Q & A: What are your thoughts on an older man with a younger woman?

older man younger womanAnonymous via the internet.

What are your thoughts on a 40-year-old man dating a 25-year-old woman?

 

Venice’s response: This is a type of situation that I’m familiar with as Ryan and I have family members in older-younger relationships. When I was in high school, I dated boys who were older than me, and when I saw older I mean two or three years. At that age, even a few months make in age difference is a big deal. However, to be honest, as I got older, there was an “eww” factor that I couldn’t get over. Maybe there was a predatory / dirty old man stigma that had been too deeply ingrained in me via Hollywood which was believed by a young-minded girl who had never been in a serious relationship let alone a older-younger relationship.

However, as I grew older, I got accustomed to it. Both Ryan and I have family members on both sides of our families who are in these May-December relationships: older woman/younger man, older man/younger woman, age differences ranging 15 to 30 years. Admittedly, it’s a bit awkward at first because everyone is trying to understand the situation (how old is that person, do they have any kids, what do they do for a living, etc.), and understandably, these types of questions help to assess their relationship, no matter how superficial that is. Even if these are valid questions, it’s really not anyone’s business but the two involved. Just be prepared to address these issues once you introduce this person to your family.

After seeing these relationships flourish, there is one thing I noticed all of them had in common: they were all previously in failed marriages. It seemed that as different as they were, it was the differences that helped their relationships work, and that instead of having so much in common that they were almost identical, they had more to discuss; their schedules were different (jobs, family, social life). The time they spend together was precious. In a way, they’ve learned to become a better partner, more communicative, and more respectful.

This reminds me of a joke I once heard: What’s the best thing about a May-December relationship? Christmas.

Ryan’s response:  I honestly have no thoughts on this at all.  If you both are happy, then good for you.  

If you’ve read our blog then you noticed Venice and I have done things together that would possibly gross most couples out.  In fact, Venice and I have done everything we can think of with each other, regardless of what others think.  If we lived to please everyone but ourselves, this site wouldn’t exist. 

Office Sex

office_sexLast night I told Ryan that I left some important paper work I wanted to bring home from my office.  It was late in the evening so I told him I was scared and asked him to come with me to the office.  There is 24-hour surveillance and building security but that didn’t put my mind at ease. The entire building was pitch black.  I’m never the first one in or the last to leave so I had to use my phone light to find the light switches.  I asked Ryan to check the back hallway and conference room area because I heard the floorboards creaking.  He walked down the hall and I followed him as he turned the corner.

“No one’s here,” he said.  I took hold of his hand like I was scared to be there alone.  “Did you get the work you needed?”  I nodded and pulled him into the conference room.  I kept the lights off except for the main one in the lobby.  The conference room had two huge wiindows which showed a lamp  outside cast a dull, yellow glow which highlighted the 15-foot oval table.  Without saying a word, I slid my hands beneath his t-shirt and up toward his back.  I pulled him close to me and began kissing his neck.  I grabbed his ass cheeks outside his pants and moved my hands to the front.  I unbuckled his belt, jeans, and zipper and worked my way into his boxer briefs.  I felt his body relax, enjoying my wandering hands and lips on his skin.  I began to wiggle them off of his hips.  They dropped to the floor and I immediately got down on my knees. I slurped his soft cock and made swallowing motions. He groaned under his breath. His dick was smooth and warm in my mouth and started to get plump. His hips moved slowly and rhythmically with my movements.  I put his whole dick in my mouth and kept it there, using the stillness and the silence to listen for security guards entering the building.  There was nothing.  I reached under and swiped my fingers between his ass cheeks and fondled his balls.  He moaned loud and almost instantly a wave of blood rushed to his dick, nearly doubling his size and hardness.  Within seconds, I knew he was ready

