exactly that type of reaction from you by not telling you. What’s even worse, he turned an intimate moment, a moment where he was given your complete trust, and turned it into a laughable experience for him. How could he ever expect to be given free sexual trust reign again? If you do decide to let him “use anything” in you, be ready to take ANYTHING: a ziplock of leftovers, a bag of mud, or a animal shaped horse dildo. 

Sex and the things you do with your partner should be things you are comfortable with.  If you are angry, talk to him and let him know that putting a gun inside you, unloaded or not, is not something you are comfortable with.  I trust my husband, but part of that trust is knowing he wouldn’t attempt to shove anything that could hurt me.  It’s not your fault this happened, but because the communication wasn’t clear, things got a little carried away.  Make sure you are very clear with what you want shoved inside your vagina from here on out, and take this as a lesson learned.  Sometimes men go a little too far if you let them, so nip this in the bud so he isn’t shoving his collectors edition samurai sword in you next!  Sex and Guns.

Ryan’s response to sex and guns
This one is pretty straight forward.  First of all, a gun in a night stand is not clean.  It has all types of bacteria, oils, and grease that definitely do not belong inside your vagina.  They have dildos made from certain materials that aren’t safe to be inside you, so a gun definitely is not clean or safe.  He crossed a line.  You made it clear it had to be clean.

Communicate with him and let him know that you are not cool with having guns shoved up your vagina. I noticed that you said him shoving objects in you doesn’t turn you on.  Sometimes when people are disinterested, but still let their partner do things to them, they try to communicate or “teach” their partner that they are not “turned on” by certain things by having no real reaction or showing disinterest.  This is not how you communicate.  In their minds, they think showing disinterest will lead to him not wanting to explore his kink or do that type of thing again.  Showing disinterest will not be good for either of you. If you were showing interest, he probably wouldn’t try to shove something in you that would shocked a reaction out of you.  It may just be a cry for attention, or an angry attempt at showing you that if you don’t care what is in your vagina, then he doesn’t either.  Not saying he is right in what he did, because he is not.  I am just trying to figure out why he would shove a gun in you.  I think getting any type of response was his goal.  He got it.  A gun seems to be an “angry object.”  As a man, I get the thrill of it, but part of the thrill for me is Venice accepting it.  Maybe make an agreement that prior to sticking things inside you he lets you know what it is.  This seems safer than playing dildo Russian roulette with your back turned waiting to find out what the object he decides to shove inside you  is until after he pulls it out.  It also may help that you show more interest in his kinks and maybe react to his ideas or his excitement in seeing things slide inside you.  Being passive aggressive and unenthusiastic is one of the biggest factors in ruining a sex life.  Pay attention to what he is sliding in you.  Show enthusiasm towards his excitement.   If you were watching, you would have said “no” as soon as he touched his gun.Sex and Guns.

 

October 10, 2018

Ass to Mouth, Rim Jobs, Analingus, Ass Play, Safe?

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First, I am not going to blog about ‘ass to mouth’ with strangers, with random internet  partners, or with threesomes or foursomes in an open relationship.  Although we do not judge other couples and their life choices, it’s not what we do, so it’s not what I am going to blog about.   My blog regarding ‘ass to mouth’ is strictly between a husband and wife in a monogamous relationship.  I also want to make very clear that I am not a scientist or microbiologist.  I do not claim to have any factual truths other than I have always eatin’ Venice’s ass (she has done the same with me) as deep as my tongue can go, and  have never had any of the diseases mentioned below, in any shape or form in my adult life.  Venice and I have been tested for everything: hep, hiv, genital herpes, and more, and both have and have always had a STD clean bill of health. Is ass to mouth safe?

***I originally started this blog years ago with the intentions of showing that ass to mouth was not as harmful as we are lead to believe.  Sometimes in life, things seen as uncivil or “disgusting” to some people, get pushed as bad for all of us.  An agenda.  Anal sex, marijuana, and various other things immediately come to mind.  After putting up the good fight, I have now concluded that I can’t say ass to mouth is without risk. If you and your partner are healthy, haven’t eaten fresh seafood, and do not show any signs of being sick, analingus is risky, but much less risky.  However, so is kissing!   I will publish the blog below and let you digest all the information below for yourselves.  

Ass to mouth is a colloquial term used in pornographic movies. It refers to the withdrawal of a person’s penis from the receptive partner’s anus followed by the immediate insertion of the penis into the receptive partner’s mouth.  Can a person get sick from something already inside his/her own colon?  

