Q&A: I Got Drunk, Had Sex on my Period, and Said Too Much!? Did My Dirty Talk Go Too Far?

Q&A: I Got Drunk, Had Sex on my Period, and Said Too Much!? Did My Dirty Talk Go Too Far?

I am a 20 something female that went out with my boyfriend last night and got a bit too drunk. I was on my period so it was supposed to be just a casual night of hanging out.  However, when I drink I do get extra horny.  I remember blowing him in the parking lot and agreeing to go up to his place.

At  his place it went from me keeping my pants on sucking his dick, to me being stripped nude with my bloody pad on the floor getting my brains fucked out and bleeding all over him and his bed. 

Normally our dirty talk during sex is mostly:   I love you or I am yours.   Since I was drunk I said a bit more than I wanted to.

From what I recall the things I said were along the lines of, “Oh my God, you popping my cherry with your huge dick.  How am I losing my virginity again?!”  “Your cum turns me on. I want to swallow your cum.”    “The thought of you impregnating me turns me on.”   “I want to have your babies, make sandwiches for you barefoot, be fucked by you every day, and be your submissive for the rest of my life…”   

By the way, none of this fits my personality.  I am a more assertive person, yet conservative.   I do not want to be dominated nor do I want my boyfriend to make me his sex slave.  But for whatever reason, in the heat of the moment and drunk, I just let all my little girl quotes out and gave him the full kitchen sink.

We have talked about getting married so it’s not thaaat big of a deal. I remember he was enjoying it when we were doing it. But now that I remember that night I can’t help but be embarrassed for some reason. I mean I said I wanted to be barefoot and make sandwiches for you?? While we were having sex! I have no idea where did all that come from. He has been busy with work for now but I am dreading his phone call. I don’t feel like talking to him or meeting him for sometime now.

Venice’s response  to dirty talk too far

I’m going to be dead serious here.  What’s the problem? 

Dirty talk is mental porn for your partner, and something all women should learn to do.   If I ever write a book on giving a man perfect sex, it would include an entire chapter on talking dirty and saying all the things his brain thought about for the first 16 years of his life when he was alone in his room masturbating to all his little dirty secrets and fantasies.   Not only that, dirty talk is how you can introduce different kinks that you or him may want to try.   Because kinks can keep a relationship young and healthy.   Too this day, my husband and I still talk through things we have never thought about doing, simply by going into long conversations about sex and dirty talk.  What better way to break the ice or find out for yourself what type of thoughts turn you on?  But you don’t always have to practice what you speak, and if you are insecure about this, make sure you let your partner know, whatever you say during sex, is just fantasy.   Because you can give your partner threesomes, gang bangs, and every other possible scenario he has ever thought of, by simply talking dirty.   This goes both ways, you both can talk and turn each other on more than rubbing hot spots on your body or trying to find that sensitive spot behind his ear that gets him erect.  Your voice, your thoughts, your imagination, will turn him on just as much as anything you can do physically.  And the same goes for you.  You’ll find yourself more wet than you’ve been in your entire life while talking about things you thought were taboo and dirty.   

Now, your kink was about commitment and marriage.   Obviously this is something that turns you on right now.  You want a long term dick and he fucks you so good you would make him dinners for the rest of his life just to get that dick each night.  Awesome!   There is nothing to be ashamed about.  Just don’t forget that this type of dirty talk should progress throughout your relationship.  Never forget later, when you are married, that this type of communication helped open your relationship.  In fact, this dirty talk may lead to you actually getting married.  So later, remember that when you want to try new things.   Or remember that when he may want to try new things.   Dirty talk is the best way to introduce these new ideas that “embarrass” us when we aren’t drunk or horny.  It’s okay.

Ryan’s response to dirty talk too far

There is nothing wrong with dirty talk, especially any of the examples you gave.  He probably feels the same way as you since it probably wasn’t his intentions to fuck you while you were on your period.  That’s probably equally as humbling as all the dirty talk you gave him.  There is nothing closer to marriage sex than throwing out all your inhibition and sticking your penis inside a woman while she bleeds all over you.  That’s not something you do with a casual girlfriend.   

