How deep is too deep? Can Hitting A Woman’s Cervix Be Bad For Her Health.

too deep cervix sexIs cervix penetration possible? 

No.  Your cervix can’t actually be penetrated. That’s because the opening of the cervix, known as the external os, is too narrow for a penis or dildo to enter. It’s usually no bigger than your thumb.

The external os is the opening found on the extremity of the extocervix. The extocervix is the vaginal portion of the cervix projecting free into the anterior wall of the vagina. The external os has anterior and posterior lips. The anterior lip of the external os is shorter and thicker.

The only time the cervical opening expands wide enough for anything to pass through is during child birth.

Is a cervical orgasm really possible?

Yes, women can reach an orgasm through vaginal and cervical stimulation, without stimulating the clitoral glans.  It’s definitely possible, but it isn’t for everyone. However, a more reliable way for a woman to reach an orgasm, is through clitoral stimulation (not penetrative).  

Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse.

Only one-quarter of women reliably experience orgasm during intercourse—no matter how long it lasts, no matter what size the man’s penis, and no matter how the woman feels about the man or the relationship.

This statistic comes not from just one study but from a comprehensive analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her fascinating book The Case of the Female Orgasm (Harvard University Press).

As an analogy for the fellas, we will list comparable male orgasms that also do not require stimulation of the glans.  Specifically, prostate orgasms.  This can be achieved from inside the anus or by rubbing the testicles along with the taint and anus area from the outside.   Also comparable to a man stroking his penis but staying under the tip of the penis.  The vibrations, the movement, and the pushback, all create an orgasm with little to no direct stimulation of his glans.    While both men and women can enjoy hands-free orgasms by a simple kegel technique which involves clenching your pubic muscles, which can lead to orgasms with both genders.   Not to mention, the hands-free naughty secret of a lot of women, syntribation

But back to the cervix (pun).

Deep penetration can cause the vagina to contract, much like a clitoral orgasm can do, without the huge slow build up.  I have noticed that if I have deep penetration orgasms, it just hits me all the sudden and I get this insane high that numbs my entire body.  No matter what is going on, I want my man’s thrusting to be much harder.  This feeling can last for as long as he can thrust.  So the end of this orgasm for me, is when my husband stops thrusting.  Which is usually due to him orgasming with me.  But he knows, when I am at the point, keep going for as long as possible, punish my insides, and get as deep as you can.  This feeling gives me the ultimate sexual high.   And as previously stated in various blogs, this orgasm is nothing like a clitoral orgasm.  

morning woodCan you injure your cervix?

Yes, it’s can actually bruise your cervix.  

The first time I had a bruised cervix, I thought I was dying. I woke up and felt cramps that were worse than any period cramps I’d experienced in my life, even though I was weeks away from my period. It was like someone was stabbing me with a red-hot fire poker, deep down in my gut, over and over again. I knew that something was wrong — the pain was so bad that I broke out in sweats and threw up — but I had no idea what it could be. Food poisoning? The worst hangover of my life? I didn’t even consider that I could be bruised inside my body.

Your cervix can be bruised depending on your position, your partner’s size, the thrusting aggression, and/or if you aren’t turned on enough.  It could be all of the factors above, or just one.  I’ve experienced these cramps as well as bleeding the day of and after particularly rough sessions.  There have even been times where even standing up straight has caused sharp cramps in my lower stomach.  Imagine walking to the bathroom after sex, slumped over hobbling like an elderly grandma to the bathroom.   Every man’s dream huh?!

For the record, I’d suggest for anyone reading this blog that is dealing with bleeding after sex, go see your OB-gyn.  It could be an ovarian cyst bursting, among other things, and it’s better to be safe than sorry.  Especially because these types of things can lead to an infection.  For me, it was simply a bruised cervix.

Thankfully, as we get turned on, our vaginas expand and can get up to 7 inches in length.   However, not all of us have the same size vagina, much like men do not have the same size penises.   If you are having pain during sex that is uncomfortable, let your partner know.  Although there isn’t much information regarding long-term health issues with being fucked by a large cock, I’d assume it’s safe to say having someone torture you daily with a huge dick isn’t going to be healthy for your body long-term.   Communication is the key. 

