Q&A: My Wife Ate Her Ex-Boyfriend’s Ass But Will Not Eat Mine. Am I Being Childish?
Okay so I’ll start off by saying I’ve never really felt the need to have my asshole licked but needless to say it’s what all the kids are talking about nowadays so I’m curious to see if it’s worth the hype.
My wife and I have an active sex life for mid 30s folk and I asked her if she would do that for me next time I get a BJ. She refused, stating that she knows my bathroom routine too intimately to want to go down there. I laughed it off at the time but I’ve become a bit jealous because I know that she ate her ex boyfriend’s ass when they were together. She had told me that she didn’t hate it but it didn’t really do anything for her (and he only mildly enjoyed it).
I know this is crazy. We’re in love, have a deep relationship, she’s the mother of my kids, but I can’t shake the jealousy that I feel since she’s done this to another man but is unwilling to do it to me. I know that in her past she struggled with self esteem issues and often did things she wasn’t fully comfortable with to keep a guy around. I never want to make her feel like that or have her do anything she doesn’t want to in the bedroom but I do feel some sorta way I guess. Am I crazy? Is this a childish way to feel or am I kinda justified?
Venice’s response ate ex-boyfriend’s ass
Well, I did write the blog, “Guide to Giving your Him A Rim Job For the First Time”
Simple solution for me if I was in the situation? I would nose dive head first into my husband’s ass and lick until he asks me to stop. No way in hell I would tell my husband something I did with an ex and not do with him. For me, this is just basic principle.
Your feelings aren’t childish and all you can do is communicate them. You can’t force your wife to understand your feelings or eat your ass just because she ate someone else’s ass before you. When she says she knows your bathroom routine, she may mean your hygiene, she may mean she has watched you use the bathroom too many times, or she has smelled your flatulence in long car rides one time more than she ever wanted. Ripping a fart with your spouse can be all fun and games when you first move in together, but when it comes to her being turned on by eating your asshole, knowing how you playfully fart on her leg every now and then is a turn off.
Here is one comment I saw from a woman who maybe can translate what it means when your wife tells you that she knows your bathroom routine.
Some men would be surprised to find out how often we can smell your ass wafting up when we give you a blowjob. My guess is that your wife has had this experience and is now turned off about putting her mouth on your ass. Can’t say for certain but based on her “intimate knowledge” this is probably her nice way of mentioning it.
We have always taken showers after we use the bathroom. Actually, I learned this from my husband. Sometimes your partner’s hygiene routine naturally rubs off on you. He has always showered after going number 2, which makes sense. So if he showered after he goes to the bathroom because he is grossed out by himself feeling dirty, how would he feel about me if I didn’t shower? So guess what!? I shower each time I go number 2 too. On top of this, my husband recently installed a bidet in our bathroom and I love it!
Add this to your bathroom routine and maybe she will possibly open up to performing a rim job on you like she did her ex.
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Ryan’s response ate ex-boyfriend’s ass
This is why it’s good to not ask your partner about their history. Easier said than done. I was also the type that wanted to know everything about my wife. So I get it.
I still remember the days when guys were asking us if their wife should lick their balls during a blow job because she licked their last boyfriends. Or, should your wife try anal with you because she tried anal with her last boyfriend. How times have changed. Now partners have to deal/cope with their partner’s sexual history, who they fucked, did they anal, and how many different peoples’ asses they have ate. Geez.
First I would suggest showering after using the bathroom. If she knows your bathroom routine and this is why she has decided to not lick your ass, change your routine. Also, think about adding a bidet add-on to your toilet. This is cheap and easy to install. These two things can possibly leave your ass desirable. Also, depending on her preference, ask if she would like you to shave your ass and balls.
Other than hygiene, communicate your desires and insecurities and see what you guys can do to resolve these issues. If she is reasonable, she may find an appropriate compromise. Maybe rather than your next random blow job, it’s a scenario where you both take a long bath together and she knows your body is clean. But if she still isn’t okay with that, there isn’t much you can do. She may hate that licked a guys ass. Why would you want her to do things she hates with you?
Personal opinion: Swallowing cum, oral sex during her period, anal (and sometimes getting dirty), licking ass, or any extreme sexual act is nothing more than bonding. I find people that find these things “gross” or “icky” to be sexually immature. But those immature people probably consider us gross and perverts. I don’t care. Me and my wife have done everything under the sun and we are always looking for new things to do. Of course this is is just my own opinion. Nothing is wrong with holding hands, a cute kiss on the cheek, cuddling, long walks on the beach, or licking each others’ asses. To me, it’s all intimacy and bonding.