Threesome Memoirs – Our Last Threesome

After a little over a year of our memoirs, I decided to go back and organize a little better.  Below, I have redone the table of contents with links to each article.

Our Threesome Memoirs:

1         Bisexuality
1.1      My Awakening
2        His Story
3        Listing Ads on Dating Websites
3.1     Angry Lesbians and Studs
3.2    Crazy Men
3.2.1 Men Pretending To Be Women (Pat The Squirter)
3.3    The Man Hating and Pushy (Edith the Cat Lover)
3.4    The Young and Flaky
3.5    The Shy (Shai Wan)
3.6    The Intimidating (The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly)
3.7     Finding The Third (The First Meeting)
4        My First Kiss
5        Our First Threesome (Venice’s Perspective w/ Ryan’s commentary)
5.1     Our Second Threesome (Ryan’s Perspective w/ Venice’s commentary)
5.2     The Secret Lesbian
5.3     A Threesome From Every Perspective
5.4     A Different Type Of Double Penetration
5.5     Giving Him A Double Blow Job
5.6     The Naughty Lunch Break
5.7      I Fucked A Girl With A Strap On
5.8     Tasting His Cum On Her Pussy
5.9     Our First Sleepover
5.10   Foxy Brown
5.11    The Break Up
5.12   Face Fucking
6        Is My Wife Really Bisexual?
7        The Women I Want
8        What Is A Unicorn
9        Coming Down From The Threesome High

Extras:
What NOT to text your possible threesome partner
The DOs and DON’Ts
How To Have A Threesome (Parody)
What If Your Wife Wanted To Have A Threesome With Another Man?

our last threesomeThere are a few more experiences that are in the drafts that we may share, but today I am going to share our last experience.  Do I mean our last experience as in never again, or last as in the one that chronologically happened last?

Let me just go through the experience and if you make it to the end, you can help me decide what it all means.  I’m not going to glamourize this experience or make it seem like a steamy hot threesome.  I am going to describe what happened, and while it happens, I will try to take you through the other thoughts that run through my head.   With each threesome I’ve written about, there have been small moments where I leave out how I really feel, and instead focus on writing the experience as detailed and steamy as possible.  Because this blog is also a diary of our experiences, we’d prefer to read back one day and smile at the things we’ve done.  However, I have enough of those moments and I am not a sex author, so I will now do what I do best, and analyse my thoughts.  It’s important to remember, I am not talking about Venice or her thoughts at all.  How I feel, what I feel, may seem a bit narcissistic, but my selfish reasons for having a threesome isn’t the same as Venice’s. I will try to explore why I am having a change of heart towards threesomes and really no longer interested.

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Threesome Memoirs – Giving Him A Double Blow Job

bjSo far Ryan and I have had fairly positive experiences – for the most part. Do we regret doing anything we’ve done?  Not really.  I find purpose in every act in which Ryan and I have partook.  Every act, each person, all experiences – all were worth doing if it meant my man and I came away closer than before having done it.

For me, my absolute favorite thing to do in a threesome is the double blow job.  In fact, this is something I feel totally at ease with, and since I do, I can enjoy every aspect of it.  Since first revealing this to Ryan, he has asked me numerous times, “Why do you like double bjs so much?”  Rather than answer, “I just do.”  I felt we both needed a more thorough explanation as it helps to understand the female psyche (or at least mine) during this act which should otherwise be considered sacred by keeping it solely between husband and wife.

Let me begin by saying, for strictly monogamous couples, I believe a woman should do everything in her power to give her man the greatest blow job.  I may not be the best bj giver, but I know what my husband likes (enthusiasm, dirty talk, and variety in speed, content, and option for places to ejaculate, to name a few).  I, myself, have come to understand how to give Ryan the most visually stimulating as well as physically satisfying blow job.  The confidence I have knowing what he wants reflects my actions and attitude when another woman is helping me please my man.

