Month: March 2023

March 29, 2023

How To Watch Porn Together As A Couple

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How To Watch Porn Together As A Couple

Scenario:  You are sitting in a dark room with a bag of Cheetos half eaten, sweat dripping down your eyebrows. You are licking your lips and madly clicking your mouse with your eyes focused on your computer screen. You slowly lean back and unzip your pants, getting Cheeto crumbs all over your crotch. 

The door whips open…

All of the sudden your wife is standing behind you holding 2 bags of groceries. She drops the the grocery bags as she screams, “Oh my Gosh!”  Both bags of groceries drop from her arms in slow motion to the floor and the milk gallon bursts on impact splattering white liquid all over the room.

Not exactly the white splashing liquid you wanted to splash all over the room right?  Well, it doesn’t have to be like this. You are not a teenager anymore and there is no need to feel ashamed of enjoying the thrill of seeing naked strangers fuck.  

Things To Overcome When Watching Porn Together

      •  It can be extremely embarrassing for a woman to admit that they enjoy watching porn. 
          • Women feel their partner will not view them as “innocent” if they agree to watch/enjoy a porn together.
              • Don’t porn shame her.
          • Women feel their partner will think that just because she enjoys watching a video of a woman banging two guys that automatically means she herself wants to bang two guys.
              • Do not assume or force ideas onto your partner about things you see in videos.  Just watch and enjoy.  You can talk and be open, but keep it light-hearted and let her tell you her kinks, not YOU tell her what YOU think her kinks are because of a video you chose and she had an orgasm to. 
          • Women avoid porn because they feel their partners may then think they have total permission to watch porn or force them to try they things they watch together.
              • Just because you watch a porn together once doesn’t mean when she comes home from work you should have a porn video on the large screen like it’s an episode of The Office.
          • Women can get jealous of porn stars, their bodies, and the various acts they perform.
              • Try not to obsess on a porn star or their bodies. Some women are self conscious and this insecurity makes them feel totally uncomfortable watching porn stars.  This is also a jealousy issue, and one of the biggest road blocks when dealing with enjoying porn together for both partners.
      • It can also be embarrassing for a man to admit they enjoy watching porn.
          • Most men have watched and masturbated to porn whether they admit it or not. But for them, porn has became a ritual they do by themselves, secretly, because that’s how they’ve always watched it.
              • Don’t porn shame him.
          • Some men prefer not to watch porn with their partners because they have issues with their own penis size and do not want their partner to study, or be “ruined” by seeing other dicks in action.
              • As mentioned above, jealousy is a huge issue when watching a porn with your partner.  From body shape, breast size, penis size, to the various acts porn stars perform, it can create insecurities.  Be open and do not obsess on the porn stars dick size.
          • Some men and women feel that watching porn is cheating.
              • Every relationship is different, and cheating is dependent on your relationship and the rules all parties in that relationship have agreed upon.  And this is why watching porn together could totally remove the cheating aspect.
      • A lot of people have moral issues with the idea that people are paid to have sex while others watch.  Whether that be making porn videos or prostitution.  
      • Religious beliefs may prevent someone from enjoying watching porn.

So how do you overcome some of these issues?  First, you want to read them again and understand them. The only way you overcome them is understanding them.  From there, communication and acceptance are important.  Talk to your partner and make sure they understand that no kink or fantasy they may have will ever be shamed by you, no matter what the kink may be.

Communicate

As with most relationship choices, talking about your desires is always a good first step. And I don’t mean yelling out, “Hey, instead of watching Curb Your Enthusiasm tonight, let’s watch this video called Tranny verse Granny.”

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.  And despite the taboos involved with watching porn together, it can be something we’d consider healthy in a relationship because it keeps you and your partner sexually open. Sit your partner down and let your partner know that you would love to do something tonight that is a bit naughty. Maybe even suggest a weekly game. One week your partner can pick out something they want to do that they feel is naughty, and the next week you can do something you choose.  

