Category: All Sex

October 23, 2017

Analingus Is A Normal Part of Oral Sex For A Man and Woman

All Sex Talk , , , , , , , 3 Comments

AnalingusAnalingus is a normal part of oral sex for a man and woman. So what exactly is anilingus?  

Anilingus / analingus is the oral and anal sex act in which a person stimulates the anus of another by using the mouth, including lips, tongue, or teeth. It is also called anal–oral contact and anal–oral sex; colloquial names include rimming and rim job. It may be performed by and on persons of any sexual orientation for pleasure or as a form of erotic humiliation.

Analingus Tip 1: Keep your sphincter and taint clean at all times.  Rather than using toilet paper to wipe, hop in the shower and clean thoroughly after using the bathroom.  This only takes a few minutes and truthfully, toilet paper doesn’t clean the ass, and definitely doesn’t clean the bacteria off your ass cheeks from the toilet seat.  One bad experience below can last a lifetime.  Hygiene is the most important part of a healthy “oral sex life”.     

Analingus is so much a part of oral sex that if you do not let your tongue slide down to his/her sphincter, you aren’t doing it right!  This idea is hard to accept for some men/women, because they think it’s gross or crossing a moral line.  Much like when boys sit around the locker room at 13 and think it’s gross to eat a woman’s vagina, or girls vow they will never suck on that weird-looking phallus that hangs between a man’s legs.  Sexual maturity and being with a partner you know is clean, you want to please, and you understand that the anal area on the human body is one of our first erogenous zones.  Now, I am not saying men/women should perform analingus on a one night stand or someone they just met, but there are men/women that will.  And these are the men/women that leave a lasting impression.  

A man's balls and penis hang and touch his ass area all day.The real question is, if you are giving a man a blow job that you feel is unclean an inch away from his balls, why give him a blow job in the first place?  I took this picture of Ryan one morning because I loved the way his body and penis looked when I first woke him up.  In hindsight, this photo is a good example of how a man’s anatomy hangs naturally.  As you can see, his balls and penis rest near his ass area.  Do I consider his penis or balls “tainted” (pun intended) because they touch his ass throughout the day?  Of course not!  I love it.  Thankfully Ryan is extremely self-conscious about his body and likes to keep himself shaved and clean, especially if I am about to give him oral sex.  And not just his balls and penis, but also his ass. 

Analingus Tip 2:  If you want to enjoy analingus, groom your crotch, taint, and ass area. This goes for the ladies and men.  If you want to send out your ass bat signal to your significant other, you will need to shave your ass area, specifically around your ass hole.  Although this blog is pro analingus, it is also pro grooming and taking care of yourself.   Ladies, as a bisexual woman, I am not coming near your ass hole if it isn’t shaved.  If you enjoy hair or have a hair kink, the make sure to shampoo, shampoo, and wash your areas thoroughly to keep it enjoyable to your partner.

Continue Reading Analingus Is A Normal Part of Oral Sex For A Man and Woman

October 19, 2017

The Psychology and Marketing Behind Magnum Condoms

All Sex Talk , , , , , , , , , , , No Comments

Magnum Condoms

Just because you see him packing the gold wrapper doesn’t mean he is packing the golden rod.   Magnum Condoms Magnum Condoms 

Marketing.

If by the time this blog comes out and I a missing, just know the illuminati of average sized men that all buy Magnum condoms got me.  

When Magnum condoms were first introduced to the world, I was young and told myself, “So yea, pretty much I will never have the need for those.”  Although I hadn’t had sex, I did buy a condom from a dispenser once and tried it on just to see what it was like.  Truthfully, this was probably the first time I realized I had a normal penis and told myself, “Hey, my penis must be normal because this fits fine.”  I just assumed the gold wrapper was for those chosen few.  And remember, in the 90s, all condoms came in silver or white wrappers. 

Years later, horny and wanting to masturbate differently, I went to the store and figured I would masturbate with a condom on just to see what it felt like to cum in one. As previously stated, I had tried one on, but didn’t have the perverted mindset to think of enjoying it back then. I was still a virgin so it felt kinky to me, almost like it would be a step closer to sex. At the same time, I could see how it felt to cum inside a condom while I was wearing, and how it felt afterwards if I kept stroking using the cum as lube (it felt great).  Nervously I grabbed the Magnum pack and palmed it so no one could see.  As I stood in line, I noticed the lady in front of me blushed a bit.  My heart was racing and I felt like I was announcing to everyone around my actual dick size. As it was my turn to be rung up, the cashier also blushed and had a big smile on her face.  I consider myself a pretty realistic person, not someone who sees false reactions based off how I feel.  I am a people watcher.  And I am telling you, the women that saw the box back in those days had the same exact assumption I had, if you had the Magnum, you were packing a huge dick.

