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March 21, 2019

Review: Sonic Sucking Vibrator by Paloqueth

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Review: Sonic Sucking Vibrator by Paloqueth

First, the name of this toy is hilarious to me!  No sexy or enticing name like, “The Lady VaCUM” or “The Pleaser”.  Just, the Sonic Sucking Vibrator. Ha!  Straight to the point! 

Anyway, the Sonic Sucking Vibrator is a sexy little toy for us ladies that claims it uses a sucking mechanism that pulls your clitoris up into a silicone cone and vibrates the heck out of it!   This is not the first time I have reviewed a toy with this mechanism.  I love these toys that suck or try to suck and focus on one area of the body.  It’s always a fun and unique experience.  What’s even better, this guy is a lot more affordable than most other toys of the same quality on the market.

Let me first clarify, from my experience, I did not get any suction or sucking sensation from this toy. Regardless of how air tight or hard I press the silicone ring around my clitoris, for me (or nipple for Ryan), it did not suck.  However, it does isolate the body part and vibrate all around it.   If you use a wand or something big and powerful, this product does not give that same sensation.  It gives more of an isolation sensation. Rather than shaking everything in the area, it ping pongs your clitoris around the cone until you either cum or tap out.  I tapped out.

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March 20, 2019

Texting, Sexting, Distance, and Visible Communication Creates Stronger Relationships

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Texting, Sexting, Distance, and Visible Communication Creates Stronger Relationships.

We have a Question and Answer blog section that deal with couples questions and their various problems they have in their relationship.  We have learned that most of the time the biggest issue is a simple lack of communication.  Whether it be questions about anal, dildo size, threesomes, swinging, jealousy, or any other relationship issue, communication is the key to dealing with relationship issues.

Texting, Sexting, and Distance

From the beginning of our own relationship, college separated us.  As much as you’d think this was a bad start, I feel that our long distance relationship helped our relationship more than anything we have ever done.  With Ryan and I being on different coasts, we had to deal with jealousy, trust issues, sex, and everyday life, through communication and text (instant) messages.  We were unable to kiss and make up, fuck and make up, or ignore problems because of all the physical interactions that tend to replace actual communication.  Is there anything easier than ignoring compatibility and personality issues between two people because the sex is so good, it almost makes everything seem better?  That isn’t possible with distance.  Your words and thoughts are the only thing that matters.  Back then, texting wasn’t as common, but using your PC and AOL instant messenger was.  Each night Ryan and I would sit and talk about everything that happened in our day.  The good, the bad, the ugly.  Sometimes we would argue and block each other when we got upset.  Once blocked, the only way to really communicate would be for one of us to call the other.  Long distance wasn’t cheap, and as poor college kids, this was a big deal.  Sometimes I think we argued just to hear the other person’s voice for 10 minutes.   Eventually, we’d make up on the phone and tell the other to go back to their PC and so we could talk again.  Now that the argument for the night was over we’d feel the urge to connect and make up.  Much like normal relationships, we would start to sext back and forth and discuss various sexual ideas.

Make Up Sext

This form of communication made it extremely easy to explore our kinks.  I have learned over years, that being in the same room can make it harder to communicate.  As soon as you talk about your kinks, you get a bit frisky and want to get closer.  The more you touch, the sooner you find yourself nude with your legs spread begging for your man to cum inside you.  When you are done, you are both exhausted and sex is the furthest thing on your mind.  Instead you turn on your favorite show and hang out with each other.  As you get older, other things take place a television:  children, errands, cleaning, cooking.  Although you can obviously have good quality time while in the same room, it’s clear that physical interaction can interfere with communication.  With distance, that just isn’t possible.  Although we were both young and inexperienced, without being able to physically touch or get intimate, we would use our words and imaginations to turn each other on.  The things you learn about another person through spending time sexting, without the ability to let the physical world stop you from communicating, is mind blowing.  I fell head over heels in love with Ryan because of his words and mind.  In the process, I wanted to find out what made him happy, what made him horny, what he wanted from me that no other girl could ever give him.  This opened a Pandora’s box.  You learn each other’s darkest and deepest fantasies.  You also find out if your kinks and sex drives are compatible.  No skeletons are left in the closet.  To be honest, I didn’t even know people wanted to lick each other’s asses!   But after months and months of talking, I knew the first night I was back with Ryan, I was going to turn him over, spread his cheeks, and go to town on his ass hole.   Not only was it not weird anymore, I was excited.  That’s the power of communication. 

