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August 15, 2018

How To Make The Perfect Iced Coffee, Starbucks Style, Cheaper and Better with EXTRAS

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How To Make The Perfect Iced Coffee

We are not paid for any of the links below, I am only putting links to save myself from adding descriptions.  I will list all the items needed to easily create your own $4 dollar a day Iced coffee, with a taste just as good as Starbucks.

Supplies and Ingredients:  

Vremi Cold Brew Iced Coffee Maker  $16.00
Coffee Cups $16.00for 50 cups/lids
Long Straws $10.00 for 500 Straws
Starbucks Pike Place Roast, Medium $8.00
Torani Sweetener Syrup $11.00 
Torani Syrup Pump $4.00
Torani White Chocolate $26.00 (optional, this is an expensive extra)
Creamer (Original Coffee-Mate Liquid Creamer) $6.00
Whip Cream (Grocery Store) $4.00

Total:  $75.00 ($101.00 if you want the White Chocolate)

The only thing you would have to buy normally is the Starbucks Medium Roast, Creamer, and Whip Cream.  We now recycled cups, so it’s possible the cups and straws (2 to 3 years) could last us a full year.   Drinking a cup of iced coffee a day before work, this will cost you about 10 dollars every 2 weeks if you make it yourself, without the loss of flavor.  And I mean that.  If we include weekends, 14 days x $4 per venti iced coffee, it would cost $56 dollars.  For Venice and I both?  $112 dollars just to get our morning goodness.

First, let’s talk about the Vremi Cold Brew Ice Coffee Maker.  This is as simple as it gets.  You can get any brand of Ice Coffee Maker you want, I got the cheapest one.  And the truth is, I found this item because I was looking for a perfect glass pitcher (that seals) that could hold my hot brewed coffee over night in the fridge.  Little did I know, this thing not only holds it over night, you can actually brew your ice coffee with it.  Yes, it tastes delicious, much better than hot brew to us!  Simply fill this thing up, leave space for you to insert the filter and coffee grounds, and put it in the fridge for 12-24 hours.  We tried 3 different styles of coffee and unfortunately, I learned that the brands matter.  It wasn’t until I found the Starbucks Pike Place Roast that I captured the taste I was looking for.  I know, I thought the same thing (link here), the brand doesn’t matter.  Boy was I wrong.  This coffee almost has a french press style taste to it because it releases a lot of fine grinds into the ice brew, and it tastes amazing.  My first concern was seeing if ice brewing somehow didn’t eliminate the bacteria in the coffee.  Maybe I am naive, but buying coffee from a store, then pouring cold water in it and drinking it seemed wrong to me.  I felt that somehow the heat killed all the bacteria and made the coffee safe to drink.  Read below:

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August 8, 2018

A Woman Never Forgets – Coffee Brands Do Taste Different

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Years ago when Venice was buying various coffee makers and spending unnecessary money on different knick-knacks that make “great” coffee, I had to put my foot down.  Venice has a bad habit of obsessing on something for weeks, and then, well, letting it go.  Whether it be phone games, plants, growing plants from various vegetables, making coffee, building a floor mat in our bathroom made of rocks, or using a food dehydrator to make orange jerky.   Sometimes I have to put my foot down and say, “Listen, I can’t let you sit there and play Pot Farm every free hour of the day, I do not care that you just discovered a new strain of purple kush that you need to sell back for Pot Farm coins.” 

The following story is one of those times that I learned, “A Woman Never Forgets.”  

Venice came home from the grocery store with a large bag of coffee that said Starbucks on the front.  Back then I never had Starbucks. In fact, I thought anyone that did buy from Starbucks was a bit of a hipster.  Little did I know, a few years later I would be that hipster buying Starbucks iced coffee, and various collector mug.  I just wanted people to see  I was drinking Starbucks like, “Oh my God, he is drinking Starbucks yall, I am so jelly!” At the time of Venice’s coffee era though, I thought coffee was just coffee.  To me there was no difference between Folgers medium roast and Starbucks medium roast, other than hipsters buy the Starbucks brand because of the name.  I told Venice, please just buy Folgers or the store brand, it’s all the same.  She swore it wasn’t the same, but I didn’t listen. Although she disagreed, she did stop buying the Starbucks brand, and soon after the coffee era did end.  She no longer used the coffee maker and moved on to something else.

