Quarter 3 2013: Top 10 Sex Blogs

top10Our reviews are based off a database which keeps track of various categories:   Media, Originality, Updates, Variations, Entertainment, and a few other categories which will remain unpublished.  We have a few trusted friends and fellow authors helping us rate each blog submitted.  We then calculate and review the top 10 blogs in the database.    Yes, we have an actual system.  However, our system is still just our opinions.  No blog listed below will be eligible for another Top 10 list until the end of the year Annual Top Blogs list (the only blogs eligible for the ‘year-end Top 10 list’ must be a previous quarter listee of that same year, and must have our top 10 logo displayed somewhere on their website we can see).

This quarter we added another element to our blog criteria: Twitter accounts.  I was surprised to find so many sex blogs out there without a Twitter account.  Twitter allows you to talk to your readers, provide instant feedback, updates, and events.  If you pride yourself in being a 21st century blogger, you have to offer the means in which you can keep contact with your readers.  Here we present our top 10 blogs of the second quarter of 2013: (twitter / blog url)

Honorable mention:

“I Married A Sex God”-  (I Married A Sex God)
This blog made my list as an honorable mention because she has no twitter.  I love her articles and her attitude.   I also just find her blog outright entertaining, from her ESP to her wolf-like Sex God of a Husband.   The blog is a great read and it shows you the insight of a woman who refuses to tame her wild sexual wolf of a husband.

10. @nerve (Nerve)
I love seeing other people’s confessions.  I don’t know if they belong to the composer or even if they’re true or not.  The fact that there is at least one person out there who can relate to your secret makes you feel less lonely and discriminated against. Confession of the day: “I recently started dating again.  It’s funny how I do things different nowadays.  For instance, I wash my balls extra thorough.”

9.  @PornConfessions (Confessions Of A Porn Store Owner)
Porn Confessions keeps me thoroughly entertained with real, horrifying Craigslist ads, complete with screenshots of the alleged perpetrators. “Just a nice clean in shape guy looking for companionship willing to pay for dinner and a movie for a good night out. The only thing I ask is that you are not overweight.  Call me shallow if you want. I’m just looking for a date. Its my birthday.” See Craigslist Confessions.

8. @NatiraDarius (Diary Of An Owned Slave)
I am unfamiliar with the Master/slave (M/s) lifestyle.  I never took the time to understand it, so upon entering Anastassia’s blog, one of my first tasks was to read the “Procolomation of Servitude.” Anastassia’s beautifully-written oath to her Master is fascinating and something to respect, even if you’re unfamiliar with servitude.  Her site reads like a sex diary interspersed with daily musings and real life situations.

7. @remittancegirl (Remittance Girl)
Remittance Girl has a way with words that make me (yes, me!) feel simultaneously dirty, sexy, and aroused. With a delicious opening line like “His thick, inked arm felt like a fleshy cage, trapping her in the bed” from Sorry This Number Is No Longer In Service which connotes strength, bad boy, overpowering, and animalistic brute, one can’t help but to continue reading about this eloquently-written sexual experience.

6. @AnalAmy (Anal Amy)
If I see anything with “anal” in it, you’ve already caught my attention. Per her bio, she was given her namesake in high school.  Admittedly, if, as a high schooler, I’d known a girl who loved anal, I would think she was nasty.  Today, I’m envious, I’m curious, and I want to give her a high five for figuring out that every guy loves it. EVERY guy. If you’re a guy who denies it, you’re probably not getting it.  Check out The First Guy To Lick My Ass, an erotic tale of the first guy who licked her ass, which of course, led to a steamy anal session.

5. @Bambi_Kiss (Girl Uninterrupted)
What I like about this blog is the various ways in which she presents her thoughts to her readers.  Expect frank confessionals, an erotic photo, or something that reads like a naughty poem (see The Thin Line ).  This variety helps to keep my interest rather than having to see a picture with no background or a story with no visual accompaniment, both of which I can appreciate on their own.

4. @blogdangerously (Blogging Dangerously)
Sex blogging isn’t necessarily about sex, but the person who envelopes and shares your sex life.  “Kit” writes about her relationship with her husband, who is a key person in her blog, naturally.  She’s not explicit or graphic in her writing, but I can related to the emotional bonding she has with him. She focuses on her connection with him and their family, which are just as important as maintaining a healthy life in and out of the bedroom (see Husband).

