Q&A: How Can I Get My Wife To Give Me Blow Jobs Again?

blow jobI need some advice on how to approach my wife about giving me blow jobs again.

I love sex, but blow jobs are much better in my opinion. My wife doesn’t give me as much sex as I would like either, but I want to address one problem at a time. She used to be enthusiastic about giving me daily blow jobs when we first started dating. Things were great. She tells me that I’m just imagining this, but I know my memories are real. Than we moved in together and it lowered to once per week. I didn’t think anything of it. We bought a cat and it lowered to once per month when she was on her period. We got married 3 years ago and the last blow job (where I finish in her mouth) that she has given me, without months of begging and hinting, was the third day of our honeymoon. Now I have to hint, beg, and complain for about 6 months before she’ll at least do it as 4 play and it only lasts for about 10 seconds. I’m getting really depressed and fed up about it. I’ve asked and she always has an excuse. I can’t sleep tonight because I’m so depressed about this situation. I give her oral as often as she wants and she loves it, but she refuses to reciprocate. I’ve asked female friends and they tell me to do things that I already do (i.e. help with the cooking, cleaning, give compliments, regular date nights, etc.) I’m out of ideas and I can’t sleep tonight because I’ve been hinting for 7 months with no luck and I really deserved one today. I cleaned the whole apartment, cooked a delicious dinner with no help, washed the dishes, listened to her complain about her job, agreed with her that her boss is stupid, and gave her a massage. All I want is what she at least pretended to like doing before I fell in love. I don’t think that is asking to much. I give her nightly massages and foot rubs and she won’t take no for an answer. If I don’t, than she starts kicking me until I do it. I can’t kick her because I’ll go to jail. I’ve tried to bring it up before and it usually leads to us having a fight, so does anyone have any ideas? Maybe some advice on a better way to word my request?

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Our Experience: Deepthroating While He Urinates (part 2)

Deepthroating While He Urinates (part 1)

Ryan: The next day after failing to urinate while Venice was deepthroating me, Venice sent text messages and teased me for not being able to follow through with our plan. For instance, before she left for work she would make the peeing sound as she talked, “Have a good day at work Ryan, last night was so ssssssssssssspecial.” Of course she was just teasing me but I knew I was going to pull it off the next time we tried. The conditions had to be right though. I had to make sure my bladder was empty in the afternoon so the flavor wouldn’t be so potent that night. I was going to start drinking a lot of water around mid day to make sure I felt the urine sensation as my work day ended. I also thought about the position we previously tried, her flat on her back being face fucked, and knew it wouldn’t work. I’d want to be able to pee and know the stream could go down her throat, rather than pool back up into her mouth and possibly choke her. Mainly, I had to be mentally prepared. I needed to tell myself that I would pull out quick if anything happened, Venice wasn’t going to choke, and I knew I had to relax.

As my work day came to an end I felt the pressure from my urine in my bladder growing. I knew by the time I got home I would be able to pee whether I wanted to or not. I called Venice on my drive home and let her know I wanted to try again but in the bathtub. I also needed her to help set up the camera so everything would be ready. I am unsure if I could set up the phone, put in the memory card, and do a bunch of technical things all while holding in my urine like a three-year-old child who didn’t have a potty near.

Venice: The first time I was disappointed that we didn’t get to finish the deepthroat urination. Although I was nervous, I was more excited. Experiencing these “firsts” with each other is what bonds us even closer, not to mention the memories we get to make with each other and the talks following. I was excited to get a second chance. I get home a few minutes before Ryan, so I was already undressed and ready to get started. I stood there, giddy, excited to get him hard.

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Q&A: Fifty Shades of Grey and A Butt Plug Question

fifty-shades-of-grey-bookMy wife is a very strong “type A” personality and I am sure in large part this is due to her career where she is an executive only two steps below the CEO. She is a woman in an industry that is 95% plus male and has to be even tougher and type A due to her gender.

At any rate we have been married 15 years and have 2 kids. We are both in our early 40s and have a pretty good marriage with what most would consider a good sex life. Nothing crazy but good and mostly satisfying for both of us.