August 1, 2018

Q&A: Insecure in an Open Relationship

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Open relationship problems.   

For years my (33M) wife (33F) and I have talked about an open relationship for her, due to my sexual performance issues. Well we officially started in February, but I’m terribly insecure about certain things.

I know most open relationships are sort of mutual. However, ours started out I guess in more of an unusual way.

My wife is very very sexual, like she’s the kind of woman who want sex 2-3 times a day. In fact, many times we’ve done it 2-3 times a day. Our record is 8 times on weekend.

However, while our libido’s do match, my wife isn’t sexually fulfilled for two reasons:

  1. My premature ejaculation problem

  2. My penis isn’t big enough for her (she’s a definite size queen, we’ve tried 9″ dildos and she not only takes them with ease, but loves it so much more).

For years, she’s asked if having a fuck buddy on the side would be wrong. I’ve always told her yes she can, but when it came down to it, she backed out. Saying, she wanted to be monogamous etc.

Well, oddly what changed her mind was a conversation she had with a guy who told her he had a similar problem with his wife (low sex drive in her case). And his wife allows him to ‘play’ on the side and it never affected their love etc.

So randomly one day while at work in Feb, I got a text from her saying.

“I thought about our sex plan…..I’m ready to do it, I can easily have sex without feelings, my main concern all a long was whether you’d be ok”.

So to ‘test’ whether I’d be ok.

She and I went to a club, the plan was I stay at the bar while she danced and got frisky with different guys.

Well, I didn’t experience any jealousy at all. In fact, it was quite hot!

So we went a long.

She has 3 regular sex partners aside from me, and she’s had a 4 random one night stands in the last 5-6 months.

I have had 2, both very attractive girls. BUT, neither as fun sexually as my wife. Oddly I did last way longer with them than my wife, unsure why.

What’s bothering me though, is that my wife is having wayyyyy more sex than I am. She hooks up with each of them at least once a week, obviously having sex a few times each time they hook up.

One is her former boss, a stereotypical big black guy. One is her dance partner (something I don’t like and I’ll explain) and the other is a body builder who works at the mall (chill guy, I like him the best as he always asks her if I’m ok with this and doesn’t try to push her too far).

Why am I insecure now?

  1. She admitted to me that all over them are far far better in bed

  2. The most orgasms she’s ever had with me in a day is 5, she had 17 with her former boss and routinely has at least 3 each time

  3. During sex with me (which is more frequent now), she’ll tell me stories of things she does with them. Apparently, she’s far far more daring and exhibitionist with them. Especially with her former boss. I knew of things she did as she would tell me, but during sex she’d tell me little details that bother me a lot. Such as, how he chooses very slutty outfits for her to wear while with him in public. That pissed me off because for years I’ve tried and encouraged her and she was always too shy.

  4. She tells me a lot during sex how much their big bodies and cocks turn her on.

  5. I was fine with her dance partner and her hooking up. But I went to one of their Latin nights socials to spy on her a bit. I honestly, thought, like she said at first…that she’d be discreet. However, she was FAR from discreet. When dancing kizomba, they took it to another level and were basically dry humping on the dance floor. He gets very touchy with her, hand on her ass which almost no one else except a few married couples were doing. I confronted her and she admitted that yes, he sometimes gets a little too touchy in class but to her, it didn’t seem too inappropriate. But she did say, she’ll tell him about the hand on her butt issue.

So now, while I do like the fact that she’s getting sexually fulfilled and otherwise our open relationship is working well. She never hides stuff intentionally and we’re having a lot more sex too. Plus, I got to experience 2 other women, both of whom were very attractive.

I don’t want to stop her, but I don’t want to feel like such a shitty lover. I know, honestly I am at least for her.

Does it get easier?

Venice’s response:
I can make my answer short and sweet.  This is not going to get easier for you when the reasoning behind your open relationship is your penis isn’t big enough for her and you do not please her in bed.