You both seemed to be really horny and caught up in the moment.  This isn’t something to be embarrassed about, it’s what will make the best sexual experiences of your life. Embrace this drunk, wild, uninhibited version of yourself.   Rather than being ashamed, open a healthy line of communication and ask him what he felt about the dirty talk last night.  There is nothing wrong with talking kinky, even to the extreme of marriage talk, as long as you both know it’s just dirty talk.  Some women have kinks and talk dirty about how big their partners dick is during sex, even if it isn’t big.  Some women have have humiliation/cuckold kinks and will tell their man his penis is tiny (even if he is normal sized), and some women like the idea of being fucked so good that it makes you want to marry the person.  It’s the ultimate compliment, but make sure your partner understands it’s just your extreme way of making the experience more intense for you. 

Oral Sex and Fingering for Dummies

Oral Sex and Fingering for Dummies.   We found this cool little guide that was posted anonymously online and decided to share it with our readers.  In the article you will notice we personally add our own commentary, from a woman’s perspective.  

 


 

This Sex and Fingering guide is not meant to be followed every time you have an encounter; pay attention to breathing, body language and sounds while having fun, and adapt things as necessary. Every encounter is unique. Steps have long explanations, but they don’t need to take long.

Step 0: Consent, Contraceptives, STD protection

  •  Make sure  to talk with your partner about having a plan for contraception before having oral sex (or fingering).   Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  You can get STDs from oral sex, fingering, and any body to body contact where you are penetrating inside another person’s body.  
  • Make sure the other person is feeling safe, appreciated and respected, and that they are reciprocating.
  • Talk about this stuff in the appropriate context (don’t just come out of the gate with it), but treat it with naturality. If you feel like it’s normal to about this stuff, it will come out as normal.
  • Talk about your partners boundaries.  Respect your partners boundaries. A no is a no, a stop means full stop, no questions asked besides asking if they are okay.
  • At some point, you will need to define the boundaries of your relationship and what both of you want.
  • Talk about your partners kinks and preferences, soft no’s and hard no’s. Tell your partner yours.

Step 1:Preparation

  • Before an encounter, it’s important to lay the groundwork.
  • This means, be flirty with texts (not creepy, just flirty). Don’t overdo it. Just see how they respond and increase or decrease the heat from there.
  • Be interested and reciprocate. Ask about how their day went, about interests, hopes, dreams and such. I like listening to people’s stories, so even if it’s a hookup, I’d like to know them. This is personal, but I’m more attracted to people I am interested in.
  • In your bag: condoms, water based lube, towels. A change of clothes in your car.   Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  I prefer Coconut Oil as a lube, but remember, coconut oil and latex condoms do not play well together, so this may be for something to use once you and your partner are not using condoms.   
  • Have condoms on you at all times. Preferably not in walled or in places they can get wrinkled, and don’t forget them in the glovebox of your car, as heat may ruin them.
  • TRIM YOUR FINGERNAILS. If you put your nails inside your mouth, against your cheeks and you can feel the nail, you might hurt a vagina while fingering.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:   Nothing is worse than long nails or dirty short nails.  Let’s not just how horrible long fingernails feel, but fingernails also carry bacteria.  I find it amusing how many women get a yeast or urinary tract infection after a first experience with a man.  I usually hear this is because they believe their bodies aren’t used to the PH balance of his body fluids or his dirty little penis.   In all honesty, if his fingernails aren’t groomed and cleaned properly, that is possibly the actual culprit of why some women end up dealing with various infections after a new encounter.  CLEAN, TRIM, and take care of your damn fingernails!