 

A Few Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Is Healthy For Your Relationship

      • Watching porn together can bring you and your partner closer together.
      • Watching porn together can lead to intimate and honest conversations.
          • This is a good way to open up about your possible kinks. 
      • Watching porn together can replace foreplay when kissing and cuddling isn’t enough. 
      • Watching porn together can spark new ideas in the bedroom.  You might even discover you like things that you have never even considered.

Choosing the right video.

The internet is filled with porn. Which, if you’re not a seasoned user, can make it hard to filter through to the stuff you like, and harder still for two people to find something they both like. With that said, a lot of mainstream porn can be violent, misogynistic, and unrealistic, so talking about your boundaries beforehand is important.  A good start is finding videos that can be sexy and fun.  Maybe try a website like MrSkin.com.  This site not only can get you worked up, but it can also lead to fun and kinky conversations regarding various topics in the movie industry and all the various sex scenes in movies.  

Just be careful with the main “tube” porn sites, because even a simple search for “threesome” could yield results featuring step-siblings, or other taboo-themed content, which may or may not be too extreme.  If you’re searching together, make sure you keep an open line of communication and ask your partner prior to clicking a video if this is something they’d be interested in.

For us, our first video together was a VHS tape, starring Ron Jeremy.  How do I remember this?  Because it was the only video I had in my collection.  The internet was around, but our connection was dialup and watching videos online just wasn’t possible for us. So we had our lucky VHS tape and would probably make it through half a scene before we’d turn it off and make the magic happen. 

Take turns

Once you have a sense of each other’s boundaries, maybe take turns on which video you decide to watch together.  This can help open the door to talk about kinks and things you may be interested in and your partner doesn’t know about.  It also gives your partner the same opportunity.  

Do (or do not) try this at home.

One of the great things about watching porn as a couple is that you might see something you want to try yourselves. This can be a good staging area for consent, because you’re both watching the same act in real-time and can agree together if you’re into it, versus one person trying to incorporate something they once saw on their own.  Just a quick little comment like, “Hey, that looks kind of hot, what do you think?”  If your partner responds, “It’s very hot.”   You can then follow up with a passive question such as, “Is that something you think you’d like to try or not really?”  If the answer is not really, move on.  Remember the huge list at the top of this article that talks about all the things you need to overcome when watching porn together?  This is a huge red flag. Do not pressure your partner to try the things you see in videos, this is the exact reason a lot of couples can’t watch videos together.  

March 22, 2023

Cuddle Positions – Angry in Love

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Angry and in love.  Although we do not advocate going to be in a bad mood, it happens.  And when it happens, usually you sleep back to back.  However, anger doesn’t mean you aren’t in love.  Gently crossing your leg over your partners while you sleep is a subtle way to let them know you love them.

Pros & Cons
+ It lets your partner know you may be mad but you still love them.

– It’s not the closest of positions to cuddle.

 

Why is Cuddling so important?

When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress.  Cuddling also has a large connection with being nurtured.   It has been shown through research that cuddling helps an infant develop an attachment to his/her parent.  This is instinctual and as you grow older, adults can cuddle to form this same attachment.  Cuddling has also been shown to boost an infant’s oxygen levels, calm its breathing, and ease pain signals. And for an underweight baby, it raises survival chances by more than a third. It helps the brain grow and makes infection and other illnesses, like hypoglycemia or hypothermia, less likely.   This is why we love to cuddle.   

Benefits to our bodies from cuddling

  • Ease Stress
    • When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress. 
  • Helps Your Heart
    • It’s good for your heart.  Cuddling lowers blood pressure. Scientists say it’s clearer that women get this benefit from cuddling, but it seems to be true for both sexes.
  • Relieves Pain
    • A good cuddle may give you more than just moral support after an injury. The oxytocin cuddling releases can help block pain signals. 
  • Fight Colds
    • Too much stress effects the immune system.  Hugs from people you trust may protect you against this common virus, especially if you’re under a lot of stress. And if you’re already sick, more cuddling might keep your symptoms from getting worse.
  • Connects You to Your Partner
    • Oxytocin is sometimes called the love hormone.  Whether having sex, cuddling, touching, dancing, or holding hands, your body is releasing oxytocin.  Couples who cuddle and kiss freely tend to be happier, healthier, and less stressed.
  • Helps You Sleep
    • Oxytocin is the key ingredient again. Because of oxytocin calming effects, it relaxes you and helps you sleep.