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March 13, 2019

Foursome Memoirs: The Silent Partner, Phone Sex, and Swingers

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This is possibly the shortest running memoir series we will have on this blog.   1 post.

So we have been members of  a swing lifestyle website for years but have never met anyone from this site.  In fact, we have probably been members for just as long as we have blogged.   We’ve heard that although we only hook up with women, it’s still technically considered part of the swingers lifestyle.   Most swingers do actively look for a bi female, also known as the unicorn.  This past week, things changed.   We spoke with a couple that was interested in having the wife spoiled by another couple.   They were both in their second marriage and had only been married for about 3 months.  Personally, we both thought this was too soon, but we didn’t mention it. It was stated up front that the other wife wasn’t comfortable with Venice and her husband hooking up, which was fine with us, because it isn’t something we do anyway.  The couple both spoke with us on Kik and talked about how they spent their honeymoon having a mmf threesome with the husband’s friend.   Kind of weird I guess, but whatever.  The husband talked a lot about how he is doing this for her, it’s all about her needs, and he is really just a silent partner that enjoys watching his wife pleased.  He said he was really excited to see her with another woman.

We decided that this couple may be a match for us.  Although we have never done anything with a husband/boyfriend in the same room, it does turn us on to think about having sex in front of another couple.  We also thought we’d enjoy watching another couple have sex in front of us.  In hindsight, this may not be a reality for us.  As a couple, we like to joke around, take things a little less serious, and we tend to use comedy as a way to deal with uncomfortable situations.   This would probably be a recipe for disaster when watching a horny couple getting it on in front of us.

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March 6, 2019

Q&A: My wife is convinced I am a gay man

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My wife of 10 years is convinced I am gay following our sexual encounter Saturday night. We went out to a friends birthday party. She drank more than usual.  We got home at midnight, baby sitter left. Go up to our room, get ready.  I get in bed first, I bend over the bed to grab a few pillows that fell off on her side. She comes out of the bathroom and tells me to freeze.  Usually this means something important so I do. She comes over to me. Starts kissing my butt cheeks.  Starts fondling my balls and penis. Licks my balls from behind, sucks on my penis a little. From here she does something she never has done and has never been on the table.  She starts licking my taint, around my anus and near it. With about 5 minutes of teasing she sticks her tongue in my anus and licks left, right, up and down…..all over.

First off, this felt incredible and turned all my buttons.  After a long tossing I flipped over, she then grabbed lube and put her finger in my anus and started massaging what must be my prostate while blowing me.  I cum hard 3 mins later.

Next day and still today she has closed off and all she talks about is how I am a gay man and we should never have been married or had kids.  Doesn’t know why I hid it all along, blah blah. Not sure what to do here. Shes wrong and I only find women sexy/attractive.  Anyone have a similar experience and can help?

Venice’s response to gay husbands

That’s a nice story!  I am glad you got to experience anal cunnilingus and enjoyed it!  There is nothing wrong with getting your prostate played with or enjoying your wife rimming you.  She sounds like she is either teasing you or just being very immature.  Sometimes women control men with manipulative passive aggressive behavior.  For instance, making you feel guilty for enjoying something she offered to do to you.  Maybe she is concerned you will want that type of blow job more, so she throws in a gay comments to keep you from being comfortable asking for it.  It could mean she just wants control and only wants to do that type of play when she feels like it.  

For the record, I am the exact opposite.  I can do all those things to Ryan and he will make jokes about being gay because he likes it so much.  I actually tell him to shut up, nothing I do to him can make him gay.  Being gay makes him gay, not his wife playing with his ass.  Our bodies are a playground, ride the swings, get on the seesaws, hang from the monkey bars, whatever.  Enjoy yourself!