Step 2: Foreplay

  • This means flirting, teasing, kissing and using your hands.
  • About flirting and teasing: it’s okay to be inexperienced. Take it easy and  don’t overdo it, pay attention to body language, sounds, and most importantly, what you partner says turns them on. Go from there. Listening is the most important thing.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  In my experience with different bi/lesbian women, as much as I have heard that women know a woman’s body, so far, women have been the worse fingering and oral sex experiences I have had.  They are either too rough, or they expect to make a woman orgasm in minutes.  No patience or stamina to actually get an orgasm from me.   Most of the oral/fingering from other women have been horrible experiences, especially if a woman doesn’t communicate or ignores body language.  Ask a person what they enjoy, don’t be ignorant.   And pay attention to body language!
  • As far as kissing goes, it comes with practice. Erogenous zones are are usually neck, earlobes, tights. Gently biting their lips can be a good move. But again, pay attention to your partner’s response. 
  • Same thing with hands. Slowly guide your hands all over their body, without touching genital areas or sexual places, like ass and breasts. At maximum, gently glide over them to tease your partner. Be super patient and pay attention, and you WILL find her special spots.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective: Although having my breasts and ass rubbed can get some of us in the mood, don’t forget to focus on our legs, tummies, and feet.  If you nicely rub our bodies in areas we are insecure about and mention how sexy we feel, or how nice our body looks, you will find your words massaging our ears are much more powerful than your palms grabbing our asses.
  • If you really want to tease a woman, stay away from the most obvious area that she is waiting for you to touch.  With her pants and panties on, touch everywhere around her vagina, without touching the seams on her pants where her vagina is at.   Even go as far as grinding your fingers into the cracks of her ass over her clothes and add pressure to where the rim of her ass would probably be. Avoid groping her vagina.  This will eventually give her blue labia (blue balls) and she will either moan for you to touch her vagina, or you’ll feel her pants getting moist.   Her perspective:  Yes please!
  • At this point, you can do a slow burn and start being more aggressive, or go with the explosive route and touch them like they are begging you to do. My personal preference is to take her pants off at this stage, and glide over her panties with my fingers, near the vagina and clit, indicating that I will go there next.  If you are doing everything right and taking your time, you will probably notice that the crotch area of her panties are soaking wet.  This is a huge sign that you are on the right track with your foreplay.  Undoing her bra and grabbing her breasts are also okay, but don’t be to anxious.   And remember, make sure you talk to her and tell her how hot and sexy her body is to you.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  If everything was done right, you will be able to feel the best part of a woman.  The clear sweet froth that drips from our bodies when we are extremely turned on.   And don’t start getting crazy or going to fast like as if you have turned into a tasmanian devil.  Most woman aren’t turned on by a grown man that acts like a 2 year old who is starving for his ba ba the first time he sees a woman’s breasts.   Aggression is okay, but keep it controlled.

