Yes Men, Women Do Notice When You Glance At Our Breasts

Yes Men, Women Do Notice When You Glance At Our Breasts

For the record, Ryan and I used our own photos for this blog!  Humble brag / We notice you looking!

I remember when I was younger and one of my brothers friend’s came over to help with my computer.  I had just gotten out of the shower and was wearing a tank top with no bra.  As I walked into my room I saw my brother and my brother’s friend sitting near my computer working on it.  Well, my brother was…his friend couldn’t stop staring at my braless breast.  I noticed.  I shrugged it off and decided to mess with him since he was being a little pervert.  I walked over near the desk and leaned down near his face to point at something on my computer screen and asked, “Is this supposed to be there?”  Although I didn’t check, I assume this would have put my cleavage on full display for him, since he couldn’t keep his eyes off them from afar.  He blushed and tried his hardest to keep his eyes focus on me and my finger.  I laughed to myself and left the room.  

We notice fellas.  Some of us do it on purpose, some of us don’t, but most of us still notice when a guy’s eyes glance at our breasts.  Below we have gathered various responses from women (and men) that were asked, “Do women notice when men look at there breasts?”

Yes. I definitely notice. I think for the most part it is ok and I take it as a compliment. I had breast implants a few years ago so I suppose if I said I didn’t like the attention that would be a bit hypocritical. Like most girls, when I put on an outfit and it really makes my boobs pop and look awesome I feel great and I suppose its natural if I like how they look so would a guy. As long as nothing offside is happening (like Ive had guys sneak a handful of my tits in crowded areas) I think its ok.

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Cuddle Positions – Sleeping Bags

cuddlingAn intimate position where the woman has her face in your lap.   Unlike the classic tea bag position, this is referred to as Sleeping Bags.  

Pros & Cons
+ Intimate position with a lot of attention on a man’s crotch.
+ The woman’s breasts can straddle her man’s leg.


 

Why is Cuddling so important?

When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress.  Cuddling also has a large connection with being nurtured.   It has been shown through research that cuddling helps an infant develop an attachment to his/her parent.  This is instinctual and as you grow older, adults can cuddle to form this same attachment.  Cuddling has also been shown to boost an infant’s oxygen levels, calm its breathing, and ease pain signals. And for an underweight baby, it raises survival chances by more than a third. It helps the brain grow and makes infection and other illnesses, like hypoglycemia or hypothermia, less likely.   This is why we love to cuddle.   

Benefits to our bodies from cuddling

  • Ease Stress
    • When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress. 
  • Helps Your Heart
    • It’s good for your heart.  Cuddling lowers blood pressure. Scientists say it’s clearer that women get this benefit from cuddling, but it seems to be true for both sexes.
  • Relieves Pain
    • A good cuddle may give you more than just moral support after an injury. The oxytocin cuddling releases can help block pain signals. 
  • Fight Colds
    • Too much stress effects the immune system.  Hugs from people you trust may protect you against this common virus, especially if you’re under a lot of stress. And if you’re already sick, more cuddling might keep your symptoms from getting worse.
  • Connects You to Your Partner
    • Oxytocin is sometimes called the love hormone.  Whether having sex, cuddling, touching, dancing, or holding hands, your body is releasing oxytocin.  Couples who cuddle and kiss freely tend to be happier, healthier, and less stressed.
  • Helps You Sleep
    • Oxytocin is the key ingredient again. Because of oxytocin calming effects, it relaxes you and helps you sleep.

Benefits to cuddling your partner

  • Cuddling improves satisfaction in relationships. 
    • In an experimental study, increased cuddling for married couples resulted in statistically higher relationship satisfaction. This finding was particularly notable as the couples who increased their cuddling behaviors were compared to couples who increased time spent together over mealtimes and those who did not change their behavior.
  • Cuddling helps maintain focus on your partner. 
    • In the same study, with increased cuddling, the focus is honed in on our romantic partner as opposed to thinking “what else is out there?”
  • Cuddling releases oxytocin and promotes positive emotions. 
    • Affectionate touch behaviors release oxytocin.  Oxytocin is a natural love hormone that helps us feel closer to our partners. When we cuddle, we feel a surge of positive emotions such as love, adoration, and trust. While cuddling typically occurs around sexual activity, it is perceived to be a nurturing type of behavior rather than a sexual one.
  • Cuddling after sex benefits your relationship. 
    • In a longitudinal study, the duration and quality of post-sex affection including cuddling are related to greater subsequent reports of relationship and sexual satisfaction.  Couples can use this time to be close to each other physically and emotionally, sharing their thoughts and feelings, or not saying anything at all.