 

The Pushback -The Untalked About Mechanism Used To Create Better Orgasms For Men

The Pushback – The Untalked About Mechanism Used To Create Better Orgasms For Men

The Pushback is a descriptive word that can possibly help you understand the mechanics behind sex and the male orgasm that hasn’t really been discussed before.  And what’s really cool, just understanding The Pushback can possibly help you give you and your partners better orgasms.  So let’s get into the important stuff shall we?

A great example of the mechanisms in action during a man’s orgasm.  The area spasming is the perineum (also known as the guiche/taint).   This is also the base of the penis (under the balls towards the anus) where the prostate is located.

 

The Pushback, The Mechanism Behind A Man’s Best Orgasm

Fellas, you can make your orgasms much better if you know what exactly is causing them.  Let’s start with a simple example so we can all be on the same page.  Ladies you can follow along too! Make a cylinder with your hand and gently put it around your thumb.  Now move your thumb slowly in and out.  You will feel a slight tickle sensation across your thumb’s surface area.  You will also feel that you have a good sense of all the various textures and ridges in your hand. Now, do the same thing except squeeze your hand tighter around your thumb.  As you move in and out, you will notice that you actually feel less detail of the hand because of the pressure surrounding the thumb as a whole.  However, you can feel the resistance and it is obviously much tighter.  Now ask yourself, why does a tight vagina or anus feel so much better than a loose one?   First, your penis isn’t your thumb.  It is much more sensitive and has very sensitive nerve endings at the tip of the head and frenulum area.  The tight sensation around your penis also creates much more friction as it  rubs through a woman’s walls.  The idea of friction makes immediate sense, because if it’s tighter, it creates more friction and that just better around our penises right?  So this is why tight pussy feels better?

Not so fast… Sex Secrets Slowed Down

There is more.  Go back to putting your hand around your thumb and squeezing.  As you move in and out, I want you to pay attention to the knuckle at the base of your thumb.  In fact, you can actually visually watch your knuckle respond to the motion as you move your thumb in and out of the hand.   The tighter you squeeze, the more resistance, the more you will see that thumb knuckle move around the base of your thumb.  That is what we call “The Pushback.”  And that knuckle in comparison to your penis, is your prostate.  

If you are following along, I feel like this is the moment the light bulb goes off in your head and you have just been awoken.   It’s that simple.  Something that has never been put into words or talked about, makes all the sense in the world when you finally hear it.   Let me let you take your time to register that example for a second. The  untold Sex Secrets.

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Do you ever get turned on or wet during a Brazilian Wax?

Brazilian WaxDo you ever get turned on or wet during a Brazilian Wax?

We have always tried to help our readers with the various things they go through in their life, from How To Shave Your Balls Properly, to Learning to Deepthroat.  Today we are going to go back into the grooming area and talk a bit about being embarrassed to go to a professional for a Brazilian Wax.  

Hey, my husband had his penis tattooed, so getting a wax should be a piece of cake right?

What is a Brazilian wax?

With a Brazilian wax, the pubic hair is groomed and removed from the front of the woman’s pubic bone, around the external genitals (labia), between the upper thighs, and around the anus.

Depending on your preferences, you can choose to remove all hair in the area or leave a small strip of hair in the front.


 

Is Getting Wet Embarrassing or Normal?

To ease the anxiety people feel with going to an esthetician for a Brazilian Wax, we have gathered responses from people who spoke about their experiences getting their private areas waxed, and what they felt about getting wet or an erection during an appointment.  Should you be embarrassed or not?

I got very wet the last time I visited my waxing place. It’s not because I was sexually attracted to her. It’s because my new aesthetician was very silent during the process which shifted my focus on the physical stimulus. The ones I’ve had before usually kept me engaged in conversation which kept me distracted.  I can’t lie, I am actually too embarrassed to go back to the same aesthetician.


I got extremely wet last week when I went and got mine done. Even worse, it was my best friends new salon she just opened and her waxer was training someone so there were two ladies elbow deep in my vagina. 


I used to get laser down there and I didn’t get aroused but sometimes I felt wet wet because it just gets wet for no sexual reason sometimes.