3. @suggestive (Suggestive Tongue)
Lorelei is a Psychology college student who specilizaes in Gender, Sexuality, and Queer studies. Knowing that, I couldn’t wait to see her thoughts on the woman who said she couldn’t marry her man unless she made 300 sandwiches for him.  She writes, “If I were to break down a stragner’s relationship and were to find a series of disrespect, minimizing feelings, an imbalance of care or affection, a lack of trust or empathy, or straight out physical or emotional abuse, for instance, I would view that as a “wrong” relationship.”  Some people will agree with her, other won’t. Judge for yourself: Is There A Wrong Way To Date.

2. @msnaughty (Ms Naughty)
Ms. Naughty is not your run-of-the-mill sex blogger.  She’s done things, she’s been places, and I consider her knowledge (of breadth and depth) to be a breath of fresh air.  See Aspiring Male Porn Performers. Her advice is real and to the point. “Could you, potential straight male porn star, get hard and jerk off in front of a group of other men you don’t know – say, several large bearded members of a motorcycle club – then come on cue and then do it again ten minutes later? If that sounds difficult, you might want to reconsider your ambitions. (If it sounds easy, you might want to consider your sexual orientation)”

1.  @CarrieAnn_ (View From The Floor)
Have you visited Carrie Ann’s blog? Her mind is sharp and her tongue is even sharper.  Since discovering her blog, I found myself totally engrossed with her posts and don’t-give-a-fuck attitude.  I invite you to read this: Sex Positive Hypocrite, for a perfect example.  She’s so damn amazing.

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Snapshot Wednesdays – Hands On

hands_onWe have decided to add erotic photography of us to our blog each Wednesday, now known as Snapshot Wednesday.  These won’t be low quality candids or shots taken from our cell phones, these will be photographs we love from our own little photo shoots.  Hopefully these pictures will come out more like tasteful erotic art rather than amateur pornography.  We will update the gallery each week with a new photo to share with our blog followers.

This week we used a photo we named Hands On.  This photo was taken the same day Curves was taken.  Very much like Embrace, except we each used one hand to cover my breasts.  I think it came out lovely.

Sleeping Nude

A few years ago I asked my wife to promise me she will never lay in bed with me wearing clothes. I noticed throughout the years, we began to change our sleep schedules, change where we slept (sometimes I would sleep in different rooms just to be more comfortable), and never woke up in each others’ arms. If my wife was already in bed wearing some shorts and a tank top, I may walk past her and rub her butt, but most of the time I would take my clothes off, hop in bed with my briefs, and go to sleep. Do not get me wrong, we still had a great sex life, but sex and “bedtime” were on totally different schedules. Like I said, we would have sex, then an hour later both be sleeping in king size beds in separate rooms. I like the room completely dark, she likes to sleep with the television on. I like to have a nice side fan blowing on my body, she doesn’t like the cold air.  To most couples this would seem like a huge problem, but we were both complacent.

The truth is, it was a problem. I no longer saw my wife as someone I wanted to hold all night, touch all night, scoot close and curl my stomach around her butt while rubbing my penis against her thighs. I was turning into a colder man who was affectionate during sex, but mentally not there afterwards. A lot of it had to do with my wife shutting down as she appreciated me less. If I wanted to try something new and different, she would agree, but didn’t show any enthusiasm. The sex was never bad, but it lost the feeling of two people in love.

Back to a few years ago. My wife and I both hit a point where we knew we loved each other, but we both had the mutual feeling of boredom. The complacency wasn’t enough. The sex without enthusiasm wasn’t enough. The lack of attention she got from me wasn’t enough.  The lack of openness in the bedroom for me wasn’t enough. We decided, as a couple, to fix it.  Of course, we both had to see the problem to want to fix it.  Our catalyst was the idea that were were no longer lovers or best friends, just roommates.   It needed fixing and we both agreed.