As I stood up, I pulled my shorts down and bent over the conference table.  He bent down and licked my lips, pussy, and ass before sliding his cock in me.  He inched his way in slowly and deliberately at first, but as soon as his dick was in me all the way, he moved fast.  We knew we had to act quick.  My breaths and screams were muffled as I put my mouth over my sweatshirt sleeve.  My body jarred as I tried to keep myself still.  My pussy began aching as I thought about being fucked on the table my boss and co-workers will be sitting at in a few hours during our morning staff meeting.  My arms stretched out across the table, almost hitting the volume button on the conference phone.  I watched the lamp post outside the window look as if it was swaying as Ryan jerked my body back and forth with his powerful thrusts.  He was pounding his hips into me hard forcing my upper thighs to press against the glass tabletop.  “Fuck!” I whispered.  He ignored my talk and slapped my ass with both hands, clawing into each cheek after he smacked them.  “Hold on!”  I said.  He stopped moving.  We listened for footsteps, doors opening, thumping – anything to indicate we weren’t alone.  But there was nothing.  He gathered my hair and pulled my head back as hard as he could.  The back of my head was touching my back as he kept ramming his manhood in me.  I couldn’t move forward or back.  I was frozen in place as he worked his cock.

Then he stopped.  I thought he heard a noise. I was ready to pounce up and get my shorts back on.  But I didn’t hear anything.  As I tried to lift my head he immediately grabbed the back of my neck and shoved my face hard against the table.  He spit into his other hand and roughly rubbed my ass hole letting a few fingers slip inside my butt.  Just then I felt a wet thick warm pressure on my anus.  His cock was dripping from my pussy and I felt the moist tip of his  head on my rim. I relaxed my muscles and let him dig into my tight hole.  It was well-lubricated with his spit and my juices so he was able to go in with minimal effort.  The tightness, the sensation, the pressure – he pushed in as deep as he could and pulled out as far as he could, repeating over and over.  “Go deeper,” I told him. I felt him dig deeper, circling his hips like a letter U, using his dick like like he was scooping out ice cream. When he can’t go in any further, my body is paralyzed; it’s a sustained, plateaued pain that’s also exhilarating.  And it seemed the harder he pressed, the more my G-spot tingled, like mini-orgasms coming from my ass. I loved every second of it.  I felt my ass hole getting tighter, but it was his dick growing harder; he was about to cum.  The tightening of my hole against the thickness of his cock was overwhelming.  I wanted to scream for him to stop because the hardness of his pre-orgasmic cock is getting almost unbearable. I knew he was close to cumming so I bit my lip to ignore the pain and closed my eyes excited to feel his explosion.  I felt his body drop and his balls press hard against my ass cheeks.  His final thrust goes so deep inside my body my G spot and muscles inside my pussy spasm uncontrollably.  With his dick  lodged deep inside me I felt his nuts pushing out cum into my body.  With each pump, my sensitive anus could feel his sperm travel through his shaft and release inside me.

He pulled out carefully but his cum still poured out all over the table.  I pulled my shorts up as he got dressed.  I put my hair back in place and straightened out my sweatshirt. I grabbed some tissue and scooped up most of the cum that dripped from my ass.  I then took my sleeve and made a swiping, circular movement on the table hoping to clear off any smudge marks from my face and breasts on the glass.  I couldn’t really see, but hoped I got it all.  We walked out of the conference room.

“Where is the paper work you needed?”

“Oh, yes, I have them.  It’s at home,” I told him.  I grinned devilishly.

Freaky Friday Search Terms – she makes me wear butt plugs

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Each week we will post our most outrageous search terms that people used to find our website that week.  Ryan and I will then share our own thoughts and hopefully entertain you guys or at least make the search term make a little less sense.

Each search term was gathered by wordpress and/or google statistics and they are all very real search terms.   Each search term was used by some person in the world that ended up on our page.

10. swallow the juice of life semen
Ryan:  The juice of life huh?  Sounds like something you’d say.
Venice: I’ll admit, in the heat of the moment, I definitely see myself saying something crazy like “Let me swallow your juice of life.”
Ryan: Way worse, but yea.

