Cuddle Positions – Back Pillow

cuddling

The Back Pillow position can be done by either person.  Using the persons back and butt to rest on is comfortable and soft.  

Pros & Cons
+ Fairly comfortable position for both. 
+ Breasts rest on the man’s ass and balls.  

Feet will hang off the bed.  


 

Why is Cuddling so important?

When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress.  Cuddling also has a large connection with being nurtured.   It has been shown through research that cuddling helps an infant develop an attachment to his/her parent.  This is instinctual and as you grow older, adults can cuddle to form this same attachment.  Cuddling has also been shown to boost an infant’s oxygen levels, calm its breathing, and ease pain signals. And for an underweight baby, it raises survival chances by more than a third. It helps the brain grow and makes infection and other illnesses, like hypoglycemia or hypothermia, less likely.   This is why we love to cuddle.   

Benefits to our bodies from cuddling

  • Ease Stress
    • When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress. 
  • Helps Your Heart
    • It’s good for your heart.  Cuddling lowers blood pressure. Scientists say it’s clearer that women get this benefit from cuddling, but it seems to be true for both sexes.
  • Relieves Pain
    • A good cuddle may give you more than just moral support after an injury. The oxytocin cuddling releases can help block pain signals. 
  • Fight Colds
    • Too much stress effects the immune system.  Hugs from people you trust may protect you against this common virus, especially if you’re under a lot of stress. And if you’re already sick, more cuddling might keep your symptoms from getting worse.
  • Connects You to Your Partner
    • Oxytocin is sometimes called the love hormone.  Whether having sex, cuddling, touching, dancing, or holding hands, your body is releasing oxytocin.  Couples who cuddle and kiss freely tend to be happier, healthier, and less stressed.
  • Helps You Sleep
    • Oxytocin is the key ingredient again. Because of oxytocin calming effects, it relaxes you and helps you sleep.

Benefits to cuddling your partner

  • Cuddling improves satisfaction in relationships. 
    • In an experimental study, increased cuddling for married couples resulted in statistically higher relationship satisfaction. This finding was particularly notable as the couples who increased their cuddling behaviors were compared to couples who increased time spent together over mealtimes and those who did not change their behavior.
  • Cuddling helps maintain focus on your partner. 
    • In the same study, with increased cuddling, the focus is honed in on our romantic partner as opposed to thinking “what else is out there?”
  • Cuddling releases oxytocin and promotes positive emotions. 
    • Affectionate touch behaviors release oxytocin.  Oxytocin is a natural love hormone that helps us feel closer to our partners. When we cuddle, we feel a surge of positive emotions such as love, adoration, and trust. While cuddling typically occurs around sexual activity, it is perceived to be a nurturing type of behavior rather than a sexual one.
  • Cuddling after sex benefits your relationship. 
    • In a longitudinal study, the duration and quality of post-sex affection including cuddling are related to greater subsequent reports of relationship and sexual satisfaction.  Couples can use this time to be close to each other physically and emotionally, sharing their thoughts and feelings, or not saying anything at all.

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8 Weeks Of Growing Out My Bush In Photos

growing my bush shaved8 Weeks Of Growing Out My Bush In Photos

When I first announced that I was thinking about growing out my bush as my next sexblogging.com project, I immediately received a lot of flack from visitors to our site.  The response to the idea was almost funny, because a few people messaged me telling me not to ruin my body.   The messages expressed how much they hated how the bush on a woman looked, how it was gross, how it was unclean, and how they would never be attracted to any woman who had a hairy snatch.

They are wrong!  A bush is beautiful and I will show you why in photos!