Benefits to cuddling your partner

  • Cuddling improves satisfaction in relationships. 
    • In an experimental study, increased cuddling for married couples resulted in statistically higher relationship satisfaction. This finding was particularly notable as the couples who increased their cuddling behaviors were compared to couples who increased time spent together over mealtimes and those who did not change their behavior.
  • Cuddling helps maintain focus on your partner. 
    • In the same study, with increased cuddling, the focus is honed in on our romantic partner as opposed to thinking “what else is out there?”
  • Cuddling releases oxytocin and promotes positive emotions. 
    • Affectionate touch behaviors release oxytocin.  Oxytocin is a natural love hormone that helps us feel closer to our partners. When we cuddle, we feel a surge of positive emotions such as love, adoration, and trust. While cuddling typically occurs around sexual activity, it is perceived to be a nurturing type of behavior rather than a sexual one.
  • Cuddling after sex benefits your relationship. 
    • In a longitudinal study, the duration and quality of post-sex affection including cuddling are related to greater subsequent reports of relationship and sexual satisfaction.  Couples can use this time to be close to each other physically and emotionally, sharing their thoughts and feelings, or not saying anything at all.

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March 15, 2023

Cum Ice Cubes – Freezing his Semen and Taking Control

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cum ice cubesCum Ice Cubes – Freezing His Semen So I Can Decide When I Want to Taste Him Or Have Him In My Body

When my husband and I first met, I just really enjoyed being around him: hearing his voice, feeling his presence, and just knowing he’s nearby. Before we moved in together, I told him that I found some of his hairs in my bed (clearly his arm or leg hairs) and I kept them in a big Easter egg that had candies in them at one point. It was about twice the size of my fist with a light pink bottom and clear top. I kept it on my nightstand so I could look at it whenever I wanted. Yes, I had pictures, but there was something about having an actual piece of him that comforted me. A picture is great, but it’s merely a duplicate of an original form, and something that I could make endless copies of. But the three hairs in my Easter egg were special: they came from the body of the man I love, his arms that held me, and his legs that wrapped around me. Not to mention they were next to me when I slept, which meant I was literally sleeping next to him. It was my little secret; and if anyone came into my room and saw the egg, they could easily glance over it and see “nothing.”

25 years later, I still have that same state of mind of wanting to keep my husband with, on, or in me at all times. Sometimes he’ll let me have one of his hoodies, which instantly becomes “my favorite” (even though it’s two sizes too big) and no one can ever use it. I may spray his cologne on that hoodie just to be completely enveloped. It’s comforting and I have a sense of being complete, as in “the opposite of being lost.” But now, it’s not just a hoodie or cologne – what I want now is his semen. I used to say that I wished there was a tube that went straight from his testicles to my stomach (or ass or vagina) so that I could continually keep absorbing him, i.e. absorb him just as fast as he could make it. Why do this? It’s an extension of the hairs in the Easter egg. It comforts me knowing that my body is absorbing his DNA at all times. I feel like if I committed a crime and they needed my DNA, it would show that I have male DNA mixed with my own! Yes, it does make me feel like a dirty girl on the inside, but more so, it’s the feeling of completion and him being with me at all times. That’s the goal.

However, to be honest, I didn’t always feel this way. I didn’t always have an infatuation with needing to have semen in me at all times. Although I didn’t have a need to swallow, I never thought it was gross. I didn’t have a need to have the cum in my body; now, I think it’s lame that a woman would spit or use toilet paper to wipe it off her body. Now, if it’s anywhere that’s not in my mouth, ass, or pussy, I tell my husband to use his dick as a spoon, scoop up the “spilled” cum, and feed me with it. If for any reason he wants to splash on my face, chest, ass, etc., he better use his dick to feed me. Over the years I’ve become a semen connoisseur. I can tell when he’s dehydrated, I can tell if he’s on antibiotics, I can tell if he hasn’t ejaculated in over 24 hours. Although I love the various tastes (bitter, “average”) and textures (“melted yogurt” or “clear mucus”), my favorite is when it’s thick, white, and flavorful, which is pretty much anything from 2.5 or higher on a scale of 0-5. As a woman married to her soulmate for over half her life, I don’t have any hesitation whatsoever in swallowing his cum. If there was ever any hesitation in my immature mind, it’s dead. Swallowing is a way to show my love and to show him that I love and accept everything about him; it makes me feel giddy inside and I love watching his face when I blow bubbles, gargle, then swallow!

