Q&A: Broken Promises, Sleep instead of Sex, What Can I Do?

Broken promises, sleep instead of sex, what can I do?

I understand that sometimes she might just not be feeling it, that’s fine. What frustrates me is when she tells me we will do something and then it doesn’t happen. If she hadn’t said anything, I wouldn’t have been expecting anything in the first place. This is something she does at least a couple times a month, I think she thinks it’s something I want to hear. sleep instead of sex

Yesterday I proposed to her and we had an awesome date after. There was a lot of drinking and eating involved, so when we got home we were both maybe not feeling the sexiest, despite the amazing day. I was fine with relaxing for a while and going to sleep, but she turned to me and said “I’m going to take a one hour nap and let me stomach rest, but then you better be ready”. Sure enough a one hour nap turned into sleep, and now it’s morning and she still isn’t up. I need her to stop doing this, because while her intentions might be good, it makes me expect things and fucks with me.

Venice’s response to sleep instead of sex:

Let her know how you feel.  Sometimes a woman is horny and gets caught up in the moment.  I have been a bit tipsy to where all I can think about is fucking Ryan.  I grab him, stroke him through his pants, rub his body, and whisper to him how much I want to fuck him.  And then I drink a bit more and all that changes because I get tired as hell.  Communicate with her about her drinking too much, or about not offering you sex if she isn’t going to follow through.  Maybe find a place for a quickie when she is in the perfect mood and all over you.  I can see how her falling asleep would be extremely frustrating.  I think she will understand as well.   

Going to sleep instead of having sex?  Well, have sex in your sleep!

Going to sleep instead of having sex?  Well, have sex in your sleep!  This is why I always sleep nude!  I know we are taught that this is bad and scary, but if its two adults and both find it sexy, try it!  I find it kinky to be taken advantage of, even when I am sleeping.  For us, this works.  I trust Ryan with my life and know he takes care of me at all times.  This comfort and trust allows me to open up to him and enjoy something maybe most women never get to enjoy.  Sometimes Ryan could be rubbing me or moving his penis in and out of me slowly while we lay in a spoon position.  I may fall asleep and wake up with my whole crotch wet and sticky.  This really turns me on.  Chance are, I will either sit on his face and make him clean me up that morning, or fuck his brains out to make up for lost time. 

Ryan’s response to sleep instead of sex:

As always, the answer is communication.  Talk to your girl and let her know that you feel her intentions are good, but when she promises sex and doesn’t make good on her promises, it does more bad than good.  In our relationship, we have an open door policy (pun).  If Venice falls asleep when I am turned on and erect, I can grab some coconut oil and gently slide my dick inside her.  There have been times after a few drinks she doesn’t completely wake up.  It sounds weird, but with two consenting (consent through communication and having relationship rules) adults, this is an amazing experience.  I always move slow as to not startle her.  Sometimes I fall asleep inside her before I finish, and sometimes I finish and we both just lay dripping wet through the night.  I’ve woken up before with my penis “water logged’, shriveled and wrinkled because it rested inside her body all night.  She doesn’t mind, she loves waking up sticky and dripping, and it turns her on to know I enjoyed her body without her having any memory of it.  It’s kind of a sexy mind fuck the following day for her.  This doesn’t happen often, but it does prevent broken promises.   And of course it works both ways.  If she reaches over and feels me sleeping and erect, she can hop on me at any time and use my body for her pleasure.  I don’t think I have ever not woken up from her getting on top of me, but there has been many times when I will jump from a weird tickle feeling or have a dream that I am peeing myself, and when I wake up, Venice’s face in my lap, mouth around my penis, as she lays sideways masturbating herself.   This may be advanced for your situation, but an open door policy is a fun and exciting way to keep from having your night ruined.  If you trust each other, love each other, and know either of you wouldn’t hurt the other, this is a great way to solve falling asleep instead of having sex.  

The Reality of Having Sex in a Pool

The Reality of Having Sex in a Pool

Sex in a swimming pool, or any body of water makes for a great erotic story.  These erotic stories help young couples decide to follow their fantasy and jump into a pool late at night, take off their swimming suits, and… shred their genitals into hamburger meat for the cause.

Sex in a Pool is clean and fun!

Wrong.  Sex in a pool is extremely unhygienic.  Although a pool properly chlorinated should be clean, it still may still contain bacteria that can lead to an infection.  It also disrupts the natural pH balance of your vagina. This can also lead to an infection. Since usually you swim in a pool and do not shove the water back and forth inside your vagina like a gutter system, it’s okay. If this is a public pool, who knows what other types of things will be filtered in and out of your vagina as well. 

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Review: Full Automatic Piston and Wriggle Rotation Male Masturbator

Review: Full Automatic Piston and Wriggle Rotation Male Masturbator

Well, other than a Fleshlight, I have never really tried any male masturbator toy.   After my first experience with an automatic masturbation machine, I am extremely interested in trying more!   As a couple that reviews products, there are a lot of things your partner can do while you use this toy on your penis.  Later in our review we will go over how we used it together!

First things first.  I opened the box, which was sent to me by Secrexy, direct from Hong Kong.  If you are from the United States and deal with shipping from overseas, you already know that it may take a bit longer for your product to arrive.  However, it does arrive, and I am sure glad it did!  The first thing I thought when I hit the power switch was:

Omg, it is a Kanye album in a box!

