Month: February 2016

February 8, 2016

Meet Anie – A Married Woman’s Bisexual Journey

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laptop_ladyIn our journey together we have met some great people with great stories. During a recent road trip with Venice, she was telling me about one of her friend’s latest adventure and I was totally intrigued. A bit behind on all the juicy gossip, Venice spilled the details about the different things going on in her friend’s life. Before she could finish her story, I asked her to message her friend and see if she’d be interested in sharing some blogs on our page.

When asked if I would like to share some of my stories/experiences, or ideas by my favorite bloggers and now good friends Ryan and Venice I was shocked, honored, terrified, and intrigued. Why shocked…? To think anyone would want to read my stories/experiences was slightly baffling to me. Honored because these two are my friends, of all the people to ask I felt privileged to be one of the lucky ones to share something they would include on their blog. Knowing that someone would read and follow my experiences is intriguing. Not that I have anything greatly profound to share; just knowing something I’ve gone through or am going through could help someone while allowing me to learn and grow within myself is fascinating.

For starters what would I like to be called? Call me Anie. I am married to an amazing man and am a mother of one. A couple years ago during sex with my husband I mentioned how I would love to eat a woman’s pussy right that second. Yea you read that right… ? I had been having thoughts of wanting to experience a woman sexually for a while prior to that outburst, but it kinda just slipped out at that moment. Of course at that time we are on the living room floor, he’s fucking my ass and I’m envisioning a third person in the room with us.

So that’s when it began… The endless even more open conversations, the seemingly never ending line of questioning. My husband automatically attempted to label me, labeled me for just my thoughts & desires because at that time there was no action.

All we knew in the beginning was this was something we wanted to experience together but we soon discovered finding a third was easier said than done and I ended up sharing myself (which he feels is a part of him) with another woman.

Follow me as we go through the ups and downs of looking for a third, some of our sexual experiences and basically our feelings regarding sharing ourselves with another person.

In the future we will not italicize Anie’s writing, or lead into her blog with an intro. It will just be her words.

February 8, 2016

The Quad – An Introduction Into Their Polyamory Lifestyle

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polyamoryIntroducing:  The Quad.

We have asked four friends (The Quad) who are in a polyamory relationship with each other to share some of their experiences with our readers. How exactly we will do this, we are not quite sure. The difficulty in organizing four separate people, who all have their own respective blogs (linked below in the descriptions of themselves), isn’t easy. Which is exactly why we have asked them to share their experiences. If maintaining a productive blog that makes sense to our readers is tough, imagine maintaining an actual relationship with 4 people, while also dating others outside of The Quad? I assume this is a huge challenge.

We will title any blogs from this series with the header, “The Quad – (Blog Title Here)”.

Meet The Quad.

Venice and Ryan have asked us to participate in their blog. Of, course, we are honoured by this invitation. The first thing we should do is introduce ourselves.

There are four of us in our relationship and we form what we call our quad. In fact, we just celebrated our third “quadversary” – this a word that Krys made up when we hit our first year anniversary. The guys, Gunnar and Bob, are straight, Lexxi is bisixeual with a preference to guys, and Krys is heteroflexible.

Gun and Krys are legally married as are Bob and Lexxi, but we have all iterated that if it were legal to marry more than one person, we would seriously consider it. We do consider ourselves intertwined as such often referring to our other partners as poly spouses.

We all have different likes and kinks when it comes to sex.