Why I Am Growing Out My Bush

I guess before I start I will try to explain why I thought the idea of growing out my bush would be fun to begin with.  I’ve notice online, and probably because of the laws in Japan that prohibit porn from showing the actual genitals, that a lot of Asian women have a bush.   I’d assume this is because if Japanese women did not have a bush, then their porn would show nothing.  Although the genitals are censored, the hair is not. growing my bush week 1This would make pubic hair in the Japanese culture very important.  Even if a Japanese man is with his wife, obviously in real life there is no censor blur in front of her vagina, but since men have been conditioned to only enjoy the site of a pubic hair through porn and photos, why would he ask his woman to remove this aphrodisiac  (which we can now call an afrodisiac)? I believe the same can be said for the older generation here in the United States.  The younger generations seem to think that the bush is gross or unclean, while the older generations love and appreciate a hairy vagina.  When they grew up, all their porn had hairy women.   Their first experience was with a woman who had hair.  The bush was a sign of womanhood for them.   This lust and fetish doesn’t change because women in the 90s started shaving landing patches and bermuda triangles in their crotches.  Eventually, getting rid of any sign of hair and going completely bald eagle.   Some men absolutely love a thick bush, and I can respect that.

The Asian Girls and their Hairy Bush

, think of the times you have seen pubic hair in an American movie.  Full frontal nudity is still rare, but when it does raise its head, the female actresses always seem to have hair.  The hair represents nudity without it being labeled as pornography.  It represents the taboo of the revelation in American cinema.  Conversely, in almost all American X-rated movies, the adult film stars have their pubic hairs shaved off (which has become an accepted norm) making it easier to see the details of dicks and pussy in action.

growing my bush GrowthThe History of the Bush and Pubic Hair

The history and the importance of why humans have pubic hair is unknown, but a lot of people suspect it has to do with the pubic hair helping to retain the natural pheromones produced by glands to entice the opposite sex.  Before you shrug off the idea that we actually need a reason to attract the opposite sex, try to understand that animals do go in “heat.”  Smells released from the female body attract the opposite sex (cats & dogs for example), and the male will know it’s that time.   Although we are not cats or dogs, the concept remains.  As noted in an article written by Dr. Kristie Leong:

A thick patch retaining a woman’s natural pheromones makes sense.  According to some theories, animals and people are attracted to members of the opposite sex who have pheromone scents that are distinctly different from their own. This reduces the risk of inbreeding, which could produce offspring with genetic defects. Pubic hair helps to trap these volatile scent molecules, which are quickly broken down when exposed to air.

I personally find myself attracted to my husband’s underarms, which I kiss and lick each morning.  I also know my underarms drive my husband insane.  I’ve watched him sniff and lick under my arms (when I do not get ticklish) and get the hardest erections I have ever seen.  I also will notice at times when we are having sex, he can cum almost immediately if I lift my arms up and let him smell my pheromones.  This isn’t just some article I read, this is my own experience.

growing my bush monthsI have heard of other reasons for pubic hair which I may not agree with, but I suppose are worth noting.  It is said that rough hairs in the pubic region help protect the delicate tissues of the genitals.  This would explain why the pubic hair is unlike the hair on your head.  I am unsure about this theory, as I let Ryan beat my thing up to the point of no return, and within the next few days my “delicate” skin is back and ready to fuck.  Hair or no hair, my vagina doesn’t feel more protected from the large penis going in and out of my body.   Since I wear clothing and do not walk around nude, I will never know if the bush protected women, or kept them warm when they didn’t have much clothing.   I assume the same would be said for the bush being this great protector.  I’ve heard that the bush helps keep harmful particles out of the vagina (an argument I’ve heard in defense of actually keeping a bush — people’s misconception of the lack of bush being “cleaner”).  Since we wear clothing, again, my vagina is protected from whatever harmful particles it needs to be protected against.   I am not a big fan of these reasons for keeping your pubic hair, but nonetheless, they are different theories worthy of this blog.