Being a cheerleader.  I am excited, grateful, aroused – all of these things – when there’s a woman in my bedroom.  But since she’s the outside party, I do my best to make her feel safe and welcome.  If I were in her position, I imagine I would feel unsure of what was expected of me.  I would feel awkward, especially not knowing if there were boundaries that the other couple has discussed prior to me being there.  Since they take a chance at looking foolish I definitely do not want her to feel unwelcome. The most basic and probably most supporting thing I can do is to encourage her from the get go.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told the other woman, “Good girl,” “You look so fucking sexy with that dick in your mouth,” or “I love how that cock slides between your lips.”

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Threesome Memoirs – Double Penetration

double penetrationWith a blog titled Double Penetration I am scared I may have to block our emails from the surge of men ready to fill out a DP Job Application to join us in our bedroom.   Don’t worry, you didn’t miss the sign up sheet, that is never going to happen.

Saturday night, I was taking shots of Patron and preparing the camera for a second night of photoshoots with Venice and her friend.  This is the same friend who the weekend before we hooked up with and had more of an oral only threesome.  She and I ate out Venice, Venice and her sucked my dick and balls, etc.  We already know where we stand with her, so the night usually ends with some sort of play.  I wasn’t in the greatest mood but hopefully as the clothing came off and my lenses heated up, I would feel a little better.

The first shot was of an Asian massage, so both ladies stripped and Venice grabbed the Grape Seed Oil.  Venice made sure she let her friend know that Grape Seed Oil can be used on the inside or outside of her body.  That made both girls giggle.  Venice had never really given an Asian massage, so they both discussed the positioning or what exactly should be shown on camera.  I sat back with the camera in hand and waited for them to figure out exactly what they wanted.  To be a photographer isn’t hard, but to be a photographer that has to continuously come up with sexy ideas is absolutely hard.  Therefore, tonight I wanted to drink and just make sure they were focused.  My goal was to stay stress free and click the button.

As the shoot went on, the girls got more into each other and less into the idea of there being a camera in the room.  I had a hard time even doing my only job correct, keeping them in focus, because honestly I didn’t want to see what was going on behind a camera lens.  At times I would quit clicking and just watch the action.

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Threesome Memoirs: Table of Contents

I have drafted a working table of contents / outline for how we wanted to do these memoirs.  The experiences are complex and the amount of people I have talked to seem endless.   Hopefully this working outline can help you follow along and anticipate future blogs.

Our Threesome Memoirs:
1         Bisexuality
1.1      My Awakening
2        His Story
3        Listing Ads on Dating Websites
3.1     Angry Lesbians and Studs
3.2    Crazy Men
3.2.1 Men Pretending To Be Women (Pat The Squirter)
3.3    The Man Hating and Pushy (Edith the Cat Lover)
3.4    The Young and Flaky
3.5    The Shy (Shai Wan)
3.6    The Intimidating (The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly)
3.7     Finding The Third (The First Meeting)
4        My First Kiss
5        Our First Threesome (Venice’s Perspective w/ Ryan’s commentary)
5.1     Our Second Threesome (Ryan’s Perspective w/ Venice’s commentary)
5.2     The Secret Lesbian
5.3     A Threesome From Every Perspective
5.4     A Different Type Of Double Penetration
5.5     Giving Him A Double Blow Job
5.6     The Naughty Lunch Break
5.7      I Fucked A Girl With A Strap On
5.8     Tasting His Cum On Her Pussy
5.9     Our First Sleepover
5.10   Foxy Brown
5.11    The Break Up
6        Is My Wife Really Bisexual?
7        The Women I Want
8        What Is A Unicorn

The Change:
9        Threesome Are Overrated

Unfinished Ideas:
Changing Perspectives and Boundaries
Our Talks, Late Nights and  Good Communication
Other Alternatives
Browsing Escorts
Strip Clubs, Swing Clubs, Local Clubs
Love to Give and Polyamory

Extras:
What NOT to text your possible threesome partner
The DOs and DON’Ts
How To Have A Threesome (Parody)
What If Your Wife Wanted To Have A Threesome With Another Man?

At this point the working table of contents is complete.  We did not finish sections 9-14 because we started writing “Threesome Adventures” which has now been changed back to “Threesome Memoirs.”   Anything related to our experience in threesomes from here on out on the blog will be labeled, Threesome Memoirs.