Ryan’s response to gay husbands

If enjoying a rim job and getting my prostate massages means we are gay, then I am also gay.  It’s all just labels, who cares.  You enjoy what you enjoy, and labels are something people create to try and understand things.  For your wife, calling  you gay helps her understand why you like your anus played with.  It’s immature and ignorant, but it helps her understand.   I guess if you wanted to be equally as shallow, does her licking your anus and taint like it’s a vagina make her gay?  The whole idea is silly.  Your wife can’t do anything, including pegging you, that will make you a gay person.  You can’t make someone gay.  They either are because they feel they are, or they aren’t.

 

February 27, 2019

Q&A: Husband says I give the best blow jobs ever, but why did he cum with another girl in 2 minutes!?

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Husband says I give the best blow jobs ever, but when we recently had a threesome, he had an orgasm after 2 minutes of her sucking his dick.

When I give hubby a blow job it takes him forever to cum. I am talking 15-20 minutes. Yet I could get most others I have given blow jobs to cum in about 2-5 minutes. Fast forward to this past weekend and my husband got a blow job from this much fitter and much younger woman. He blew a huge load in like less than 2-3 minutes. I asked him later if she sucked cock better than me and he said absolutely no. I asked him why he came so quick and he said, “Baby your blow jobs feel so good I hold back on purpose.” I told him I want to see how quick I can get him off so he said “Okay.” Tonight he is getting greeted naked and getting unzipped immediately to see.

What is y’all experience on time?

Venice’s response to best blow jobs ever
If a man says a bj is so good that he holds back on purpose, he may be telling the truth. So I would take that as a compliment. However, if he orgasms faster with a “much fitter and much younger woman,” then I could see how that would be confusing and possible hurt a woman’s feelings. But judging by your question, it doesn’t seem like you’re more focused on how long it takes for him to orgasm than jealousy of a younger woman making him cum faster. So I will address that. In my experience, depending on how “turned on” my man is, or if he has not came in a long time, it can be super quick (2-3 minutes). If we’ve been having sex, then switch to blowjobs, then back to sex, then back to blowjobs, then it can take longer (10 minutes).

Ryan’s response to best blow jobs ever
Personally I think if you let your husband get a blow job from a fitter, younger woman, you should not judge him on how quick he orgasms.  If you are insecure in your oral sex abilities, then do not open the door for other women to please your man.  Having a strange woman that is fit and younger sucking your penis can turn you on more than you would normally be turned on.  Forget the fit and younger part, just the fact she is strange and new.  This new girl could be the worst at giving oral sex but because it’s so new, the man may be going through some inner egotistical horny phase of having a strange woman down on her knees pleasing him.  Sometimes this our inner thoughts and desires make us orgasm quickly, regardless of what the mouth is actually doing on our dicks.  If Venice is talking extremely dirty to me, or doing something wild like throwing up in my lap, I may orgasm from just seeing something so crazy.  If she flips me over and licks my ass, I may cum on the couch before she even turns me back over.  However, none of that has to do with how good she is giving me a blow job, just how turned on I am.  A new woman can turn us on because she is new.  In my opinion, that’s the excitement and rush you get from having a third person in your bedroom.  It should not be offensive because that is why you probably decided to try (swinging / threesomes) in the first place.  There may be  nothing special about her skills, her technique, or anything else.  If you are allowing him to get blow jobs from other women, you should be in a mental space where you want him turned on and having fun.  That’s the whole purpose.   

For the record, yes, sometimes we do hold back.  Although not always talked about, the build up to the orgasm is much more satisfying than the actual orgasm itself.  The orgasm is a final release, closure.  However, the sex high, the endorphins, the stress relieving, the bonding, the emotional connection, the “love” we feel towards a woman, is during the euphoric stage where we are building up to our orgasms.  At least for me.  If I didn’t have feelings for a woman, I probably would just fuck or sit back and get my dick sucked to have a release.  I personally wouldn’t want a mental connection or a long euphoric stage where I feel some sort of bond.  I just want to cum.  So Venice is right, take that as a compliment.