The next logical step into ascending was to tell my husband that I wanted semen cubes. My initial thought was to have him ejaculate in a shot glass, I’d take a super tiny rubber spatula and put it into a small jar, and whenever I have my morning iced chai, I’d take a spoon and scrape a bit off the surface (think shaved ice) and put it into my tea. We tried having him ejaculate directly into a syringe and putting the contents into a silicone mold (pea-sized cubes). Next we tried cumming on Saran Wrap and putting them into the mold that way (like cake icing pastry bag). Finally, we settled on him ejaculating right onto the mold, which has been working pretty good. Ideally, it would be perfect to always have one ice cube in my tea every day, but my goal is to have one ice cube every day until I die. My husband said it was pretty extreme and borderline “disgusting” because it was so extreme, but he met me this way.

The best method of collecting his cum.

  1. Pinching the head.  Although are limited to the amount cum he can hold, it’s the best method of collection for us.   You get about as much cum as his urethra can hold, from his lower cock where his prostate releases to his glans.  If he is having sex, he can let his first few shots go inside me, then pull out and I will grab his head and hold it while telling him I am saving the rest for later.  We do this variation each time he cums now.
  2. Let go of the head and allows his cum to pour into a small ice tray.  We do this about twice a day. Because the amount is limited with this method, we decided for these cute small ice cubes that are perfect for 1 to 2 cubes each time.  Here is a link to a tray like ours, I am not affiliated nor do I get paid for this link: Example Ice Tray 
  3. Place the tray in the freezer or deep freezer.   
  4. After an hour, the semen will be totally frozen.  Do not keep the tray out in the air or collect the next load without first pushing the new frozen cubes into your air tight zip lock bag filled with your frozen in time moments.

 

As of now, I have a half gallon bag full of small cum cubes that I can have whenever I want. If I’m sick or if my husband is out of town, I can call him and tell him I’m sucking on one of my cum cubes and it instantly brings us together no matter what. If I get sick, I can use the cum cubes to wet my mouth, stay hydrated, while doing this intimate act when one of us can’t physically be intimate. And although it may seem morbid, as long as I have cum cubes, I will always have my husband with me, comforting me, inside of me, hugging me from the inside.

How I Use My Husband’s Cum Ice Cubes in my Sex Life

  • In the morning before I leave to work I can go in the freezer and put a cum ice cube in my mouth.  When I kiss my husband goodbye I will crunch the cube or show it to him in my mouth.  This gives me total control of when I swallow.  It also turns my husband on and keeps me on his mind.
  • If I am on my cycle I can now creampie myself prior to placing my tampon.  I will put a small cube between my lips and push it inside my body with my tampon insert.  
    • Do men want a woman who actually really love to be creampied and desires their man’s cum inside her body, or just theatrics during sex?   With cum ice cubes I can show my  husband my love for his semen is not theatrics.   And I have total control and do not have to show my love for his cum only during sex.
  • If my husband is away or I am home alone, I can use his fluids in solid form to give my body intense sensations.   He can give me goosebumps, make me tingle, and send chills down my spine.  The residue will not only will I have his fluids all over me, but I will be able to taste, feel, and rub my sensitive areas with him.   His semen, which I enjoyed my time collecting it, now has been reborn with me in total control, to become a physical toy for me to use and enjoy.
  • I can put 4 or 5 cubes inside my body, which is multiple cum shots saved, from various weeks, months, and maybe even years.   As it melts, I want to sit on my husband’s face and watch him stroke himself to his own creampies.  
    • If I am alone, I can use a dildo clone of his dick and fuck myself using his semen as lube.  Whether I call him or tell him later, this is real cum worship and we both love it.
    • You can also have sex and let him feel what it’s like to fuck you with a huge amount of cum inside your pussy.
      • To explain further; imagine the feeling of having cum from different time periods, different moods, some from hand jobs, some from blow jobs, some from sex, all cum shots that you helped collect after various intimate acts, all that energy frozen and captured, those memories, and having each cum shot in your body at one time, months or years later?  It’s almost like the idea of some women wanting multiple men cumming in them at once.  How about 1 man cumming in you, from different time periods, fill up your insides?
    • He can pull his dick out soaking wet with 4 or 5 different cumshots of his inside me and watch me clean it off his dick with my mouth.  What man wouldn’t love seeing this?
  • We can both eat a cube and make out with each other prior to sex.  Extremely intimate as you are savoring a previous moment in your sex life while preparing to make a new one.
  • I can rub him down with a cum cube and let it melt inside his ass.  He can feel his own creampie.  If I want to get real naughty I can grab my strap-on and use his cum as my lube.   
March 8, 2023