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Q&A: My boyfriend’s ass crack smells so bad when I go down on him, what to do?

boyfriend's ass crack smellsQ&A: My boyfriend’s ass crack smells so bad when I go down on him, what to do?

So my boyfriend’s ass crack smells putrid.  I’ve been going out with him for a few months now. I gotta say, his overall hygiene down there leaves a little to be desired but a) I’m down to clown regardless and b) I don’t really know how to bring this up!  How do I tell him?

Now, he’s a morning shower-er, which poses a problem because we always get nasty in the evenings or in bed before the showering happens. I myself am an evening shower and have modelled exemplary hygiene since the get go.

I can deal with a bit of a musty peen, I get it, can’t be minty fresh all the time, but sometimes I can smell terrible smells wafting up from his butt crack and when there is a peen halfway down my throat it really does induce gagging, and not in a sexy fun way.

I’ve also seen him shower, and I don’t think he actually approaches the crack with soap. Or even at all.

Now, how does one tell someone to wash their ass better and that sometimes their junk doesn’t smell great (also, could the man have penile thrush, because sometimes it smells like thrush to me)? How does one navigate this conversation sensitively?

Also, has this happened to anyone else? In my years of oral and stuff, I’ve not been near a but that smells so strong! Have I been lucky thus far?

boyfriend's ass crack smells badVenice’s response to smelly dick

You answered your own question.  Have a talk with  him and ask him take a shower prior to y’all getting freaky.   My husband and I shower any time we use the bathroom.  If we are not at home, we shower as soon as we get home.  At our place, we have a bidet (we do not get paid off any link to amazon, as their terms of service does not allow sex blogs to affiliate with them — we just like the product), which you can buy extremely cheap and install instantly.  Literally, you can add a bidet to your toilet using the existing waterline, no power.   It shoots cool water directly on your anus and cleans you thoroughly.  Unlike a cold pool, or a cold shower, cool water directly on your anus feels much more comfortable than you’d expect. 

This should fix any of the issues you have with your boyfriend’s smells and his rancid ass crack.  As always, a simple talk and good communication solves almost every issue or question we get on this blog.   

Ryan’s response to smelly dick

Venice is correct.  When dealing with a partner and his smelly ass crack, a good start is telling him.  It’s all about communication.   You can also play nice and ask him to shower with you.  Or you can hop in the shower with him when you see him showering in the morning.  While in there, grab the soap and rub him down, his smelly ass  crack included. 

I can’t believe people spend time with a partner, have sex, date for months, and do not know how to communicate something as simple as, “Hey baby, your smelly ass crack is making me gag.  Can you please try to clean it better? Would you like me to shower with you and put a good scrubbing on it?”

Much like women need to work to keep their vagina odor-free, men should do the same.  I keep my ass crack as fresh as possible.  I also spray antiperspirants on my creases to make sure I smell fresh.  Some men like to keep their asses so clean you can eat dinner off of them.    

Naughty Selfies – Floral Pumas and See-Through Black Panties

Floral Pumas and See-Through Black Panties

Ever since I did the Syntribation blog I quit wearing panties.  It makes masturbating at work so much easier.   But sometimes my dresses are a bit short so I have started wearing yoga boy shorts.  This time around I have my Green Yoga Shorts with No Panties and my husband loves it!

The obligatory spiel about this section and our goal:  I’ll try to keep these selfies limited to new outfits, panties, and ideas, rather than the exact same poses and panties every day. Thankfully, I do change my panties! Unfortunately, until I learn how to stretch and morph my body into alien-like positions,  I am a bit limited at what I can do with my camera! Either way, hopefully you guys have a great week and enjoy another edition of our naughty selfies.    

Dear Naughty Selfie Diary: Floral Pumas and See-Through Black Panties

It wasn’t clickbait!  They are see-through black panties!   But I also have a thick black bush. so now you know what a thick bush looks like with see-through black panties?!   I picked up the Pumas at a thrift shop and absolutely love them.   My husband asked for some selfies so I ran to the bathroom at work and took a few pics for him.  As always, I decided to share on the blog.  Believe it or not, I believe one day we will look back on these and smile.  I think they are sexy and cute, but not too bad that I’d be embarrassed.   

 

You can check out all my naughty selfies here!

 

The Secret To Keeping Your Vagina Clean

The Secret To Keeping Your Vagina Clean

My goal with this blog isn’t to shame women with smelly vaginas or add to the stereotype.  Even if you have the most beautiful vagina in the world, you still have dealt with unwelcoming odors from their vagina, whether they admit it or not.  Saying you’ve never dealt with having to clean your vagina is much like saying you’ve never brushed your teeth and/or had morning breath.  It’s just not a reality. 