As with most marriages I would imagine our sex life “evolves” somewhat from time to time (again nothing crazy). I recently have discovered that she likes to be dominated. She loved being “manhandled” and kind of forced into doing things. I surmise that this is due to some sort of psychological thing that allows her to deviate from her normal type A personality. Instead of being in charge and calling the shots….someone else is (me!). She LOVED the Fifty Shades of Grey books which again are a deviation (from the womans point of view) from her normal personality. I have kind of known this for years but like I said we never “evolved” into domineering situations before now. So now I am really taking the lead (when the time is appropriate) and kind of dominating her.

We are both looking forward to the Fifty Shades movie and I will now be reading the book. In the meantime we were talking the other night about purchasing some Fifty Shades novelty type items for us to try out. This would definitely be an evolution in our sex life as we will likely be getting arm and leg restraints, a paddle, a blindfold. I might get some nipple clamps as well (something we have never done..but she loves nipple stimulation). Then she said “I don’t want the butt plug though”.

Having not read the books I didn’t know about the inclusion of a butt plug in the story. Now..She up until this point in our relationship has maintained that she has no interest in anything anal related. A few years ago I manually rubbed her anus during sex when she was on top and she absolutely got off on it (she orgasmed within seconds of my doing it) but that notwithstanding she denied that she liked it. And denied interest. So I really haven’t tried anything anal related since. But after she mentioned the “no butt plug” thing I asked her about it. When I mentioned that many women really enjoy them for some reason…they must have some sexual value. She agreed with that point and we both admitted that we really didn’t know what they did to enhance sex. So I did some reading today and discovered that the purpose behind butt plugs (for women) is after insertion (slowly) is to kind of just fill a woman up. Due to the butt plug being inserted the vagina is made tighter which of course increases everyones pleasure during sex. Supposedly the womans contractions and spasms leading up to and during orgasm activate nerve endings in the anus/rectum and seriously enhance pleasure.

Is it a worthwhile and pleasurable item to add to our lovemaking?

My wife seemed to open up to the idea a little bit after I told her what I read but I think a maybe a testimonials from a real women might help her in her butt plug usage decision process. I would LOVE to try this as I am more adventurous sexually but of course if she isn’t going to enjoy it there is no point. The idea of her tied up, blindfolded, nipple clamps on, and a butt plug inserted sounds like it would be tremendous fun. 

Do you or your readers have any feedback about your experiences that may help?  Thanks.   

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Our Experience: Deepthroating While He Urinates (part 1)

First of all, let’s try to make sense of the article and put this gross idea in perspective.  We know most people are not into urine play, we understand that most people think it’s disgusting, and we know that not even porn websites openly allow urine play or golden showers on their servers.  We don’t care.  Apparently we are not normal, because not only do we not think it’s gross or disgusting, we have no problem with urine and do not find it nasty or dirty. Does it taste good?  Nope.  Does it smell bad?   Nope (as long as we do not eat asparagus), not unless you think movie theater popcorn smells bad . Does it belong in the person you loves stomach? Probably not, but I will talk about that issue in more detail throughout this blog.  From Japanese soldiers fighting in World War II running out of medication and drinking their own urine to stay healthy, to the once World Champion MMA fighter, Lyoto Machida, drinking his own urine each morning to stay strong and fit.

On May 7, 1996 there was a theory published in the Theoretical Medicine Institute, that drinking your own pee may work as a “cure” for cancer.  The theory is that with cancer cell antigens in the urine, when ingested again, it will help your own immune system create antibodies and so your body may well be able to cure itself of cancer.  ~ Theoretical Medicine Institute

Does that mean Ryan and Venice are into feces or 2 girls and a cup? Absolutely not. Feces is toxic, smells, and obviously tastes like shit.  We’ve never played with feces, and that is one thing we have both talked about that just doesn’t turn us on or do anything for us.  This isn’t the first time we have discussed urine play, as in December of 2012, we shared our golden shower photo shoot and story with our blog.  However, that was far from our first experience with urine, as we have always been opened minded enough to try new things with each other throughout our entire relationship (we have a polaroid of us playing years ago — yes, a polaroid).

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