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August 22, 2013

V’s Weekly Wet Inbox: My Boyfriend’s Small Penis

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HarryPotterMy boyfriend has a small penis or smaller than average penis and I want him to be confident and strong about his body, as if he is hung like a horse. What can I do to make him more confident?

Taking ownership of your man’s body and confidence is the best approach when it comes to this kind of situation. Does your man have the fattest or longest cock in the world? No. Is his the biggest you’ve ever had? If you’ve asked yourself this question, most likely the answer is no. You can’t change his dick size. But what you can do is change your attitude towards it.

 When I orgasm through oral sex, I promise, I only want Ryan to insert one finger halfway inside me.  It’s not sex and I do not want to brace myself for 4 fingers, a fist, or a huge horse cock sized dildo while enjoying oral sex.  I suppose so men can understand, would you prefer to feel a huge dildo or the tip of a finger inside your ass while getting a blow job?  I personally love to feel just the tip of Ryan’s finger, rubbing in a circle motion, which feels good on the surface nerve endings during oral sex. Now, as I orgasm I may moan for him to slam his whole finger inside me and let his fist pound on the outside of my vagina.  I do not mind that thrusting pressure, but I do mind when he decides to shove an extra finger inside me because it throws me off, making me focus on any impending pain.  I do not need this sensation. Basically, the pressure of his hand slamming against my lips and clit feels great, like when a man is as deep as possible inside you and his hips and crotch slam against your pussy mound.  That pressure feels great, and a woman with no dick at all can give this pressure. The rubbing inside doesn’t feel as good as the thrusting on the outside.  I understand everyone is different and not all women may enjoy what I enjoy, but I felt this was a good example on how any man can feel like the perfect man, regardless of his size.

You have no idea how much power you have as a woman, and fortunately, I believe this is an easy fix. Let your man know that you worship his body by telling him you love his dick. Tell him you love the texture of his shaft inside you. Text him throughout the day telling him that you can’t wait for him to fuck you. Send him pussy shots of yourself and tell him you need him to fill you up with his fat cock. When you give him a blow job, treat it like a big serving of cherry cheesecake, i.e. moan each time it enters your mouth, lick the sides like you want every crumb, and stuff your mouth each time you go down.

It’s not enough to say, “I love you, no matter how big you are” or “I’d love your dick even if it were 3 inches.” And it seems no matter what you say and how often you tell him, there’s just no boosting his confidence.

Tell him that he’s the biggest you’ve ever had and you don’t want any other dick. Make painful faces as you feel him deep inside you.  Now, the first part may not be true, but the second part should be. In his heart and mind he may not believe this to be true, but the more you keep telling him, the more he’ll believe that YOU believe it. I’m not saying lie to your boyfriend, but rather tell him what he needs to hear because it will help him to be more confidence, which in turn will help him perform better in the bedroom. You can turn any doubtful, reserved boy into a sex-machine with your actions.

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July 16, 2013

The Average American Man’s Penis Size is 5.6 Inches

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How do you measure up?
How do you measure up?

The average American man’s penis is 5.6 inches (14.2 centimeters) long when erect, a new survey of 1,661 men finds.

The study, published online July 10 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, is relatively consistent with the results of prior surveys of penis size.

Penis size has been the subject of dozens of studies, as well as countless urban legends, myths and spam emails. For many men, the idea of not measuring up can cause a great deal of anxiety.

But whether penis size truly matters to a man’s sex partner is up for debate. Some research shows that women who experience vaginal orgasms do so more consistently with men of bigger girth. [Macho Man: 10 Wild Facts About His Body]

Other work suggests bigger isn’t always better: One study found that ideal penis size depends on a person’s height, and another showed that girth matters more than length to most women.

Consistent findings

In the new study, Debby Herbenick, a researcher at Indiana University, and her colleagues asked 1,661 men to measure their penis’s length and girth for the purposes of fitting for a condom. (The men submitted their data online.) At the time of their measurement, some men were with partners or “a friend,” although most employed a DIY method for attaining an erection.