  • Bob (shutterbob.net) is a voyeur, photographer, sadist, sexual explorer, you name it he has thought of it and probably tried it. Out of the group he is the one that will push the borders and pull the group along (with full consent of course). He is also the one that probably seeks out group play the most. Bob is Dom to both Lexxi and Krys and takes great pleasure in pushing their limits and borders. As he likes to say; it’s not the destination that matters but the journey.
  • Krys (krystalla3.wordpress.com) is one of Bob’s subs. She is still discovering her submissive side and is finding that she is masochistic. She loves the pain and marks on her body. Krys also has a boyfriend outside of the quad.
  • Lexxi (lexxiblue.wordpress.com) is a sensualist sub who likes to be restrained. She doesn’t mind pain but doesn’t necessarily like marks left on her body. She does like having her limits pushed, gently. She hates to admit it, but she is realizing she’s a service sub, however doesn’t think she’s very good at it. She doesn’t enjoy cleaning house, but she does take pleasure in making sure everyone’s needs are met. Everyone meaning her Sir, her poly hubby, her sister sub, and any guests that come into her home.
  • Gun (opencoupling.com) is the most vanilla in our quad. He isn’t into kinky sex but has dabbled with the group to have an understanding. He can be a verbal Dom when situation presents itself. His other fetishes is new blood. To experience new women (well, new to him, that is). Currently has a few other relationships outside of the quad.

We have noticed over the last year or so, when we meet new people or go out in public, people often question who is with who within our quad and find that quite amusing.

We are all parents. Bob and Lexxi have a 23 yr old girl and a 24 year old boy. Both of them are fully aware of their lifestyle choices and have been very good about it, often helping out with Krys and Gun’s boys, who are 14 & 11, when they tag along to visit Bob and Lexxi. Krys and Gun’s kids don’t know the full extent of their relationships yet, but do understand that we’re important to each other.

There is 500km/300 miles between our respective homes, so we try very hard to make sure we get together on a monthly(ish) basis. This is challenging in the sense that everything has to be planned out. The distance doesn’t make it easy for spontaneous activities.

So after reading that last paragraph, I am sure you are now wondering how we met. Short answer… twitter. Bob and Krys started chatting on Twitter about common subjects along with another group of people. It was suggested to organize a meet and greet in Niagara Falls, Ontario. We all agreed to go and the rest is history.

We have also expressed ourselves in our own personal blogs. They range in topics from the lifestyle to personal feelings/experiences.

February 4, 2016

A Big Thanks To Brixton for giving us cyber love!

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atwoodBlogging online for us has been somewhat unthankful, but as long as we had an archive of our thoughts and adventures saved on the interwebz, we were complacent. That was our only goal. Not to have advertisements, not to sell sex toys or review them (oops), and not to make top lists from other bloggers. Not that we didn’t want to get a pat on the back from other bloggers, we just really had no idea there was a community out there, and thank goodness for that, because we would have known how much we suck a long time ago!

But hey, every now and then we do catch someones eye, and of course we are extremely grateful for that. Just to know someone out there gets us as a couple, or at least was entertained by us, makes the whole last year of updating twice a week worth it. We also got turned on to 3 other bloggers that really peak our interest!

Thanks Brixton!

http://brixtonatwood.com/2016/02/04/my-top-4-favorite-sex-bloggers/

February 4, 2016

Rating Your Penis Selfies: The Justin Bieber

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Thinking about sending that hottie you just met on tinder your penis selfie? Maybe your twitter finger is a bit itchy and you want to show the world what you are working with? Well before you do that, maybe you should think about letting a neutral eye critique it first. Who knows, you may lose the possible future love of your life because you sent a penis pic that wasn’t up to a woman’s standards.  Yea, some women may enjoy a photoshopped 12 inch cock that is so warped the chair in the background of the photo has taken on a whole new shape, or a picture of your penis with a with a rose sticking out of its penis hole, while in the background there is a toilet filled with a log that is double the size of your schlong, but you can never get a second chance to make a first dick selfie impression! Listen fellas, let’s face it, a penis pic is a dime a dozen. There is very little demand and a whole lot of supply. What sets apart your dick from a porn stars isn’t going to be its size or shape, but the creativeness of the photo itself. That’s what women give a second look at. With that being said, let’s see if you can separate your penis selfie from the pack.  Think quality, artistry, vision, grooming style, and of course, penis placement!  You can submit your pics by emailing me at sexlifeandeverything@gmail.com.