Less so now, but prior to civilized times,  pubic hair would also be a sign for a male to know a woman is ready to reproduce.   Pubic hair is a sign of puberty, which is also a sign a woman is fertile.  For that reason, girls with pubic hair are no longer girls, but women.  This concept is not too far fetched as Ryan has also told me that he cannot wait to see my pubic hair in all its glory.  He has also said that when he grew up, a shaved vagina was unheard of.  A real woman had hair.   All the porn he had seen, which wasn’t much, but the same dumb little VCR tape him and his siblings hid from their parents, had nothing but 70s porn stars, all full of hair.   This was the most sexual thing he had ever seen, and these women, hair and all, definitely turned him on.  Not to mention, he has told me all the movies in the 80s never showed genitals.  The only way “nudity” in a movie was either breasts, or a huge bush.  Unlike the younger generation that have no idea what it’s like to see bush in an 80s film (what do the films show these days?), Ryan loved it.   That love has definitely created a slight fetish, as he is excited as hell to see my thick Asian bush.

growing my bush full growthEnough with History, Let’s Get Into Growing My Asian Bush!

The last time I had a bush was when I was in my early 20s.  That was many years ago and we had both forgotten what it looked like.  Growing up and hitting puberty, I had a bush and that was that.  I never thought about shaving, trimming, or shaping it.  The first time I’ve seen myself truly clean shaven since puberty was after my husband (then just my boyfriend) shaved it with me because we were horny and bored, about 6 months into our relationship.  Since then, I have never grown out my bush to its fullness, never going more than a week before shaving fully again.  I know from experience that the first day after I shave my skin gets very irritated.  In preparing for Day One’s picture, I shaved everyday for a week prior to February 1, 2013, the first day I will start growing my bush.  I did this in order to allow my skin to become less itchy, bumpy, and/or inflamed on the actual day of the the photo, and since I used a brand new razor this week I knew I would be more susceptible to cuts, nicks, and overall skin irritation.  Additionally, I used cocoa butter in the morning and evening to keep my skin soft and to lessen the appearance of chafed skin.  In my opinion, it has done an excellent job.  I expect that as my hair starts to grow in, I’ll experience major itching and prickling.

For the finished product, if I get one “you look like you got Buckwheat in a leg lock” joke, I know that I’ve succeeded.

Enjoy!

 

 

Naughty Selfies – Cute Dress, No Panties with Green Yoga Shorts

Cute Dress, No Panties with Green Yoga Shorts, and Green Chucks

Ever since I did the Syntribation blog I quit wearing panties.  It makes masturbating at work so much easier.   But sometimes my dresses are a bit short so I have started wearing yoga boy shorts.  This time around I have my Green Yoga Shorts with No Panties and my husband loves it!

The obligatory spiel about this section and our goal:  I’ll try to keep these selfies limited to new outfits, panties, and ideas, rather than the exact same poses and panties every day. Thankfully, I do change my panties! Unfortunately, until I learn how to stretch and morph my body into alien-like positions,  I am a bit limited at what I can do with my camera! Either way, hopefully you guys have a great week and enjoy another edition of our naughty selfies.    

Dear Naughty Selfie Diary:  Green Yoga Shorts and Green Chucks

Unfortunately (for the random person behind me) the days of my dress accidentally flying up in the wind and letting the world see my hiney, the world will now only see my boy shorts!   My husband has spoken, and he loves that I match my yoga shorts with my dress.   If you have followed our blog, you know I am all about pleasing my husband.   

If you need more yoga short action than I can offer, you can check out r/girlsinyogashorts


You can check out all my naughty selfies here!

 

Your Penis Size Compared To An Average Woman’s Body

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Penis Size with Comparisons To A Woman’s Body

The perception of penis size has become very warped. This is the result of a number of factors, including the advent of pornography, photography, photomanipulation, men that lie about their size, racism, and dishonest reporting of the penis size. This blog aims to change a few misconceptions about penis size through photos that compare a various sizes to a woman’s body.  

When one is looking to learn about the world, generalizations are fundamental. Those generalizations will be presented without citation. The strength of this blog is not the interpretation of scientific data.  We will simply post photos and let the photos be the research.