Step 3: Fingering and oral

  • Pleasure is your goal, not orgasm. 
  • MAKE SURE YOU ARE USING THE HAND YOU TRIMMED.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  TRIM BOTH OF YOUR HANDS, and also use both.   Showing us you are clean as well as ambidextrous in the bedroom lets us know we are about to have a great experience.
  • If you have a free hand at any moment, make sure it’s being used to explore her body/do more sensual touching.
  • The vagina has an anterior wall. The g-spot is a few inches in that wall after the entrance, upwards towards her stomach, not down towards her anus.
  • You shouldn’t go straight to fingering. “Touch the clit first, before putting fingers inside. Stroke it gently, rub little circles, get her excited. Often a finger inside can make this feel even better but it’s not even necessary always.”
  • Start with 1 finger, gauge response. You wanna do the come hither motion on the g-spot. After a while, gently put another finger in. Do everything gently at the start. Maintain the come hither motion, but you can start being creative. Some women might prefer circular motions, others might prefer continuous pressure.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  Two fingers isn’t necessary at all.  I am not sure why men like to stuff as much as they can inside a woman, but that is what your penis is for.   1 finger nicely rubbing inside my body, finding my spots, is all I need.   In fact, one finger with a tongue flicking my clit will get me off every time.
  • When things start getting hot and heavy, do the come hither motion with more strength or faster, or use more strength to apply continuous pressure. If she says anything like (“yes, just like that!”), KEEP DOING IT. DO NOT CHANGE IT UP.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective: This is where body language matters.  Lesbians and men that have watched “how to” videos on making women squirt, and all the other sources that mention “come hither”, be careful.  Every person is different.  Personally, rubbing your fingers in a upward motion too much inside my vagina will irritate my body.  Although some women may love it, a lot don’t.  So watch her body language and if she tries to move up and away, do not follow her body as if she is only trying to get away because “it’s so hot to her she can’t take it anymore!!!!”   No, she is scooting up letting you know it feels uncomfortable.  She may even fake an orgasm to get you to stop.  In my experience, as well as surveying other women, most women admit to faking orgasms when they are trying to be “polite”, don’t want to hurt a guys feelings, and just want the experience to stop.  Whether the sex is going too long, the fingering is painful and irritating, or she just wants the entire experience to be over.   Stop expecting results from your fingers.  It’s just a tool, not the end game.
  • You can kiss her/her body all over until you decide to go down.
  • At some point during this, I like to incorporate oral sex, if it’s a partner I trust and/or we did STD screening. There are a million ways to do oral. Don’t go straight for the clit, it might be too sensitive. Explore everything down there: the major labia, minor labia. Start with a feather touch with your tongue, and add pressure as necessary. You can do a licking motion like a cat, circular motion, or suck her clit. Be creative, but better than that is to listen when she tells you that’s good or when she outright tells you how she prefers oral.
  • Be patient and don’t pressure her to orgasm, this can take a while. So make sure you are in a comfortable position.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  I’ve taken a few minutes up to a few hours to reach an orgasm through oral sex.   The technique doesn’t have to change, my orgasms aren’t something I can control.   It can feel perfect, and still, sometimes I will need hours to climax.  I can’t control the “switch”.  Just a few weeks ago it took me 3 hours to orgasm.   So if you are dedicated to pleasing your woman, get comfortable.  If your arms go numb or your tongue and jaw hurts,  don’t be afraid to stand up and move around.  Ask your partner if she wants you to get her some water or something to drink.   Let her know how much you love going down on her and you will go back down in a few minutes.  With proper communication, this works.   You can also make sure to have a playlist ready with music you both enjoy and a candlelit lamp that gives a good ambience.  Set the mood for her and yourself.   Like I said, no lesbian has ever made me orgasm through oral sex.  They go hard (way too hard for me) for 10 minutes at most, and if I don’t fake by then, they will stop.   This has been my experience with multiple women that have all bragged about making their partners cum every time.  I find that men will go hours and are to the task, no matter how long it takes.  Again, this is my experience.
  • She might squirt, so be prepared for that.  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective: If you have talked to your partner prior, most women that squirt will hint that they squirt.  Whether it be voluntary or involuntarily.  Personally I have experienced that women will squirt when you have hinted that you enjoy that type of play.   And I have experienced that when I let the woman know we are not interested in squirting, they tend to be able to orgasm without repainting the room in girl grool and urine.  Communication is the key here.
  • She might want to stop after a while, either because she is overwhelmed, or she wants penetration, or she is satisfied even without an orgasm, or something went wrong. Make sure to listen and learn for the next encounter if that is the case.
  • If she is overwhelmed, it’s time for cuddles and pillow talk.
  • If she wants penetration, remember the most important thing, besides communication and consent: don’t be anxious and tease her.  Don’t just take your clothes off, use previously learned weak points until she is begging for it. Strip little by little. 
  • Nina Hartley  has a very good video on positions. Angling your dick towards her g-spot to continue the stimulation from before is really fun, and you grind your pelvis against her clit to stimulate it (this is called the coital alignment technique).  Sexblogging.com / Her perspective:  Notice in the video linked that it’s okay to talk with a partner.  Not all sex is like a porn video where you do not talk and just fuck.   Communicate!  Also notice that using a vibrator, regardless of how the finger is moving, is the key to making a fingering session perfect.  Be open to toys, because a finger is complimentary to a tongue or toy, not the end game.  As a girl I never sat around dreaming about how I couldn’t wait to orgasm from someone’s fingers.  Much like 70% of women cannot come through just penis penetration, they also cannot come from just your fingers.   Snap out of fantasy land and understand the tools you have, and what you can add to these tools to give your partner a great experience!

Your Neighbor Is Probably More Kinky Than Your Favorite Porn Star

your neighbor is a porn starYour Neighbor Is Probably More Kinky Than Your Favorite Porn Star.  

The internet has changed the world.  No longer do you need to hide your father’s old playboy magazine under your bed hoping he doesn’t miss it from his own sticky collection.  The long nights with a Sears lingerie catalog are over.  Sex is everywhere.  And not only is sex everywhere, as an amateur couple you can help other lonely souls struggling for fap material.

The days of buying a 25 year old storage unit and accidentally finding a random VHS tape labeled “mommy and daddy time” just to see amateur sex is over.   Sex is everywhere, girls on webcam, are everywhere, and your neighbor is probably more kinky than your favorite porn star.  

Real Life Sex Is Better Than Porn Sex

The biggest criticism of the porn industry, especially with marriage counselors and these professional (with no credentials)  Reddit therapists, “Porn sex isn’t real.  You can’t have sex like you see in porn.”  Well, now you can.  And couples do.  The dick sizes are real with no trick camera angles, the stamina is real, the sweat is real, the sex is real.  And if you see and an amateur couple live,  you know there is no after effects warping the body parts to be super human.   It’s easier to accept porn as fake than it is to work on your stamina and fuck like a champion.   So hopefully webcams are waking up the woke generation and rather than pushing good sex to the side as something unattainable, couples are bettering their sex lives.  No more excuses? 

