Q&A: My Wife Ate Her Ex-Boyfriend’s Ass But Will Not Eat Mine. Am I Being Childish?

Q&A: My Wife Ate Her Ex-Boyfriend’s Ass But Will Not Eat Mine. Am I Being Childish?

Okay so I’ll start off by saying I’ve never really felt the need to have my asshole licked but needless to say it’s what all the kids are talking about nowadays so I’m curious to see if it’s worth the hype.

My wife and I have an active sex life for mid 30s folk and I asked her if she would do that for me next time I get a BJ. She refused, stating that she knows my bathroom routine too intimately to want to go down there. I laughed it off at the time but I’ve become a bit jealous because I know that she ate her ex boyfriend’s ass when they were together. She had told me that she didn’t hate it but it didn’t really do anything for her (and he only mildly enjoyed it).

I know this is crazy. We’re in love, have a deep relationship, she’s the mother of my kids, but I can’t shake the jealousy that I feel since she’s done this to another man but is unwilling to do it to me. I know that in her past she struggled with self esteem issues and often did things she wasn’t fully comfortable with to keep a guy around. I never want to make her feel like that or have her do anything she doesn’t want to in the bedroom but I do feel some sorta way I guess. Am I crazy? Is this a childish way to feel or am I kinda justified?

Venice’s response ate ex-boyfriend’s ass

Well, I did write the blog, “Guide to Giving your Him A Rim Job For the First Time” 

Simple solution for me if I was in the situation?  I would nose dive head first into my husband’s ass and lick until he asks me to stop.  No way in hell I would tell my husband something I did with an ex and not do with him.  For me, this is just basic principle.   

Your feelings aren’t childish and all you can do is communicate them.  You can’t force your wife to understand your feelings or eat your ass just because she ate someone else’s ass before you.  When she says she knows your bathroom routine, she may mean your hygiene, she may mean she has watched you use the bathroom too many times, or she has smelled your flatulence in long car rides one time more than she ever wanted.   Ripping a fart with your spouse can be all fun and games when you first move in together, but when it comes to her being turned on by eating your asshole, knowing how you playfully fart on her leg every now and then is a turn off.

Ate Her Ex-Boyfriend's AssHere is one comment I saw from a woman who maybe can translate what it means when your wife tells you that she knows your bathroom routine.

Some men would be surprised to find out how often we can smell your ass wafting up when we give you a blowjob. My guess is that your wife has had this experience and is now turned off about putting her mouth on your ass. Can’t say for certain but based on her “intimate knowledge” this is probably her nice way of mentioning it.

Well said.

We have always taken showers after we use the bathroom.  Actually, I learned this from my husband.  Sometimes your partner’s hygiene routine naturally rubs off on you.  He has always showered after going number 2, which makes sense.  So if he showered after he goes to the bathroom because he is grossed out by himself feeling dirty, how would he feel about me if I didn’t shower?   So guess what!?  I shower each time I go number 2 too.  On top of this, my husband recently installed a bidet in our bathroom and I love it! 

Add this to your bathroom routine and maybe she will possibly open up to performing a rim job on you like she did her ex.

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Ryan’s response ate ex-boyfriend’s ass

This is why it’s good to not ask your partner about their history.  Easier said than done.   I was also the type that wanted to know everything about my wife.   So I get it.

I still remember the days when guys were asking us if their wife should lick their balls during a blow job because she licked their last boyfriends.   Or, should your wife try anal with you because she tried anal with her last boyfriend.  How times have changed.   Now partners have to deal/cope with their partner’s sexual history, who they fucked, did they anal, and how many different peoples’ asses they have ate.   Geez.

Ate Ex-Boyfriend's AssFirst I would suggest showering after using the bathroom.  If she knows your bathroom routine and this is why she has decided to not lick your ass, change your routine.   Also, think about adding a bidet add-on to your toilet.  This is cheap and easy to install.   These two things can possibly leave your ass desirable.   Also, depending on her preference, ask if she would like you to shave your ass and balls.    

Other than hygiene, communicate your desires and insecurities and see what you guys can do to resolve these issues.   If she is reasonable, she may find an appropriate compromise.  Maybe rather than your next random blow job, it’s a scenario where you both take a long bath together and she knows your body is clean.   But if she still isn’t okay with that, there isn’t much you can do.  She may hate that licked a guys ass.  Why would you want her to do things she hates with you?

Personal opinion:  Swallowing cum, oral sex during her period, anal (and sometimes getting dirty), licking ass, or any extreme sexual act is nothing more than bonding.  I find people that find these things “gross” or “icky” to be sexually immature.  But those immature people probably consider us gross and perverts.  I don’t care.  Me and my wife have done everything under the sun and we are always looking for new things to do.  Of course this is is just my own opinion.  Nothing  is wrong with holding hands, a cute kiss on the cheek, cuddling, long walks on the beach, or licking each others’ asses.  To me, it’s all intimacy and bonding.

 

 

Snapshot Wednesday – Dirty Girl

Dirty-GirlWe have decided to add erotic photography of us to our blog each Wednesday, now known as Snapshot Wednesday.  These won’t be low quality candids or shots taken from our cell phones, these will be photographs we love from our own little photo shoots.  Hopefully these pictures will come out more like tasteful erotic art rather than amateur pornography.  We will update the gallery each week with a new photo to share with our blog followers.