9. who likes to gag on deepthroat, forums
Venice: Maybe they meant deepthroat forearms?
Ryan: I think it’s interesting people are searching for forums specifically to find others to socialize with that like to gag on deepthroat.
Venice: Sub -Forum:  Vomit or Swallow
Ryan: Sub-Forum: Tonsil Problems
Venice: Sub-Forum: Sword Tricks
Ryan:  Sub-Forum: Bulimia
Venice: Forum Topic: Deepthroating has helped smash my tonsil stones.
Ryan: Forum Topic: Can you deepthroat with strep throat?
Venice: Forum Topic:  Stomach acids have melted my husband’s penis head.
Ryan:  Real nice Venice.
Venice: Strep throat?
Ryan:  Tonsil stones?
Venice: Let’s move on before this gets ugly.
Ryan:  Your momma.

8. watching bf’s penis shrink after he cums
Venice:  That usually happens when I wash cotton shirts in warm water.
Ryan:  Learn how to wash your cocks ladies.  We do not like shrinking.
Venice: Ladies, think, clothes pins and hang dry.
Ryan: Ladies, think, that isn’t funny and a very nasty break up.

7. fellatio puking
Venice:  Personally, I like seeing fellatio puking
Ryan:  I’ve seen it a few times.
Venice: You’ll see it a few more.
Ryan: Deal.

6. huge clit home
Venice:  I think this search term came up after we posted the guy who won the smallest penis contest
Ryan: Ha!  Possibly.

5. could female porn actresses have orgasms during film sessions?
Venice:  I am under the impression everything in porn is real.
Ryan: For sure.  All female porn stars have 10 orgasms in 5 minutes.
Venice: “Oh Daddy, you’re the best.”
Ryan: I believe her.

4. adults fucking for real sex drive photos
Ryan:  I don’t think you can capture someone’s sex drive with photos.
Venice: Well, you know how when you’re driving and you run a red light they will have hidden cameras that take your picture?   Maybe they could do that with our genitals?
Ryan:  Are you being serious right now?
Venice:  Oh my god, your face would be so funny looking if a camera inside my vagina took a picture while you ate me out.
Ryan:  Uh huh.
Venice: Eyes all closed, making lovey faces all proud you are tasting my pussy.
Ryan:  Whatever.

3. She makes me wear butt plugs
Ryan: Not my type of woman.
Venice: Oh Ryan, don’t worry sweetie, I promise it won’t hurt a bit.
Ryan: Real cute V.

2. I made my husband swallow his own cum
Ryan: Sounds familiar.
Venice: I can see her now… keeping his mouth open with a speculum and using a funnel
Ryan: That doesn’t sound familiar at all, what the fuck?  Why are you looking at me and smiling?
Venice:  Oh nothing.
Ryan: I don’t think so V.  No pictures, no blogging about it, no funnels or speculums, not happening, no way.
Venice: Whatever you say Ryan.
Ryan: I’m serious, quit smiling.

1. what is the effect of swallowing sperm on the hips of women?
Ryan:  I think it keeps your hips in great shape.  In fact, I’ve heard that swallowing cum actually burns fat.  It takes more energy to digest semen, meaning semen has negative calories.  If you were to eat semen all day you would absolutely lose weight.  You could probably just give up exercise all together and just swallow cum all day and let your digestive system work your fat away.  You’re welcome fellas.
Venice: Are you done?
Ryan:  Maybe, why?
Venice:  First, false.  That’s celery.   Second, you could sleep and burn more fat than eating celery all day. Third, in a way you are right, because the alternative to swallowing may end up giving you “child bearing hips.”
Ryan: So either way, you’re saying,  swallowing is good right?
Venice: Quit smiling.

Creative Things You Can Do With Your Man’s Cum

creative things to do with cumCreative Things You Can Do With Your Man’s Cum

First of all, please check out our older article: 31 Days of Cum Shots.  If you go to the photo gallery every single day has a story.  I did various things with his cum, including letting him cum in my morning chai and sending him pictures throughout the day of me finishing him/my cup of chai.  That was definitely a fun and a  creative way to turn my husband on.  I believe there was another day where my husband came inside me and then took a spoon to scrape up the cum that spilled out of my vagina and spoon-fed me.  This was also amazing because it wasn’t just his cum, it was both of our bodies together.  Very intimate and fun.  Speaking of mixing body fluids, you could try a vagina cocktail.  