Ryan’s response:
So you are more upset about him putting his hand on her butt while they dance and not him putting his penis inside her at home?   As most of our readers know, we are in an open relationship where we play with other women, as long as Venice and I are together.  However, none of these women fill a void that Venice lacks.  In fact, I end up loving my wife more after experiences because the women can’t provide me what she does:  Love, good sex, proper hygiene, and various other things. If I felt jealousy or I felt she wanted to be with other women because I didn’t give her oral sex properly, that would be a huge problem.  If she wanted to be with other women and use bigger strap-ons, because my penis wasn’t big enough.  I would not be okay with this either.  I will save any further criticisms to your situation because I admit I lack understanding.  I’d say you are in an open relationship for all the wrong reasons.  It won’t get easier.

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July 18, 2018

Project: 3 Days of Edging ( How To Make Bigger Cum Shots )

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Project Day 1:  How To make Bigger Cum Shots

Day 1  (Morning):
I woke up on day 1 in the morning before work with the alarm clock sounding off and my morning erection aching.  I lean into Venice and whisper in her ear to rub lube on her pussy.   She slowly grumbles because she hasn’t woken up yet, leans over and grabs the coconut oil and wets up her hairless crotch.  She is such a loyal woman.  Her patience and dedication turns me on so much.  She slides back into me, spoon position.  Her ass is arched back at the perfect angle so her pussy is right in my lap.  Without using hands I guide my hard dick into her lubed up tight vagina.  No matter how many times this happens, the first insertion is always met with a euphoric resistance by her walls.  A woman’s pussy is so tight before the penis gets a chance to loosen it up in the coming moments.  Venice, no matter how tired, always releases loud gasps as my dick slides inside her.  She loves it.  Her body craves the feeling of her walls stretching and the massage my dick gives her.  For the rest of the day her vagina will have to stay in her snug and hidden at work, smashed inside her wet panties, unable to breath. Uncomfortable and unused.  Tight and moist.  My morning dick is like a perfect stretch her body and womanhood needs.  Imagine the feeling of someone stretching between your toes after a long day walking in the tightest shoes, or putting your hands together and forcing your fingers backwards in a stretching motion after squeezing them all day.  It’s so relieving for our bodies to feel this natural stretch that releases all our tension and stress.  I give her that feeling with my dick.  how to make bigger cum shots and more cum

I move back and forth between going balls deep inside her pussy, to pulling my dick all the way out, and without hands, putting pressure on the rim of her ass.  No matter how hard my dick is, the head of my penis still has soft tissue that I can push against her anus and massage her rim.  I can always sense her slight hesitation because there is a chance that when my head penetrates her ass, she will get that feeling of needing to use the bathroom and ruin the moment.  The key is to go slow, push slowly, and only insert about 2 inches inside to let her feel the stretch, but not penetrate past her inner nerves that creates that uncomfortable burn.  This isn’t talked about much, but getting a woman to love anal depends on how much you warm up that first few inches, never rush in.  I don’t want to go deeper, I just want to feel her give her body to me, every hole.  I take my dick and slide it back inside her pussy.  She moans and really enjoys feeling her husband use both of her holes. how to make bigger cumshots and more cum

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July 11, 2018

Q&A: My Wife of 13 Years Just Told Me She Has Been Faking Orgasms

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My wife of 13 years just told me she has been faking orgasms. We’ve had what I thought was a good sex life but she just dropped the bomb that she can’t actually orgasm from penetrative sex and that she’s faked it all along.

13 years, we’ve done it hundreds of times and it was fake. Every single time.

I was stunned and am feeling deeply hurt, but from her point of view she feels like it was an overreaction. What should I do? Am I wrong to feel let down?

Venice’s response: 
Faking orgasms was something I could never do.  I don’t know if it was because I was stubborn or I just felt awkward |”pretending” to cum. Because of that, I disappointed Ryan so much in the beginning of our relationship.  Sex always felt great, but without extra stimulation or oral sex, pure penetration just couldn’t get me off.  In hindsight, knowing Ryan, maybe I should have “faked it till I made it,” because eventually it happened.  As much as I wouldn’t put on a show for Ryan and he couldn’t make me orgasm through penetration alone, I also provided nothing exciting for his mind sexually.  I was just laying there, unable to cum, eyes closed trying to concentrate on my orgasm.  My honesty made me fuck like a pillow queen. Truthfully, the theatrics behind an orgasm is much like moaning or screaming for a man, even if his penis is small.  Or telling a man with a smaller penis how big it feels inside you.  How good it feels stretching your walls.  Why is that bad to make sex better for him?  Obvious I understand it’s dishonest, which is why I had so much trouble with it, but it’s dishonest in a way that she just wants you to feel good about yourself.  She is being dishonest the same way a mother tell her ugly child that he is beautiful.  It may not be true, but a woman is naturally nurturing and likes to make sure her man feels good about himself.