This blog deals with two ideas.  Can sticking your tongue inside your partners anus, get you sick.  Can sticking your own anus bacteria into your mouth get you sick (sucking on a penis after it has been inside your anus).  These are two very different ideas.  One of the ideas deals with the concept of getting yourself sick with something already in your body.  For instance, can you catch the flu from swallowing your saliva that already has the flu germ on your tongue.  Think about that for a second. 

Are You Immune to Analingus and Ass To Mouth?

Before we start, I noticed this study that says that some people are immune to E. coli because of their genetic make up.  This may explain why some people can do all the nasty things their heart desires, without getting sick.  Is ass to mouth safe?

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October 3, 2018

Q&A: Help, My Husband had 17 orgasms in one session! Multiple Orgasms Question

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Help, My Husband had 17 orgasms in one session! Multiple Orgasms.

So, I was wondering how common this was… my husband (38) can ejaculate and orgasm multiple times without having a break in between and without losing an erection. I’ve been with a few guys in my time and they always go once and once they cum that’s it, game over for at least half an hour. But with my partner he can keep going until he gets physically tired/ or too sore to carry on. Our record was 17 times in one session. On the flip side I’m a female who’s never experienced a multiple orgasm because I think I have a strong refractory response. So my question is, how is this possible? He stops fully ejaculating (producing semen) after around 6/7 orgasms but the response is still the same. I’ve tried asking my husband if he was always able to do it and haven’t really had a definitive answer. I worry I’m not pleasuring him enough as well as I seem to link this with him having a high sex drive.

Venice’s response to a man with multiple orgasms:

Semen production seems to just be the byproduct of ejaculation, because if a man can ejaculate 17 times, it’s only natural to assume that he will not produce semen as fast as he can expel it. So after about 6 or 7 times, for him to be completely dried out…yea, that makes sense. However, I don’t believe this is an issue of you not pleasing him enough. Some mens’ libido is insatiable, and the only way things that can stop him from going on forever are pain (e.g. dry/chafed penis skin, pulled muscle) or stamina (e.g. each orgasm takes exponentially longer to achieve). It’s rare, but from reading online and seeing various questions like yours, a lot of men also do not have the refractory period that shuts their libido down.  Probably the ones with the really hot girlfriends and wives?!   Sex feels good. If he can easily get 17 orgasms out in the time it would take another man 1 or 2, then why wouldn’t he? 

My only advice here is, communicate with him and make him understand that after 16 of them, it isn’t quite as fun or special to you.  If it is, ignore this advice.  If it bothers you and you are bored because he keeps going, make sure to let him know.  Some men think  going forever means they are good in bed.  That’s not true.  Knowing when to stop makes you a great lover, not timing yourself and going forever.   

Ryan’s response to a man with multiple orgasms:

I used to masturbate prone which gave me the ability to orgasm without needing to be erect.  I made a blog about the effects this had on me later in life, one of them being I can also have multiple orgasms until I get tired. I think because I didn’t need an erection to masturbate, I could just keep going for as long as I wanted.  When I first started having sex with Venice, I didn’t even know I was supposed to stop until I was tired.  I would orgasm over and over until I couldn’t produce anymore semen and then stop.  The internet wasn’t as informative and there really wasn’t any place I could learn how a man should orgasm.  It was natural for me to cum and keep going.  Honestly, I don’t think Venice knew better either, because it wasn’t something we discussed or mentioned being different from normal sex. Neither of us was sexually experienced. Over the years I have gradually had orgasms where it was one major ejaculation and I stop.  In those cases, I do have a refractory period.  I am not sure if I learned to build up my release so when it does happen, I relax and just let everything in my body go.  Or gradually over the years, I cum once because I am tired after cumming once and don’t really see the need to keep going and make myself feel like I am dying from exhaustion.   There are still times I can release and ask Venice to keep going, or she will give me oral sex when I pull out of her until I cum again.  I can’t explain why or how I do this other than my sex drive is so strong, having an orgasm doesn’t take away how much I want to cum in her.  My body stays turned on because of how good sex was, not that I wasn’t satisfied.  If I wasn’t satisfied, not only would I have a refractory period, I’d have a hard time getting hard to begin with.    

It’s a compliment he wants you so bad.  If it bugs you that he keeps going, let him know.  Admittedly, without a refractory period, it’s easy to get “greedy” and keep going.  Sometimes the urge to orgasm makes you forget that there is a human underneath you that is exhausted, in pain, sore, and just wants to relax and wash.  Sex isn’t about torturing your partner just because you can keep going.