Sometimes I will hold his cum in my mouth and he will stick his dick back into my vagina and start fucking me again.  He is multi-orgasmic.  The whole time he fucks me, he is looking down at me while I play with his cum in my mouth. Exactly as he orgasms the second time I will open my mouth and let him see me swallow his first load…


 

For me, my man’s semen is like icing on the cake (or cookie), semi-literally speaking.  Every time we have sex, getting to see my husband orgasm is my goal. I work just as hard to make him cum (dirty talk, moving in sync with him, etc.) as he does to please me.  With that being said, I feel satisfied knowing that I’ve made his hot juices flow from his dick.  And that is such a turn on to me.

What I do to his cum doesn’t start when it comes out – it starts long before.  When his dick is in me, I cup his balls and rub under them and tell him, “Let me massage the cum out of your balls.”  I tease him.  I talk about his balls as if they’re also being fucked. What I do to his cum starts BEFORE the actual orgasm.

Sometimes I stick my finger inside his anus and rub his prostate.  If you haven’t tried this, try it!  Right before he ejaculates you can literally feel his whole prostate swell up and harden.  The cum stays inside this beautiful walnut inside his anus, and you can massage it the entire time he releases.  In fact, he will release much more cum when you do this.   And more cum means more to play with!


Sometimes he will ask me to keep his cum in my mouth as he heads out to work.  He will let me know he is going to call me once he is on the road and tell me when to swallow.  So when he calls, I can barely talk because his cum and my saliva have really built up…


 

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Try using his first cum shot as lube for anal!

But it doesn’t stop there.  After he cums, that is something entirely different.  If he cums in my vagina or ass, there isn’t much I can do with it except to tell him to unload every drop in me or say, “Empty your balls out inside me.”  There have been times where he will pull out as he is fucking me and cum on my anus.   He will then use his own semen as lube for anal sex and fuck me again.  This actually feels amazing because there is nothing close to using actual semen as lubrication.  It nearly takes away all friction and makes for an extremely pleasurable experience.

Sometimes he will just cum inside me and clean my insides with his tongue.  We will kiss afterwards and make out with our juices everywhere.  If he cums on me, I get to put on a show.  I love him watching me when I clean myself up.  I will scoop his cum off my body with my fingers and lick them clean as if I’m getting the last bit of angel food cake batter out from between my fingers.  As I lick, I will look him in the eyes and say “yum” with every slurp.  I like to reassure him that I love his taste and that his sperm is my favorite spice.  If he cums directly on my vagina, I’ll rub him into my labia and inner thighs.  When I am done, I will lick my fingers clean.  One of my favorite things to do to force him in my mouth so he doesn’t shoot all over the place and catch all of his cum in my mouth. I know this is simple, but nothing feels better than getting semen straight from a man’s dick. I don’t want any salt from my body, I want it pure.  Straight from the source.  That way nothing is wasted.  Before I actually swallow, l blow bubbles,  gargle, or slurp it between my lips so he can watch me play with him.

creative things to do with cumSometimes he will ask me to keep his cum in my mouth as he heads out to work.  He will let me know he is going to call me once he is on the road and tell me when to swallow.  So when he calls, I can barely talk because his cum and my saliva have really built up.  But it’s actually pretty sexy and intimate.  To know he is in my mouth and I am waiting for him to call me and tell me to swallow while he is driving to work.  You have to be creative.  Sometimes I will hold his cum in my mouth and he will stick his dick back into my vagina and start fucking me again.  The whole time he fucks me, he is looking down at me while I play with his cum in my mouth.  My  husband is multi-orgasmic.  Exactly as he orgasms the second time I will open my mouth and let him see me swallow his first load.  For me, it’s almost like being came in twice at the same time.  It’s very intimate and exotic because I can taste his load go down my throat as I feel his penis releasing another load inside my pussy.  As he orgasms, instead of his eyes rolling back or him losing focus, he is paying close attention to everything I am doing with his cum in my mouth and his load.  His second orgasm is purely based off the excitement of what I am doing to his first.  And if you do everything perfect, you may even get a third load in your ass, which we call a “triple threat.”  It’s a very fun and powerful feeling.  Imagine in a matter of seconds, swallowing a mouthful of cum as you feel a penis twitching inside your vagina.  Moments later, you feel your ass being stretched as he nearly dry heaves a third load into your body.  And when it’s all over, you hadn’t slept with three men or made a porn, you just satisfied the man of your dreams.  