I get it, that’s just something anyone wants to think about.   We do have to deal with old semen in our bodies, we do have to deal with the chemicals in condoms changing the pH in our bodies, we do have to deal with taking antibiotics for a sinus infection and the good bacteria in our bodies getting removed with the bad, and the list goes on and on.  Anything that can cause a yeast infection, which can be something as simple as a woman being turned on and getting too wet all day, can affect your smell.  With this blog I will try to go over my own experiences and what I believe is the best way / secret to keeping your vagina clean and stay odor free.   It isn’t technically a secret, but it also isn’t discussed for various reasons: talking about the secrets to eliminating odors can be embarrassing because that would mean your vagina odors (all women do), odors can be embarrassing, the vagina is usually self cleansing and if you admit it smells it suggests your vagina is broken, it’s natural, it gives more power to a man’s dick, and odors can be embarrassing

Mom knows best… clean your vagina daily

When I was a little girl, I saw a commercial on TV for Massengil, which was a product women would use if they ever had that “unfresh” feeling, aka a douche. At the time, I didn’t understand what that meant, and if I’m being perfectly honest, I don’t think I fully understood until I was well into my early 20s. I did unfold the instructions that came with the box and saw a crude caricature of a woman with one leg up at a 90 degree angle. In the next frame was the douche bottle headed right for the opening between her legs. What’s she doing that for? I thought. Does the water stay in there? What comes out? My six-year-old mind couldn’t even comprehend, and I don’t even think I asked my mom what she did with that bottle.

To be fair, my mom did emphasize the importance of washing your “private area” every day and putting on a fresh pair of panties. I didn’t question it. I thought it was part of my bathroom routine, same as brushing your teeth, combing your hair, washing your face, etc. I washed faithfully without question because you should always listen to your parents.  I never had any odors that I recall other than maybe a slight urine smell when I was a little girl.


Things that can cause odors in a vagina:

  • Semen
  • A dirty penis / balls
    Yes, your penis can introduce harmful bacteria to our bodies!  Keep your junk clean and stop trying to fuck us after a long day of work and no shower.
  • Period blood. 
    Whether it’s heavy or late in the cycle, it changes our body’s chemistry.
  • Saliva from oral sex
    When it comes to bacteria, the mouth is incredibly dirty and has hundreds of different types of bacteria living in it at any given moment.   This bacteria transfers to our vaginas when you go down on us.  Brush your teeth and use mouthwash prior to oral sex.
  • Getting wet and turned on
    Getting wet is natural, getting wet and turned on without having follow-up sex can lead to an excessive build up of moisture and bacteria.  We need dick, or something shaped like a dick daily.
  • Antibiotics
    Anytime you take antibiotics for other ailments such as a sinus infection, it can kill the good bacteria in  your body as well and temporary change your body chemistry.
  • Being fingered
    Dirty fingernails can carry harmful bacteria
  • Tight Panties
    This locks the moisture in.  If you can’t air it out, things happen.
  • Baths
    Bath water can not only cause an UTI, it can also cause an imbalance in the pH of your vagina.
  • Soap directly in your Vagina
  • Douche (mom never knew!)
    Not only kills the bad smelly bacteria, but it also kills the good bacteria that helps get rid of your odor
  • Wiping after using the bathroom
    Always wipe front to back
  • Hygiene 
    Take showers, change your panties.   

The solution to all of these problems?   A penis.


 

My Vagina Now…

Fast forward to married life.  Although I am religiously intimate with my husband twice a day,  that doesn’t mean just vaginal penetration.  That means massages, handjobs, blowjobs, face fucking, 69ing, or him eating me out.  Having vaginal intercourse has changed to maybe 2-3 times a week.  And most of the time this sex ends with my husband cumming inside me.   Don’t get me wrong, I love it, but let me explain.

When we were younger, we would have sex regularly, because we didn’t have all the various techniques we now use to please each other.  I was never on birth control and didn’t have my tubes tied so I could still easily get pregnant.   So although we had sex daily, it didn’t end in a cream pie.  That, plus the next day having sex again, my vagina was a workhorse.  Constant sex kept my fluids flowing, kept my body self cleansing, and without semen inside me, I stayed very fresh.   This is a sneak peek into how women can keep their bodies clean.  A penis is shaped to penetrate, but it is also shaped to “plunge”.  The glans of the penis is shaped to get deep inside your body and pull out (plunge) all the old fluids deep inside our bodies.     

According to Professor Gordon Gallup from the State University of New York who led a team of scientists to investigate the anatomy of the human penis and its use, the thrust of the penis – and the ridge that separates the head from the shaft – could help clear a woman’s vagina and reproductive system of a previous lover’s sperm.

Which also means it can also help clear a woman’s vagina and reproductive system of the same man’s cum from the night before.  Hence, keeping your vagina clean.