Oh god, that was an awful analogy.  Sorry.

The point is, she was dishonest and I understand why you are hurt.  There is nothing you can do it about it now.  She may just not be able to ever orgasm through penetration, so hopefully you have been also taking care of her other ways:  oral, toys, fingers, or letting her play with herself to find out what she “really” likes.  If you felt your penis was the only thing giving her pleasure for 13 years and just found out that not only has she been faking it, but you also depended on just sex to get her off, take it as a learning experience.  Women need more.  I’d suggest going to a toy shop together, or going online, and finding a vibrating wand and see where that leads you.  

Ryan’s response: 
There are a lot of things you will have to deal with.  Firstly, trust.  If she can lie to you for years about that, what else has she lied about?  I understand your frustration and this is something you will have to work out with her.  If you love her, you guys should be fine.  Personally, I don’t see a woman faking an orgasm as a bad thing.  This might be because for years I had to deal with the exact opposite, but I will list off a few reasons why a woman may be faking her orgasms:

She loves you and wants her man to feel like the greatest man on earth.  That’s a woman’s nature.  Part of that idea means that she wants you to feel like you were perfect in bed.  Perfect means, you made her cum too.

She is insecure and scared that if you find out you aren’t making her cum, you will think something is wrong with her.  Maybe you won’t love her as much as your previous girlfriend that you made cum multiple times per night. A lot of women are really insecure about the inability to orgasm through pure penetration, although it’s much more common than most people think.  Unfortunately, once she fakes it once, it’s kind of hard to just stop faking it.  Usually when they stop faking it, it’s because they stop caring.  Hopefully in your case, it is because she wanted to come clean and maybe possibly relearn sex with you, so you both can enjoy it together.

Sex by nature conditions us to believe that we should end sex with a “happy ending.”  Most men do not stop sex until they orgasm.  Well, when you are on top of your wife she may feel awkward just staring at the ceiling like she is reading and issue of Cosmopolitan.  

The theatrics of having an orgasm makes sex fun and exciting.  Much like dirty talk or moaning.  As men, I can have sex and be completely quiet.  In fact, when I first had sex I didn’t make a sound.  Venice made it clear to me that she wants to hear me, so with a little bit of an open mind, theatrics, and just letting go of my inhibition, I moan and talk dirty to make her enjoy sex too.  That works both ways.

She may be faking orgasms to control your orgasms.  Personally, if Venice says she is going to cum, my prostate instantly fills up with semen and I have to strain to keep myself from orgasming as she enjoys hers.  However, she can tell when my body is getting ready, she knows when anything can set me off.  If she wanted, she could let me know she enjoyed her time with me and use her body language to help me finish sooner than I would have otherwise.  Maybe she is tired, maybe she is sore, maybe she doesn’t want you to keep going after you are done.  A lot of times women can be satisfied, satisfying you.  For years Venice couldn’t orgasm through sex and she would look up at me and let me know, “I love you, it feels great, but it just isn’t going to happen.”  As much as men want the truth, there were times I wished she would fake it because I felt maybe I deserved it.  Did I do everything right?  Did I go long enough?  I remember going for hours, my penis hurting, sweaty, and asking her what she wanted me to do, because I would have done anything to please her.  These days, knowing she can orgasm through sex, which took almost 12 years together, if she actually decided to fake it at times, I wouldn’t mind  or feel betrayed.  I feel like her intentions are good and she wants me to feel good about our sex.  She knows I care her needs, she knows I try, and she knows I don’t neglect her body, so why ruin the moment?

If your relationship is happy and you both are in a good space, I feel like her faking it was because she was protecting your ego.  She may have also been protecting herself from being judged as “flawed” as well.  Either way, once she started faking, she knew that when she stopped, she would have to let you know the truth.  Her lie lasted 13 years.  Hopefully you can work through that and find a positive resolution.  

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