Marketing.

 

Continue Reading The Psychology and Marketing Behind Magnum Condoms

October 18, 2017

The Average Time Sex Lasts (How Long Do You Last?)

All Sex Talk , , , , , No Comments

In middle school and high school the young folks sit around the locker room (or wherever it is your group of friends hung out and socialized) and talk about how long they lasted during sex with their girlfriends or pick on their friend who’s ex-girlfriend leaked the info regarding him only lasting a few minutes.  This type of talk is common place among the fellas, especially when their bodies are first introduced to large doses of testosterone called puberty.  Come to find out, in high school a lot of the boys around the locker room were full of shit.  I can still remember all the advice about how they will count sheep or go over their favorite baseball team’s roster to keep their mind off having an orgasm.  If they only knew that the chances of their girlfriend being in the 30% of women that can orgasm purely from penetration (in high school this statistic is probably 1% because none of the boys knew what the hell they were doing anyway), they’d enjoy themselves much more.  Or if they knew on average most men only last about 7 minutes before having an orgasm, they wouldn’t put so much pressure on themselves.    

It’s not exactly the most romantic statistic: Almost half of all men finish sex within two minutes, reports the New Republic by way of Dr. Harry Fisch‘s new book, The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups.

In an excerpt published on Nerve, Fisch notes that his patients are typically fixed on what the normal frequency of sex should be, but that quality — and therefore duration — should be of equal concern. He trots out statistics from previous sex studies to that end: that the length of the average sex act is 7.3 minutes, but an “astonishing” 43% of such acts are completed within 2 minutes.

This isn’t exactly breaking news. Alfred Kinsey determined decades ago that the majority of men ejaculated in 2 minutes or less. (Interestingly enough, a sex therapist recently defined intercourse lasting fewer than 2 minutes as premature ejaculation to the Daily Mail.)

But the New Republic points out that men, not women, are probably more likely to be most bothered by the figure. A 2004 study found that men reported a significantly longer ideal duration of intercourse than did women; both sexes had similar ideas about the ideal foreplay length.

So what’s a guy to do, other than get over it? A Swedish study offers one interesting course of action: Researchers had men who couldn’t make it more than a minute complete 12 weeks of pelvic floor exercises; their average ejaculation time rose nearly five-fold, from 31.7 seconds to 146.2 seconds, reports UPI.  Source: USAToday 

You’d be surprised if they did a study on how women actually prefer sex to be about 7 minutes.  Taking advice from a bunch of kids in a locker room on the idea of what good sex is, is never a good idea.  Ask your woman how long she would prefer you to last, so she is happy and comfortable.  It’s not how long you last, it’s how happy you and your partner are.  Some women (the 70% that can’t orgasm through penetration) are happy just seeing you pleased by their bodies, and if they can’t orgasm themselves through intercourse, the faster you cum, the better.

good sex good sex 

October 13, 2017

17 Things They Teach You At Blow Job School

All Sex Talk , , , , , , 2 Comments

Ever wonder what goes down behind closed doors at blow job workshops? Wonder no more! 

1. Start slow. 

“It’s fun to start soft. Let your partner get hard in your mouth, without any motion. Just let them experience the warmth of your breath and wetness of your tongue then gently begin to suck. Anticipation will make your partner even hotter.” ― Rebekah Beneteau, a sex, kink and intimacy coach and co-host of the webinar “The Joy of Oral: Make Your Next Mouthful Matter”

2. Don’t shy away from lube.

“People often think that their own saliva will be enough lubrication to get the job done. It’s actually best to add a bit of lube to get started: either water-based or silicone. After a few minutes, you may build up enough of your own juices to keep the action going. Sucking on a hard, sugar-free candy can also help you build up saliva.” ― Melissa Jones, a sexologist and executive director of the Sexology Institute and Boutique in San Antonio, Texas

3. Get handsy. 

“Remember: A good blow job is 50 percent hands. Using your hands, with even pressure and friction in concert with your mouth, does more than what your mouth can do on its own. It can make or break a blow job experience.” ― Elle Chase, a sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life

Continue Reading 17 Things They Teach You At Blow Job School

October 13, 2017

Parents, Don’t Forget Anal Sex When Having ‘The Talk’ With Your Children

All Sex Talk , , , , , , No Comments

I hate to “butt” into your discussion about the birds and the bees, but it’s time to start including anal sex in “the talk.”