Getting my tubes tied means I want my husband to cum inside me every time

This is important to note because vaginal sex now usually ended with semen in my vagina. And because of this, I can be left with a lot of old semen in my body. You may be saying, “There’s nothing wrong with semen! It’s clean! That’s nature!” That’s right, it is; however, when you have fluids in your body, semen included, it festers in the vaginal cavity, and after a day or two, you’ll notice the distinct “fish” smell. That’s right. How does this happen? When you have bacteria in a tight crevice (vagina) that isn’t given the opportunity to flush out, it will sit. And sit. And sit. And sit in you until one day you notice a pungent smell emanating from between your legs. You can wash your lips and your clit, and it may cut that odor just slightly, but it’s still there! 

Not to mention, now that I have vaginal penetration less often, I notice that sex is much more traumatizing.  Previously my labia and vagina could handle the abuse from a penis rubbing each night between my walls; my body was acclimated to sex.   Now, having sex less often, my labia get sore and swollen, my vaginal walls tighten and become engorged (the opposite of what men think happens when we get fucked by a big dick), and any semen left inside me, stays inside me until my vagina recovers from the trauma of sex.   In other words, my vaginal hole tightens and closes after a long sex session.   This means the cum deep inside me can’t really leak out as easily.   And I know the next day when I am at work and nothing leaks out, my husband’s cum is still deep inside my body festering.  I never had this problem when I was sexual active daily.

Our Menstrual Cycles

I came to the conclusion that my mom was probably douching right after her period, because traces of blood left in your vagina can easily lead to foul odors. “Light days” or “Day 5” of your cycle doesn’t just mean you can stop using tampons – it means you should also start cleaning yourself.

But how?   

If you have a man, on day 5 or light days, you should be asking him to clean you out.  If that makes you uncomfortable, then you should have a shaft shaped toy that has a prominent mushroom shaped glans.

I will be dead honest.  At the end of my cycle I will message my husband and flat out tell him, I want you to fuck me tonight and clean me out.  It’s called a maintenance fuck.  It may not be sexual, it may not be something he fantasizes about, but he knows that I am serious.  I want to use his dick to clean my body deep and thorough, especially at the end of my cycle.  We use coconut oil (which naturally kills yeast) and he will fuck me slow and deep to get it all out.   The next day?  I am as fresh as can be.  That’s the secret, a maintenance fuck.

The researchers found that the penises with a more pronounced “mushroom shape” — those that had a marked coronal ridge, where the head meets the shaft — fared better in the experiment. The most mushroom-shaped penis scooped out nearly 87% of prior sperm.

If it can remove 87% of prior sperm, it can remove 87% of the old blood and bacteria still inside your body from your menstrual cycle.  In other words, if you want to clean your vagina, go fuck yourself. Whether that is with a dick or dildo.  If you don’t have a man and you’re allergic to certain materials, use your fingers. I once had a girl who wanted to hook up with, tell me on a Monday, “Heyyyy, I’m on my period right now, but should be good by the weekend (wink)!” Girl, NO. I’ll see you NEXT Friday, and if I’m on my cycle at that time, see you at the end of the month. That’s just common courtesy.

Something is fishy and the secrets out…

I feel like during the first 20 years of our marriage, I didn’t have that fish problem because, you guessed it, we were constantly having sex, and in doing so, kept my vagina balanced and fresh. Think brushing your teeth (and tongue!) and scrubbing away old food, soda, and candy. Think oral thrush (yeast infection of the mouth) and having no stimulation to free your mouth of bacteria. It works the same for a vagina: the more often you have sex, the less likely you’ll have bacteria sitting and ruminating in you. 

On another note, my cousin was a prison guard and they had a post-op transgender inmate.  This inmate, by doctor’s orders, was prescribed to use a dildo each night on her body to keep from getting infections.   Now I know that this was to prevent the post-op vagina from closing completely, but the same concept still applies.  Using your body each day keeps your body regenerating and functioning properly.  The vagina can absolutely be self-cleansing IF YOU ARE USING IT.

And it’s not just semen or old period blood that can cause that odor. If you’ve ever been so turned on that your vagina starts to get wet, your own fluids can cause it, too! It’s the bacteria sitting in your vagina that does it. I remember distinctly in grade school the older sisters of my classmates saying vaginas smell like fish, or something to that effect. Basically blaming a girl for having a “fishy” vagina. But no one knew why! And that all girls are prone to it! It was just something to tease a girl about when you wanted to piss her off. So even if you’re not sexually active (i.e. having semen in you regularly) or if you don’t have a regular menstrual cycle, your vagina is susceptible to odor. No woman is immune, and it’s unavoidable. Practice total vaginal care – your future partners will thank you.