No, I don’t mean this masturbator was a weird black man in a box yelling at me about how he is a genius and I should appreciate him more for his fashion ideas.   I mean it has flashing lights!

After I started playing with the buttons and seeing how things would pump, spin, twirl, thrust, light up, sparkle, and dance in my lap, I totally changed my mind and thought of this:

So, if you want to put your penis through the above situation, this is the toy for you!   And I mean that in every single way.

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Q&A: My girlfriend asked me if I wanted to have a threesome in front of the other guy.

My girlfriend asked me if I wanted to have a threesome in front of the other guy.

She’s 21 and I’m 25. We were at a party with her friends from high school and out of no where while I was talking to one the guys she went to school with she came up and asked if we could have a three some. I was caught off guard by this and didn’t say anything at first. The other guy said immediately that he was down. I eventually said no and she didn’t bring it up the rest of the party.

On the way home she asked again and I once again said no. Then she told me how hot it would be for both of us and that it would spice our sex life up (which I though was fine). I’ve always dealt with insecurities sexually and she has helped me overcome some of it, but after this it is coming back. Am I in the wrong here for not wanting one or should we try it?

Venice’s response threesome

Even though I have already had threesomes with Ryan and other girls, even now, if he asked me on the spot in front of the another girl, I would be pissed off.  It’s inconsiderate and all communication about your relationship should be done privately.  Especially a bomb shell like that.  I’d seriously consider finding a new girlfriend.

Ryan’s response threesome

You could do 2 things in my opinion.   Break up with her.  For her to ask you in front of the other guy was just a garbage thing to do.  For her to ask him prior to asking  you, was even more garbage.  Your other option is, if you want to see her fucked by 2 dicks before you leave her, say yes.  Have the threesome and break up with her afterwards. I’ve always said I would only have a mmf threesome if I didn’t really care much about the girl.  It’s not something I’d want to experience with a girl I love.

Nipsey Hussle’s Last Words before he was killed.

Nipsey Hussle was gunned down on March 31, 2019, by Eric Holder.  Out of respect for Nipsey, we will not use the shooters name again.  Although technically we should say allegedly, there are eye witnesses that grew up with the shooter and personally saw him shoot Nipsey.  We will believe our own eyes on this one and not wait for the verdict.  

It is now being reported by those close to Nipsey and was there when he got killed, what he said to the shooter after he was shot.  Nipsey’s last words:   “You shot me.  You got me.  I’m good.”

Various articles and sources have suggested that these last words angered the shooter.  Make no mistake, the shooter wasn’t going to leave until he knew Nipsey was dead.  The only thing that would have possibly kept Nipsey alive, was if he had guys around him with guns.  Unfortunately, he didn’t. 

Lets put his words in perspective.  I do not believe Nipsey would have yelled anything out at a shooter walking away.  That wouldn’t make any sense.  However, he would have absolutely said, “You shot me.  You got me.  I’m good.” as the shooter was walking back towards him with his gun aimed at him.  This isn’t the first time we have heard the words, “Are you good?”  or “I’m good” as a way to submit to aggression.  In fact, we have seen many fights where a guy will be mounted, raining down punches, while asking the guy on bottom if he is good.  And we have seen may brawls where the guy getting beat up says “I’m good…” to stop from being punched more.   It’s a cool way to let the person know, you learned your lesson.

Maybe this is seen as a submissive act and people want his last words to be cool, like a good one liner from a gangster movie.  This isn’t a movie.  Nipsey said exactly what he said in hopes the shooter wouldn’t shoot him again.  “You shot me.  You got me.  I’m good.”   This wouldn’t enrage a shooter, if anything, it would call for the last bit of decency he had in his soul to let Nipsey live.  He didn’t.   

The reports suggesting that Nipsey’s last words enraged the shooter makes it seem like he was being rebellious, or had he just not said anything, he would have lived.  We disagree.  The shooter was doing the devils work that day, and much like the music we play on repeat over and over, handled a situation where he felt disrespected.  Because Nipsey was like a homie to all of us, we have our blinders on and want to see the shooter as a villain.  I know I do.   Rather than having to pick sides, let’s just go back to fair ones and fades.  Please.

If you have not seen the footage we will link it from  youtube but will not embed it.  

Now, his brother, Samiel ‘Blacc Sam’ Asghedom, has reported that he arrived to the scene before the ambulance and Nipsey was still breathing.  His brother also reported that he didn’t know Nipsey was shot in the head until the paramedics came and lifted him.  That is when he noticed the wound in the back of his head.

Watching the surveillance video, you can see the only time Nipsey had his back turned to the shooter was when he first ducked and ran, and when he was on the ground.  With the gun wound only being in the back of the head, the very first shot may have been to his skull.  Maybe it didn’t kill him instantly, maybe this is why he said what he said, and maybe this is why it seemed like his lower body was paralyzed when he rolled over.   Either that, or that first shot lodged somewhere in his spine.  You can tell when he rolls over, he couldn’t really move his lower body.

March 31 is a sad day, because we didn’t just lose a musician, we lost a man that would have probably went on to be a mogul.  Maybe even a billionaire.  We will never know.