Not surprisingly, penises come in all shapes and sizes. The smallest erect penis in the study was about 1.6 inches (4 cm) long, and the largest was 10.2 inches (26 cm) long.

The average penile girth was about 4.8 inches (12.2 cm).

Moreover, all erections are not created equal, the study also found. Different methods of obtaining an erection may lead to different size measurements — men in the study who became aroused through oral sex reported larger penis size on average than those who attained erections through fantasizing, Herbenick said.

“We don’t know if that means that when men have oral sex that it’s more arousing and they get a bigger erection, or means that men who have bigger penises could be getting more oral sex in the first place,” Herbenick told LiveScience.

Past measurements

The study found that other characteristics of a man, such as his race or orientation, weren’t good predictors of his member’s size.

Male penis size is well-charted terrain in studies, Herbenick said. Now, she’d like to gather data on female genitalia.

“It would be good for women to have good data to show, ‘Hey, there’s a lot of diversity for women’s genitals, just like there are for men’s,” Herbenick said.

As reported by Tia Ghost and LiveScience

January 29, 2013

Q&A: Is My Penis Size Too Small For Her and Does Size Matter?

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Heath from New York 

Hello Venice and Ryan, I have been following your blog for a while.  I absolutely love watching your deepthroat videos, but that is partially my question I guess.  I noticed in an old article Venice wrote that she mentioned some women are not deepthroating if their men are not long enough to reach the back of their throat.  I also noticed that Venice seems to be happy about the fact she “really” deepthroats.   Not that there is anything wrong with that, but let’s say Ryan wasn’t that big, would you still be just as satisfied with him or yourself?

I didn’t write you guys for that though, I just figured it would be a good way to bring up my situation.  

My fiancee has admitted to me  that she has had a few boyfriends before me that were “probably” larger than me.  She also was previously married to a man for over 5 years that she said was so huge she didn’t enjoy sex unless he took his time.   I never got the exact details on any of their sizes, but it was obvious with the way she acted that they were much larger than me.  Don’t get me wrong, she didn’t just volunteer this information to hurt me, I kind of pushed the issue and was determined to find out more about the woman I love and want to marry.  I always asked her, “Does size matter?” and she would respond with, “Absolutely not.”   Now, with this new information, I am just unsure I satisfy her.  I talked with her about this and she said that I am perfect for her.  However, last year, before I knew all this,  she bought me some ExtenZe pills.   She said she saw a commercial and thought it would be fun to try.  Wtf?   She then later said it was just a gag gift, fucking with me.  She has never openly said anything to my face about my size, and when I ask, she always says I am perfect.   Why else would you buy your boyfriend a some damn ExtenZe though?   She wants me to have a better golf stroke?

Also, another thing I remember, before we were very serious, I was walking through walmart with her and we stopped in the condom section.   I picked up the magnum XL box and she giggled and said, “Are we going to make water balloons?”   I looked at her and said, “No, I was wondering what this brand felt like.”   She laughed and said, “Loose!” then nudged me in the arm like I understood the joke.   That really hurt my feelings but I am unsure exactly what she meant. 

I always considered myself average size.  I didn’t grow up with a bunch of guys and compare dicks or anything.   I had a pretty hard life, me and my sister kind of had to survive on our own.  No father figure, no real time to sit and worry about dick sizes.   Now that I finally met someone I really care about, I didn’t realize that dick size would end up meaning so much.   Do all girls care about dick sizes?   Even though my girl says I am perfect,  I feel like deep down inside she wants more.  Is this common for guys to feel?   Do women always compare their history of dicks with their current man’s size, but never really admit it?   