In breaking down a few reasons I had slipped during the years, I knew I never wanted to grow up and sleep with my wife like I was on a camping trip (fully dressed and ready to run in case a bear breaks into the camper). As a kid, I felt that one day I would marry a woman and each night we would lay nude together, her on my chest, talking about our day. I let my wife know that I want her to be nude for me in bed. I want to wake up in the middle of the night and touch her body. I want to know that if I roll over and hug her, we will both be nude. For various reasons, this helped rekindle that spark we had for each other when we first moved in together. I wanted to touch her again, I wanted to hug her all throughout the night, I wanted to rub myself on her and let her feel my naked body against hers. It was sex, without intercourse. A new form of intimacy that even as a new couple we didn’t appreciate. I could hold my nude body against hers for the entire night, falling in love again.

For me, this nudity came very easy. I love being nude, I love showing my wife my body, and I love to feel the freedom of things hanging where they hang. My wife had a harder time with this, as sometimes she would lay in bed with panties and a shirt, sometimes just her panties. I’d come across the bed and feel down her tummy to her thighs and immediately ask why she was wearing panties. She’d look at me, smile, and say she forgot because she wasn’t used to doing it. That’s all it took for her to remove her clothing, but she had to reverse what she had conditioned herself to do for her entire life. For her, sleeping nude didn’t come natural. She felt safe with more clothing. I wanted her to feel safe with me.

After a few months, I noticed my wife would only wear a robe around the house after a shower.  She may put on a sun dress or something simple, but she would not put on a bra or panties. Before bed, she’d slip off her outfit and lay in bed, nude, no covers, letting me see her body. If she is on her stomach reading, I know she wants me to lick and massage her. If she is on her back, I know she is getting tired and wants me to touch and make out with her before bed. She no longer forgets, in fact, it’s just the opposite. At night I will go out with my wife and notice she will not be wearing panties under her dresses. For whatever reason, she has taken a liking to her new freedom, and I enjoy knowing she is breaking out of her shell.  I want her to enjoy her body as much as I do, and how can I not give her attention knowing my wife is a hand slide away from me feeling her vagina or ass? I love it. I love being around her, I love talking to her, I love hearing what she has to say, because I feel close to her again. I feel like she wants me close to her. She wants me to touch her wherever I can.  She wants me to fuck her, whenever and wherever I can.  I feel like the effort she puts into letting me know she wants me turned on and near her, makes me try throughout the day to show her, I want to be near her. I want to live up to her appreciation. It’s more than just nudity, it’s the call of the wild. It helped  save our marriage, it helped our sex life, and it freed us from complacency.

-This article was originally written on November 4, 2012.   It was published September 30, 2013.

Freaky Friday Search Terms – my buddy made me suck his huge dick

freakyfridayEach week we will post our most outrageous search terms that people used to find our website that week.  Ryan and I will then share our own thoughts and hopefully entertain you guys or at least make the search term make a little less sense.

Each search term was gathered by wordpress and/or google statistics and they are all very real search terms.   Each search term was used by some person in the world that ended up on our page.

10. dont cum in my wife
Ryan:
Or have sex with her.
Venice: Or kiss her.
Ryan: Or think about her.
Venice: At least he had some boundaries though.
Ryan: That’s true.  It could have been worse I guess.   Don’t walk up to my wife while she is in the shower after you came inside her and stick your finger up her vagina to hold the cum in like a cork.   
Venice: Now that’s a husband making a stand.

9. his n her butt plugs
Venice:
Ohhhhh, amazon.com here I come.
Ryan: Ohhhh, so which hole do you consider the man, your vagina or your ass?
Venice: Real cute Ryan.
Ryan:  Whatever, just know, you’ll be wearing both.
Venice: Just know, that leaves no holes for you.
Ryan: Unless you’re also buying a matching pacifier, I still have a hole.
Venice: … and that hole has teeth smart guy.
Ryan: That is NOT funny.  In fact, I am editing out that comment just so other women who read this don’t get the wrong idea.
Venice: Uh huh, we’ll see.

8. why guys don’t taste their cum
Ryan: We do, we just don’t talk about it. 
Venice: You shouldn’t give your man a choice.  Scoop it out and push it in. 
Ryan: Nice.  I imagine 100s of very straight, never taste my own cum alpha husbands, will enjoy their wives new technique you taught them tonight. 
Venice: You didn’t mind.
Ryan: Oh, so we’re having one of these days huh?
Venice: What?  I’m just saying, you didn’t mind, Mr. “Oh God, feed me my own juices and make me your bitch, Venice!”
Ryan: Wow.   I’ll be editing that one for sure.
Venice: Uh huh, we’ll see.