There are 1000s of couples out there fucking on camera for free, showing you that not only do they fuck each other with enthusiasm, but they fuck each other just as good as any porn you have ever seen…if not better.  The moans are real.  The effort is real. The orgasms are real. There are no cut scenes or breaks between position changes.  Money isn’t being exchanged for enthusiasm.  The dicks are better.  The women are better.  It’s just real sex being recorded.  And the only thing slightly exaggerated is we tend to do our best while a camera is recording.  And that’s a good thing!  Fuck like a camera is recording.  What’s even better?  No weird gaussian blur that makes sex look like a Lifetime movie.  Amateur couples are the real MVPs.  Salute to all the amateurs out there contributing to the idea that sex can be better than professional porn, if you want it to be.  

Q&A: How to respond when women tell me they squirt when I am not into squirting?

Q&A: How to respond when women tell me they squirt when I am not into squirting?

20 years ago, I wasn’t even aware of this. Never heard of it.  Obviously, it’s become a very popular thing in porn and real life.  I was in a relationship for the last two years. It’s over, and I’m single. Back in the saddle, meeting women again, and ALMOST ALL OF THEM TALK ABOUT SQUIRTING. They say they can squirt, they do squirt, etc. I’m not sure if it’s to turn me on, or just a fair warning. Both?

Okay. I’m an adult. I can deal with lots of things. I’m usually very good at talking things through.  But I don’t even know what to say. If a woman can squirt, and is telling me because she thinks I’m into it, it makes sense to just share that I’m not into it, right?  But if it’s somewhat involuntary, then saying I’m not into it might make her feel ashamed or unwanted.

Honestly, I don’t know what to say without making a thing out of it. Any helpful hints?

Venice’s response to women squirting

I have only squirted a few times in my life and they were totally involuntary.   So I do not really mention it to other women I am with because I’d have no control over it regardless.  If they know the secret pressure points, then they know exactly what they are getting into when they are doing their jedi mind tricks inside of me!

As far as other women telling me they squirt, I am not picky about these types of things and usually take a backseat to how Ryan feels.  I’d probably be shocked and flattered it if happened with a woman I was fingering or eating out.  This question is good though because I know Ryan has the same feelings towards squirting as you. 

We did have a woman tell us she squirted and was proud she could finally feel free about her body and let things happen naturally.  She openly said her previous relationships her men were closed minded about it.   Ryan pretty quickly said to her that he definitely wasn’t into that type of thing either, especially with someone new.    Probably not the best response, but sometimes being communicative can be harsh.  And he really isn’t into it.  

Luckily, due to our communication, we’ve managed to not have any “accidents.”   That may be because we didn’t excite them enough, or the penetrative part of sex wasn’t long or rough enough.  Admittedly in all our experiences with women we have never been big on penetration.  Usually we are more focused on oral sex, toys, and reaching orgasms without penetration.  Or, a lot of times women can control their squirting and tend to squirt when they know it excites their partner.   They may be feeling you out to see if you are into it, because if you are, they will wet your sheets up to turn you on.  If you are not, they will keep that trick on the backburner until you are ready.

Ryan’s response to women squirting

Firstly, remember our perspective is from a couple that opens our bedroom to other women.  I am not a single guy on the dating scene looking to find someone to hook up with.   But the new phenomenon of women who can squirt has been equally noticed.  With porn and even live cam chats having goals such as, “I will squirt at 100 tokens,” I assume women think this is something most men enjoy.   As Venice said, personally I am not big on squirting.  With her, of course I love it.  But that’s because she is my wife and someone I have been with for 25 years.  Nothing she does can gross me out.  But with someone new, that we are hanging out with, I’m definitely not into being squirted on.    

In your situation, I’d let the person know that squirting really isn’t my thing and if she can control it, try not to squirt.  I understand that this can be a total turn of or even offend a woman that can’t control it, but I am equally offended by being pissed on for fun when a woman can control it.  But don’t attack me yet!  I am not saying that all squirting is urine, but when a woman can control it and it’s something she does to spice things up, then most definitely I am saying that would be urine.  And with someone new to our bedroom, I am not into that.  Much like I can assume they would not want me to urinate on them for fun during oral sex.  Or urinate inside them during sex to turn my condom into a huge water balloon that randomly pops after it gets too full (although that possibly could feel great?!?).  