Venice’s response:

 Thank you for your question and for taking the time to watch our videos.  I feel deepthroating is an art, one that many women claim they can do, one that many men claim their women can do, and is something that I hold dear to me because I worship my man’s dick.  To answer your first question, if Ryan wasn’t as big [as he is compared to himself], would I still be just as satisfied.  Yes, I would still be happy if I knew I could deepthroat a longer dick but Ryan wasn’t big enough to really deepthroat. The act itself is gratifying, knowing I can satisfy my man, knowing he is satisfied by what I do for him.  Whether or not the penis goes down your throat, to shove your face as far as you can, is still cock worshipping.   Plus, if Ryan wasn’t the size he was, I wouldn’t have ever learned to slide a dick down my throat then, because he has the only dick I ever cared about satisfying in that way.   I wouldn’t have known any different, just like I don’t know different now.  A bigger or smaller man out there means nothing to me.

I can understand your frustration at your girlfriend buying ExTenze.  It’s like putting diet pills in a woman’s purse because you want her to be as thin as your lingerie-modeling ex.  You will see it as a negative thing at first; you might think she is comparing you to her exes.  But at least she’s not running back to them for the dick.  She wants to experience it with you, to give you what she knows her ex has, but does not want the PERSON.
 
About the condom incident, that was just rude.  Your girlfriend should never make you feel uncomfortable with body issues you have little to no control over, especially because she made it obvious that she has had bigger.  No, all girls do not care about dick sizes.  I have absolutely no desire for another dick, smaller, bigger, wider…whatever.  I love my man’s dick, but love the person who it’s attached to even more.  But the way your girlfriend jokes about it makes her sound insensitive to your feelings.  Pick a part of her body that she doesn’t like and make a joke about it.  I guarantee you’ll be in the doghouse for a week.  But that is partially where the problem lies, if she has no clue that it hurts your feelings, why haven’t you told her?  Your jealous and insecurities will tear your apart if, especially if she can be a part of the solution.

Ryan’s response:

 Is it common for guys to feel this way?  Yes.  Is it dumb to waste your time feeling that way?  Yes.  Big, small, skinny, fat, you have what you have.  You can sit there all day like a grown version of Pinocchio and wish to be a real man until a fairy comes along and grants your wish and gives you a huge cock, or you can go out and act like a real man because that’s what you are, regardless of where you stand on a dick size chart. 

In my opinion you seem to care more about your dick size than her.  Her joke, although stupid and insensitive, shows she probably doesn’t give two fucks about dick size.   She wouldn’t have made the joke if her life evolved around the idea of dick size is important.  She divorced a guy with a huge dick, because he was probably a huge dick.  She left all her hung  ex-boyfriends you seem so concerned about, and then ended up agreeing to marry you.   Obviously these big dicks aren’t that great.   If she cared so much about size, why didn’t she stay with her last husband?   Maybe instead of asking her how long his dick was, you should have asked how long he treated her with respect.   You asked her the sizes of her ex-boyfriends and you got your answer.   You want to be her biggest man?   Then be the man that makes her happy the longest.  Show her you have the biggest heart.  And also, show her  confidence.  Why be this great guy she decided to marry and end up being a half man-boy because you feel insecure about your penis size?   Why give so much weight to these assholes in her past because they were born with a longer piece of meat that hangs between their legs.  Forget her ex’s and forget their dicks.  She probably already would have if you didn’t ask her about it.

And if you think she still compares dicks in her mind each time she sees your penis, then go ahead and ask her which dick meant/means the most to her.  Ask her which dick made/makes her the most happy.   Ask her which dick matters?  If she doesn’t answer all those questions with, “YOU YOU YOU” immediately, then you chose the wrong girl to get engaged with. 

Does size matter?  Yes, to ex girlfriends, women who write blogs and need to entertain their following by naming their ex’s by their penis description (very common — also falls under ex girlfriends), and by women who you’ve dumped for being shallow.  Oh, that is also ex girlfriends.  When in love, and I mean truly in love, a real woman adores her man in every way…. penis size included.