7. 69 techniques with ball sucking
Ryan:
You know at least a couple 100.
Venice: I don’t think he meant that.
Ryan: That’s funny because just last night…
Venice: That is kind of funny.   I was just doing this.
Ryan: Well, this one won’t make any sense to anyone but us, but that’s okay. 
Venice: I’ll explain.  Last night I was on top of Ryan 69ing, and I started sucking his balls while he ate my ass and vagina.   True story. 
Ryan: True story.

6. how to swallow his cum
Venice:
Open your mouth and let him cum inside there.  Close mouth and swallow.
Ryan: Might be a bit too complex, can you simplify it more?
Venice: Open, close, gulp!
Ryan: Seriously, I think this person may still have trouble understanding, maybe you can just show them visually and demonstrate on me?
Venice: Okay (Link).

5. dental dam porn
Venice:  So I just googled dental dam.
Ryan: Yea, me too.
Venice: Bucket list?
Ryan: Added.

4. my buddy made me suck his huge dick
Ryan: Talk about bad luck.  Not only did he end up with a horrible friend that forces him to  suck cock, but he also happens to be  fucking huge.  
Venice: Bad luck? Luckiest friend ever!
Ryan: Ugh, you’re such a size queen.
Venice: Listen, us ladies gamble when we choose our men, okay?  We see a guy that we like and walk up to play him.  He is firm, colorful, and lights up the room, so we get excited and reach for the handle on our slot machines.  Hopefully we don’t end up at a nickle machine, you know?
Ryan: No, I don’t know.  I didn’t realize you thought of me as a damn slot machine either. 
Venice: No, you’re my jackpot.
Ryan:  Awwwwww….
Venice: I bet you won’t edit that shit out, huh.

3. how i got my man to suck cock for me
Ryan: Apparently you find him an aggressive friend with a huge cock.
Venice: Ha! 

2. how long does it take for sperm to come out of butthole
Ryan:
Venice?
Venice: Depends really. 
Ryan: Oh man, she is about to make Bill Nye the Science Guy proud right now.
Venice: Well, there are so many variables.  The tightness of your sphincter muscles in your anus and the amount of times the penis thrust inside you to loosen those sphinter muscles.  Also, the quantity of the semen itself.  If the man has a huge load, gravity will take effect much faster. 
Ryan: Interesting stuff here.
Venice: I personally like to lay on my tummy after anal so gravity pushes the semen deeper into my colon and I  absorbs the nutrients.  I will also stay in this position a few minutes and check my twitter and E-mails.  I like to stay connected.
Ryan: She likes to absorb her jackpot.
Venice: Then finally I will rinse off, but as I do, I squeeze my sphinter muscles in my ass the entire time.  This keeps Ryan’s semen in my body, which is where I want it.  
Ryan: She likes to keep that jackpot inside her.
Venice:  I really regret that compliment now.
Ryan: Cha Ching…. jackpot baby!
Venice: Anyway, to answer your question, it stays in your colon until you use the bathroom.

1. how to give a blow job without getting juices inside the mouth
Venice: Ryan?
Ryan: Ha! 
Venice: Care to share your advice or experience with us, Bill Nye?
Ryan: Too funny.  I don’t give blow jobs, and seriously, other than that jackpot comment, I am pretty much going to edit out all your comments this week.  The new working title will be, “Ryan’s Opinion on Freaky Friday Search Terms” 
Venice: Uh huh.

V’s Wet Inbox: How Deep Is A Vagina?

how deep is the vagina“How deep is a vagina? Sometimes I see large porn stars enter all the way inside a girl, like there is no limit to how much she can take.  Other times I see a man only go 3/4 of the way in and stops.  I always wondered if this was her limit or does the guy just stop because he is taking it easy.  Do you know if a vagina bottoms out?  Like, can a guy be too big and it won’t go all the way in?  If you have experienced this, how does that feel?”

First, every woman and her vagina is unique and different, just like a man’s penis.  With that being said, I’d say the average depth of a totally stretched woman’s vagina probably mirrors the average size of a man’s, of the same race, stretched erect penis.   I do not want to get into race, but it’s been researched numerous times and different races have different sized penises.  Hopefully we can all accept this.

