Sex Toy Review: The Electric Penis Pump from Bestvibe

The Electric Penis Pump from Bestvibe

In the past I have dealt with cheap penis pumps that I would try a few times and eventually lose interest in.  Although they gave me erections, I would deflate as soon as I removed the air pressure.  I do know that cock rings are important to keep the penis full, but for me, I just wasn’t interested in keeping an erect penis held together by a rubber band.  I have never been big on cock rings or anything of that nature.  

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However, Bestvibe has sent me a cool pump that does everything automatically.  In the  past, I would use a pump like I was blowing up a bike tire.  Pump, pump, pump, pump.  As my penis fills the tube, the pain gradually gets worse, I stop, and look at how huge my penis is inside the tube.  It looked amazing.  However, Venice and I can’t touch it, can’t use it, can’t do anything with it other than go, “Wow, I bet that would feel good if it didn’t look like it was in a penis museum!”  

This penis pump didn’t change any of that!  LOL.

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Ladies, don’t just think NO, say NO. Netflix and Chill OUT

Ladies, don’t just think NO, say NO.

Sometimes Netflix and chill actually means, let’s just watch Netflix and chill.  Unfortunately, your partner may be naïve to your mood and not understand your vibes.  When it comes to sex, your attitude isn’t enough.  You can know someone for 20 plus years and still not be able to read their moods properly.  Always speak up, stand up for yourself, and make it very clear what you do or don’t want when it comes to sex.  Say no. If that means you hurt your partners feelings, then hurt his feelings.  

It’s always important to say NO.

I had been talking with a guy on Instagram for about a week. Basic shit like college majors, tv, music, etc. Nothing special. A couple weeks later matched I with him on tinder and we had made plans to hang out. My roommate moved out a few months ago so the plan was just to chill in my dorm. I’ve done it before and it’s never been an issue. I ended up canceling because I had a bad day and I really just wanted to spend my night alone. I told him I didn’t want to hang out and why I didn’t want to do so but he came over anyway. Now this isn’t easy. I live in a dorm that requires an ID card to get into the building, onto the floor and into the room. He had someone let him into the building and then he just showed up at my door without even saying anything to me first. I was surprised and a little annoyed but I let him in because when we had talked before he had only ever said that he was interested in hanging out and watching game of thrones and getting to know each other. This is exactly what he told me when I asked him what he was looking for. He said he just wanted to chill and get to know each other. When asked, other guys normally tell me point blank if they’re looking for a hookup. He did not. I was nervous but I was fine just hanging out. Not even 10 minutes into him being there, he asked me how I feel about hookups. I said I don’t care for them because they make me feel shitty. I thought that would be the end of it but barely five minutes later he was taking off my shirt. I wasn’t sure how I felt but I said yes and let him do it. It wasn’t long before we started having sex. I stopped him because I realized that I shouldn’t have said yes in the first place. When he asked me to give him a blow job, I said yes because I felt bad about stopping right in the middle of us having sex. While I was going down on him and while he was shoving my head down and making me choke on him, he was watching tv and checking his phone. Not only that, but he asked if he could take a video of me. Of course I told him that he couldn’t. Luckily he let it go and put his phone away. As soon as he finished, he got up and put on his clothes. He leaned over and asked me if everything was consensual. I told him that it was. Then he left. Stand up for yourself. I should have said no, but I didn’t. That was my mistake. Some guys aren’t going to be able to just sense that you’re uncomfortable. They’re going to assume that just because you’re going along with it, you’re more than happy. If you’re not sure, just say no.

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Sex Toy Review: SVAKOM Nymph Soft Moving Finger Vibrator

SVAKOM Nymph Soft Moving Finger Vibrator

Imagine all the various places of your body you can rub this thing against!   Of course your first reaction is “No Venice, I don’t need to think of any other place other than right between my legs!”  Agreed.  However, imagine the possibilities.  With a little creative thought, as well as looking at the instructions on the products website (lol), you can also put this thing on your nipples, your ears, your toes, your man’s penis head, his balls, his guiche, each others’ sphincters, and even inside your vagina.  