October 1, 2018

Lo-Fi Song Of The Month (October 2018)

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Lo-Fi Song Of The Month 

Ryan and I enjoy nothing more than lo-fi music, which is a mix of old samples, the imperfections of the vinyl crackle, loops from old jazz and blues records, with a nice hip hop vibe. It’s beautiful.  It is a relaxing music that you can just listen to and zone out.  We will be posting a few songs a month for those of you that enjoy more from our blog than just stories about sex.  With that said, these songs are great to give blow jobs to, massages, or just lay back and let your man give you oral sex.  Trust me, cumming to lo-fi takes it to another level.  

The definition of “lo-fi” (usually spelled as “low-fi” before the 1990s) evolved continuously between the 1970s and 2000s; the term was added in the 1976 edition of the Oxford Dictionary under the definition “sound production less good in quality than ‘hi-fi.'” Before the 1990s, there was virtually no appreciation for the imperfections of lo-fi music among critics, but this changed after the emergence of a romanticism for home-recording and “do-it-yourself” (DIY) qualities.  Afterward, “DIY” was often used interchangeably with “lo-fi”.

September 26, 2018

Making a Sex Cocktail inside your Vagina

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Making a Sex Cocktail with your Vagina.

So if you are not open minded and ideas about the body gross you out, do not read any further.  This is a drink made inside your body, mixing all the juices you and your partner have to offer.   

First you and your partner can entertain oral sex however you prefer it.  If you take turns or you 69 is your thing.  Both of you leave each other messy with saliva and really wet up each others genitals.  This is the first ingredient to your sex cocktail.  Next up is the fun part, you have sex!  This will mix your saliva, the froth from his penis, the natural juices inside your vagina.  Sound delicious yet? 

The next part is a bit tricky.  I’ve heard men have trouble urinating while erect, especially while having sex.  Ryan pulls his dick out and kind of rubs his head and as he urinates, shoves it all the way back inside my body.  This works great for us.  On top of his own urine, I will squirt throughout sex, let him pull out and I will squirt on his head, and he will insert himself back inside me and mix both of our flavors.

The final ingredient?  Both of you orgasm!  

When you are both done, his penis will be as sloppy as it can get, with both of your urine, his froth, your vagina juices, saliva, his semen, and your own orgasm fluids.  Enjoy the flavor and suck his body clean.  And if he is a man that is into the connection, your bodies, he will go down and drink from the holy grail of creampies.  A sex cocktail!

Below is a question from someone online that has shown interest in this type of activity:

Okay, so long story short, for a few months now I had a sexual fantasy about my boyfriend peeing inside of me. I watched porn and touched myself thinking about it, but didn’t bring it up to my partner yet.

I honestly have no clue where this fantasy came from, if it has something to do with being a submissive type, but the thought of it is so sexy and intimate to me, but being peed on doesn’t interest me.

Before I do bring it up to him (will still probably be a while since I’m not so confident about sharing this yet) I wanted to ask what are some of yours experiences? Is it unhealthy? Any tips? Thanks for sharing!

Venice’s response: 
As long as you both are clean, no infections or stds, you will be fine.  Although his urine may throw off the pH balance of your vagina, this can happen during normal intercourse or with a person’s semen that you haven’t been with before.  Women all over the world “squirt” urine during sex and continue to get pounded afterwards.  Your own urine would throw off your pH balance, like his would.  Your vagina can cleanse itself.  Does that mean you are guaranteed not to get a UTI?  No, you can get a UTI from taking baths, using too much soap in that area, panties being too tight, keeping semen inside yourself, and a 100 other ways.  

I did not want to argue over whether a “squirt” is urine or a females ejaculation, as I do believe a woman can ejaculate fluids, I have.  Although rare, it definitely wasn’t urine.  A lot of woman mimic these rare occurrences with urine.  I do.  This is why that topic is so confusing.  Sometimes it is pee, sometimes it isn’t.  

Ryan’s response: 
We are conditioned through society to feel like certain things are okay, while others are not.  If we didn’t know what sex was, it would seem like the most filthiest thing 2 humans can do.  Two bodies sweaty and rubbing against each other, kissing and sucking each others mouths and swapping saliva, both of your genitals dripping with fluids naturally lathering up for intercourse, then rubbing back and forth for an hour until you each cum inside each other.  Filthy huh?  Hell no, it sounds like I just wrote a love story and a new 50 shades of grey!  Urine is only as gross as your mind allows it to be.  Have fun!