My own personal guestimate, from using Ryan and toys, my depth is around 6 or 7 inches.  However, I’d say I bottom out at about 3 or 4 inches.   When I say bottom out, I mean my vagina is probably literally 3 or 4 inches deep.  I can stick my finger inside and feel my cervix and my entire back wall.  It’s actually very shallow.  I have learned though, with Ryan, that once the penis hits the back wall, it can stretch back maybe another 3 or 4 inches inside our bodies before it stops.   I assume this is what drives most men crazy.  They can feel our back walls rubbing against their shaft as they push deeper than our bodies can go.

Once my vagina stretches to that 7 inch point, it absolutely stops. Is there a limit?  I would say yes. Once it stretches to that point, it doesn’t go further.  Not only does it stop, it hurts.  Only when I’m extremely horny and in the mood for an intense pain does it feels good, but most of the time it really does hurt and makes me jump out of position and slap my man on his hips or chest.  If a woman can slowly stretch more and more, I have no idea.  I’d assume, like everything on our bodies, it can be stretched beyond it’s limits throughout time.  I have seen large porn cocks, like 10 inches, and the woman takes IT ALL.  I don’t know if they just take the pain that comes along with being fucked by a huge dick, but that sharp pain does nothing for me.  I’ve tried to endure this pain, but sometimes it hurts so bad that I have a “light period” the next day or I have a pain in my side.  So to see porn stars take what seems like a 10 inch dick in the vagina is crazy, but I don’t know their habits (do they stretch themselves with a dildo, do they have sex for hours at a time several times a day, etc).

Although I have experienced a penis totally bottoming out where no more can fit inside, there are different factors involved that I believe can contribute to this:

Position: There are just some positions that keep me from receiving all of my man’s dick. One is doggy style, and it’s because the angle prevents me from enjoying sex.  If I don’t enjoy sex, my man doesn’t enjoy sex. It almost feels as if his penis is drilling into my stomach. Therefore we avoid this position when his dick is 100% erect.  Another similar position I have trouble with is missionary with my legs on my man’s shoulders. This position is almost like an inverted doggy style and it feels like my vagina is curved and shortened, making it feel like the back has been tightened. Depending on Ryan’s erection quality, he isn’t getting his dick all the way in unless he wants me to cry.

Speed: If my man is fucking me slow, it doesn’t matter how hard or soft he is because he’s easing himself in and not forcing me to stretch.  If he is moving slow, even n the positions mentioned above, I can literally feel his penis hit my back walls, push in my walls, and slowly bottom out to the point the pressure builds up mini orgasms.  If he gets a bit aggressive, just once, the pain immediately throws me off.  It’s funny how some men think they know what they are doing, but working their tool inside the mysterious female body  is a lot more complex than they think.  Regardles, Ryan’s dick isn’t the same thickness or hardness every single time we have sex.  And because of his varying hardness, I have to adjust to his size every time we’re intimate.  Sometimes the thickness, hardness, or both dictate what positions and speed I enjoy the most that night.  The slower he goes, the more comfortable I am with feeling his penis put pressure on my back walls.

Pain tolerance: This goes hand-in-hand with position and speed.  If the pain is just too much for me, it becomes noticeable by me drying up.  And that can happen in a matter of seconds.  Ryan has become very skilled in reading my body language and my gasps and can differentiate my reactions of pleasure from the ones that cause pain.  In my opinion, this has contributed to him being a fantastic lover.

Dildos: Some dildos are hard and rubbery and don’t allow room for it to move back.  Whereas a penis has a little bit of leeway, meaning a man’s body is flesh so any kind of “recoil” back into his crotch will help to absorb additional length which for any reason, cannot be fully inserted into a woman’s vagina.  In other words, some guys will push so hard that their dick will actually push back into their own bodies, making the amount that goes inside the woman much less than the man’s size.  This is definitely why some positions you can take all of a man, while others you cannot.  I don’t really use dildos, but I have tried a few times.  I hate them.  A dildo is an inanimate object that can do real damage if you are not careful.  And yes, a dildo can absolutely bottom out.

adam&eve

December 01, 2014