I get wet every time I get waxed, the temperature just does that to me. I guarantee they’ve all seen this reaction before and don’t care. I’ve taken to just taking a pack of wipes and going “wipe break” when I can feel things going on, or tbh sticking a tampon in before my wax and tucking the string in to keep things “contained”. I’ve talked at length with my waxer about her “horror stories” and I promise that a vagina behaving like a vagina is going to be the absolute bottom of her wtf ladder.


Getting wet is very common, and not even in an aroused sort of way. I’ve got a great wax lady and she works with the speed of light on Brazilians – she says mostly because it’s common for the vagina to start self lubricating after about five minutes. A general fear / pain / stimulus response.

So I guess if you’re gonna get wet anyway might as well be the pleasant kind. They probably can’t tell nor care, aside from it being a bit of a hassle?


Totally normal. I actually got aroused the last couple times due to the level of pressure the waxer used when doing the prep wipe. That didn’t phase me one bit. Her always being behind schedule…. a whole different story


 

The Brozilian Wax 

Women aren’t the only ones that get a Brazilian wax.  Some men refer to them as “Brozilian” but here are a few of the fellas responses:  

I’m a guy who routinely gets Brazilians. You just gotta ask around for a place that will do guys because I’d say at least half won’t. You just treat it like it’s business and no big deal, because that’s what it is.

I had several waxings done with no issues so I was feeling pretty confident about my ability to ummmm “control” myself. Then for whatever reason, I just started getting an erection during one. Not like full on, but a good half chub and I fought that shit like my life depended on it. I was super embarrassed and there is no way the aesthetician didn’t notice, but she continued on and the chub went away like it never happened. I thought that would never happen to me, but it did, and it wasn’t a big deal. I think I handled it as well as one could and I’ll go back once this pandemic is over.


I get an erection sometimes when getting waxed. Sometimes I don’t. I’ve been going to the same person for years and she’s never even mentioned it, besides after the first time to reassure me it happens and not to worry about it.

Just go back when you’re hair is long enough and get the same person if she did a good job. If she didn’t then ask for someone different.


I got a boner the last time I went for a Brazilian wax, which was particularly embarrassing because it was also a training session with a few newbies in the room observing. Fact of the matter is, it’s a job, they’re dealing with people’s privates as a part of the job. I’m fairly certain it’s just something that happens and I doubt they’ll pay it any mind. I mean, I get feeling embarrassed, but I’m also 100% certain that there is no need to dwell on it, either!

 

If this above happens, be embarrassed.   Getting an erection is one thing, but having an actual orgasm during an appointment with an esthetician in training?  Notice still, the experienced esthetician doesn’t even bat an eye.

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Q&A: Cleaning Your Bed Sheets Between Partners

I have a partner who has a lot of other partners. And I’m cool with that, I do see other people too. We usually meet and have sex at her place. Which suits me as well.

But as far as I can tell, she doesn’t seem concerned with the hygiene of her bedsheets.

I could have sex with her on it, finish on her bed, and she won’t mind sleeping on it afterwards. So she probably does the same with other people.

I already asked her before laying there if she was confident about the hygiene of the bedsheet. She brushed it off like it was a weird question and she was obviously sleeping on hygienic sheets.

The issue is that I’m pretty sure the bed would be dazzling if we put it under fluorescent light, if you know what I mean…

But maybe it’s completely unharmful and normal in the hookup scene, and everyone is aware of it, and nobody really cares…

So am I being weird with my wish not to be bathing in other people’s bodily fluids when I get on the bed ?

Venice’s response to cleaning bedsheets

It’s easy to forget how important it is to change your sheets when you have a new lover.  Whether it be because you are comfortable in your own bed, or you just have poor hygiene, change your dang sheets!  

In fact, change your sheets regularly regardless of having a new partner or not.  It’s just good hygiene to keep your bedding clean and smelling good.  Most of us sweat a lot while we sleep, so after a week or so, it’s time to change those sheets.

Ryan’s response to cleaning bedsheets

For me, this is obvious.  Whether inviting over a third person into our bedroom or after the third person leaves our bedroom, we change our sheets.  Especially with all the extreme things we do. For me, this is common sense. 