Perfect.


Instead of swallowing, I let him look down in my cum filled mouth and stick his dick back down my throat.  In other words, his cum becomes my throat lube as he fucks my mouth for a second time.


creative things to do with cum

Just recently, I discovered a new kind of cum play that really drives my husband wild (The first time we ever did it is actually in the article previously mentioned, you can see the story here:  January 8, 2013 Cum Shot).  We start out face-fucking, and as you may or may not know, when a man cums and his dick is plunged deep into your throat, the semen goes straight down and you cannot taste or feel anything.  But here is the twist: instead of being all the way in me when he cums, he will pull out of my throat and fill my mouth up with his first huge cum shot.   Instead of swallowing, I let him look down in my cum filled mouth and stick his dick back down my throat.  In other words, his cum becomes my throat lube as he fucks my mouth a second time.  I absolutely do not swallow to make sure his whole cum shot covers his dick as he again fucks my throat.   After a few seconds, I can feel his  hard wet dick drive so deep in my throat his ball piercing and crotch grinds into my teeth.  This time, instead of pulling out, he unloads his second cumshot deep in my throat, I can feel his urethra pipe on the underside of his shaft twitching on my tongue and his balls spasming on my lips.  I can also watch as anus tighten and loosen with each release.  Afterwards, the semen from both the first and second orgasms are pushed down my slippery, well-lubed throat.  It can get sloppy from my spit, cum, and tears, but it’s extremely hot, submissive, and downright sexy!

There is so much more you can do with your man’s cum if you really wanted to go above and beyond.  Attitude is everything and a paid porn star eating her co-star’s cum off an ice cream  sandwich shouldn’t be able to out perform you.  Is money more powerful than love?  For me, it’s not.  I will proudly do anything with Ryan’s cum, including the most insane ideas I can come up with, like sniffing his whole cum shot off a mirror.  


Let him cum onto a mirror.  If you want to be cute, take a credit card and shape his ropes into a long line.  Glide your nose across the mirror and sniff his cum like he is a drug.  If you do it right, you can open your mouth when you are done and show him all the cum you just sniffed.  And then swallow him as well….


 

Other Creative Things Can You Do With Your Man’s Cum

Cum popsicle or sperm ice cubes   

Simply ejaculate your man into a shot glass and add kool-aid or water to the glass.  Put a small toothpick through a small piece of paper that you lay on top of the shot glass (so it stays centered) and put the shot glass in the freezer.  After a few hours, you can either use the sperm ice cube in an adult drink and enjoy your man later, or let him use the ice cube on your nipples and vagina as foreplay the next time you want to spice things up.  If you want to get extremely creative, mix his cum with water and make an ice dildo. 

Cum Lube

Much like the previous idea, save his semen in the freezer so you can use it later.  Rather than leaving it ice, warm it up to use as lube.  No, his semen will not go bad.  There is nothing on earth that is a better lube than his semen.  It’s what all lubes try to emulate.  Whether it be for a night you plan anal, an intense vaginal session, or just a sexy hand job.  Or if you want to get real nasty, pour his warmed semen all over his penis and give him a blow job.  Much like my stories above, you can blow his mind tasting his cum the entire time his new orgasm builds.  If he is multi orgasmic, you can do this in a single sitting.  If he is not, simply have him cum into a shot glass and let him know you want to save it for later.  Trust me, he will let you.