As always, SVAKOM brings the highest quality sex toys on the market.  From the presentation, the boxing, and even the item itself, I feel safe using anything with the SVAKOM logo on the box.  And I am not selling the item, that’s just the truth.   

That Good Ole Fashion Squid Lovin’

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Q&A: Broken Promises, Sleep instead of Sex, What Can I Do?

Broken promises, sleep instead of sex, what can I do?

I understand that sometimes she might just not be feeling it, that’s fine. What frustrates me is when she tells me we will do something and then it doesn’t happen. If she hadn’t said anything, I wouldn’t have been expecting anything in the first place. This is something she does at least a couple times a month, I think she thinks it’s something I want to hear. sleep instead of sex

Yesterday I proposed to her and we had an awesome date after. There was a lot of drinking and eating involved, so when we got home we were both maybe not feeling the sexiest, despite the amazing day. I was fine with relaxing for a while and going to sleep, but she turned to me and said “I’m going to take a one hour nap and let me stomach rest, but then you better be ready”. Sure enough a one hour nap turned into sleep, and now it’s morning and she still isn’t up. I need her to stop doing this, because while her intentions might be good, it makes me expect things and fucks with me.

Venice’s response to sleep instead of sex:

Let her know how you feel.  Sometimes a woman is horny and gets caught up in the moment.  I have been a bit tipsy to where all I can think about is fucking Ryan.  I grab him, stroke him through his pants, rub his body, and whisper to him how much I want to fuck him.  And then I drink a bit more and all that changes because I get tired as hell.  Communicate with her about her drinking too much, or about not offering you sex if she isn’t going to follow through.  Maybe find a place for a quickie when she is in the perfect mood and all over you.  I can see how her falling asleep would be extremely frustrating.  I think she will understand as well.   

Going to sleep instead of having sex?  Well, have sex in your sleep!

Going to sleep instead of having sex?  Well, have sex in your sleep!  This is why I always sleep nude!  I know we are taught that this is bad and scary, but if its two adults and both find it sexy, try it!  I find it kinky to be taken advantage of, even when I am sleeping.  For us, this works.  I trust Ryan with my life and know he takes care of me at all times.  This comfort and trust allows me to open up to him and enjoy something maybe most women never get to enjoy.  Sometimes Ryan could be rubbing me or moving his penis in and out of me slowly while we lay in a spoon position.  I may fall asleep and wake up with my whole crotch wet and sticky.  This really turns me on.  Chance are, I will either sit on his face and make him clean me up that morning, or fuck his brains out to make up for lost time. 

Ryan’s response to sleep instead of sex:

As always, the answer is communication.  Talk to your girl and let her know that you feel her intentions are good, but when she promises sex and doesn’t make good on her promises, it does more bad than good.  In our relationship, we have an open door policy (pun).  If Venice falls asleep when I am turned on and erect, I can grab some coconut oil and gently slide my dick inside her.  There have been times after a few drinks she doesn’t completely wake up.  It sounds weird, but with two consenting (consent through communication and having relationship rules) adults, this is an amazing experience.  I always move slow as to not startle her.  Sometimes I fall asleep inside her before I finish, and sometimes I finish and we both just lay dripping wet through the night.  I’ve woken up before with my penis “water logged’, shriveled and wrinkled because it rested inside her body all night.  She doesn’t mind, she loves waking up sticky and dripping, and it turns her on to know I enjoyed her body without her having any memory of it.  It’s kind of a sexy mind fuck the following day for her.  This doesn’t happen often, but it does prevent broken promises.   And of course it works both ways.  If she reaches over and feels me sleeping and erect, she can hop on me at any time and use my body for her pleasure.  I don’t think I have ever not woken up from her getting on top of me, but there has been many times when I will jump from a weird tickle feeling or have a dream that I am peeing myself, and when I wake up, Venice’s face in my lap, mouth around my penis, as she lays sideways masturbating herself.   This may be advanced for your situation, but an open door policy is a fun and exciting way to keep from having your night ruined.  If you trust each other, love each other, and know either of you wouldn’t hurt the other, this is a great way to solve falling asleep instead of having sex.