Cuddle Positions – Thigh Pillows

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cuddlingLaying north south of and using each others’ thighs as a pillow.   

Pros & Cons
+ Comfortable with a great view.

 

Why is Cuddling so important?

When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress.  Cuddling also has a large connection with being nurtured.   It has been shown through research that cuddling helps an infant develop an attachment to his/her parent.  This is instinctual and as you grow older, adults can cuddle to form this same attachment.  Cuddling has also been shown to boost an infant’s oxygen levels, calm its breathing, and ease pain signals. And for an underweight baby, it raises survival chances by more than a third. It helps the brain grow and makes infection and other illnesses, like hypoglycemia or hypothermia, less likely.   This is why we love to cuddle.   

Benefits to our bodies from cuddling

  • Ease Stress
    • When you cuddle with someone you care about, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin that calms you and makes you more likely to deal better with stress. 
  • Helps Your Heart
    • It’s good for your heart.  Cuddling lowers blood pressure. Scientists say it’s clearer that women get this benefit from cuddling, but it seems to be true for both sexes.
  • Relieves Pain
    • A good cuddle may give you more than just moral support after an injury. The oxytocin cuddling releases can help block pain signals. 
  • Fight Colds
    • Too much stress effects the immune system.  Hugs from people you trust may protect you against this common virus, especially if you’re under a lot of stress. And if you’re already sick, more cuddling might keep your symptoms from getting worse.
  • Connects You to Your Partner
    • Oxytocin is sometimes called the love hormone.  Whether having sex, cuddling, touching, dancing, or holding hands, your body is releasing oxytocin.  Couples who cuddle and kiss freely tend to be happier, healthier, and less stressed.
  • Helps You Sleep
    • Oxytocin is the key ingredient again. Because of oxytocin calming effects, it relaxes you and helps you sleep.

Benefits to cuddling your partner

  • Cuddling improves satisfaction in relationships. 
    • In an experimental study, increased cuddling for married couples resulted in statistically higher relationship satisfaction. This finding was particularly notable as the couples who increased their cuddling behaviors were compared to couples who increased time spent together over mealtimes and those who did not change their behavior.
  • Cuddling helps maintain focus on your partner. 
    • In the same study, with increased cuddling, the focus is honed in on our romantic partner as opposed to thinking “what else is out there?”
  • Cuddling releases oxytocin and promotes positive emotions. 
    • Affectionate touch behaviors release oxytocin.  Oxytocin is a natural love hormone that helps us feel closer to our partners. When we cuddle, we feel a surge of positive emotions such as love, adoration, and trust. While cuddling typically occurs around sexual activity, it is perceived to be a nurturing type of behavior rather than a sexual one.
  • Cuddling after sex benefits your relationship. 
    • In a longitudinal study, the duration and quality of post-sex affection including cuddling are related to greater subsequent reports of relationship and sexual satisfaction.  Couples can use this time to be close to each other physically and emotionally, sharing their thoughts and feelings, or not saying anything at all.