Cum Shots

Great idea, especially if you both are already drinking and get a bit horny.   You can turn it into a game if you like.  If you can make him cum faster than 10 minutes, he has to take the shot.  If you can’t, you have to take it.  Either way, it’s fun.

Just go down on him and give him a blow job.  Make sure you have a shot glass handy.  When he is about to cum, stroke him off into the shot glass.  Add some rum and take the shot.  And that’s a whole other type of cum shot.

creative things to do with cumSniffing His Cum Off A Mirror Like A Drug

Let him cum onto a mirror.  If you want to be cute, take a credit card and  shape his ropes into a long line.  Glide your nose across the mirror and sniff his cum like he is a drug.  If you do it right, you can open your mouth when you are done and show him all the cum you just sniffed.  Yes, you can actually hack it up from the back of your throat back into your mouth.   And then swallow him.  For me, this clears my sinuses.  And surprisingly, no it doesn’t burn.  

Cum Cocktail / Sex Cocktail Inside Your Vagina

This one is a bit extreme, but we enjoy it.  We called it a sex cocktail because it deals with a lot more than just cum.  However, cum is an ingredient.   First you give each other oral sex.  Make sure you give him extremely sloppy head so his entire shaft has that deep saliva, that only comes up when you gag all over him.  This is your lube and a key ingredient to your sex cocktail.  He should also eat your pussy and make sure he digs his tongue up into your hole.  You also want to be as sloppy as possible.  You can also both spit on his during sex to make sure you have enough saliva ingredient inside you.  This is optional, but if you squirt or can control your urine, pee a little and let him do the same.  I will squirt throughout the session to make sure I add my flavor.  My husband has a bit of trouble peeing while erect, so he will stop and concentrate for a few moments and just fill me up with his urine.  At this point, it’s a mess.  He will then stick his dick back inside me and fuck me until we both cum.  At the end of the session, we should have double saliva, double urine, double cum, and my vagina totally full of all this flavor.  I will get up and we will 69 each other.  I get to taste myself on his dick, he gets to drink the cocktail out of my body. 

This isn’t everything you can do with a sex cocktail, but we will save the Bloody Mary version for a different day.  

Cum Seasoning

The taste of his cum on your meal will not ruin the flavor.  Depending on what you are eating, you won’t even be able to taste it. What it will do is elevate how much your man loves you and thinks about you.  Take a serving of his cum, throw it in with an ego, fry it.  Scrambled eggs and sperm.  Maybe even throw some ketchup on it if you want to get crazy!  

Don’t forget to ask him if he would like to try it himself.  

Even on his worse day, if you left him for whatever reason, he’d always remember this type of thing and know you were one of the wildest women he has ever been with.  Goals right?  For some of us ladies who actually do enjoy the flavor, it just makes our food better.  Win, win.

Coffee and Cream, A Long Day At Work and Selfies

I’ve used  my husband’s cum inside my coffee for cream a lot.  The catch here isn’t just that you worship his cum enough to enjoy it all throughout your work day, but you also send selfies of yourself drinking the coffee.  Your man loves watching you swallow him right?  So how about he watches you drink an entire coffee, for a span of 4 hours, slowly swallowing him and your morning coffee.   This is something we did as one of my 31 days of swallowing cum years ago.  But it was so fun I still do it every now and then just to tease him.

Sexy right?

Facetime

So all these cool things we have done with our cum in this blog but I haven’t even said one of the most basic ideas.  The classic facial.  Sexy huh?  Well, how about you save his cum one morning and store it however you like.  Whether it be plastic bag, a sippy cup, or whatever tickles your fantasy.  Later in the day, call your husband while he is at work on Facetime and give him some…well, face time.  Let him know you have his morning cum and let him watch you drip it down onto your face and mouth for him to watch.  Chances are, no woman has ever done anything like this for him in his life.  Well, be that woman.  

Ladies, this is about making memories.  Do you think he will ever forget the time you called him at work over Facetime and gave yourself a facial with his morning cum 8 hours later?  Of course he won’t.  Imagine the possibilities of a long distance relationship and saving his cum during a visit, so when back home you can turn him on again, while also enjoying him when you miss him the most.  