 

Study shows, Longer Penis Size Does Matter, especially to women that have vaginal orgasms through penetration

Study shows, Penis Size Does Matter, especially to women that have vaginal orgasms through penetration

Despite always hearing “size doesn’t matter,” this actually isn’t totally true.  It may be true to women who cannot achieve orgasms through penetration (between 70 percent to 90 percent of women are unable to achieve orgasm with penetration alone) but penis length and size does matter to the rest of us that do orgasm through penetration.

Studies find that women who have frequent vaginal orgasms are more than likely to have an orgasm easier if the man’s penis is longer.  For me specifically, it is the length that triggers my body’s orgasm during sex.  The bottom of the vagina, also known as the posterior fornix, has nerve endings that are not attached to the clitoris and give an entire different sensation sexually.  This is also known as the p-spot.  And although it’s common to hear it’s the width that matters, that isn’t true for me.   If it isn’t hitting the p-spot, it’s just stretching my walls and possibly ripping me.  And that never feels good.  And apparently, I am not alone, as women who tend to prefer penile-vaginal intercourse over other types of sex (oral) also say the same, researchers reported online in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.   

But other researchers were less convinced.

“There’s such variability in preference,” said Barry Komisaruk, who researches female sexual response at Rutgers University. Women who orgasm through vaginal stimulation may indeed prefer longer penises, Komisaruk told LiveScience, but not everyone prefers to orgasm that way. (10 Odd Facts About the Female Body)

There is no doubt about that!   For the first 20 years of my sexual life I could only orgasm through masturbation with my fingers on my clitoris, oral sex, or the use of a vibrator.   All purely clitoris orgasms.  It didn’t matter the width or length of the penis,  my body was unable to achieve orgasms through sex.   When that changed, and I became orgasmic through sex (various factors: age/sexual peak/comfort/and learning to pay attention to myself and stop making theatrics during sex a priority), I noticed that if my husband isn’t going all the way in, it is far less enjoyable.   Depending on positions, such as him laying sideways, there is not as much penetration as positions like doggy style or missionary with my legs up.  If his penis doesn’t hit the bottom and create that posterior fornix pressure, I cannot achieve an orgasm.  When his penis is totally erect and bottoms out, it can instantly trigger orgasms.   And most of the time it doesn’t stop until he orgasms or slows his pace and allows my body to recover.  This bottom area is where the p-spot is located and creates a sensation I can’t really explain.  For those women that have felt this, they know.  It’s almost indescribable. 

But let’s get back to these studies. 

There is still scientific debate about whether vaginal and clitoral orgasms are different phenomena. Different nerves carry signals from the vagina and from the clitoris, Komisaruk said, and stimulation of each activates different brain regions. But some researchers argue that vaginal stimulation is simply activating a different, internal, section of the clitoris. Women report different sensations from vaginal and clitoral orgasms, Komisaruk said, but which one women prefer largely comes down to personal preference.

In some cases, female orgasm is even more complex. For example, Beverly Whipple, professor emerita at Rutgers University and one of the discoverers of the G spot, a sensitive area felt through the front wall of the vagina, has found that women with complete spinal cord injuries can sometimes experience orgasm, even though the nerves that carry sensation up the spinal cord from the pelvis have been severed. It’s likely that the sensory vagus nerve, which runs in the abdomen but bypasses the spinal cord, is recruited to carry signals to the brain in these cases, Whipple told LiveScience.

That’s actually pretty interesting.  Being that a longer penis can push around the abdomen area much easier than a short penis, it would explain why depth matters!  And it also explains why other research has found that abdominal exercises induce orgasms in some women, resulting in pleasurable spasms at the gym.   

Some researchers holds a different view, pointing to studies finding that the ability to orgasm with vaginal stimulation alone is correlated with better psychological functioning, better relationship quality and greater sexual satisfaction.

“Earlier research with a large representative sample also found that women who are made aware in their youth that the vagina is a source of women’s orgasm are more likely to develop the capacity for vaginal orgasm. Therefore, those who deny these findings (and insist on maintaining the politically correct party line) are not doing women a favor, but might be injuring women’s health and sexual potential.”

Length isn’t the only variable with orgasms during sex, that’s for sure.  As I stated earlier, I was unable to achieve orgasms sexually, regardless of length.  It wasn’t until my 40s I was truly able to enjoy orgasms through sex alone and there were a lot of mental factors that played a part in it.   But once all those mental factors are sorted out, size does matter!