Q&A: I Got Drunk, Had Sex on my Period, and Said Too Much!? Did My Dirty Talk Go Too Far?
I am a 20 something female that went out with my boyfriend last night and got a bit too drunk. I was on my period so it was supposed to be just a casual night of hanging out. However, when I drink I do get extra horny. I remember blowing him in the parking lot and agreeing to go up to his place.
At his place it went from me keeping my pants on sucking his dick, to me being stripped nude with my bloody pad on the floor getting my brains fucked out and bleeding all over him and his bed.
Normally our dirty talk during sex is mostly: I love you or I am yours. Since I was drunk I said a bit more than I wanted to.
From what I recall the things I said were along the lines of, “Oh my God, you popping my cherry with your huge dick. How am I losing my virginity again?!” “Your cum turns me on. I want to swallow your cum.” “The thought of you impregnating me turns me on.” “I want to have your babies, make sandwiches for you barefoot, be fucked by you every day, and be your submissive for the rest of my life…”
By the way, none of this fits my personality. I am a more assertive person, yet conservative. I do not want to be dominated nor do I want my boyfriend to make me his sex slave. But for whatever reason, in the heat of the moment and drunk, I just let all my little girl quotes out and gave him the full kitchen sink.
We have talked about getting married so it’s not thaaat big of a deal. I remember he was enjoying it when we were doing it. But now that I remember that night I can’t help but be embarrassed for some reason. I mean I said I wanted to be barefoot and make sandwiches for you?? While we were having sex! I have no idea where did all that come from. He has been busy with work for now but I am dreading his phone call. I don’t feel like talking to him or meeting him for sometime now.
Venice’s response to dirty talk too far
I’m going to be dead serious here. What’s the problem?
Dirty talk is mental porn for your partner, and something all women should learn to do. If I ever write a book on giving a man perfect sex, it would include an entire chapter on talking dirty and saying all the things his brain thought about for the first 16 years of his life when he was alone in his room masturbating to all his little dirty secrets and fantasies. Not only that, dirty talk is how you can introduce different kinks that you or him may want to try. Because kinks can keep a relationship young and healthy. Too this day, my husband and I still talk through things we have never thought about doing, simply by going into long conversations about sex and dirty talk. What better way to break the ice or find out for yourself what type of thoughts turn you on? But you don’t always have to practice what you speak, and if you are insecure about this, make sure you let your partner know, whatever you say during sex, is just fantasy. Because you can give your partner threesomes, gang bangs, and every other possible scenario he has ever thought of, by simply talking dirty. This goes both ways, you both can talk and turn each other on more than rubbing hot spots on your body or trying to find that sensitive spot behind his ear that gets him erect. Your voice, your thoughts, your imagination, will turn him on just as much as anything you can do physically. And the same goes for you. You’ll find yourself more wet than you’ve been in your entire life while talking about things you thought were taboo and dirty.
Now, your kink was about commitment and marriage. Obviously this is something that turns you on right now. You want a long term dick and he fucks you so good you would make him dinners for the rest of his life just to get that dick each night. Awesome! There is nothing to be ashamed about. Just don’t forget that this type of dirty talk should progress throughout your relationship. Never forget later, when you are married, that this type of communication helped open your relationship. In fact, this dirty talk may lead to you actually getting married. So later, remember that when you want to try new things. Or remember that when he may want to try new things. Dirty talk is the best way to introduce these new ideas that “embarrass” us when we aren’t drunk or horny. It’s okay.
Ryan’s response to dirty talk too far
There is nothing wrong with dirty talk, especially any of the examples you gave. He probably feels the same way as you since it probably wasn’t his intentions to fuck you while you were on your period. That’s probably equally as humbling as all the dirty talk you gave him. There is nothing closer to marriage sex than throwing out all your inhibition and sticking your penis inside a woman while she bleeds all over you. That’s not something you do with a casual girlfriend.
You both seemed to be really horny and caught up in the moment. This isn’t something to be embarrassed about, it’s what will make the best sexual experiences of your life. Embrace this drunk, wild, uninhibited version of yourself. Rather than being ashamed, open a healthy line of communication and ask him what he felt about the dirty talk last night. There is nothing wrong with talking kinky, even to the extreme of marriage talk, as long as you both know it’s just dirty talk. Some women have kinks and talk dirty about how big their partners dick is during sex, even if it isn’t big. Some women have have humiliation/cuckold kinks and will tell their man his penis is tiny (even if he is normal sized), and some women like the idea of being fucked so good that it makes you want to marry the person. It’s the ultimate compliment, but make sure your partner understands it’s just your extreme way of making the experience more intense for you.
However… since then, all he wants to do is throat fuck me. Every time we’ve had sex since, he’s forced me to do it. I’ve played along so far because I don’t want to discourage him, but I really don’t enjoy having this done to me all of the time. I told him the night that it first happened that it’s something I don’t mind mixing into our sexual routines as long as we still do some of the other things we like as well – but he was still pretty drunk at that point, so maybe he doesn’t recall that caveat. I don’t know.