If you want to be even more creative, there are a lot of new toys where you can play with each other long distance.  Most of these toys use your phone to function.   So while he uses his phone to make your vibrator vibrate to his touch, wouldn’t it be nice to have some of his cum saved to use as lube/drip on your lips/swallow while he watches you cum for him over Facetime?  

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Q&A: Is it time for me to settle down?

settling downI am a few weeks shy of turning 27 and I have yet to settle down into a relationship and career. I have gone through several different job choices since finishing high school. Don’t get me wrong – it’s not as if I’m trying different jobs and failing, but I’m pretty good at everything I’ve attempted. I’ve been in a few long-term relationships, but I always seem to cut those short, too. Is that normal for someone my age? Do you have any insight?

Venice’s response:
I completely understand and can relate because I was in a somewhat similar situation. Although my parents are still married, there were a lot infidelity accusations. My mom turned to me as a confidante, which wasn’t a bad thing, but it made me doubt a man’s loyalty. It made me question if all men were cheaters and if I could ever stay with a man who didn’t treat me like a queen. Similarly, I wasn’t career-oriented either. I had a job, but it wasn’t a career.

It wasn’t until Ryan and I started getting serious with each other did I begin to think about settling down. We spent so much time talking, discussing, and ensuring we knew what the other wanted. He knew I had a history of not being committed to one person because no one ever showed me how a girl should be treated, so he let me know loyalty was his priority with me. He told me he loved me every day; he told me how beautiful I was; he told me how lucky he was to have found me – basically he changed my mind about there never being a man who would be 100% loyal to me – his heart, his mind, and his soul belonged to me, and that was a good feeling. My confidence in there being a man who was meant only for me grew stronger. I knew that the decisions we made were going to benefit us as a married couple, to strengthen us, and to make us a powerful team. After we got married, he encouraged me to finish school and focus on a career – two things that would not only help me, but our family. I knew I had a man who I could trust and therefore trust in the decisions we made in our lives.

With that being said, I believe that we all have an inner drive that pushes us – but only so far. With the help of someone we love, we can go even further than we’d ever imagined. It seemed like i had trust issues, and in turn, it made me not want to commit to anything (love, relationships, career, etc.). And when my faith in finding a good man was restored, everything just fell into place. As cheesy as it sounds, the right person can be the driving force to every good decision you make.

It seems like you have the capabilities to be happy in a long-term relationship and brains to be successful in any career that makes you happy. But the first step is allowing yourself to trust someone and give that person a chance to make you happy. Once that hurdle is overcome, so much good can come into your life. All you have to do is let it.

Ryan’s response:
Well, usually I do not read Venice’s answer prior to writing my own, but that really is a tough answer to follow.  

Every person is different so I do not think what is right for you at 27 was right for me at 27.  I came from a broken up family and unfortunately, moved my entire life.  This wasn’t by choice.  I went to 3 different middle schools and 4 different high schools.  Just to put that into perspective, my entire life was moving and all I wanted it to do was stop.  I wanted something that wouldn’t change, someone that wouldn’t leave me, someone that wouldn’t hurt me, and someone I could trust would always be there for me.  I didn’t just want it, I needed it.  By the time I was 18 I felt extremely unhappy and had never been in a real relationship.  I don’t just mean with a female, I mean I never even had a real friend.    I learned a lesson in commitment from the other side.   As much as I wanted to hold on to a friendship or stay in touch, noone else had that same urgency.  I can say with all sincerity, I was the last person to write all my friends before the letters stopped.  For me, all I wanted was a friend.  I wasn’t only open to commitment, I was dying for it.  And then I met Venice.   I guess you can fill in the rest of this paragraph with Venice’s. 

If you feel you have commitment issues, maybe see a counselor.  If you feel you just aren’t looking to settle down, then who are we to say that your feelings are wrong?  Whether it be a career or a long term boyfriend, there is no right or wrong.   I have learned that there is expected and disappointment, which we tend to turn into right or wrong.  You have to live for yourself.  When you feel it’s time, then it’s time.