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February 1, 2016

Dating Tips – Making First Time Sex Less Awkward

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h-armstrong-roberts-woman-whispering-into-man-s-ear-man-pulling-funny-faceDating Tips

Thanks to the random advice floating around the internet, dating is only getting easier. While browsing the internet we found some great advice that we decided to share with our readers, specifically our female readers. As you know, we preach open communication in a relationship.  In fact, most of our answers to every question we get has to do with some sort of communication. Well, communication doesn’t start after you are married. It can start on a first date, or even on the date where you are planning on having sex with your date for the first time.  Read below:

When I’m dating someone new, I usually expect we’ll have sex sometime between dates 1 and 4. Even if I’m expecting it will happen on a particular night, I typically let the man make the first (physical) move. (If you’re into more submissive men, or are a more aggressive person, then rock on, but this LPT is not for you.) The thing is, I want him to know that I’m ready for it, because when he’s ready I don’t want him to hold back/get anxious/get worked up about mechanics.

The key phrase I have used in the past is: “We’re having sex tonight, right?”

The responses tend to range from “Hell yes we are,” to arm snakes over my shoulder “Yep.”

Ask the question when you’re engaged in an activity that is not making out or cuddling unless you want the sex to commence right then. (In that case, don’t bother asking, honestly. Just put your hands on the fly of his pants and wait for the all-clear.)

whisperGood times to ask are when you’re both watching a movie (whisper it in his ear if you’re at the movies), about to finish dinner, or in the latter half of a romantic walk.

Why is it good to bring up sex casually ahead of time?

1. So he knows you’re game.

Obviously you can revoke consent at any time up to and during sex, but giving him the all-clear ahead of time is a good way to get his juices flowing. Now he knows ahead of time that you want it, and he’s less likely to be second-guessing himself during the transition from making out to humping.

2. It’s a good time to mention important details that haven’t come up yet.

Instead of both of you hurriedly consenting to sex in the seconds it takes you to remove your clothes, giving some lead time offers you both an opportunity to mention preferred methods of contraception (do either of you have a latex allergy?), std’s, and things you DO NOT WANT. (“Hell yes we’re having sex tonight! Just stay away from my butthole, you saucy minx.”)

3. It lets you get your heads in the game.

Sex with someone new can be kind of tricky. It can take you longer than you expect to get fully aroused, especially since figuring each other out can lead to some clumsiness. Having time to warm up mentally before you get started physically can help.

4. You can excuse yourself to the bathroom.

Instead of tearing yourself away during the heavy petting, now you can go to the bathroom and do your pre-sex ritual in an atmosphere of calm expectation. For me, this means swabbing downstairs with a summer’s eve wipe, changing into the secret pair of fresh panties I keep in my purse, refreshing my perfume, taking off spanx and/or tights, popping a breath mint (in my mouth, you freaks), and giving my hair a once-over. I always imagine dudes use this time to clear their floor of discarded boxers, neaten up their sheets, and chug another beer, but I really have no idea what they’re up to. Obviously your rituals will differ, but talking about sex before you do it gives everybody a little extra time to be at their best when things go down (heh), which is nice, because distractions are the last thing you want!

5. The answer might be “no!”

Finally, it’s great to talk about sex before you’re physically worked up for it, because your prospective partner might not be into it. If they respond, “Eh… I’ve had a lot to drink…” or “I’ve got an early day tomorrow,” then you’ll know to cool your jets.

This is actually a really good thing! It’s much better to discover that your partner doesn’t want sex in an emotionally neutral way. This way they don’t turn you down after you’re already naked. Plus, this doesn’t mean you can’t make out/snuggle/give each other foot rubs. All it means is that you need to turn off the part of your brain that reads into that stuff as foreplay. – Rss Sex Feed

Great advice for sure!