Future title suggestion: “Clean your genitals between partners.”   

The same can be said for the vagina.  Please clean your vagina thoroughly if you are sleeping with various men.  I understand that douche is bad for the vagina but so is another man’s semen on my crotch, or in my nostrils when I try to have oral sex with you.  If you have multiple partners and you let one of them cum inside you, please make sure it’s clean!  Whether you are a swinger (especially swingers because usually their spouse orgasms inside them regularly) or a girl that has various partners.  I get this may be some weird kink or something, but at least let the other person know.  We can clearly tell and…smell.  And I mean CLEARLY. 

Can you imagine a man sleeping with one woman, wiping it down, then sleeping with another woman the next day?   Baby, my penis naturally cleanses itself on my underwear, that smell is totally normal….

No.

 

Quarantine sex activities mirror

5 Sexy Activities To Do During a Quarantine.

5 Sexy Activities to do During a Quarantine.  

Really?  You guys need help figuring out what type of sexual activities you should be doing when you are stuck under quarantine?  

I don’t need help playing with myself during a quarantine, I’ve been doing this for years!

So other than masturbation, what sexual activities can you do during a quarantine?  We listed a few things below.

1. Dress up for yourself or your partner.

It doesn’t matter if you are married or single.  Dress up.  Put on something sexy.  If you have someone you can send these photos to, do that.  But there are times when looking at my own photos nude or with very little clothing turns me on.  

My husband and I found creative ways to use our masks to cover our bodies and send each other photos!  Talk about practicing safe sex!  This will be a future feature in naughty selfies once we get back to work!  Oh yea, we aren’t stopping with the naughty selfies (that we both normally took from our office bathrooms), we just had to put that hobby on hold while we work from home. 

2. Play sex games.

Whether it be a VR Sex Game or various sex games for couples, you can’t go wrong with gaming and sex.  Nothing can occupy your mind better than sex.  But a very close second is games.  I don’t care if you have to play candy crush and every time you beat an impossible level, you have to give the other person oral sex.  Whatever you can come up with, come up with it!  Sex game ideas are unlimited!

Leisure Suit Larry has prepared us well for this exact moment, make him proud! 

Quarantine sex activities mirror3. Grab a mirror and explore yourself and your insides.  

A lot of times you may be a bit too busy to sit down and really explore yourself.   Take this quarantine time to explore your body.  Grab a mirror, check out your body, your genitals, and even your ass.   If you are a man, explore under your balls, your guiche, your taint, and even your ass.  There is more to you that women are turned on by than just your penis.  Trust me.  Open your ass and take notice of how your rim stretches as you open it.  That’s why it feels so good around your dick (or you feel so good to him).  I’d suggest even sticking your fingers inside yourself and notice the textures, the warmth, and how tight it feels.  Both women and men can do this with their bodies.  Take time to educate yourself, learn exactly what makes you tick, and why your future partners may want to explore you the same way you just explored yourself!

4. Groom yourself

Why on earth would you jump in the shower, grab a razor, and shave as fast as you can?  Not only is this bad form, but it is also a tad bit dangerous.  Take care of your goodies.  And what better time than now to get in the bathtub, take your time, and shave your body properly.  Get every nook and cranny and get yourself nice and smooth.   Feeling good starts with looking good.  And what better way to look good than to get your body immaculate from head to toe.  This is the perfect time!

5. Start a sex blog!

How about that idea?  Although we have been doing this long before a quarantine, it really did start because we are both homebodies and introverts that enjoyed sex and blogging.  Welllllll…you are at home with nothing else to do except have sex and twiddle your thumbs.  Start a blog!  Start a pornhub account!  Start a social media account and share yourself!  Start anything you want to start, because…why not!  If this quarantine has taught us anything, life is short.  Way too short to worry about what others think of you.  Do what makes you feel good, what you enjoy, and don’t turn back.  And I will tell you this, no one, and I mean no one is reading this number 5 on this list that isn’t interested in sex and blogging.  In fact, maybe 1% of the people that view this page will read this paragraph!  And if that 1% was you, start a dang sex blog and share your adventures.