Let’s begin with the reality of the average Penis Size

The global average penis size is 5.1 – 5.5 inches (14 cm), and most likely toward the smaller end of this scale.  

Five point five inches. Five and a half inches. 5 1/2 inches.

5.5 in

5.5 inches

5.5 INCHES

5.5 INCHES

Sometimes different averages come up, because most sample sizes are random.   It would also depend on the location.  Sometimes it’s 4.9 inches, 5.1 inches, sometimes it’s 5.6 inches or even 6.1 inches.  What’s interesting is, if you took the time to research and average all the results with each other, your average would still be in the 5.5 inch range.   So for this articles sake, let’s go with the idea that the average human penis is typically about 5.5 inches long.

Accurately measuring your Penis Size

There is a right way to measure your penis is called Bone-Pressed Erect Length. To find your measurement you will first need to be erect.  Once erect, stand up, lay a hard ruler flat along the top of your penis, and push the ruler in towards your pubic bone. Try to straighten out any curve by gently pulling on the tip of your glans.  The farthest point the ruler reads is your standardized erect length.

Bone-Pressed Erect Length (BPEL) Steps:

  1. Start on the top side of your erect penis (the side of the penis facing up towards you when you look down). 
  2. Put the end of your ruler or measuring tape at the base of the penis, right up against the pubic bone (where the penis meets the body). If you have a curve, slightly straighten it by gently grabbing the tip of your glans.  Be sure to push past any excess fat or pubic hair so the ruler is right up against the bone. 
  3. Measure in a straight line from the pubic bone to the tip of the penis. 

 

That’s your actual penis length. According to a 2015 study, the average flaccid length is 3.6 inches, while the average length of an erect penis is 5.17 inches (Veale, 2015).  If you do any other technique, like not pressing against the fat, or measuring along the side or along the bottom, or reading the curve of a measuring tape down your glans, you are doing it wrong.

Why do some resources tell you to measure differently to get your penis size?

Here is your number 1 result from Google explaining how to properly measure your penis, which actually describes a totally improper method:


Here’s the(in)correct process on how to measure penis length:

  1. Grab a ruler or tape measure.
  2. Begin by putting the end at the tip of your penis.
  3. Measure in a straight line from the penis head, down the shaft, and then to the tip of your pubic bone.
  4. Don’t press the pubic bone, and push past any excess fat or pubic hair that may get in the way.
  5. Get the measurement at the pubic bone and note it down. That’s your real measurement.

 

This is incorrect.  Because every person has a different sized FUPA  (fat upper pubic area), you would have inaccurate measurements that will change with weight loss / weight gain.   If a guy is overweight with 7 inches bone pressed erect length, his fat pad on his pubic bone would hide some of his penis size.  If a guy is skinny who is 7 inches bone pressed erect length, he will not have much fat on his pubic area and may measure closer to 7 inches (his measurement would be closer to his bone pressed erect length).  Does this mean the guy with less fat has a bigger 7 inch dick?  Maybe in a sense of what can penetrate a woman, but scientifically, measuring from the pubic bone would be an absolute size that ignores the FUPA, the weight of the man, or his genetics regarding the fat on his pubic bone area.  Therefore, bone pressing would be the only way to accurately measure a man’s penis, because his size will not change depending on his weight.  Even though the chubby guy with 7 inches may only be able to penetrate a woman with 4 to 5 inches, depending on his FUPA, he still measures 7 inches from his pubic bone.   If he lost weight, the size that penetrates would change.  However, his bone pressed erect length would remain the same.  And this is why bone pressed erect length is the most accurate way to measure a penis.

The reasons behind the misinformation on how to measure penis size.