Discussing sex with any teenager can be uncomfortable for all parties involved. My mother started talking to me about sex at the first sight of facial hair growing on my chin. I remember how dreadfully I wanted to crawl out of my skin; in retrospect, I’m sure she felt the same way. Throughout our discussion, she told me about how the penis is inserted inside of the vagina, how one drop of male ejaculation can impregnate a woman, and about the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases/infections. Our talk about the birds and the bees was largely based on the same heteronormative methods most parents guilelessly follow, even today.

However, regardless of one’s sexual orientation or gender identity, every person has an anus — well, almost everyone has an anus, according to NBC News — and can participate in anal sex. But like all forms of intercourse, anal sex comes with a risk, perhaps the greatest risks in comparison to all other sexual practices. Some of these risks include:

Increased risk of exposure to sexually transmitted diseases or infection

“Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream” WebMD says. Many sexually transmitted diseases and infections come from bodily fluids; tears in the anus increases the chance of bodily fluids entering through the tears and directly into the bloodstream.

Risk of permanently damaging the anus with personal hygiene upkeep

According to Dr. K is Jeffrey D. Klausner, “Douching could have some serious negative effects. First, frequent douching may compromise the natural protective fluids and lining in your anus.” When the body stops producing these fluids, it becomes more prone to tears and infections, which will make passing stool — or even sitting —extremely uncomfortable. Also, some of these instruments are not rectum friendly and will cause ulcers.

Risk of weakening the anal sphincter

“Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet,” according to WebMD. Kegels can prevent this.

Risk of causing infections, even if both partners are negative for all sexually transmitted diseases and infections

“Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner” — WebMD. The anus naturally has bacteria, and depending on the insertive partner’s personal hygiene, they can be exposed to urinary tract infections.

Strangely enough, “Teen Vogue”’s “Guide to Anal Sex” greatly infuriated many parents. One parent, in particular, known as the Activist Mommy, tweeted a video of her furiously ripping and burning a “Teen Vogue” June edition magazine.

“They are teaching kids how to have anal intercourse. We should not be teaching children, period, how to have sex,” she said during her impassioned tirade. As she ripped the glossy magazine page by page and threw the remains into the small campfire, she called the “Teen Vogue” writers and editors “garbage” and requested that all parents go to their local libraries and stores to demand the expulsion of “Teen Vogue” content.

The controversial “Teen Vogue” article simply introduced safe practices for those that engage or plans to engage in anal sex. Some of these tips include using water or silicone-based lubricants to avoid rectal tearing, the significance of using condoms, and why one should go slowly during anal sex.

Absurdly, some parents falsely trust that their children will abstain from sex if they never learn about it. However, just because you didn’t teach your child about sex, it does not mean they can’t learn it from somewhere else. Some people, like my own mother, never had their parents talk to them about sex, but they still learned about it through pornographic films, sexually active peers, and other outside entities.

“My father told me to not let anyone touch my fur burger,” my mother said. “I didn’t even know what a vagina was until I was about 14-years-old.” She learned about sex after finding my grandfather’s collection of pornographic films. “Two years later, I was pregnant with you.”

According to National Center for Biotechnology Information’s study, and many others, children that have “the talk” with their parents are more likely to postpone sexual activity until they are older, and will often use protection while having sex.

Nevertheless, some parents might wonder what the appropriate age is to start discussing sex with their children. It is recommended to begin as early as 2 years old. It is not recommended to begin any discussion about sex being judgmental. Never make a child feel convicted before they actually engage in risky sex; otherwise, they won’t trust you, which means they won’t talk to you about anything.

Parents, if your children are really what you hold near and dear to you, their health must come first. Therefore, the talk about the birds and the bees has to happen, and it has to include anal sex. Heteronormativity must be dismantled in all conversations about sex. Remember: Children are crafty individuals. If you don’t share your knowledge about sex with them, someone else will. Ready to assume that risk?

 

Source: RSS Feed Huffingtonpost