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March 1, 2023

Sex Toy Review: Adams Sucking Oral Sex Masturbation Cup

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Adams Sucking Oral Sex Masturbation Cup

To be honest with you these types of reviews are pretty easy. The Adams Sucking Oral sex Masturbation Cup does exactly what it’s supposed to do, it makes you cum.  The only issue I had was the cup is extremely tight and sucks onto your cock like nothing I have ever felt.  If it is not lubed properly it will possibly give your penis “rug burn”.  It moves aggressively and torques your cock in every which direction.  

The experience:

When we unboxed the package we were pretty excited to take the “see how fast he can cum” challenge. These days we turn everything into a challenge. It wasn’t really about if I would cum, but how fast I could cum. These products have now became more of a race where we are trying to break personal records.  Venice lubed me up pretty well and helped me get erect with oral sex.  Once I was hard, she placed my penis inside the masturbation chamber, which has a soft outer cover shaped like a vagina that is pleasurable. 

She then started the stop watch.

Inside the chamber is a 4″ textured cup that spins, thrusts, vibrates, and does everything your mind can imagine.  Venice simply held it over my cock and waited. \

50 seconds…

Venice stopped and reminded me that the masturbator didn’t beat her record.  Although I didn’t realize I was up against her 46 second orgasm she had given me with oral sex once upon a time, she made sure I knew she was better. 

1 minute 30 seconds…

The Adams Masturbator felt amazing so I decided to go into cruise control mode and was going to let it premature ejaculate me.  For me this means, make me cum without me trying.  Truth be told, 99% of my orgasms I have to decide, “Okay, now I am going to cum.”  I will then tighten my muscles or fuck in a fashion where I purposely move to make myself orgasm.  Very rarely can I sit back and get an uncontrollable orgasm. This device can definitely do this for you. 

2 minutes and 45 seconds…

Venice asked me to grabbed the masturbator for a bit so she she can suck on my balls. 

4 minutes and 55 seconds…

She slowly moved her tongue down to my guiche and then to my ass, and I came immediately.  

4 minutes and 58 seconds. 💦

So how did we like it?

We loved the Adams masturbator and it seems to have all the features you could expect from a male masturbator.  It charges quickly and seems to hold the charge for as long as you will need it. Unless you are having a marathon session, this thing does the job. I believe your penis skin would be rubbed raw long before the battery would die. It creates a snug suction and you wouldn’t want to use this sex toy for over 20 minutes. We let it run for a while and got tired of waiting for it to die.  So the battery life is great.

Clean up is easy, as the inner cup can be removed for cleaning.  What else can I say?  If you are in the market for a new masturbator, the price is right with Adams and this is a 5 star product.   You can’t go wrong with this purchase.

Price:  $83.99

Website:  Adams 5 Sucking Oral Sex Masturbation Cup

Description:

Adams works with 5 sucking & telescoping and 10 vibrating modes together with tight vulva down and up to excite the most sensitive glans and cause you to erupt in a powerful wave of orgasmic bliss. Features a soft lifelike vulva with TPE orifice that simulating spitting, makes it simple to insert, and induces amazing climax. Your delicate shaft is massaged with every movement made by the inner sleeve’s dense granulation tentacles, which form a strong wrap around you and give you amazingly lifelike stroking sensations. IPX6 waterproof protects against all conditions. Enjoy the various suction and tightening of girlfriend’s vagina! You truly deserve it so much!

HIGHLIGHTS

  • Upgraded, premium housing with a well-liked mechanical lens design.
  • 5 sucking & 5 telescoping & 10 vibrating bring your penis Customized Pleasure.
  • Plump entry with a tight lifelike vulva increases the thrill of breaking.
  • 3.15″ insertable depth with dense particles creates a wrapping sensation of rubbing.
  • Transparent visual window lets you watch every dynamic suction.
  • Detachable, IPX7 waterproof cares for every situation.

    We are not affiliated with bestvibe and get no revenue from this review.  Our goal isn’t to make money promoting things in hopes you buy it, rather we are just sharing our reviews on products we have tried and want to share with our readers. This item was sent to us as a promotional product under the terms and condition that if we did not enjoy the product, we are not obligated to write or publish a review.   All reviews are just our opinions and experiences.