Why do people insist on non-bone-pressed erect length measurements?  Some of the reason is insecurity.  A lot of guys need to see porn stars or others and focus on the length that penetrates the woman.  It is common for a man to use his bone-pressed measurement as his size, while telling his own ego or partner the length of a porn star non-bone-pressed.  This gives his own ego and/or partner a warped perception of his size or how porn has camera tricks that make them look so huge.  Porn does have camera tricks, but most porn stars are also well above average.  If his penis is 7 inches bone-pressed, and a popular porn star that is huge measures 7 inches non-bone-pressed, most people do not know the difference.  It’s misleading, but it would be the truth in a weird warped way.   

Other reasons studies use the non-bone-pressed erect length measurement is because the study is being done by a research team that is working in the condom industry.  They would not need to study the dick that all the way to your fat pad when developing condoms, just the useable shaft. So they tend to focus on non-bone-pressed erect length more than your actual size.

No legitimate study would ever consider using anything other than the bone-pressed method simply because it would make no sense to judge a person’s dick size with body weight and body fat being a variable that can change a man’s size.  And what sense does it make to use a control that can change depending on what you ate that week?

A Popular photo that floats around various communities that judge measurements the same way shoe collectors inspect “real or fake” shoes posts online.  Yes, it’s that serious.

Other than the zero-end rule being flawed, this photo is still a great example of the different ways men measure.  Again, measure however you want and show your woman all the best sizes, but just do not post online!  You can’t beat the internet.  It will be criticized if you do not check all those boxes. Personally, I and many others disagree with the zero-end rule.  The fat pad in the pubic area varies with different men, especially depending on your weight.   A larger man may have more fat than a skinny guy, so you’d need to press to the bone.  Which is the entire concept of a bone-press measurement, it will NOT change.  This extra fat may block the zero-end.  The zero-end visible seems to be a very strict way of measuring for those that study dicks, dick sizes, and dick measuring techniques like astrophysicists study the universe.  

So what does an accurately measured 6.25 inch penis look like on an average woman?

Here is what the 6.25 inch erect penis from the photo above looks like scaled accurately and compared to a woman 5’4″ and 110-115 lbs.  For the record, 5’4 is the average height for women.   As with all averages, there are shorter and taller, but on average, women are 5’4 tall.  Look at the comparison of a 6 inch penis covering a woman of average height.  This 6 inch size can obviously give an average height woman all the deep penetration she desires.

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Sex Toy Review: SHD King 3 Double-Head Stimulation Dildo

SHD King 3 Double-Head Stimulation Dildo

It’s 2022 and a double-head dildo is no longer a lesbian toy, it isn’t made for just women, and it definitely isn’t something any couple should be ashamed of.  However, some things never change.

Toxic Masculinity

Being on social media and tuning in to different communities, I have noticed that some circles still bully others for their sexual preferences or kinks.  This behavior online is equivalent to the simpleton mindset of being back in high school again.  The masculine hive mind of the internet can be extremely toxic.  I do not want to get too much into urban Twitter (this isn’t a race thing, there are white, Hispanic, and black people all apart of urban social media), or urban YouTube, but there are a lot of people who sit in front of a webcam gossiping with others about the latest things going on in urban culture and neighborhoods.   In doing so, they create their own little following and end up harassing other similiar personalities and digging up skeletons (through ex-girlfriends or rumors).  If they find out your ex-woman used a vibrator on you, or fingered you during a blow job, you are “canceled”.  Imagine that?  It’s interesting because this is a sneak peek into the pressures of urban neighborhoods, toxic masculinity, and being ashamed of your kinks and what you really enjoy behind closed doors.  Remember, a lot of people in this urban masculine culture still deny masturbating, which is absolutely ridiculous.

I can’t imagine a life where you have to hide kinks such as enjoying a finger in your ass while getting a blow job, using a toy with your girl, and just being sexually open minded in general.   Never again.  In fact, let’s just save this rant for another blog!

So how did we like the SHD King 3 Double-Head Stimulation Dildo?