This week we have named our photo “Dirty Girl.”   I am definitely that.  Unfortunately fellas, not only is there not much of a story here, but the focal point is a big man hole.  For the dirty girls  like me though?  You’re welcome.

We purposely set this shot up to look just like this.  The only real problem we had during this photo shoot was I kept putting my tongue on or over his ass hole and my face would cover up too much of the photo.  I had to be reminded more than once to move my face and tongue away from Ryan’s hole so we could get a clear shot.  Too bad I don’t have a longer tongue.

As an extra bonus, I am going to include the photo that inspired this shot.

rimjobWell, as you can see her tongue is clearly on his ass hole, why couldn’t mine be?  Hmph.  Anyway, we had to zoom in a bit more to get less face, more ass, and really didn’t have room to show Ryan’s cock.  Although I was holding it for him in the photo, it would have been our own version of the same concept.  We were inspired by this photo but we wanted to add our own touches.

Video: My Hidden Cam Experience

First, I figured I would post this blog since I already posted it on the site that hosts the video.  I know Ryan already said his side (boooooring — lol) here, so I figured I would put my own little spin on it, especially since I was the mastermind behind it all.

Anyway, after endless requests from different people  asking us to post a longer video, I decided not to wait for my husband’s “okay.” I hid my camera phone in the corner of the room without Ryan knowing so I could record us fucking. A few problems I encountered was I knew he wouldn’t leave all the lights on while we fucked. We prefer a dimly lit room. Although when I called Ryan into the room I had all the lights on, he saw my outfit and knew I wanted to fuck him. He immediately turned off the overhead light, which left on only the corner lamp. If I would have turned the light back on, no way he wouldn’t have known something else fishy (no vagina jokes please) was going on. If people are unhappy about that, I am sorry. It’s either a dimly lit room or no video at all, because he just wasn’t interested in recording us fuck like we were porn stars or something.

Another issue I had was him throwing my panties in the direction of the camera. I tried to hang on to my panties and lay them off to the side, but you can hear him in the video demand them. After he threw them in the direction of the camera I thought to myself, “Oh dang, what if they covered the camera completely or knocked it over.” I know that sounds dumb, but I didn’t want to mess this up. I knew afterwards I would tell him I recorded us so I wanted it to be something he liked. If it was bad, who knows if I would have ever tried it again.

Also, at the end of the video when he is fucking me in my ass, he puts a pillow over my head to shut me up. Whether the readers/viewers believe this or not, usually when we anal fuck I am very loud, which Ryan loves, but he also loves to know he can throw a pillow over my head or push my face against the sheets and make me bite down and muffle my screams. Well, with the pillow over my dang head, how will the microphone pick up what I am saying? Although it turned out okay, because thankfully our mic is amazing (records in auto mode, which supposedly picks up low and loud sounds equally), almost the entire time he was fucking my ass I had a pillow over my head completely.  If you listen, you can hear him in the video talking about how he is holding the pillow over my head.

Finally, my original idea was to totally fuck his brains out. I wanted to hop on top of him and ride him, make him my little bitch, and force him to call me the best bitch ever.  Haha. Unfortunately when we started fucking, he took over. Not only did he take over, he fucked my brains outs (face), then rolled me over and fucked my ass out. As much as I wanted to be in charge, I would never shut down my man and his manly instincts when his body and brain needs to be in control. When I felt him take over, I decided to be an obedient girl and let him handle his pussy (in this case, my face and ass) however he saw fit.

I think that is it. I was glad to see the sound came out so good, especially for a hidden cam. If you watch this video after reading this post, make sure you listen along.

A few other quick notes.  All the editing and blurring is done post edit to hide faces.  Since he had no idea it was being recorded, he moves his body out of position or face onto the camera more than I expected.

I hope you guys enjoy!

Video: Her Hidden Camera Attempt

Venice originally had an idea of using a hidden cam and recording us having sex.  She later told me that she wanted to be in control and fuck the shit out of me.  Unfortunately for her, I didn’t know her plan.   I am posting the video myself to make sure everyone knows that Venice and I do things like this, but we both fully agree and understand that the other is just trying to spice things up.   For instance, Venice has said to me that if she is ever passes out from being a little too tipsy,  she wants me to fuck her hard.  Yes, she WANTS me to fuck her hard while she is unconscious so she feels it the next day.  She loves the idea of me using her and we have no prude reservations about it being “wrong.”  We trust each other.  Which is why for me, this video was a cute attempt at her being sneaky, nothing more.  However, it didn’t work out like she planned.

I didn’t know I was on camera so if you see it get blurry or the scenes change, just remember that is all in post editing.  Venice let me watch the video the same night she recorded.  In post editing we made sure to try our best to keep the footage as real as possible without showing too much face.   If it zooms, its post edit zooming.  If it’s dark, sorry, I  turned off the light when I walked in, because there was still a lamp in the room.  She was dressed in lingerie so I kind of suspected I was going to fuck, but not on camera.  I don’t fuck with all the lights on!  I had no idea she was recording.  I also hit the camera when I threw her panties.  I had no idea.  If you are into real sex or just hidden camera footage, enjoy the show.  The video starts out kind of slow so turn the volume up if you are into dirty talk or move to around to the 7 minute mark if you are only looking for action.

As for future requests, Venice and I are not porn stars.   We blog and do this for fun, so this is about as porn as we will ever get.