Threesome Memoirs – Bisexuality

Threesome Memoirs: Table of Contents

bisexual

Let’s say you are browsing a porn website, which I know some of you reading sexblogging.com would never do.  But let’s just close our eyes and pretend.  After you’ve studied the “Craigslist is Dead!  Get Easy Pussy Now!” advertisement for a few moments, you decide to actually browse the selection.  If you click on Hardcore, you will probably see a man and a woman having sex in various positions as fast as possible.  This video usually ends up with the man jumping to his feet in his last seconds and unloading his semen onto a woman’s shocked yet happy face.    If you click on Gay, you will probably see two men fucking each other without condoms or pissing on each other while they talk extremely manly. Or maybe just two college guys stroking it next to each other with huge smiles on their faces.  If you click on Lesbian,  you will probably see two women having sex in the scissor position fake orgasming for 10 minutes.  Ok, I’m not going to keep going.   I know most of you on our page have never even thought of visiting a porn website, so just imagine endless categories along the side of page, from Anal and Asian, to Tranny and Grannies.   My point?  If you click on Bisexual, what will you see?  You will either see two bisexual women and a man, or two bisexual men and a woman.  You will never click on a video or buy a porn that says, “Bisexual” and not see one of these combinations.  Why?  Because a true bisexual experience is a person enjoying another person of the same sex, and the opposite sex, at the same time.  If you clicked on a Bisexual link and you ended up watching a lesbian or gay video, you would be extremely disappointed. 

That’s how I feel in my sex life.

Would it matter if I told you that even though you clicked Bisexual and ended up watching a gay or lesbian scene you can still watch and enjoy the videos because those people you are currently watching having gay or lesbian sex also have heteosexual sex off camera?  The actors/actresses are “bisexual.”  Does that make watching the video more bisexual?

Nope.

This blog topic may cause a bit of stir among the millions of bisexual women that visit our blog daily (okay, I may have exaggerated a little).  For me, bisexuality is not being a part-time lesbian.  Not that anything is wrong with being a part-time lesbian, but for me, bisexuality is enjoying a man and woman together at the same time.  Maybe I will start a new movement?  I’ve spoken with various women who all claim to be totally bisexual, yet their goal is to get me to commit to a lesbian experience.  I understand why, as most women are already in a relationship with a man and can’t just join another woman and her man for a true bisexual experience.  In fact, both women are usually in the same situation, so rather than deal with men, they instead become part-time lesbians and have a lesbian experience.  I also understand why they would classify themselves as bisexual.  They like men and women, they just like them seperate.  In essence, they are part-time heterosexual and part-time lesbians.  One thing is certain, they are not having bisexual experiences if their female and male partners are not all in the same room. 

With that being said, let me make it clear to the readers, I am bisexual.  When I say bisexual, I mean I am absolutely bisexual.  To be fair, I am also a part-time heterosexual.  Although I got married prior to really finding out who I was on the inside, I wouldn’t stop having sex with my husband now simply because I know I am bisexual and prefer to have him  and another woman rather than us alone.  I do not consider this settling, as I am committed and love him, and I will always do what I need to do to keep Ryan completely happy.  Does this mean I will also accept less than what I really desire  and go have a lesbian experience just to be with a woman?  Absolutely not.  I am not a lesbian.  I am not even a part-time lesbian.  And I am definitely not an intern lesbian working for free to gain experience. 

Do I consider my bond with Ryan the reason I am really into bisexual experiences only?  Absolutely.  For me, no matter how attractive a woman is, the experience would feel empty if my partner in life wasn’t with me.  Do I want to taste women, enjoy women, and be with a woman in every way possible?  For sure, but not enough so that I am willing to cheapen my own experience because I have to come home and talk about how cool it was and how I wish Ryan could have been there.  He is my lover and best friend.   I need him around to truly enjoy my experiences.  I’m not looking for notches on my belt, the same as I am not answering random ads to hook up with random men on the fly.  Women are complicated and I am definitely a woman.  Even though I love sex, I do not sell myself for cheapened experiences just to do it. 

Make sense?