We loved it.  Masturbating together is always fun.  Masturbating stuck together with a double-headed dildo is even more fun.   This toy is perfect for a woman that sits in her man’s lap and enjoys giving him a hand job.  The dildo is soft in the center so you can bend it in whatever positions you like.  It is also slim on both ends so it isn’t too overwhelming on the body.  The vibrations feel amazing and there are so many different frequencies and patterns to choose from.

For us, it is the first time in a long time that my wife was able to orgasm immediately.  We had an adult themed video playing on a tablet off to the side of us while she sat in my lap with one end of the dildo resting between her labia.   The other end of the dildo was near my taint, resting directly on my anus.   The vibration frequency was on high and steady (no pulsating).  While she stroked me and watched the video, we put imagine ourselves being the actors in the porn video and talk dirty to each other.  After a few minutes, my wife shocked me and started moaning.  She leaned back holding herself up by my dick like a bull rider.  It seemed like an intense orgasm.  She could no sit up straight and was leaning her body so far back that she would have fell off the bed if she didn’t have my penis in her hand.  She could not sit up straight until the sensation subsided because the vibrations were making her clit sensitive.   

I could barely sit up during my orgasm.  Much like a man gets weak while he cums and tries to keep going, I tried to control my orgasm and stay focused on stroking my husband’s dick.  Impossible.  I fell back and would have fallen off the bed if I didn’t squeeze his dick and hold myself up with it.   Think cliffhanger.   

I loved this toy!  It nearly killed me.   – Venice Bloggs

Once she was able to sit back up she slid the head of the double-head dildo into my anus.  It was so comfortable that I couldn’t tell it was even in me.  It felt more like she just placed it directly over my rim so I could feel the vibrations better.   As I felt the orgasm building, I noticed my wife was rotating her hips more aggressively as if she was going to cum again.   My orgasm hit me at the same time her second orgasm hit her.  She again leaned back which forced my dick to shoot cum all over her stomach.  I had to quickly sit up and snatch my dick away from her grips because she couldn’t stroke me while she came.  I held her up by grabbing one of her arms and stroking myself with my other hand.  I had to do this because while she cums she becomes a zombie and would have just held my dick and ruined my orgasm.   I finished on myself and waited for her to finish so she could support her own weight again.    I let go of her arm and flopped back down onto the bed.  We both couldn’t move for a few minutes.  

So I guess we both approve the double-head Stimulation Dildo.  


The SHD King 3 Double-Head Stimulation Dildo Pros and Cons

Pros:

  • The dildo is flexible so a woman could use this toy all to herself.  She could place the dildo in her vagina and bend it so the other side is touching her clit.  Or she could place the other side in her anus.
  • It has two different vibrating parts so it can pleasure you in various ways.
  • Good for lesbians in the tribbing position.
  • A Great way for a couple to  scissor and place both ends inside their bodies and masturbate together.  This could be done with a gay couple, lesbian couple, or a female / male couple.  
  • It is sized perfectly for a couple that do not want to be overwhelmed with girth.  Both ends are slim (1.18″ & 1.35″).  This helps 

Cons:

  • The double-head dildo could be a bit longer so you do not have to move so close to your partner.   The longer, the better.

More Information and Price: $57.99

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This product is composed of safe pliable silicone material that is easily bendable or pliable for stimulation of the G spot. This is done from a good angle. This dildo vibrator is available in two beautiful colors including purple and magenta. It is made up of ABS and soft medical-grade silicone material. This material used is skin-friendly and will give a soft realistic touch. It has got a mute design as it produces less noise which is negligible. It produces a sound that is less than 40 decibels during its use. You can use it with comfort as it is friendly and lovely to use without producing any kind of disturbance or noise.

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We are not affiliated with Honeysx and get no revenue from this review.  Our goal isn’t to make money promoting things in hopes you buy it, rather we are just sharing our reviews on products we have tried and want to share with our readers. This item was sent to us as a promotional product under the terms and condition that if we did not enjoy the product, we are not obligated to write or publish a review.   All reviews are just our opinions and experiences.